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I don't want to invade the community, but I genuinely can't tell if my kin feelings are voluntary or involuntary. Does that mean I'm a KFF?

Tl;dr: No. Also heads-up that I get very emphatic in this post; that's not because I'm mad at you or anything, it's because people in general keep either misunderstanding or intentionally twisting what "KFF" is supposed to mean to make it sound way more exclusionist and gatekeepery than it actually is and I'm getting frustrated with that.

You're only "KFF" if you are knowingly, actively, intentionally using the word "kinning" to mean relating to, projecting onto, etc. a character while not actually at all identifying as them. That is, if you are "kinning for fun," "kinning" for the purpose of having fun, and it's not at all a genuine identity thing for you. It's in the phrase they use for themselves from which the acronym "KFF" came from.

If you identify as them in some way (voluntary or involuntary imo - the words copinglinker/otherlinker exist specifically for voluntary identity, but as I've said in a recent post, I find hardline enforcing that distinction less and less useful as time goes on, though certainly having the words available is useful, and anyway 'linkers aren't KFF either), you're not KFF.

If you aren't sure whether it's an identify-as thing or something else, and you're figuring that out, you're not KFF.

If you're not sure whether it's an identify-as thing or something else, and have given up on figuring it out because that line isn't clear for you and just want to settle somewhere and talk about your experiences genuinely, you're not KFF.

If you enjoy being 'kin and like to joke around and have fun with it, but it is still a genuine identity thing for you at its core, you're not KFF.

If you have a "weird" identity (in literally whatever way you can think of), that does not make you KFF.

KFF has a very specific meaning and "my experiences are weird and/or blurry in one aspect or another and I'm not quite sure what to make of them" is not it. (Nor is "having fun with being 'kin" and I really wish people would stop confusing those two.) It specifically (again, as is in the literal name) means people who are intentionally misusing "kinning" for something they KNOW isn't an identity thing.

#otherkin #fictionkin #kin for fun #asked and answered #anonymous #rani talks #at this point i wish that ''kin-for-fun' people' had never been collapsed into the KFF acronym #because it seems to have opened the door to people forgetting WHAT THE ACRONYM ACTUALLY STANDS FOR #meaning people are COMPLETELY misunderstanding the fuckin conversation #and to be clear i don't blame you specifically for that anon #again it's just a trend i'm seeing recently and i'm ARGH about it #because YEAH EXCLUDING LITERALLY ANY OF THE GROUPS UP THERE WOULD BE ASSHOLE EXCLUSIONISM #I FULLY AGREE THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE DOING THAT AND THEYRE DICKS AND IN THE WRONG #BUT THIS ISNT ABOUT THAT ITS ABOUT PEOPLE LITERALLY *TELLING US* ITS NOT THEIR ACTUAL IDENTITY #AND THEN BEING MAD WHEN WE GO 'so.. could you maybe then not use the word that literally means you identify as?'#i am going to stop tag ranting now #tl;dr if you're not intentionally misusing language for something you KNOW isn't an identity thing you're not ''invading'' anything #and if you are you probably don't care unless you legitimately did not know #(in which case you are of course excused from my frustration with the whole thing; ignorance ain't your fault the misinfo is Everywhere)#(but. do please stop now that you Do know)

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