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Ingrid Goes West (2017)
#aubreyplazaedit#dailywoc#latineedit#wlwedit#tuserdee#tuserzoe#userlanie#userrachel#filmedit#userjacko#wocedit#moviegifs#dailyflicks#ccnet#mine#gif#ingrid goes west#anyways i love being a dyke
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lesbians who are terfs will never make any sense to me crying about the supposed exclusivity of the “female experience” like my brother in christ she experienced an othered, lonely, confusing childhood where she was made to feel inadequate in her gender, sexuality, or both just the same as you and instead of letting this unify you against patriarchy you just enforce it on other people to maintain the sliver of “power” you think you have. how do u not see how dumb this is oh my god
#like trans women are hurt by the patriarchy they don’t benefit from it you fucking coconuts bc even if they were ‘men’ (they’re not)#they’d be men who cannot live up to the standards set by patriarchy!!!! this is feminism 101 yet some people run their mouths like it’s 1912#like dude. she’s doing gender and sexuality in a way cishet society hates just like u are. please be fucking smart and realize attacking her#only hurts YOU and loses YOU the same bodily autonomy u wanna deny her for the sake of “’saving ur lesbian brethren’ or what the fuck ever#you’re hurting cis women trans women intersex people EVERYONE because you’re so obsessed w feeling special for being perceived as a woman#and then being harmed for it that you can’t even see that the women you hate so much experience the EXACT SAME SHIT. use ur brain!!!!!!#anyways sorry read some takes from some lesbians in LC and got way too heated. god bless u trans dykes i love u trans dykes#idk what to tag this so. ya#posts
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From Alison Bechdel's "Dykes to Watch Out For". Strip name "Au Courant", from 1994
I'd never seen this strip get posted, so I want others to see it. Mo, the character expressing 'concern' over the inclusion of trans women (as well as bisexuals) in lesbian culture, is often portrayed as being overly self-righteous, jumping to conclusions about others, and not critically examining her own biases and worldview. She was also the character in the comic commissioned for Transgender Warriors, where she learns she was wrong for being anxious about sharing a bathroom with a trans woman.
Mo is often either the butt of the joke, or receives a stark lesson in these interactions (whether by confrontation or just becoming socially isolated, because she's difficult to be around). And I found this framing important, especially as I've heard discussion of TERFs trying to claim Bechdel as one of them.
This comic was not made to validate Mo's opinions or feelings. The characters in Bechdel's comics are often messy, short-sighted, even bigoted. They're human. This comic does not valorize or 'condone' these flaws, merely shows them for what they are, as well as the consequences that come with them, and the effects they can have on your communities.
Transcript of the comic below the cut:
[ID: A "Dykes to Watch Out For" comic strip by Alison Bechdel, featuring the characters Mo and Lois. The conversation is as follows:
MO: Oh, jeez. Here's a submission for "Madwimmin Read" from someone named Jillian who identifies as a transsexual lesbian.
LOIS: Cool.
MO: The cover letter says, "I hope you'll consider changing the name of your reading series for local lesbian writers to be inclusive of transgender and bisexual women writers too." Oh, man!
LOIS: Guess it's time to get with the program, huh?
MO: What am I supposed to do? Have bi women and drag queens come in here and read about schtupping their boyfriends?
LOIS: Why not? I'm sure they'd have a unique perspective on the topic.
MO: Lois, I'm still trying to adjust to lesbians using dildos! What am I supposed to make of a man who became a woman who's attracted to women?!
LOIS: Love is a many gendered thing, pal. Get used to it.
MO: Well fine. Let people do what they want. But I'm not gonna add this unwieldy "bisexual and transgender" business to the name of my reading series. I don't even know what transgender means!
LOIS: It's sort of an evolving concept. I mean, we haven't had any language for people you can't neatly peg as either boy or girl.
LOIS: Like cross-dressers, transsexuals, people who live as the opposite sex but don't have surgery, drag queens and kings, and all kinds of other transgressive folks. "Transgender" is a way to unite everyone into a group, even though all these people might not self-identify as transgender.
LOIS: In fact, the point is that we're all just ourselves, and not categories. Instead of two rigid genders, there's an infinite sexual continuum! Cool, huh?
