I wanted to log back on and say that Iāve been absent due to serious pain from my cycle, despite everything Iām taking to manage it and donāt have the strength to post.
I hope Iām not on a hiatus any longer, but the debilitating pain Iāve been in is too much.
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any advice for someone who just turned 19 and wants to level up before turning 20š
Youāre probably 20 by the time I answered this question šš anyways, this information will be applicable whether youāre 19 or 20!
Leveling Up Into Adult-hood
Have fun, DO NOT be hung up on appearing like a good girl all the time. Youāll burn yourself out!! Itās so frustrating constantly moderating your behavior to look pure to everyone if itās not in your nature, you havenāt been raised like that, or you were sheltered. Why is it the goody two shoes rebel when they are legally adults or on their own?
Thereās a time and place for being on your best behavior but also areas where youāre less expected to be straight-laced.
Thereās this misconception for leveling up that you have to act like you have a stick up your ass, when like in regular life, being too prudent or haphazardly can be an issue. Your behavior shouldnāt place you or anyone else in physical danger!
Be logical with your style! Another misconception of leveling up is needing to dress like a nun or old money. Avoid following style advice blindly because itās so different regionally and culturally. You donāt need to camouflage in your surroundings, but donāt try to reinvent the wheel because someone says itās trendy.
I donāt believe leveled up = prude or no more fun. You really donāt want to go into adulthood restraining yourself then regretting it in the future.
If you enjoy trends, enjoy them without letting the bulk of your money flow through your fingers. Choose trendy clothes that are direct dupes of the designer clothes they knocked off, thatās how fast fashion began.
Donāt be lazy. Laziness and finding shortcuts are very different things. A majority of questions I see on Tumblr & Reddit about leveling up and similar spheres can be answered by books that you can find for free on the internet.
Experience. As you level up physically and mentally, you should gain experience. Both mature and post-level up people have numerous cards in their decks for situations in their lives. Nothing is off limits.
This isnāt to say to:
be reckless
sit out on experiences to look āgoodā (I donāt like stringent morality standards, it stunts your personal growth for societal-facing purposes)
OR make purposeful mistakes for philosophical type lessons + breakthroughs, but all types of experiences shape your understanding.
Ask specific questions as a last resort because most leveling up questions are very personal and/or invasive, can be found on the internet/YouTube/Pinterest within seconds, so vague you could find out yourself (not saying your question is vague, I was 19 & unsure of my abilities), and basically advice you can find in a book for free.
At the same time, if you did pay for info that you answered yourself in the question, you should feel insulted because you doubted your gut, credibility, and intelligence. Thereās a reason why 20-somethings arenāt expected to have 10 years of experience for a career.
We do not have to mail letters to experts or gurus anymore with the dawn of the internet, and shouldnāt force our personal issues & trauma on strangers for free that didnāt ask for it. A majority of questions I see could be found within seconds, and things I would never ask a stranger, no matter how well-intentioned they seem.
You need intermediate conversationalist, etiquette, and reasoning skills. You cannot rationally expect a person to hold your hand through every step or make decisions for you.
Donāt be dumb and ask a person how to sound diplomatic in conversation if theyāre a dumbass. Definitely donāt ask a 20 something how to impress older people in high places in conversations if theyāve never met older people in high places. This does not mean a 60yr old is wise and experienced. Again, most people who are only into the femininity & hypergamy movement for the attention and money (from the attention) will not hesitate to lead you into a ditch with their advice.
Do be sensible and ask a knowledgeable person neutral questions on how to communicate wisely. Before you ask, observe. Everyone isnāt going to give you straight answers just because you asked since they donāt owe you a courtesy of a right answer.
I had a grandpa that procured financial sense from living post-Great Depression & WW2
a public speaking professor that coached a pageant queen
absorb beauty content from cultures that thrive on beauty for survival
That being said, donāt ask me about financial security, conversing like a pageant queen, or even what I absorb from beauty-centered cultures since everyoneās circumstances are different.
Be very careful blindly trusting advice you hear or read on the internet because not everyoneās your friend or best to go to for advice. No one owes you the courtesy of right answers because you asked.
Would you ask a 6 time divorcee for longterm relationship advice? Thatās asking a skunk how to smell lovely.
Would you ask a straight haired person what to do for textured hair?
Would you ask a scammer how to make an honest living? I wouldnāt ask.
