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We stopped long distancing a year ago.

It feels a lot less than a year because things are still amazing. I'll never ever get tired of waking up at any point knowing you're beside me in bed. I'll never get tired of only ever texting about groceries and when we'll go home together. I'll never get tired of waiting for the weekends and spending all the time I can with you.

Your touch is comfort. Your hug is home. Your smile is sunshine. And I don't need anything else.

hey ldr peeps I just wanted to let you that dreams do come true and my partner and I are now living together after 3 years of being long distance! anything is possible :0)

Hey Nonny,

Your message is so sweet and I hope it'll reach every person in an LDR. Anything is possible, dreams do come true if you work hard enough for them, and long distancing will end. 💕

Keep on living your dream.

- Danny

In case anyone needs a very cool read about LDR maintenance, I've come across the most interesting study!

Goldsmith and Byers write in the abstract (2020): "These results suggest that an increase in introspective behaviors may be important to maintaining LDRs both romantically and sexually, but that sexual frequency is also important for maintaining LDRs and may not be easily replaced by online sexual activities."

They explain that introspective maintenance mostly entails communicating via video calling, or messaging online, and how those who use these maintenance skills are better at staying in a long distance relationship.

It's super interesting overall though, I highly recommend checking it out!

Goldsmith, K., & Byers, E. S. (2020). Maintaining long-distance relationships: Comparison to geographically close relationships. Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 35(3), 338-361.

You guys are something else! Thank you to each and every one of you for being here, and for supporting one another. 💕

You call me "my love" , and "my sweet wife", and you smile at me, and I'm, like, what? I'm supposed to carry on with my day?? I'm supposed to work and talk to other people?? Positively criminal!!!

I'm going to be seeing my partner again in a bit over a month. We haven't seen each other in person for almost 4 months... and I'm kinda nervous to see them again? Don't get me wrong, I'm over the moon to be able to see them again but there's a little bit of nervousness mixed in...

Hi Nonny,

Thanks for sharing your dilemma with us. 💕

We had a long think on what advice we can give you as - at first glance - your feelings seem to be pretty normal considering everything. There's a certain nervous excitement clinging to one before they see their LDR partner after being apart for a while which is completely normal. You haven't seen each other in a long time, you've forgotten a little what it's like to be together physically, and now you're inserting that person into your routine that didn't include them before. It's a very emotional time, and if you're prone to a little anxiety every now and then (or all the time haha) then you'll feel that emotion more.

That being said. We think you should exercise some introspection here to really pin down the core of your nervousness. What thoughts, what imaginary events, what emotions make you worried? Are you worried about the little details of travelling, finding each other at the airport/train station/etc.? Or are you worried more about your partner or your relationship being "put to the test" by spending time together? If you're more worried about your partner and your relationship, it's still not necessarily a bad thing! But you need to figure out whether they're rooted in your own anxieties and worries and doubts, or whether they're based on your partner and their actions and words.

Bottom line is, it's normal to feel the way you do. But it seems like you've forgotten to take a moment for yourself to turn inwards. To pause and to examine your feelings. Be brutally honest and at the same time kind to yourself and grasp that very thing that truly scares you. Maybe even share with your partner if appropriate. If you find your worries are irrational, try letting them go and not engaging with them. 💕

We hope you'll have a wonderful, loving time together with your partner when you meet!

- Benny & Danny

Whenever I'm happy, I want you to share in my happiness. And whenever we're apart and you can't, that happiness turns bittersweet in my mouth.

Ig festivals are the time when even though you have the best time with your close ones, you will still feel like there's that one person missing. It will make you feel sad even when you are laughing with everyone in the room. It will make you miss them all the more.

-🌿

Hi 🌿 Nonny,

I'm not sure if you meant festivals or the festive season, but honestly every occasion that is about love, joy, or spending time with people you love can be absolutely miserable without your partner.

I truly believe it is because love requires people to experience things together, to exist side by side, to share, and to not be able to share your joy with your partner, well, that's quite heartbreaking.

So what can we do to combat this in an LDR? Do your own Christmas the next time you meet, or when you have the time to videocall, regardless of the date. Celebrate each other's birthdays and achievements. And when you can't be together, make sure your partner knows you wish they could be a part of it, and that once the distance closes between you, they will be.

Communication and expressing your emotions is the key to bond over experiences you aren't able to share with each other.

Thanks for the ask! 💕

- Danny

May or may not have made a couple crest to celebrate our 1 yr anniversary next week :O (still working on a poem and some smaller stuff)

Life's too short to not be weird :D how're you guys btw

Happy 1st anniversary! 💕🎉

This is such a cute idea, and you've done an absolutely amazing job! We honestly love this couple's crest so much, your partner will surely love it even more than we do. 🥹 Life is indeed way too short not to be weird, but I'd argue that this is art, and art is never weird and pointless, especially not something so personal and elaborate as this!