MO: How do you know all this stuff?
END ID]
#alison bechdel#dykes to watch out for#dtwof#transgender#lgbt history#thought it was important to share this. ive been reading a lot of dtwof#theres another strip im thinking of sharing about Mo being called out on her ableism#just not sure how to word my thoughts or if i should just post it or something#also let me know if the Transgender Warriors thing is wrong i got that info from another commenter and my copy hasnt arrived yet#and let me know if the transcript needs to be adjusted in some way for screen readers#anyways much love to my transgender sisters#EDIT: my copy of Transgender Warriors came in and i can confirm that the bathroom comic#was comissioned for it!!!
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sometimes you hear the bullet scrambled me like an egg
#mash#the bulk of my mashposting is happening over on the other blue hellsite#if you want to keep up with such astute thoughts as 'these bitches would have loved dnd'#and 'merry christmas to klinger trying to kill frank with a grenade'#anyway love lost. ***I*** lost. i had to pause my tv and stare blankly at the screen at least twice#i think straight people in the 70s were watching a very different show than the one i am watching as a dyke in 2023#like what was the reason for tommy to be hawkeye's childhood friend who he basically dies in his arms#what was the reason for his line where he said hawkeye used to be a sissy as a kid (i mean. we know but)#what was the reason for him to crossdress to try and avoid the draft and also admit to being a communist#WHAT WAS THE REASON FOR HIM TO IMMEDIATELY KISS HENRY
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i think a hugely important and often overlooked counterpart to "curate your online experience" is that even when you block and mute and filter, you are still going to see things that upset you and make you uncomfortable. you just are. and just because you were upset or felt uncomfortable doesn't mean you should never have seen it; sometimes things just happen that make you upset. the counterpart is that as well as curating your online experience, you have to learn to manage and deal with your emotions. how you feel is your responsibility and no one else's.
#just thinking about it#it feels like more and more people see being made to feel upset as a Moral Thing#i get upset every time a genshin impact post makes it past my filters; does that make genshin impact morally wrong?#anyway. ppl were quote triggered in a queer haircutting video on insta bc the 60 yo dyke in question accidentally misgendered the nb barber#that's an emotion you have got to regulate my love.
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any time you make a post critiquing the trends in music or movies or tv or literally anything there Will be people crawling out of the woodwork to smugly tell you that actually, the problem is that you only watch marvel movies and listen to tiktok music, so, gotcha! and these people are fucking stupid.
#EVERY single time. every tiiiiime#and i do neither of those things!#even if the solution was just to avoid all mass media and write off anything made by a known studio.#can we not also see a problem with that being Thee norm?#anyways im a 22 year old dyke sorry that i want to watch things that arent just about Ugly Middle Aged Men. are you fucking stupid.#i love ugly middle aged men in media. i would also like to see fat people on my screen as often as i see other chubby/fat ppl in real life#kora.txt
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broooo not my ex making posts abt how hard it is to come to terms with being conventionally attractive while having low self-esteem issues and how wild it is to get compliments randomly on their appearance when they go out and how they're worried that their new transmasc boytoy is only into them bc they're hot -_- i'm tired... meanwhile i'm just seen as a gremlin now that i'm not hyperfem... they truly have the biggest issues in the world lol
also they were like "omg turns out i'm not ace i just needed a bf lol" and i'm like yeah. i know. you've been lusting after male characters for years. you were horny as fuck just not for me bc i didn't transition. you only made moves on me when you were bored, lonely or drunk. i always asked if that was the case and you were like no baby it's just your insecurities i don't need you to transition uwu. for 5 years. my trust issues are thru the roof now yayyyyy /dies