If someoneās cradling you through every action, how will you learn to keep your head up and walk?
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Ah, when I think about being too attractive for a part time job I wanted, it stung not being hired since the execs in corporate wouldāve retired me at 20 š also being let go because of it, since my bitch supervisor wouldāve been my employee if corporate wouldāve seen me on the warehouse floor.
Beauty is magical šøš¾ and a bitch when female bosses are catty
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Iāve been playing with Asian P filters, so fun for makeup ideas
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Today (10-18-23), I feel so-so but Iām forcing myself to make progress on my goals.
Then, I couldāve lost my house Monday night if it wasnāt for the smoke detector!! Bad electrical wiring, at least it only melted some siding, and didnāt move up to the attic.
Monday frightened me into making money through my face ASAP instead of being lazy.
I didnāt realize there were so many lurkers on my Instagram, so Iām going to be particular with my looks to supplement my income.
š§ Iām using Planoly to choose my outfit & makeup for Instagram, to finish my morning in record time. Use a generator to decide a look.
š° anaerobic exercise
š§ find buss down hairstyles for my 16in wig until I can buy one thatās 24in+, put away the bangs until the color can be rejuvenated.
š° I paused my ask box to catch up, and to reduce the feelings of burning out from overpromising myself.
š§ go to bed early throughout this week so I wonāt feel as tense from Tuesday night.
š° sit in steam while oiling myself
š§ read classic romance novels and other genres to fantasize myself more.
I hope to have more positive news tomorrow?!
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La PaĆÆva has been in my dreams almost nightly.. I should be regularly posting again soon.
Refining my posts as well.
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Omg, I missed my own blog anniversary 2 days ago! Happy belated 2 years to my blog!
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I have a pro athlete relative that I somewhat grew up with, do not see why anyone would want a long term relationship with them, not even their families.
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Going on fall break soon, I canāt wait to feel better and get into my reading.
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Love Your Face? Accentuate It.
Loving your face and features can be an unknown process to many women. Loving your face includes loving your body and yourself too. Loving your face for a high maintenance woman means accentuating it.
What are your most favorite features? Mine are my eye shape, cheekbones, nose and lips.
Methods I have of accentuating my facial features are nonsurgical and noninvasive. Some of these methods begin before makeup application.
Your lips? Use a plumper, lip liner and sheer lip products. Use lip exfoliants beforehand.
Eye shape? Eye cream, clear eye topper and concealer.
Brows? Fill them in or get them microbladed, waxed, shaped or threaded.
Cheekbones? Blush, highlighter and smiling.
Jawline? Color correcting concealer.
Face? Tinted moisturizer.
Nose? Highlighter or glossy sheen on the bridge.
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An Intro to the Ingenue Archetype: Look Like You Have Stars in Your Eyes
Ingenue (anjÉĖnoĶo): an innocent or unsophisticated young woman, especially in a play or film.
An ingenue was a type of woman popularized in 1920s silent films. She could be described as a woman who needs assistance from others and can also act like a damsel in distress. By others, she is known as very innocent and beautiful.
How to Look Like You Have Stars in your Eyes
1. Practice looking towards the sky or ceiling when you think, if you donāt already.
When you look up as you think, youāll look a sweet and insightful.
2. Change your facial emotions to a more positive expression.
Have a small jovial look on your face so youāll be portrayed as a happy person.
3. Look in your intended direction with a softened expression and peaceful look in your eyes.
For subliminal inspiration, listen to āLittle Girls from Little Rockā from Gentlemen Prefer Blondes.
4. Watch your expression and āstarsā in your eyes if you have a feeling you look like youāre lost.
Your eyes are full of warmth and wonder, so that means youāre not an airhead or confused about where you are.
5. Practice until a hopeful look in your eyes becomes natural.
Once it becomes natural, youāll be able to switch from several faces from different archetypes.
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Hey sis, just saw and loved one of your last posts. I was just wondering how to curate/set up a health plan. Iām inspired to create one now would like to see what one looks like.
Thanks in advance š¤
Setting Up a Basic Healthcare Plan
Hi, Iāll walk you through it!
You need a binder, flash drive, folder, etc. to hold your plan. Make several copies for your protection and update them periodically.
Your front cover page should be a picture of you or images that describe you, the name of your plan and the years you made it for (2022-2023).
