It's my 10 year anniversary on Tumblr 🥳

So I fell into a rabbit hole today that changed my life. At least part of it.

So I was taking some time for myself if you get my drift, and when I do that I sometimes watch porn. As you do. But a lot of it is geared to guys and it usually starts and ends in ways I don't particularly care for (bjs and facials😕). Plus the guys barely talk during.

So I search for dirty talk videos and find dirty talk ASMR porn for women. Can I just say, holy fuck it's a game changer. All I gotta do is pop in my headphones and listen to the most erotic grunts moans and dirty talk imaginable. Some are just moans, some are like phone sex where he's telling what he wants to do to you, some are full on role play of what he is doing to you. Hell one had nature sounds in the background since it took place outdoors.

All I gotta do now is find one who even vaguely sounds like Frank Grillo and I'm done for.

Just wanted to share this in case it's helpful to anyone else out there.

chenford week 2023 | day five 10 untranslatable words that describe love better than you ever thought. (insp)

#an otp that can do both requested by @alwayysblue

Heads up to the real people with no posts/likes

With the wide spread of spam accounts following blogs, it is very likely that your blog will get blocked and possibly reported as spam.

I totally understand wanting to see what’s happening in tumblr, but your blank blog with its default banner and user icon is going to get you blocked by a log of people.

The addition of a single post, even something as simple as the fandoms you are interested in would still allow you to remain anonymous like you want but would also be a clue that you aren’t a spam bot.

btw i block empty blogs now. i didn’t use to but the influx of bots on this site has made me not care as much about the “what if that’s actually a real person” because chances are, it isn’t. if you want to avoid this fate do the bare minimum customization. thanks 👍

And if you listen closely enough, between the moans and the wet smacking sound of their lips, you can hear the little clicks on Tim's shirt getting unsnapped. *snap* *snap* *snap-snap-snap*

I love slo-mo and all but listen..

To Lucy’s little moans

Sounds of their wet lips connecting

I had to double check my channel 🥵

They are so fucking hot!!! 🤤 whew!

*cue trumpets and fanfare* 'Tis official. Verbally confirmed. Canon.

Tim and Lucy are BOYFRIEND and GIRLFRIEND!

*squeals at ultra high frequency*

GIRLFRIEND & BOYFRIEND (CANON)

OMFGL?! They've done the horizontal tango (highly likely that they did it vertically, if their little pause before the bedroom door was any indication).

Besides, it's a criminal waste of them biceps that we've all been drooling over for years if they're not used for the right reasons 😝

I'm truly convinced now that Tim "No-Screenwriters-Allowed" Bradford has met, interacted with, and been burned by a screenwriter... Maybe he even gave them a business card :Dun dun dun:

Tim Bradford vs. Screenwriters

Just read this little poetic nugget in a Covinsky (Lara Jean Song-Covey x Peter Kavinsky; from To All The Boys I've Loved Before) fanfiction.

With all that I've been contemplating, this just resonated with me.

For everyone out there who's struggling - with mental health, trauma, physical illness, anything really... Maybe this will resonate with you too.

And, thank you to the author (@amillionsmiles on AO3) for this.

Tim "Thigh-lovin'" Bradford.

It's practically canon now.

PSSSST! 🤫 Tim has a thing for Lucy’s thighs pass it on 👀

🤯

I just found out VLC media player lets you do this????

I have engaged far less this year in the chenford fandom for the exact reasons outlined by @itsoneofthemuses​. But I literally and somewhat ironically just spent all day teaching middle schoolers how to be kind, and what to do when someone has a different opinion than you. It seems like, somehow, inadvertently my tweets, which have gotten onto tumblr through someone else (which I want to make very clear, I did not tag #chenford because I didn’t want to deal with this BS) have caused people to be angry enough that they need to post rants on tumblr, and harass me in my DM’s, all while preaching about being kind to people. 

In none of my posts on my personal twitter or tumblr did I ever once tell people they were watching the show wrong, make snide remarks at other parts of the fandom or insult people’s intelligence for liking scenes/ episodes. It’s just me tweeting my own personal opinion about the show and the writing, if you don’t like it just mute me or move on, like I do when I don’t agree with the newest hot take on something. 