#lay text#i'm being mean and petty ugh#my heart kinda hurts but talking w my counsellor abt it helped#it rly helps to have a neutral third party to vent to#also i still think my ex is a good person i don't actually hate them i love them as a friend. but i do hate what they did to me#i hate that they went along w us dating bc they're too much of a doormat. i hate that they thought abt breaking up w me for years#but never told me bc they were worried i wouldn't survive without them financially or emotionally#feels so fucking infantilizing#now i'm so much better off without them despite being broke#that was my first and only real relationship my first time my first everything. i'm so embarrassed wtf i was RIGHT i was right all along#i was right it wasn't just insecurities they straight up never wanted me they wanted future transitioned male-passing me#it was all lies!!! from the get-go!!! meanwhile i did so much romantic bullshit and i was wearing rose colored glasses!!!!#and i was a big dyke. being with a woman who identified as a woman would've made me 2000x happier anyway. we could've just stayed roommates#i'm so bitter guys. i feel so jaded but i'm trying not to be :/#and now they have so much luck in their love life#and i'm just a lonely gremlin dyke who only attracts polyam/casual girls who only want me on the side#where tf is my love story :'( i've been trying SOOO FUCKING HARD to gain my ex's affection for 5 freaking years i was the most loveydovey g#i deserve a love story i think i've really earned it by now!!!!!#so much love to give#now they have it so easy wtf. feels unfair ngl. i'm happy for them obviously they deserve happiness too. but i am still bitter >:/#trying to process these feels instead of repressing them for once. i have a tendency to bottle up angst bc i think i'm bad for being mad#but nope those r healthy emotions!!! i can work thru this#it just sucks#if you read all of this bs i give you a cookie 🍪 <3
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does anyone have recommendations for fictional media that has like. actual lesbians in it. not like supergirl Two White Skinny Girls, One Blonde and One Brunette Kiss media, or "its implied lesbianism!!!" but just regular fucking lesbians
#i say lesbians but i guess i mean sapphic#im just like. tired of gnawing#and of men also. sorry men in my life i love you but on god if i have to pretend one more man is butch just to get#content that isnt m/m or m/f im going to turn into a horse and run into the wilderness until im saved from the glue factory by a plucky#young woman except instead of letting her have her formative summer where she trains me and bonds w me and wins a competition w me#im going to commit horse suicide in front of her & change her life forever. just because im so tired of bland CW-marketable women kissing &#digging for scraps in a refuse bin while brushing aside 7002993829292929939292929399394 gay and het romances#m text#i will also take nonfictional lesbians if its like a story#not to be whiny on main but one of the hardest hurdles i had to jump wasnt realizing i was a lesbian. i came out to myself and to friends a#lesbian multiple times. but i would always walk it back when a friend would express doubt or a male friend would ask me out#bc i dont and especially then didnt know very many lesbians in person. and so i had to turn to examples#and all i fucking had were fictional women who liked men. or fictional lesbians who were so cleaned and sanitized and prettified#(you all know what i mean right. the 2 skinny white girls one blonde one brunette. im not crazy right)#and i would be like. i dont feel things when i look at these fictional lesbians so i guess i belong back here#(this is also bc my gender ended up being fuckier than i realized but shhhhh)#I WAS GOING SOMEWHERE WITH THESE TAGS but theyre too long and im lost.#anyway the point is if people werent so fucking weird abt fictional or onscreen lesbians maybe thered be a lot more people comfortable bein#out as lesbian#like sorry but this awful ouroboros of 'all lesbians onscreen have to be cute and sanitized' meaning that people write and believe wlw has#to be cute and pure and sanitized (OR a 'badge of honor' bc good for u u doodled two women together or had it as a background in ur fic)#meaning that therefore all portrayals of lesbianism continue to be like this. is just#and im also gonna be honest theres probably a lot of good sapphic media im just in the wrong circles to have stumbled into lol. so#yknow. personal viewer bias here#but i still like swing wildly between overly brandishing my dykeness as a badge to feel like im proving im lesbian#and like. backing up under a blanket bc i dont wanna be weird or annoying or freak people out#but if people just Saw Normal Ass Lesbians. aough.#im going to watch revolutionary girl utena one of these days even if i struggled w the writing style the first few episodes#I JUST WANNA SEE AN OLD BUTCH ONSCREEN GET SOME PUSSY.#like it also doesnt help im mostly femme4butch so seeing 2 femmes on screen is like. okay cool so what. but only femmes are 'marketable'
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thank u for the tag @themuseoftheviolets 💕
rules: name one of your favorite book, season, movie, drink, color, animal, character, song, & hobby
