i’m Very Lesbian™️ but also have a really bad aversion to things with major focuses on food or eating so my brain’s been in a constant war forever over whether or not the dungeon meshi lesbians will be worth the food/eating focus of it🙃

How did you know you were ace? Sorry if the question makes you uncomfortable, you dont have to answer if it does, but im so confused about myself rn and i feel like im leaning towards being ace myself too.

WELL. okay first off this reminds me of that time I told a guy I’m ace and he was like “can i ask you some questions?? i hope you don’t feel uncomfortable by them” and i was gearing up for the usual INVASION OF PERSONAL PRIVACY but he asked me what i thought about ace representation in media. ANYWAY MOVING ALONG.

so I didn’t know “asexuality” existed until I was 18/19?? and it was through like, a quizilla type quiz yafeel? i think my friend was trying to prove that i was a lesbian or smth which like ??? anyway i had a b u n c h of crushes throughout grade school but i never dated, and as soon as someone showed an interest in me i was really….uncomfortable with the idea of someone pursuing me?? LOOK BUT DON’T TOUCH!!! and a lot of my close friends were already dating and making out with people and i was just like that’s cool i don’t really..get it..tho?? it just didn’t seem like a big deal and nobody ever really asked me why i wasn’t dating. kinda just chalked it up to being a major homebody introvert.

so by the time i took that dinky lil quiz and saw “asexual biromantic” i was like huh. i guess that. actually makes sense!!

but ofc it kind of kept evolving and i was vibing with ace biro but……..then people started showing real interest during university?? i kind of grew up after graduating high school and became more social which inevitably led to..haha..meeting new people!!!hahaha!!! which led to me being like okay i sure wish people would stop!!! JUST STOP!!!!! esp the guys i mean. girls would confess but not pursue because they got to know me first, but the guys. haha. ha. like i understand there’s a heteronormative expectation and guys will zero in on single girls but i sure wish that wasn’t A Thing.anyway i guess even though it was kind of uncomfortable, it was thanks to those people who attempted to date me that i became a lot more comfortable with myself and my sexuality. i tempted the idea of dating but it was always a version of myself that didn’t actually exist?? and when it came down to it, i just couldn’t feel the romantic desire.so basically i didn’t feel any pressure ever to commit to any one orientation, and even now, although i’m comfortably certain with myself, i’m not clinging to aroace as if i have to be. i kind of just grew into it and i’m lucky to have been surrounded by family and friends who never pressured me to do anything i didn’t want to do.

let yourself come to the conclusion over as much time as you need, and if there’s the possibility of you ending up in a situation you don’t think you’ll enjoy, don’t tempt the idea!! you’ll either vibe with it or not, and there’s no requirement to probe outside your comfort zone to figure it out if you don’t want to (▰˘v˘▰) good luck friend!!