Your mom ever blame her health issues on you? Lmao

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Hi, so, full offense, but even if covid is affecting the world right now and everyone’s working from home, if I’m your client you shouldn’t tell me that you need me to remind you to send me important information, which you’ve admitted you can see from your notifications and choose not to respond to right away.  Like for sure, make time for yourself to unwind, but you shouldn’t be forgetting your responsibilities and making me remind you of them.  That’s literally your job, not mine.

Just shouting into the void

Haven’t posted in this weird little public diary of mine in a while, but there are just some frustrations that I want to put out there without bothering the people in my personal life.  I feel like one of my friends has a monopoly on the emotional labor and support of the group because she is a lot and frequently barges in to dump things on us and then leave, which is frustrating because some of the things she says are really ignorant and, unsurprisingly, she gets more upset when we call her out on it which opens the door for more frustration.  Not only that, but these friends seem to always have this idea that I’m the most mentally healthy because I’m the most functional or something, but I hate my struggles being compared to others, especially since they’re not me and have no idea how difficult things can be for me.  There are opportunities I might not even get because of paperwork I have to fill out about my mental health and none of them seem to think my mental health is really a problem.  Not only that, but I got out of a toxic and borderline emotionally abusive relationship, which was a big change for me, and I don’t feel very supported.  My ex still acts petty and when I just want to share the experience so I don’t have to handle it all alone (my therapist is helpful but I also want to be emotionally intimate with my friends when appropriate), but usually their response is to make excuses for her like “hurt people say hurtful things” or “it sucks to be the one broken up with” as if I don’t know those things and they somehow make what she’s doing to me okay.  It reinforces the subtle manipulative justifications she’s given over the years that suggest that she doesn’t have to take responsibility for her actions and she won’t, and maybe I’m delusional and I’m not being treated badly.  I tried really hard to make it work, but it seems like no matter what I’m always expected to be the mature one out of the two of us and the one who is responsible for healthy communication just because I was always good at it.  I wonder if I would get the same advice if the hurt was physical.  I want to be close to my friends and I don’t feel uncomfortable opening up to people, but somehow the situation makes it feel hard to be so intimate with people and when I try it makes me feel more lonely.

imo we need to swap the phrase “no one will love you until you love yourself” with something to the effect of “if you dnt recognize your own value, you’re a lot more likely to put up with mistreatment that you dnt deserve”

it’s not rly a matter of self-love as much as it is being able to stand up for yrself when you need to, and even though the latter is part of that process, it’s still not the same thing

I’m antisocial, yet social. I don’t talk to people first, but when someone talks to me first I’m up for talking to them. Some days I’ll be really talkative and friendly and other days I’m just in my shell like nah today ain’t the day for socializing.

If my mother continues to complain about how life has treated her poorly in having kids, the same kids she made the decision to have, I’m going to fucking scream.

date a neurodivergent who can’t stand being ignored, although they’re currently ignoring at least twelve people

I used to be confused about the whole ‘mentally ill people rocking back and forth’ thing, but here I sit, rocking back and forth while making this text post 

people: don't you think you're overreacting?

me: yes but that doesn't really change anything

i love stim positivity but real talk: not all stims are good stims

no im not talking about “ugly” and “pretty” here. this isnt flapping vs slime.

some stims are self harm!

some stims are dangerous!

when you talk about stim positivity please be more objective. don’t encourage stims that do damage! if your friend is stimming in a manner that causes them harm, don’t support that stim! help them replace it with a healthy stim!

this is literally a part of therapy for the various disorders that are related to stimming. it’s better to chew on a necklace than to chew off your skin! it’s better to have fidgets than picking and scratching yourself! it’s better to flap and rock than hit yourself against the wall!

PLEASE DO NOT BLINDLY SUPPORT ALL STIMMING BEHAVIOR BECAUSE NOT ALL STIMS ARE HEALTHY! ENCOURAGE LEARNING TO REPLACE BAD STIMS WITH GOOD STIMS!

You know that episode of Spongebob Squarepants where Spongebob makes one small mistake and then just starts chanting, “SOILED IT” over and over again? That’s what it’s like to have anxiety.

My parents:  Stop doing these destructive habits, they aren’t good for you and they’re an indication that you lack emotional control and self-esteem

Also my parents:  I’m not saying you’re lying, but how could you have had anxiety for that long? Don’t you think we would’ve noticed? We’re your parents.

-_- y’all noticed, you just suck at gathering evidence and drawing logical conclusions, with your in denial asses

9423) I go to therapy for my anxiety but when I walk in I'm too scared to actually say something so I feel like I'm wasting my parents money and my time

9448) I downplay my own anxiety often. Why? I think what others are going through are much worse than mine simply because I don't display obvious physical reactions. I have my ups and downs with it. It's tormenting. Your heart aches beyond words. You try so hard not to get emotional in front of people. Maybe all I did was worrying over something minor profusely and realising that it didn't manifest in real life then beating myself up for it. I wish it'll go away for good but I know it's not possible.

9538) I never tell anyone anything going on or let anyone be there for me because I feel my issues are never as bad as theirs so why bother? I sit there with my message about to be sent and then I'm like 'they'll act like it's no big deal, they'll think your problems are not the same, they'll react badly so why bother?' I feel so many things but I keep them to myself so I'm not a burden. Then the second they go through something, I'm always there.