book: the seven husbands of evelyn hugo / season: spring / film: happy together (wong kar-wai, 1997) / drink: ice coffee with vanilla flavor / color: pink / animal: rats / character: sun bak / song: that moon song by gregory alan isakov / hobby: going to the movies
im too sleepy and its 2am to tag people but please if we’re mutuals i want to know all of u so consider urself tagged<3
#debated between steven from haunting of hill house and sun bak for way too long……..#same with titanic and happy together#titanic is unironically one of my top 5 favorite films#like thats a lesbian love story right there#the symbolism#the mise-en-scene#the female liberation jack offers her when he sacrifices himself#<— thats a dyke#the forced proximity creating a space where they can be equal despite being man and woman#<— also lesbian symbolism#the way jack isnt cals equal even if theyre both men#i could go ON.#and someday i might#rose being in charge during the sex scene#jack shaking and being nervous#FEMALE LIBERATION AND EMPOWERMENT#anyway! titanic is genuinely my favorite lesbian movie#goodnight#dont fucking ever say to me ’there was room on the door’ THATS NOT THE POINT#THE POINT WAS HIS SACRIFICE SO ROSE COULD LIVE#AND CHOOSE HER OWN NAME#choosing to be ’lesser’ in the end also equals choosing her happiness and freedom#lesbian! fucking! symbolism!#i wrote an essay about this and got a B#it was my first film essay
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oh. i didn't miss lesbian visibility week yayy !!
#i forgot n then thought i missed it but it's not over yet#anyway yipee lesbians !! i love u lesbians i love being a dyke ☺️#cherry chats🍒
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I'd love to date an woman, unfortunately they are too pretty for me or wouldn't match at all personality wise with me 😔
#miranda talking shit#I guess I'm using the wrong app for it but mein gott#I've come across two amazing dykes and both lived so far away like.... I'd love for them to sweep me off my feet#But I got no drivers license so I would be the worst inconvenience on them :/#Other ladies who have similar interests and vibes seem to be faaaar between or have like multiple partners#I think I would be willing to try an poly relationship if we were three but all I've seen are like “I have many partners” feels like a big#Leap to attempt for me since I have no experience. Anyway uuh.... Women.... Amazing and I have not enough to offer ever :c#Being an ugly loser is hard work mein gott#Let me cry for a moment I'll be over it eventuellt but today is one of those days man#Maybe I find it easier to see men bc I feel I'm never enough for women out there#Like girl you could have anyone.... Little old me only got my undying love and devotion and two cats to offer
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do you guys know that video of the very very southern man comforting his dog after he threw up in his truck. im not great with accents but i think he's from louisiana bc he sounds a bit like my grandpa. i miss him...
#he was from new orleans (as was my grandma) so i always associate that accent with them#and that video's so sweet and i uh. get really affected by people comforting others like that. makes me feel very fragile#it's not something he really had the opportunity to do (in such a direct way) but it's also not something anyone did with me much.#some of the feeling is there though. it feels like being his grandkid. like being around him.#anyway he was witty and kind and sweet and i just. he was a weirdo and i miss him. i don't think i do that enough.#and hey he was a bisexual old man you guys would've loved him#i wish i'd told him i was a dyke. i thought i'd have more time y'know. i hope he didn't feel alone in that. his brother died of AIDS.#my mom told me before he told us so he was my queer family when i didn't know i had any. but i don't think he ever knew i was his too.#never met anybody who embodied the phrase 'twinkle in his eye' more in my life and i don't know if i will. love you man <3
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I’m reading Persistance: All Ways Butch And Femme and lemme tell you it’s doing wonders for everything -- feelings about gender, politics, language, relationships
every time I think I’ve come at some unknowable concept about myself that nobody could possibly understand and I’m totally alone (or at the very least I’m something new and fragile), reading about other queers makes me understand that actually it’s existed possibly forever and I can calm tf down and stop being so angsty, it’s not fragile at all, it’s years of others living these things into reality!
anyway, us lonelies under 30 (and over 30 too quite probably) who think we’ve reinvented the wheel and nobody could possibly get it, we need to read this sort of stuff to get out of our own heads and to respect where we came from and maybe all the fucking discourse can chill out and we won’t be so afraid of changes and concepts that already exist and have done for a lot of years!
