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a/n: aka we are in for a gd ride 💀💀💀

the coffee is black and the hoodie is on we are in it to win it, people🤪 thank you to all the fantastic support while i get through this part, y’all! gonna try my best😤 pls give me strength!

[ 3tanW ] ok… window spoiler bc it’s tradition💀

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a/n: i literally cannot believe we are here yet again, but we asked something and i needed convincing, he showed up to side with y’all, so now we have a spoiler🫠 window scenario is a go‼️

🪟what do we feel? are we okay?💌

[ 3tanW ] i’m finally down to the final stretch🥹 so a few things:

final title: the window

drop date: january 10th, 2023, 7:17pm est

notes: it’s a special chapter, so its role in canon isn’t disclosed, if at all!

word count: current wc is 12,909 and i still have three scenes to write out, so we may be looking at 14-16k🥴

feedback: there’s a lot that happens, but it’s def not as complicated or long as forfeit so no need to take notes this time (unless you want to, and i adore that!) just letting you know for feedback just in case.

3tan10: a teaser and message will be included for the next official 3tan part🥹

💌 also, please don’t hesitate to send feedback or commentary in, and don’t worry about length. i am grateful for every single person that reviews, messages, reblogs, comments, or uses the feedback form. it’s what lets me know what y’all like and how to approach the series moving forward! whether it’s one word or a whole thesis, i will eat that shit up🥳🍊

The window is my comfort read. I can’t stop reading it. I’m super looking forward to 3tan12. Thanks for all that you do, you are an amazing writer and I hope you know that. ❤️

Oh my gosh the window🥹🤍 I love that one so much, thank you for telling me this! And I’m glad you’re looking forward to 3tan12. It’s gonna be a monster, as well😂

You’re very kind. Thank you for the thoughtful words and I will keep trying my best for y’all

[ 3tanW ] it’s looking as delayed as southwest’s flights, y’all😩 but we’ll be okay because.. it’s shaping up to be more like 10k+ instead of 7k🥴 and you’ll see why i’m taking more time for this one when it drops (i hope.)

i’m estimating either tomorrow or friday for release, and possibly even.. a teaser for the upcoming 3tan main storyline at the end🥹🍊 apologies, everyone. life got busy af but i’ll get this part out soon<33 just a delayed present!

pics of Yoongi sitting on a chair are never gonna be the same again 🧎‍♀️

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3tanW Yoongi? 😀

imy Ryen! sorry if I just drop by randomly now 😭 my routine has been out of whack ever since the D-Day album release and the tour 🥲

NOT WINDOW YOONGI DSFKSLDL the expressions, though.. i mean you are not wrong lol

and it’s ok, babe! my schedule has been busy too and there are still many of you that i still want to respond to😭 it’s rough but the grind is grinding

[ 3tanW ] it’s late and idk if anyone’s here so👩‍💻

mm.

we’re finally getting one of the things that everyone’s been wanting for awhile now🥴🥴🥴

I don’t wanna invalidate opinions but I would like to throw some things out there that might help reframe window for those who didn’t like it (and correct me if I’m off base here Ryen also I never properly talked about window yet so I guess this counts as part of it 🫣😂) but like….

Okay so feel like most media, especially the ones I grew up with is supersaturated with unrealistic, rose colored portrayals of intimacy, both platonic and romantic. Conflict is shown as only an external force that can be overcome with “true love.” But…love is not always enough. It’s a powerful motivator but it isn’t an airtight bottle you can shove all the difficult conversations and thoughts in until the pressure peaks . It’s only recently that creators are starting to push back against the cliche stereotypes that we’ve had for decades. And we’ve never had more diversity and freedom to be creative than we do now but we still have a long fucking way to go. There’s still a lack of depth that leads to expectations that can never be met. It leads to so much unnecessary disappointment with real life. And it’s lowkey toxic af. How is anyone supposed to know how to actually relate to another person, how to be a good friend or even how to know if someone else is being a good friend if we never get to see the little things. The small moments shared in silence, the tears, the misunderstandings, the effort it takes to stay feeling connected to someone else, to stayed connected to yourself.

Real intimacy is not a straight, even valley you need to pass in order to get to a beautiful meadow of “happily ever after.” Real intimacy requires patience, persistence, and communication. It’s a never ending fluctuation of real work. No one can give 100% all the time, but that’s why it’s shared. When you can only give 20 percent, the other person needs to be willing to give the other 80 and you have to be open to do the same. And most importantly it requires grace; the ability to be patient and forgive others when they find themselves being less than. Getting to have a peak into Yoongi’s mindset in 3tan is a privilege you can’t get in real life bc we’re not mind readers. In fact, it highlights that fact. We can’t know what others are thinking unless we ask and truly listen. Period. It reminds us that there are in fact two individually complex humans involved that have their own needs and wants and worries and doubts. And like communication between two people is one thing, but communication with yourself??? That takes a lifetime of conscious effort. You have to choose to improve, to self reflect. And it’s going to be uncomfortable, no might’s or maybe’s. But how can anyone know what they need in a relationship or what they can even bring to a relationship if they don’t sort it out with themselves first?