It seems that the same positive people who take issue with anyone being even remotely negative, and are telling people to just be more positive and happy are the same people being incredible dismissive and rude in return, going so far as essentially calling people dumb or not as smart as them because they don’t agree. Apparently if you take issue with the writing of the show, or have a difference of opinion about a character you are a) watching the show wrong b) don’t understand character growth or c) the characterization of this ensemble procedural show is too complex for us negative people to understand. 

There is a large group of fans that feel bullied and isolated by passive aggressive mean girl tactics on this tag and on twitter. Just today, because someone tagged my post chenford on twitter and then someone else reposted it here I have gotten over twenty anonymous messages that are bordering from rude to scary. Literally because I said I didn’t love how the show did something with a character.  I like the show, I love chenford and I want the most from them, which is why I can simultaneously enjoy the show and also critique it, I guess I’m complex that way.  I too have a dual english/history degree, and the skills I learned from that whole time was that I enjoy consuming media, understanding characterization, discussing it and being critical. 

Don’t like it? Block or ignore it. 

If you too are feeling blue over this silly drama over a fictional ship and want to chat, feel free to hit me up. 

A love letter to Chenford

Tim and Lucy's relationship is possibly one of the most beautiful story I've seen on TV these past years. It's sometimes messy, at times frustrating… But at the end of the day, there's such a genuine love and warmth that comes from that story that is just so special. And I wanted to celebrate the end of the year by writing a sort of love letter to a story that accompanied me this whole year.

To say that it wasn't love at first sight would be an understatement. At first glance, Tim appeared to be just another hardened officer whose only joy derived from tormenting his rookies. Until we, along with Lucy, realised that it was just a facade. And the second she sees those walls and understands the why, she simply refuses to let him hide behind them any longer. While others never bother to see beyond them, Lucy makes sure to see him and help him break them down eventually. She has faith in him in a way that even he didn't have for himself. Not anymore because he got lost. When he's this close to cross a line to help a wife that is more concerned by getting a fix than fixing their mariage, Lucy is there to remind him of who he is, despite barely knowing him. And the more he tries to keep her at arm's length, the more she perseveres. And succeeds. She gets to see sides of him no one sees, some of them that he probably forgot he even had. Tim letting Lucy see his vulnerable side is made even more special because of the trauma he carries from his father and from his ex-wife. Having her tell him that he is nothing like his dad is so touching and important to him because she just knows him, good and bad. If anyone can reassure him on that front, it's her. As for Isabel, she told him how his standards were too high, how she felt she could never measure up. And it's something that he's been carrying with him ever since. And the damage inflicted by these words are visible in his relationships. It's almost as if he's hiding a side of him with Rachel or let himself be someone he's not with Ashley. He never let them behind his walls or even tell them what he wants. And that's what make Chenford so beautiful. She already knows about his standards. She had to deal with them since day 01.And not only does she have no problem to meet them, she exceeds them. Lucy thrives on being challenged. And so does Tim. She sees him and so does he. Because it's not just a one way-street. Lucy has walls too, different from him of course, but they're still walls nonetheless. For all her sunshine exterior and warmth, she is plagued by doubts and is trying to figure out who she is. When she starts seeing herself as a victim, Tim is able to reach out to her when no one else can, and change her outlook. It could have been misconstrued but she gets what he's saying. And so what started as an antagonistic partnership has slowly blossomed into a close one, where they see and understand each other like no else has before. And where they make each other better.