Let us know how you guys celebrate your anniversary, maybe you'll inspire some in our wonderful community!

We're both well, thank you for asking! We just got back from visiting family in my home country, and Benny unfortunately caught a cold. But we can't complain - we sleep next to each other every day, and it doesn't get any better than that! 💕

- Danny

I just wanna say I absolutely love your little blog!

Today is my girlfriend and my first month together!

She messaged me on deviantart in October about my art and we've been talking ever since.

I'm in NZ and she's in America, but I'm hoping to save up to go and see her.

I absolutely know she's the one for me. I couldn't have asked for a better best friend and girlfriend!

Hope you both are doing well and thanks again for creating this very helpful blog!

Hey Nonny,

Happy one month, may you have many more together! 💕

We're so happy you find some comfort in our blog, it truly feels like a community now and we're so grateful you're all here to support one another.

I suppose this could be our motto at this point haha, but please remember - it's hard now but it'll all be okay. 💕

- Danny

hi, i just got off a flight after spending 2 weeks with my partner. last i saw them was nine months ago. i feel so genuinely displaced, as though the 2 weeks were some cruel dream. amd i cant stop crying. how am i supposed to sleep without them beside me? ughgjhmmn.

[you dont have to answer i just needed to spit it out]

-☀️

Hi ☀ Nonny,

It'd be hard to ignore your message as anyone who is or has been in an LDR knows the pain you're going through.

Think of the meeting as not a cruel dream, but a preview of your life together once you solve the question of distance. And you will! It's a tempting thought to uproot your life for someone else, but you need to do it responsibly - and that sometimes takes much longer than what the heart desires. These trials and tribulations will make your connection all the stronger though, which might seem trivial at the moment, but will last you a lifetime.

Here are some resources that might help you:

Tips on how to manage separation after meeting your LDR boo: x

LDR date ideas: x

Feel free to message us or rant in an ask - we and our little Long Distance Community is here to cheer you up (and on)! 💕

- Danny

I just came back from spending the holidays with my long distance boyfriend and his family.. I didn't like Christmas before having him in my life,but this year, spending Christmas with him and his family made me feel so loved. I finally understood what Christmas is supposed to feel like.. I am back 4 days now,we video call eachother every day,for as long as we can, never less than two hours. But I cry myself to sleep every night.. I miss him so much. I miss his affection, just being in the same room with my loved one. Distance is hard, but he is worth it.

I can pretty much promise you that the day you move together and stop long distancing will be just as memorable an anniversary as any other in your relationship.

I know how hard it is to spend the holidays away from your long distance partner, so if that's the case for you, my heart goes out to you. It won't always be like this, I promise.

Hi! I don't know if you can help me with this so if you can't don't worry at all but there's this guy that I like and we've only met about twice because he lives in another city. We have this mutual friend who likes teasing us about liking each other and stuff but we've never talked outside of those two times, where we almost kissed one time and the other one I was so anxious I don't know if I blew it. This was a few weeks ago already but I was thinking maybe I should text him or something, maybe reach out, what would you say?

Hi Nonny,

Don't worry, we like listening and giving advice to just about anyone. Also, congratulations - it sounds like you've got a crush! 💕

While I understand clicking with someone and liking someone after meeting them only a handful of times, I can assure you that you need to know them a lot better before you should think about kissing and all other aspects of a relationship - assuming you want a relationship with him. My advice would be for you to approach him and get to know him as a friend, because that's the best basis for any romantic attachment really. I know it's hard, and I'm not asking you to suppress your feelings, but maybe turn inward gently and ask yourself why you like him - you don't know him well enough, so you like what you've seen from him so far, but maybe your crush stems from loneliness or a desire to be in a relationship and to not be single. While they're all valid reasons, you shouldn't let them cloud your judgement when you get to know someone. Otherwise, you'll ignore the biggest red flags possible and might put yourself in awful situations for scraps of attention and affection - and everyone deserves better than that.

(Also, I'm going to go ahead and make the assumption that the time you guys almost kissed, both or either of you were drinking. If not, that's awesome, but if yes, I would not trust that moment one bit, let alone base anything on it.)

Once you've done your introspection, and you still feel like you'd like to be his friend, reach out to him by all means. "Hey, it's been a long time! How have you been lately?" or anything along those lines would be a good start. Connect over things you both enjoy. Get to know each other. Don't ignore your feelings, but understand where they're coming from. Who knows were this road will take you?

I wish you happiness and luck! Please know that no matter what happens, you'll be alright and if you're open to love, love will find you one way or another! 💕

- Danny