Reader and Yoongi have realistic flaws that they are not only aware of but are willing to work on in order to make a relationship work. They have internal battles they have to work through if they’re ever going to be able to fight the external ones. Instead of judging each other for how they’re feeling, they push each other to be vulnerable enough to share so they can listen and understand bc they want this. They want it all. Yoongi climbing through that window was him giving reader that 80 percent when she could only give 20. I also don’t think it’s fair to fault reader for that when we’ve seen proof they’re willing to do that for Yoongi too (I guess I haven’t seen what specific things people didn’t like about it so I’m making some assumptions). We saw it, staying to wash those dishes and refusing to leave unsaid thoughts floating just out of reach between them was her 80 when Yoongi was shutting down. She deserved an explanation to his change in behavior that felt complete and genuine and she was brave enough to stop hiding behind the coy words that were keeping them both safe, that they both were using as a shield. They were lucky, they got to hear exactly what they thought they could only hope for. But even if they hadn’t, at least they could walk away knowing they had done all they could. They could have mourned what could have been with less regrets.

And last thing before I step off my soapbox and end this Tedtalk (have we reached max capacity for metaphor yet??? 😂🤦🏽‍♀️), I understand that people use escapism as a coping mechanism (and like all things is def unhealthy in excess). I think it’s safe to say we’re all pretty much here for that. We’re on this platform and following and reading content from creators like Ryen who are willing and excited to share their work with us as whatever we need it to be bc we are looking for something to connect with. Ryen has stated multiple times she wants this to be a comfort for people and that it is one for her. It’s scary sharing a story like this so publicly. It’s intimate and revealing and she shared it knowing that she doesn’t have complete control on who has access to it. If you’re looking for a story that paves a smoother path then maybe 3tan is just not for you 🤷🏽‍♀️ and that’s more than okay. We’re so lucky to be in a digital age where a large portion of the population has access to an obscene amount of content. There’s going to be something out there that fits what you’re looking for if that’s what you want. But my completely unsolicited advice and hope for everyone is that they consume media that allows them to not only escape from the unpleasantries of life but also expands the way we might think about the complex dynamics of just…existing. Nobody has all the right answers but I bet if we all share the things that help and comfort us like Ryen does and meet it with “I’m so happy you felt you could share this with me and I feel like I know you better now” when it doesn’t fit into what we want or whatever expectations we create, then we’d all walk through this life feeling a little more understood and a little more understanding. And I’m not saying I don’t also enjoy and even love the easy, rosy happily ever afters. I do, but I’m beginning to understand that they give me something different than the complex and angst filled stories. I’m 100% not always up to diving into a story like 3tan that really gets me thinking and analyzing (this is like 1k words too late to say hi don’t perceive me and my many long winded 3tan reviews 🫣🙃😂 but like…shhh) and so when I’m not, I don’t 🤷🏽‍♀️. Luckily, for now, it’s there for whenever I want and that’s amazing. And when I do, I try really hard to put even a fraction of the work it takes the creator into my response/ reception BC WOW PEOPLE ARE SO TALENTED AND BRAVE AND DOING THEIR BEST.

If you made it this far, thanks for coming to my Tedtalk and welcome to my overthinking and exhausted brain. Did I write this on my flight home as a way to push back my post concert depression? Yes, yes I did.

(Ryen I love you and am endlessly grateful for your big beautiful brain and I hope you enjoy LA 🖤🖤🖤)

i…. i….. wow?? thank you?? what the hell do i even say to this i’m speechless🧍‍♀️

mikayla i guess i won’t say much (because you’ve pretty much said everything so eloquently and beautifully, and i barely slept on the whole flight here and am just now getting to lie down) but just know this made me feel a whole lot better. damn.

thank you for saying all of this. at its core, 3tan is about life. beauty in the mundane. extraordinary in the ordinary. a lot of my inspiration comes from hayao miyazaki, tbh, because i’ve been so enamored by the way he took time to add in the most simplest of things like fixing a shoe that wasn’t fully put on, or someone staring just a bit longer at the surrounding scenery. it’s those moments that i wanna capture here, too, because there’s something to love even in the milliseconds.

and as far as love and communication and trust and self-reflection, it’s been quite a journey writing this series bc even though i’m writing it, i truly feel like I’m learning and growing alongside these people, too. it’s been quite the pleasure, and i’m grateful as hell for anyone that’s here, was here, or will stumble across this series somehow. I wanna keep it a comfort series and one that, as you said, makes people think about their own journeys, too.

gahhh I really don’t have any other commentary bc you’ve said plenty and it’s incredible.. seriously, thank you. i’m unbelievably touched and will think about this tedtalk ask for a long, long time.

re: people being upset by reader in window (and nothing to do with the ask game in which we all need to go to church)

i think the downfall of reader inserts is that everyone wants to see themselves in the character. but we're all different people, so that's not possible. and people tend to get really upset when reader makes choices that are different than the ones they would make because it ruins their immersion. (i also think that there's a lot of projecting going on when folks get that upset by a choice or action but that's not the point here).

