I'm extremely anxious about people assuming false things about my selfships! Sometimes I can manage to remind myself that no one would go out of their way to bully me about aspects about my selfships that they just... made up. But I'm always extremely anxious interacting with others anyways :,)

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i know that people will recommend that you don't go in anti tags because it can negatively affect your mental health, but frankly i could not care less about what antis think since 90% they're just edgy tryhard puritans (which is frankly, a weird and kinda entertaining combo in a screwed up way in my personal opinion) so it doesn't affect me to go in their tags

and so well, i go into their selfship tags with a notebook every now and then and make very brief and undetailed prompts inspired by their posts, close the notebook and put it up for a few days so i forget what posts which prompts were based off to advoid plagiarism and will use those for making my own posts lmao

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i think selfshipping may be an unhealthy coping mechanism for me but i dont want to give it up because i dont have that kind of love available to me irl and i would miss my f/os. sometimes f/o imagines make me pretty upset instead of happy because i know its not real and it hurts to think about that, and i cant really predict when they will have that effect on me instead of making me feel good.

i have a lot of barriers to any kind of romantic relationship irl and even if i didnt, im very discouraged by the idea of being with a real person with flaws and disappointing things and having to deal with actual relationship stuff and make compromises etc. instead of it just being a perfect life with f/o where everything is how i want it to be. i also think i would miss that deeper connection with my f/os if i just started being a fan of them the “normal” way instead.

idk what to do lol if anyone has any advice or something that would be nice, or even if you feel a similar way and just want to talk to someone about it

- 🌱

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i know the proship community is accepting but one of the characters i selfship with is a n@zi, hes totally fictional and not at all real and i don't support any kind of alt right ideology, i just feel so conflicted about it and know i could never talk about it publicly :(

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I've found out a huge bonus to projecting on an OC (for me, but maybe others too?): there's no established characterization getting in the way, so you can just throw ALL THE KINKS AND SITUATIONS at them and your F/O

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Most of my moots on here have like one or two main selfships, meanwhile I have about 13, and one that I'm thinking of making official. Sounds stupid but I feel a bit promiscuous or too quick to make selfships. No one's been mean to me, but I can't help but compare

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Sometimes I feel bad because I love all of my selfships but there are two that are almost....more special to me? I feel like they are closer to my heart, and yet I still love my other selfships....I feel bad that I have a ranking of them :/

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(u can call/tag me as leftovers anon!! i'll sign off with that name + 🥡 emoji)

i feel very conflicted about a lot of things. i'm at least a little possessive over my f/os, but i wish people could experience the same joys i do with them. at the same time, a lot of them are in some way obscure (4 r from an internet horror series with an anti-ridden fandom, one is from a vn, one's from a fanmade project of a fanmade project of a fanmade project of a video game creepypasta, and my most popular one is already in a canon relationship). there's also characters i'm considering as f/os, too.

they make me feel like i'm not as worthless anymore <33333 i've already had a lot taken from me in my life and i don't wanna lose them too. funny thing is that most of them are dead. (3 canonically dead, one suffering a lot, one dies a lot in mods, and one's a ghost).

and it sounds kinda stupid but for the ones who don't have official plushies i'd either buy bootlegs, something similar (eg. a daki), or just make my own plush. i like holding them but i feel sad cus i don't hold mine as much as i want to :(

sorry this was very long and rambly, hopefully i'll come here more often

-🥡/leftovers anon

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I genuinely do not feel bad about copy pasting selfship posts from antis.

They continuously harass us and ""fix"" our art, why shouldn't we have a little bit of that? Fully anti-harassment here of course, the posts are just ours now :3

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my anti friends cannot stop me i will kiss my fictional dad sloppy

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Ironically I feel out of place in the community sometimes because I selfship very seriously and with one character only, I’ve heard it called waifuism on Reddit but it barely exists on this site. I guess there’s such a spectrum of what self-shipping can be that it’s difficult to find selfshippers that match your energy well. :/

-☎️ anon (phone anon)

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the selfship community feels so unwelcoming :( there's constant infighting and harassment, and it makes me so sad. i've thought about leaving the selfship community a bunch of times already, and i've only been here for a short while... the only thing stopping me is that i love my f/os so much and want a place to talk about how much i love them, and have people who understand how i feel!! i think everyone needs to remember that we're all essentially weirdos who love fictional characters, there's no reason to be so hostile towards each other :((

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i think ive found myself to be hated by atleast a pretty big audience on both selfship tumblr and selfshiptwt and i am not really sure how this happened i think people didnt like the opinions that i had ☹️

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sometimes i make shipcest F/O imagines just to spite antis because i just know there's some who refuse to block the proship tags for whatever reason and will seethe once seeing it in the main "#selfship" tag

baby rage is funny to me lmao, especially when they can easily not see it by blocking me and/or the related proship tags

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Im a trans guy who selfships 99% of the time with women characters and I wish that the general common perception of dudes who selfship wasn’t “creepy shut-in nerd” (not that it is in selfship spaces, but most people outside of it have that). Especially because I tend to make my s/i’s cis men as a wish fulfillment thing, it makes me feel like I’m being weird or creepy.

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i honestly HATE the canon and popular fanon ships my f/o is in, like with one of them, its EXTREMELY TOXIC.

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it's so weird self shipping as a system sometimes. if only because we have so many separate f/o lists. - ⭐✨ (call us cosmos anon)

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