Tim was so closed-off at the beginning. Part of it was because he was her TO. But the biggest part was because it was easier to be that way than to deal with all the trauma and emotions. Until Lucy helped him heal… By trying to give him some outlets to have fun, helping him date again, listening to him and never ridiculing him. This is the guy who shut down when she told him about being a kinesthetic learner but ended up so incredibly touched when she recorded audio books for him, while emphasising how it was a strength, not something to be ashamed of. When he stumbles, she pushes him to be or do better. Like with the incident with the Spanish workers. Or Stanton. Or when he punishes her for overlooking certain details on a report despite having her look away many other times… And Tim… He pushes her too. To trust herself, be more confident and embrace her warrior side. She needed someone to challenge her, believe in her and fight for her. And he does. He pushes her via her training. But also on a personal level, by reminding her not to settle for anything else that what she deserves. Or that she survived because of herself. Or to refuse to let anyone tell her she can't do something… Including him. It's never about trying to change the other either. Pushing the other out of their comfort zone, yes. But not too far. And never without offering a helping hand. Even when they end up disagreeing, they manage to stay true to the person they are and respect the other. They're very different people but they use that as a strength. It's about bringing the best version out of each other and getting back the parts of themselves they lost along the way.

Because they see and understand the other, they know firsthand how big their heart is and that immediately triggers their protective side. How many times has Lucy defended Tim to a superior officer, by being borderline disrespectful? Or to her fellow rookies or friends for that matter. Tim being this close to go on a rampage when Lucy was missing is hard to forget. They just want the other to feel safe. And offer a safe place. After Lucy's ordeal, Tim made sure to be there whenever possible. Same when she lost Jackson. Or when he went to confront his father. That's no coincidence that they are always there when the other needs it. When Lucy is doubting something, she knows she can count on Tim to talk things out… And it's the same with him. When he got invited to a dinner date that was completely out of his comfort zone, he made sure to include Lucy the moment he could. Because as he told Ash, he craves for normalcy, comfort and safety. That's something that Lucy gives him in spade. When Tim realised that Lucy was getting uncomfortable with Chris' badgering regarding the house, he didn't hesitate to intervene. Or when she started spiralling during their UC mission, he made sure to be a grounding presence for her. They put the other's wellbeing above everything else. They just want the best for the other and it comes from a genuine place, with no strings attached. And that makes it so precious.

Which brings me to my final point. It's the way their relationship has been written as mature. It's not without its faults, of course. But this story is about two adults. They are not bumbling teenagers navigating through their first relationship. Because they met on the job, they had to be able to communicate clearly and effectively, to read the other… And as Lucy said, they developed a shorthand. It's not foolproof. You can never read someone's mind. But we rarely see them misunderstand the other, and when they do, it's never for too long. Because with their job, they can't afford that. They may disagree, they may argue… But it almost never lasts for more than one or two episodes. The longest we had was after their UC mission and the minute one of them was injured, they pushed through the awkwardness because their foundations are solid. And the moment they had to ride together again, they were able to get past it completely. And talk things through. I know some are disappointed that we didn't get a love confession in a high octane situation. Or after a screaming match. Or more pining. But I'd argue that this is not them. I remember reading someone's comment on how Tim and Lucy are adults and they were allowed to have a mature conversation in the mid-season final. And this is so true. They know what they have is important. They also learned from their almost hookup, when adrenaline and sexual tension were at the highest. They learned from that and approached it in a more mature and healthy way. By showing their cards and letting the other in, so they could make a choice. Together. Because they know what they want. And that's big from a girl who never wanted to put a name on her relationships because she was hesitant and from a boy who went along with what others wanted from him.

And this is just the beginning!

While we wait for new episodes, I wish you all a happy new year!

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Absolutely love this!

CHENFORD RECIPE

INGREDIENTS

1 cranky, damaged, tough-as-nails TO

1 ultra-sunny, chatty, optimistic rookie

1 perceptive, wise commanding officer

3 no-nonsense, caustic, supportive friends

2 supremely annoying love interests

assorted personal/professional crises and disasters

1 clueless, stubborn showrunner

1 bumbling writing team and their baffling timelines

meandering, preposterous, unfinished storylines

1 rabid fandom

Combine all ingredients in a large pot of cold water, simmer for a few years. Wait until bubbles appear around the edges at the end of S4, then turn heat up to medium high. Stir occasionally, adding dashes of genuine affection, humor, respect and lust. The TO should be tenderizing nicely at this point without losing his edge. Love interests will dissolve during cooking.

Bring the ingredients to a rolling boil by the middle of S5. Serve hot and enjoy!