Fun fact the people who are weirdest about my gender irl are other trans women.

Cis people plateau at a certain level of weird and transmascs are all, "Wazzzaaaapppp!!" But other trans women have. A crisis. About my existence.

A girl I knew in middle school used to do competitive boxing, i don't know why she stopped. At some point our PE teacher asked her about whether or not she'd been on a special diet while boxing and if anything had changed once she stopped. She said she had been on a nutrition plan made by her coach and yes going off that diet had caused some changes. It mainly made her gain something like 10kg (22 pounds) within a few months. So this "nutrition plan" did such a great (sarcasm) job at nourishing her that the first thing her body did off of said plan was prepare for imminent starvation... oh, and under-eating can also stunt growth.

(my issue with this isn't that she gained weight, my issue is that dieting can permanently fuck up your metabolism in such a way that it prioritizes energy storage (until the energy reserves have reached a "safe" level) over repairing wear and tear that just happens while living. just in case it had to be said)

this is a way better model... you'll still get transphobic & intersexist drs of course but i prefer this to male / female or even having separate questions for gender & sex.

[we can't see the full form, but i'd suggest having a "something else" option and dominant hormone question too.]

in that weird in-between stage where I feel and look too masculine to use the women's restroom but get strange looks using the men's restroom ough. what if I just piss myself instead

A society that hates cis women will also hate trans men. In addition to suffering all the misogyny directed at cis women, trans men will also suffer the misogyny that interacts with transphobia.

Stop conceptualizing trans men as if they have the same position as cis men within the patriarchy.

And tons of trans people have testified that they don't feel all that different (mentally) on hormones??? like yeah mood shifts and stuff happen to most people (estimation based on what i've seen people say) on hrt, but that doesn't make you a different person. imagine saying something like that about people going through menopause or people having to take hormone blockers due to cancer.

The bioessentialism in trans subreddits is absolutely wild sometimes. "Estrogen will change your brain into a woman's brain whether you like it or not" is such a ridiculous thing to say?? And the nonbinary/agender/etc erasure fucking sucks

Ok last post about this but here's some simple points that it's imperative you read and understand if you genuinely care about trans people especially as one yourself;

A) No sex or gender is virtuous or sinful by default. It's a persons words and actions which determine what kind of person they are. Leave this 'innate sin' Catholic bs at the door and send the pedestal you're forcing trans fems to sit on out with it.

B) Therefore any trans person can be transphobic, transmisogynistic or transandrophobic including if they're amongst the group targeted by the intersectional terms. All of these types of bigotry are unacceptable, regardless of your personal perceived impact on yourself and others. Nobody should be subject to any kind of bigotry.

C) This does not mean ALL members of X group are Y kind of bigots but it also doesn't mean that no X group members are Y kind of bigots. It's good to be careful of these lines of thinking in anyone if we want to get rid of it but see point A.

D) Holding individuals accountable and opposing the general ideology of transmisogyny, transandrophobia and general transphobia (including nonbinaryphobia, exorsexism and transmedicalism) is more affective than demonising a whole group based on their identity. If members are radicalised or bigoted already, they're not changing their minds because you yelled at them to kill themselves nor are they unworthy of redemption.

E) Listening to people directly about the bigotry they face is the key to understanding bigotry you might not face yourself.

F) Trans unity is the tool we need to craft a fortress so strong we can weather any storm but it won't work if we believe that's enemies in our own lines.

G) Using female-orientated insults towards trans mascs is still misogynistic. Using male-orientated insults towards trans women is still transmisogynistic. Telling anyone to kill themselves for existing loudly and in a way you disapprove of, puts you in the wrong automatically. Telling someone or a whole group to kill themselves also invalidates anything else you wish to say before or after said statement.

H) Failure to understand any of this means you are helping no groups, or even yourself, instead you are likely contributing to trans harm. Including harm to the groups you are most personally invested in helping.

Equality doesn't mean making the oppressed the oppressors and it sure as hell doesn't mean the oppressed oppressing each other. Stop doing the TERFs jobs for them.

it's definitely a terminally online thing but it sucks so hard when you click on someone's blog and then a shit ton of their posts are just like trans men suck

one of the posts was "gay guys who needed you to know they're not a girl" talking about the paletteswapped lesbian flag/"toothpaste" flag. a lot of trans gay men use that flag, almost like they get cast as women or something.... idk it just reads as very tone deaf and lateral punching bag-ish/trans boys wanted to make their own flag how Cringeeee point and laugh everyone! i wonder what else people are calling cringe and pointing and laughing at that trans men are talking about. hm.

there's this way people online talk about trans men that is very reminiscent to me of being a teenage girl. we are treated bascially the same but with a "you're a man so take what you get and shut up about it" instead of "you're a girl so you have to suffer nobly about it." plus how people treat everything we do as cringe, it's just like wow lots of people think we are teenage girls who think we're special and are completely unwilling to unpack that because we id as men and are therefore The Oppressor.

regardless of that i think that if perhaps every 5th reblog on someone's blog is about how trans men suck maybe they are just transphobic

....Yeah the infinite stream of (*counting*) three gender affirming surgeries

this is possibly the funniest terf take i’ve ever seen. trans people, hate to tell you this but buying clothes is actually capitalist and you should stop /j.

i saw in one of your posts from around a week ago you said "cishet/square masculinity". I haven't heard of square masculinity before and couldn't find another mention of it on your blog (tumblr search function is broken though so idk). could you explain what that term means?

its a term me and @gay-otlc made up as an opposite to "queer"!

Historically "straight" (slang for normal) was the opposite of queer (slang for weird), but that came from a time where the boundary between sexuality and gender wasn't as recognized & as a result, "straight" became synonymous with heterosexuality. Using "straight" to mean non-queer now can be alienating to folks like transhets, who may feel attached to the word straight while also being queer. Lots of people use "cishet" but that only addresses two aspects of non-queerness, and if you add in more it just gets clunkier to say.

In the same way that queer is an umbrella term that describes someone/something that deviates from the norm of gender/sex/sexuality, square is someone/something that is the norm. "Square" is another term that was used to mean normal, which is why it was chosen. S also wrote a cool post somewhere about how a square is made of four straight lines, which shows how being part of the norm comes from being cis+het+allo+perisex.

while i get where this comes from and it’s true to an extent, i reeeaaaally don’t like how people try to explain “trans men don’t [necessarily] have male privilege” with things like “some trans men don’t pass”.

like sure that’s the most obvious example (someone who is seen as a woman won’t have the privilege that comes with being seen a man) but you’re still acting like being a passing trans man is just a free opt-in to male privilege which is………kinda the issue.