Feel free to add a table of contents for organizationās purpose. For example:
- About Me (pg. 1-3)
- My Medical Records from X physician(s) (pg. 4-30)
- Dietary Info & Basic Grocery List (31-34)
- Ideal Colors For My Undertone (pg. 35-38)
- Dependable Nail Colors (pg. 39-43)
Your book doesnāt need to have tens of pages for medical records if you donāt have that many.
Your first page inside the book should be your about you and basic stats. You should add your name, height, shoe size and conversions for different conversion systems.
Your next pages are only for your official medical records. The main point of this book is to have your medical work on file over everything else. This is the first reason why your book is your lifeline. Your healthcare plan should not have your favorite colors and shoe styles for your first pages BEFORE your medical information.
After youāve added and left space for your medical records, itās time to add your dietary information, your favorite food [brands], drinks and the like. This part could be your grocery list at a momentās glance!
Your next pages are your care techniques for when you arenāt feeling well, need a boost in your day or want to make those techniques a habit.
After you add in your care techniques, your next pages can be about clothes that are flattering on you, shoes that show you off the best and your preferred cosmetics. Pictures in your books can be in a layout/spill format!
Paste pictures of yourself wearing morning looks, daytime, evening and bedtime! Your pictures are your reference pictures when you donāt know what you want to do.
Your book can include reviews of makeup youāve tried, vitamins that have given you results and hair styles that are the least damaging to your hair.
Your book can have colors that suit you for every season, nail shapes & lengths that complement your fingers, bracelets that look expensive on you, anything! Your book is your health book, style book, protocol book, a YOU book!
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Treat Yourself Like Youāre Insured
Mariah Careyās legs and lungs are insured for $35 million each. Do you think she purposely tries to break her ankles?
Create a health plan for your appearance, muscles, hair and diet. Make this on a Word document, print it and download it onto a USB drive. You need to have your healthcare regimen within reach AND in a safe box. Make 15 copies if you have to. This is your lifeline!!
Wake when your body wakes you up. It means youāre either well rested or outside conditions interrupted your sleep. Sometimes, I wake up at 4:49-5:49am.
Tailor your skincare regimen to you. If 10 steps are too tedious to you, simplify it to readily available face wipes, moisturizing no-rinse masks and toner pads. If 10 steps are commonplace to you, always seek to make your regimen more enjoyable and effective.
Be picky with your clothes, jewelry and accessories. Choose a hair clip because itās you, not for its cheap price.
Make time for you. You are the most important being in your lifetime.
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Today (10-05-23), I havenāt been up to par due to having a health scare from not replenishing calories I lost from walking 4-5.5 miles a day since June.
I havenāt been posting as much as planned since Iām one major blood loss away from an ER visit for a blood transfusion for my period being heavy since September 10th, along with sides of low blood pressure + sugar, anemia, and pale skin.
If thatās not the pretty privilege news you wanted to see, then oh well, thatās how Iām feeling right now and Iām not going to pretend to be bubbly.
š cut my steps in half, doctorās orders. High caloric meals & electrolyte supplements.
š Vitamin C & D replenishment to restore my complexion, started taking iron and BC.
š pull out my fall wardrobe & blowout hairstyles
š work on walk & confidence, your esteem doesnāt need to be low in order to work on it.
š find someone to patch a hole in my Uggs
š bright red mandarin orange makeup w/ neutral eye, very spicy! I love being rouged up!!
š use a randomizer to layer my perfume & fragrance oil collection
š relax, Iām at a point of diminishing returns for my exercising habits.
š regain vibrancy š„²
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Aww I was called an it girl in passing šāļø
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Since transplants from the west coaat are muddying up the water in my state, Iām copying Alabama girls style and makeup since itās more accurate of Southern belles but closer in distance compared to Florida. Like I said before, Valley girl styles and New York neutrals look so out of place here.
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How do you find out which celebrity has similar facial features to you?
Finding Out Which Celebs Have Similar Facial Features
To find out what celebrities have similar facial features to me, start by:
For example:
āMarilyn Monroeās face shapeā
āMarilyn Monroeās eye shapeā
āMarilyn Monroeās nose shapeā
āDoes Marilyn Monroe have high cheekbones?ā
āMarilyn Monroeās lip shapeā
And,
Celebrities with oblong, heart or rectangular faces
Celebrities with an aquiline nose
Celebrities with hooded eyes
Celebrities with high/low cheekbones
Maximize the pretty!! šš
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