people should be allowed to have gender affirming surgeries. people should be allowed to have cosmetic surgeries. people should be allowed to have body mods. people should be allowed to do drugs, even the scary ones you don't like. people should be allowed to cut or otherwise hurt themselves. people should be allowed to kill themselves. people should be allowed to deny treatment that has been deemed necessary for their conditions. people should be allowed to do whatever they want with their bodies forever.

these are the BASIC and BARE MINIMUM requirements of bodily autonomy. when you talk about bodily autonomy in terms of gender affirming care and neglect the rest of the conversation, you aren't actually arguing for full bodily autonomy.

arguing for bodily autonomy does not mean excusing the actions of people directly influenced by their choices, but instead acknowledges that barring an action does nothing to prevent it happening, and only serves to tell people that they will be punished if caught.

‼️ do not reblog this post if you disagree with any part of it. if I see "#reminder #except for [x]" I'm just gonna block you.

ok im like really done with that post getting attention now, really sick of the amount of vile hatred it inspired in people and the amount of arguments in my notes. I turned off rbs but if it keeps up ill just delete it I don't really care. treat each other like people for gods fucking sake

I haven't posted here in a while because I've tried to stray from discourse for the sake of my health lately, but I really just need to talk about my hatred for the attitude that's been put forth re: the newly budding autoandrophile / forcemasc kink community on here.

it's absolutely ridiculous how many times I've seen people making fun of or treating this kink as though it's something unhealthy or dangerous - an attitude which conveniently does not carry over in regards to forcefem content. it's really just a microcosm of how a lot of other queer people view masculinity and ESPECIALLY trans masculinity as something frivolous and worthy of mockery. People saying that the kink and its community is "weird" and "dumb," which again, I have to note, is not something so uniformly believed about forcefem kinks!

This isnt me saying you can't dislike or be made uncomfortable by a kink. And before my words end up twisted, I am also not blaming transfems for any of this - my mention of forcefem and its wider reception from the queer community is only as a reference point as it relates to forcemasc. My issue is that once again, the queer community has seemingly found a socially acceptable way to mock trans masculinity once again, and as a trans guy it is really not fucking subtle what you guys are doing when you say some of the shit that gets said. The mockery and satirical fake posts, the way that every single time we find a new way to experience masculinity we just happen to be laughed at for it in a way that isn't TECHNICALLY transphobia so we can't actually be mad about it. I realize that kink is not above satire but really it feels fucking targeted when we already don't get taken seriously in literally any of our other endeavors.

a kink community on tumblr is not the end all be all of the transmasc community nor do I really think it has grave importance offline, sure, whatever, I must make a million disclaimers lest I be yet again branded as an overdramatic woman by people who are meant to be my peers. whatever. I really just wish that for once, for ONCE, we could have ONE thing that people actually respected enough for it not to be such a casual target of humor.

you will never be a real boy :) cockless weirdo.

alternate universe where pinocchio gets freaky with it

the thing that gets me as a transmasc whos white (though my ethnicity being seen as such is a recent-ish development) about people complaining that transmisandry isnt real is like... i mean it's stupid in the first place because they're ignoring the TRANS part of transmisandry but also it just completely ignores intersectionality and nonwhite queer people. its specifically white masculinity thats privileged. its why you get native american boys having their hair forcibly cut off at school, and black masculinity being seen as dangerous and frightening, and all those other things that come along with racism. and i just kinda lose my mind a bit at how many people want to talk about queer issues and sexism online but then just straight up ignore everything nonwhite. and we all know why that is but its just so exhausting. i wish people would stop seeing oppression as a points system and as the systematic issue it actually is. and i wish people would open their eyes and see that cisheterosexism affects nonwhite people too. its not queer liberation without all of us included. i want to punt people sometimes, it feels like everyone online learned of being LGBT but then just incorporated it into the same cishet (and white) worldview instead of using the knowledge of our deviation to unpack that worldview.

this!!! all of this, 100%

why are you okay with people comparing trans women to men

I'm not and have never claimed to be, hope this helps

The tma/tme dichotomy is just a progressive way do to bioessentialism and legitimize the idea that afab privilege is real. That's why i think that baeddels are more like MRAs than radfems. Female privilege is a central idea in mra ideology whereas radical feminism doesn't recognize it at all

honestly, yeah, this is a comparison I'd never considered. but it makes sense. it's another reason I very much dislike the distinction, among many other reasons.

transfemme and transmasc solidarity! (prints available)

if you can understand that a pre-E/no-E transfem doesn't have male privilege on the basis of inherently defying patriarchal manhood by being trans, then it should make perfect sense that a post-T transmasc also doesn't have male privilege on the basis of inherently defying patriarchal manhood by being trans

I will not sleep on wet hair, wet hair is the curl killer, wet hair is the little death that brings total frizz, I will face my wet hair, I will permit it to dry over me and through me, and when it has gone past I shall turn the inner eye to see it's path, where the wet hair has gone there will be nothing, only I remain

you have no cock ahaha

everyone point and laugh at anon who has never experienced the fantastical mind melting life changing experience of sticking your tdick in someone

my job .? yeah im the guy who puts recordings of your mom yelling your name really loud into the backing tracks of every song you listen to with headphones in. 6 figures

could you imagine being a man, a sis gender man, who is really into sounding other men. It's just the only way for you to get off really. But one day you meet a man that you really like, and you just connect with him on a whole other level. And you guys finally get to the point where not only are you in the bedroom with each other, but you're starting to get more open with each other too. About all the things like. The only issue is, is that this man is transgender. He does not have a penis he has never pursued any sort of bottom surgery. So he still has the whole set, the labia menorah menorah the majora Little China adequate Torres. And he also has a urethra. Now he's willing to indulge in your special weird little thing. You're sounding. And you guys finally get to the bedroom and you have your little sounding pole or whatever it is they use. But you realize some thing very quickly. Do you know where the clitorises you know where the clitoris is, but where… Is the urethra? Riddle me this Batman

i've tried answering this ask in three different ways and each time it deleted whatever i added. labia menorah menorah the majora Little China adequate Torres. Every time i try to find a new angle to work on this answer with i read another sentence that makes me wince so hard i forget 3/7ths of the english language. labia menorah menorah the majora Little China adequate Torres. i literally am trying to think of any kind of response but verbally i keep repeating it. "labia menorah menorah the majora Little China adequate Torres." it's like a spell. it's fucking addicting. it's the only way i know a human being sent it because that was for fucking sure speech to text happening right there for a single sentence. labia menorah menorah the majora Little China adequate Torres.

the way you can be clocked as a female from your bio alone is so funny 👀 oh tifanny...

out of everything else I'm most offended that you'd think my deadname was tiffany

"troon" is maybe the least creative and most annoying trans slur honestly. it sounds so stupid that it has absolutely zero impact on anyone but nobody wants to reclaim it and make it cool either because it sounds fucking ridiculous. "troon." completely lame and idiotic. how have you made hating me such a lameass dork nerd activity. at least if people call me a tranny with enough stank on it I can crank my hog to it

troons coping, seething and dilating.

anon are you trying to mpreg me

I always appreciate someone's willingness to have a productive conversation with me that doesn't water down to "im inherently smarter than you and you're an idiot so listen to me" etc etc. but there comes a point where i have to realize that I'm either not being listened to, willfully misrepresented, or perhaps the outlet for someone's otherwise righteous anger. I occasionally feel bad for blocking people like this but then I have to remember that it isn't my job to "convert" people to my way of thinking and that sometimes people are just stubborn or experience the world in a different way than I do. shrug. doesn't stop me from feeling guilty about "giving up" on a conversation, though.