#persistance: all ways butch and femme#queer stuff#queer theory#queer lit#lesbian lit#me like: im overcomplicating it ive gone too far im a fraud#a dyke who came of-age in the 60s: anyway these fag genderqueers i met in the 90s love em couldnt do without em great stuff#also rae spoon i owe you everything#and this discussion i just read in it i need to get their names#about femme through the eyes of masculinity STOP IVE BEEN FEELING THAT WAY (dont stop ofc)#and the new spectrum bit???? wtfwtfwtf i feel like im being inundated with The Lore and im some starry eyed apprentice#whenever i forget i can be like -- is my icon a claude cahun homage for NOTHING?!#it's about context building! it's about history! it's about thinking those threads were spindly but they're strong as anchors or smthin#fuckit im just amazed i cannot properly articulate how amazed i am#ALSO look im not a lesbian/i never came to transness through lesbianism like a lot of my peers (only briefly and it amounted to one bar)#my point being that if you think you can't relate to that title because you think you didn't get to experience that lens#1. read the lesbians generally because they're good for you#2. trust me this book opens some fucking doors (doors I'd been worried were me going too far/werent allowed)#recommend this to all the queers and non-queers alike boys and girls and people who think they're unfathomable#you will be uh... fathomed... as it were#(or not but it's still vital)
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man.
#I've been so excited for this weekend! got invited to a big cool party tonight and tomorrow is my birthday!!#but this week things took a weird turn with the person I've been sort of seeing#and it went from being a very exciting and sweet thing to a heavy and difficult thing basically overnight#and today she tells me she's confused about her sexuality!! she loves men and is unsure about anything else!#this kinda shit keeps happening to me man. I'm so tired. it really seemed like this was different!#but here we are.#when will a beautiful dyke fall in love with me I ask. why do I keep attracting confused bicurious women.#anyway I had a big cry this afternoon and now look like shit and need to get ready to go to the cool party 🥴#wish me luck friends.
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May 2022 - always figuring out how to love
- Laura
(welcome to reblog but keep the credits please!)
#heyyyy hey anyone else have a teenage romance that was secret and also the other person said they weren’t gay but they were </3#anyone else take years to recover from those wounds only to find the love and love of their queerness in themselves???#and also friends!!#big smooch to you all#here’s another one anyway my poetry is about being a dyke xo#throwing up once again baring my soul etc etc everyone message me their first gay love stories if it’s nice i’m happy for you i AM i’m just#cryin in the corner too xxx#but actually please tell me happy gay love stories as well if u have them!!#laura writes#my poetry
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Everyone’s all “nonbinary is included in every sexuality” until a nonbinary person who is on hormones prefers men who like men and women who like women and all of a sudden I’m being problematic and offensive to…….. well everyone I guess
#WhoGive A Rats Ass#like genuinely why the fuck does anyone care omg why is this a big deal#I’m not being offensive to other transmascs by fucking lesbians like i never said you all need to or you all should or you all want to#it’s MY LIFE….. how is my very personal sex and love life affecting every transmasc in the world ITS NOT….#it’s your problem for seeing me as a binary trans guy when I’m not I just am on t and use he/him pronouns. like whatever bro omg#like ok. it’s MY OWN CHOICE that I would fuck a lesbian im ok with that. that’s just me! the ftm reading this is not involved.#im not going around fucking parading that transmascs should fuck lesbians this is literally just my personal life and choices#and if lesbians want me and gay guys want me (which they both do) THATS FUN FOR ME AND I LIKE IT BECAUSE IM NOT A BINARY TRANS PERSON….#anyways yeah so I’m bisexual but not in the traditional sense. just let me live I’m so sick of reading posts bashing people like me#sorry that I have the lived experience of being a dyke and I’m into dykes who are into dykes.#sorry that I’m also kind of attracted to men but only men who will acknowledge and respect and be attracted to my masculinity.#everyone wants to support gender fluidity and sexuality fluidity until someone is actually being fluid lmfao like honestly!!!
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