to me, reader's feelings and behaviors are in line with the background we have of them throughout the whole series. yoongi too. healing isn't linear. reader is still going to have insecurities and their own past heartbreak is still going to get in the way. that's true for ALL of us. and yoongi's own past in regards to relationships (or the willful lack thereof) is also not going to disappear. it's been made clear throughout the entire series that whatever yoongi and reader have is new to both of them. yoongi's past has fueled reader's insecurities due to her own past (fuck off jungkook and all partners following him) many times up until window, and that's very reasonable. and then, on this trip, there's also the fact that reader and their brother have their own family stuff regarding the holidays which puts them both in a bad mood. AND THEN on top of that yoongi and reader's entire relationship is a secret. they have to hide, and that's not easy either. it can be really easy to forget what reader knows about how yoongi feels when their reality does not line up with what happens between the two of them behind closed doors.

i'm saying all of this because i don't want you to keep thinking that you weren't thinking things through enough or that you posted too quickly. i want to make sure you know that what you wrote DID make sense for the storyline and that it WAS in line with everything else that has happened throughout the series. people are entitled to not like how things played out, but from the little you've said about the feedback you got, they did not approach you kindly about it. the anonymity of the internet can make some people act with so much less respect than they would if they were talking to you face to face.

and i want to reiterate this again: i've ALWAYS found that when i really dislike something about another person, it's because i see that exact trait/behavior/etc. in myself. and i do think that's true for all of us. reader inserts are the ultimate tool for projection, and when being faced with something they don't like or don't resonate with, people react strongly. you're not the first author i've seen this EXACT thing happen to. at the end of the day, i wholeheartedly believe that it's not personal and that it doesn't actually reflect on your writing or your choices. reader inserts are a double edged sword in that they are as inclusive as possible but for that very reason it's just not possible for every single person who reads to be represented.

take as long as you need to feel comfortable with posting. i understand why it got to you, it definitely would have gotten to me too. thank you for showing up for us anyway 🫂 i hope you had a wonderful time in korea!!!! and that you have so much fun with yoongi AGAIN. thank you for being you 💕

WHOA Nicki when the hell did you send this?? Holy shit I didn’t see it until I actually clicked my inbox!

But damn.. thank you for saying all of this. I don’t really have anything else to add other than that because I’m extremely grateful. If it did make sense then I feel LOADS better because the things people were saying made me feel like I genuinely messed up my own characters. Ngl it hurt for days (but yeah, this was a long time ago and I’m better now!)

And thank you for the commentary on these characters, too🫂 I love that they are human and complex and don’t always make the best choices. While it’s frustrating to readers, trust me when it’s frustrating to me too and I’m writing it LOLLL but I want it to be realistic and/or not ideal.

We have a long way to go with their journey. I’m in no rush🤍

[ 3tanW ] … title card enclosed🙃

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a/n: the title will tell you most of what you might need to know🥲❤️‍🩹

A Window!Yoongi POV would be *chefs kiss* :D

fuuuuuuuuuuck, though….

I think my ask got lost in tumblr. I was busy tryna graduate 😅😅

Anyways, just finished reading 3tan. I have a lot to say but maybe I'll hold it till 3tan10. 🥺🥺 Also, I'm sorry I made you feel like I didn't like window. I loved it, even more because you mentioned my nickname in the note.

Btw, woman, how did you survive the concerts?!! JUST HOW

window anon with love.

omg.. window… please never hesitate to say things or comments about fics! comments actually help a lot as far as motivation and just a good boost🥹

of course i would mention your name! you’re the one that sparked that whole holiday special into existence🥳 why wouldn’t i mention you lmao?? i’m really glad you did end up enjoying it.

also…. idk how I survived the concerts i really do NOT‼️

Ok so have been avoiding reading 3tan because I’m a pussy and I can’t handle angsty stuff HOWEVER☝🏽 I’m slowly starting to read it after the Halloween special ( which was so freaking good btw) and I just read the window and can I just say 🥹🤧🫶🏽I love you , like even if it’s angsty you don’t leave it at that , like I feels good , I love their communication 🥺 and I love how you always make them acknowledge their emotions. I find that refreshing than the usual misunderstanding draggy stuff. So thank you 🥹💓🤧

oh babe🥺🍊 that means so much to me! and yes, this series is meant to be a comfort work, so a bunch of chapters have a resolution instead of leaving it at a cliffhanger or unresolved feelings. like hell yeah you’re gonna have angst bc it’s me lol but these people are adults and make big decisions. even if it’s hard and they have their own struggles, they try to be there for one another and work it out🫂

thank you for the thoughtful commentary! seriously, I appreciate you🤍 and have fun with the series! feel free to reach out whenever, I am always happy to talk about it🥳

a gift for 3tanW luvers (me 😵‍💫)

i just fell out of my gd SEAT😩😩😩