the truth is, i do not think that it is useful nor helpful to treat rape and sexual abuse of any kind as singularly evil things that will damage and destroy victims forever and leaves them unworthy of life, and whose perpetrators are also singularly evil people who were born evil and need to be erased from society in order to get rid of rape existing at all. i do not think it is helpful to anybody including victims to tell them that rape and sexual abuse has damaged them permanently and that they have less worth as a human being for having been through that specific kind of abuse/assault. i do not think it is useful to treat sexual violence as completely different from other forms of violence, something that must remain taboo and that has no link to any other form of abuse and violence that might be perpetrated. it is especially not helpful when the very existence of transgender women is treated as sexual violence and a violation to protect cisgender women and children from. it is not helpful when victims of sexual violence are treated as damaged goods, when the sexual violence they've been through is either/both so taboo it cannot be spoken out loud, or something that marks them out as a potential perpetrator of said violence bc they have been forever broken by it.

Tired of being used? Me too, pass the bottle

i love to see people who are like "you can talk about csa but not around minors that's gross!" like idk how to tell you this but. who do you think is getting csa'd. i'll give you a hint: the first letter in csa does not stand for "adult"

i haven't really looked at the toonimal call out thing cuz it's like 100 pages and I don't know the person at all and I just don't feel like it's worth triggering myself reading that kind of shit. But something that got pointed out by another that made me go back and check it, the people who put this 100 some odd page doc together didn't hide the names of victims being groomed or anything, so the victims are also featured quite frequently. And I'm thinking about how when I was a kid getting groomed and abused, had my abusers been "called out" this way, I would be utterly humiliated and destroyed to have my name publicly plastered next to them. This is how victims get harassed, this is how victims never get to grow up and move on, it's incredibly irresponsible and pathetic and I hope whoever made the damn thing goes back and fixes that. Cuz knowing who I was at that age, I'd have killed myself.

f*ck Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, they have so much to answer for

imagine treating your daughter, who was a victim of your disgusting abuser son, worse than said disgusting abuser son, just because she dares to call you out and has a nose ring

"I'm scared of what predators might do if we acknowledge preteen sexuality."

It is a proven fact that teaching children about their bodies and about sexuality, providing them with safe resources to explore and ask questions, and giving them the language to describe their experiences and feelings and anatomy makes them less vulnerable to abuse and more likely to ask for help when they ARE being abused, mainly because they actually know how to describe it and why it's wrong.

"Protect the children" narratives overwhelmingly hurt children instead and make them way more vulnerable to abusers. Puberty doesn't stop just because you plug your ears and pretend it's not happening, and kids without safe resources and places to ask questions will go look for that information somewhere else.

The nostalgia fueled reframing of 1990s-2000s internet safety as somehow superior to what modern children are getting and not utterly inadequate and largely useless is really annoying. Like maybe you got a better curriculum than me, but I was taught "people can lie about being children online and really be old men!" (most pedophiles online just admit to being adults and use the tride and true grooming process rather than setting cartoonish traps) and "don't say your name etc online people will find you!" (Turns out if people want to find your information online, they can just doxx you or manipulate it out of you by gaining your trust slowly. Also, being named Leaf online and not mentioning your age does not actually stop you from being groomed. People who are willing to date children are often willing to date people who act suspiciously like children, or who give them the absolute power children don't know not to give.) I can only see the insistence that this information is like... lost... or the key to not getting groomed... as completely out of touch with the reality of victims of online sexual abuse OR pushed by people who want to believe that, in hindsight, if they'd made one simple choice they could have avoided their trauma. I especially get annoyed seeing it pushed by people who openly call children who may expose their age or personal information online insults and imply they are simply stupid, blaming their ignorance on their generation's flaws and not the fact that they are CHILDREN. Often at-risk children without the community, resources, or education to know what is or is not safe online and who benefit not at all from being insulted and derided by self-satisfied "fuck these kids" fandom elders who are insistent that community organization and social change have no role in protecting these children from abuse!

Tldr No, disney.com's Surf Swell Island is not a lost tome of anti-grooming wisdom that would fix Gen Alpha. Thanks

Why do they deserve to win?

Slade Wilson (TW abuse, pedophilia)

Roy Harper

Fun upside of rats and spambots fleeing Twitter for Tumblr are all the new fucking, uh...

They're not TERFs this time, they're "not feminists" because "feminism is cancer", they're, uh...

"Violent Misandrists"?

Like, huge use of Judith killing Holofernes vibes. 15yos posting "Kill all men (except my male mutuals lol!)" and insinuating that banning pornography will end child abuse forever.

(deep breath)

Look.

If you are a teenager from the USA, and your parents are Republicans, please consider that EVERYTHING you were ever taught about media, politics, gender, sex, feminism, and the advisability of mass murder as a political tool

has been carefully tailored to make you feel enraged with the state of the world, which is full of Good People and Bad People (groups it is very easy to sort everyone you meet into) and the way to Fix Society is to criminalize, incarcerate, or brutally murder as many Bad People as possible. You have probably seen several different sorting systems proposed, and may not have seen much political discourse beyond debates about "Which PART of society are Bad People who should be punished?"

And yes, I realize you've also been taught that people like me insisting on bullshit like "nuance" and "tolerance" and "educating yourself" are literal Satan and probably in favour of ritualized child abuse and puppy-kicking.

We're not. I'm not. I'm like a lot of people you wouldn't think are Good People, who nevertheless work to make the world better in what we understand to be the best methods available.

I don't know why I'm saying this. I'll probably end up a target of vitriol and regret ever speaking up. Just.

You are not smart for coming to the conclusion that the world is full of Bad People who just need to be killed. You did not figure out (or find the true prophet of) The Secret Truth of the Entire Universe. You haven't figured out how to fix the world. You just followed the fucking breadcrumb trail laid down by people who want to recruit you to commit atrocities in their name.

The world is so much more complicated than you've been led to believe. Fixing its problems is so much more tedious and difficult. Cruelty is so much less useful. And you've got so much more learning to do.

it was his fault not mine

not a dream

If you remember Girl Defined (ugh), Kristen and Bethany's brother has accused their mother Heidi of unspeakable things

He did a verified AMA on Reddit some time back where he revealed just how much his family failed to protect him as a child victim of SA and now has come out with something even worse

I knew this family was bizarre and disgusting, but this is worse than I ever imagined

My heart hurts for Michael and I believe him wholeheartedly

Heidi you will pay for your crimes one way or another