When I see people say how they disliked Bonnie in the early seasons because of her attitude and dislike of vampires, but start to like her in the last seasons when she and Damon became friends, I have to give a slight side eye. People are allowed to dislike any character they so choose, but notice how Bonnie will get called annoying or judgmental even though she was just cautious and went through severe levels of trauma as a teenager, but the other girls are allowed to express their emotions and be justified in how they feel. When Damon assaulted Caroline, she had every right to hate him and be upset that Elena chose to get with him. But when Damon made Bonnie’s life a living hell as soon as he showed up and was literally the same person who killed her mother, Bonnie isn’t allowed to grief and be distraught by that because she should be grateful it wasn’t her or she should understand that it was to protect Elena, so she needs to shut up and deal with it.

Caroline is allowed to be insecure and jealous, and call other female characters derogatory names such as slut, and no one bats an eye or criticizes her for that because it’s what normal insecure teenage girls do. Elena nearly kills her best friend and shouldn’t be reprimanded for that because she had her humanity off, but Bonnie is in the wrong for defending herself and feeling hurt by the fact that someone who has been her friend since childhood, just tried to kill her. You see Bonnie’s suffering and pain as annoying, but say that Elena and Caroline’s actions and feelings are valid and justifiable—and I think we all know why this is a common theme within the fandom.