lavenderphoenix99
I Rise, My Dear
Søren | adult | bigender non binary trans man/cis genderqueer woman | gay strayt ace aro | he/him, xe/xem, they/them
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yall do realize just because something has been a target of misogynistic criticism, that doesn't make stanning it completely uncritically in response some kind of revolutionary feminist praxis. right.
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shout out to all my not traditionally masculine trans guys:
to the ones who don’t feel comfortable calling themselves a man, so they’re always guys, dudes, or boys
to the ones who still love their old “girl” clothes, the skirts and dresses and bright colors
to the ones who love makeup and nail polish and perfume
to the ones who dont bind or dont pack; to the ones who like having the chests and junk they already have
to the ones who dont want hormones or surgeries
to the ones who shave their legs or dont like body and facial hair; to the ones who still have long hair
to the femboys and the fairies and the girlyboys
to the ones who have a high ambiguous voice and like it that way
to the ones with weird genders, complicated genders, fluid genders, non-conforming genders, genders they take so seriously, genders they can’t be bothered with
i love you so much <3 you are men after my own heart <3
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A lot of younger people have no idea what aging actually looks and feels like, and the reasons behind it. That ignorance is so dangerous. If you don’t want to “be old,” you aren’t talking about a number of years. I have patients in their late 80s who could still handily beat me in a race—one couple still runs marathons together, in their late 80s—and I lost someone who was in her early 60s to COPD last year. What you want is not youth, it is health.
If you want to still be able to enjoy doing things in your 60s and 70s and 80s and even 90s, what you want to do, right now, is quit smoking, get some activity on a regular basis (a couple of walks a week is WAY better for you than nothing; increasing from 1 hour a day of cardio to 1.5 will buy you very little), and eat some plants. That’s it. No magic to it. No secret weird tricks. Don’t poison yourself, move around so your body doesn’t forget how, and eat plants.
If you have trouble moving around now because of mobility limitations, bad news: you still need to move around, not because it’s immoral not to, but because that’s still the best advice we have. I highly recommend looking up the Sit and Be Fit series; it is freely available and has exercises that can be done in a chair, which are suitable for people with limited mobility or poor balance. POTS sufferers, I’m looking at you.
If you have trouble eating plants because of dietary issues (they cause gas, etc.) or just because they’re bitter (super taster with texture issues here!), bad news. You still want to find a way to get some plants into your body on a regular basis. I know. It sucks. The only way I can do it is restaurants—they can make salads taste like food. I can also tolerate some bagged salads. On bad weeks, the OCD with contamination focus gets so bad I just can’t. However, canned beans always seem “safe,” and they taste a bit like candy, so they’re a good fallback.
If you smoke and you have tried quitting a million times and you’re just not ready to, bad news. You still need to quit. Your body needs you to try and keep trying. Your brain needs it, too. Damaging small blood vessels racks up cumulative damage over time that your body can start trying to reverse as soon as you quit. I know it’s insanely, absurdly addictive. You still need to.
You cannot rules lawyer your way past your body’s basic needs. It needs food, sleep, activity, and the absence of poison. Those are both small things and big asks. You cannot sustain a routine based on punishment, so don’t punish your body. Find ways to include these things that are enjoyable and rewarding instead. Experiment. There is no reason not to experiment—you don’t have to know instantly what’s going to work for you and what won’t, you just need to be willing to try things and make changes when things aren’t working for you.
You will still age. Your body will stop making collagen and elastin. Tissues you can see and tissues you can’t see will both sag. Cushioning tissues under your skin will get thinner. You’ll bruise more easily. Skin will tear more easily. Accumulated sun damage will start to show more and more. Joints will begin to show arthritis. Tendons and ligaments will get weaker and get injured more easily, as will muscles. Bones will lose mass and get easier to break. You’ll get tired more easily.
But you know what makes the difference between being dead, or as good as, in your 60s vs your 90s? Activity, plants, and quitting smoking. And don’t do meth. Saw a 58-year-old guy this week who is going to have a heart attack if he doesn’t quit whatever stimulant he’s on. I pretended to believe it was just the cigarettes, and maybe it is, but meth and cocaine will kill you quicker. Stop poisoning yourself.
Baby steps; take it one step at a time; you don’t need to have everything figured out right now. But you do need to be working on figuring things out.
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🚨HELP BLACK AFRICAN TRANS MAN STAY HOUSED, DRY AND FED🚨
For housing, water + Elec, food and transport for the month of April and May.
Please reblog and share as much as you can.
GOAL IS URGENT AS FIRST PAYMENT FOR HOUSING IS DUE ON THE 25TH.
No donations so far (23/04 at 100 notes)
PAYMENT IS DUE IN TWO DAYS - I AM IN A PANIC. That's $350 in two days (25/04)!
I REALLY NEED THIS HOUSING AND AM BACK TO WALKING TO WORK WITH NO FOOD IN THE FRIDGE OR MY STOMACH.
PAYPAL LINK HERE
Please give what you can. I'm not functioning well under the stress! It makes me quite sad that I have to let everyone know I'm starving and desperate in order to get help😭☹️
PAYPAL LINK HERE
Pls and tysm💓
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"Isn't it exhausting being someone you're not?"
"No! Isn't it exhausting being the same?"
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The Iris Den by Keira Santoso
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DEAR ARTISTS, PLEASE READ THIS POST I STUMBLED ACROSS
IF YOU ARE NOT DOING THIS ALREADY, YOU SHOULD TRY IT
I even tested it out myself, it works great
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Steven Universe - Art Nouveau Series by Alexa Rockman
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“But the people affected by these issues can’t just turn them off! Why should you get to decide you’re not going to look at that stuff while on the internet?”
Because I can’t take on the world. If I try to focus on every single issue out there, then I’m going to burn out and not have anything to offer.
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You've heard of gender non-conformity, now get ready for gender malicious compliance.
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Yes yes yeeeess!!!
And a THOUSAND times YES
See, from another very feminine trans guy over here, who has no dysphoria, loving his bits and not afraid to accentuate it, I shit you not that I don't know what the fuck should I say or even think every time I hear shit like "women should stop listening to men" "Kill all men" "Men are trash"
Because???
I DON'T FUCKING KNOW IF THIS PERSON WILL ACCEPT ME AS A PERSON IN THE FIRST PLACE OR NOT
Like, I am still a "woman" in their eyes!!! But I am a man and uses he/him pronouns!!! Unless they're admitting they hate ALL men including me, they would have to MISGENDER me in order to give themselves a measly pat in the back!!!
Because "oh, kill all men!! Men is yucky, I would never touch them!! They have cooties!!! Not you though, silly little girl trans guy!"
And fuck, I don't know which one is the lesser evil out of the two tbh
It's just supremely alienating, yknow!???
God I hope I don't derail, I know this post would flopped so hard because it's 2:30 AM in my place and I couldn't articulate shit
I'm a super feminine/flamboyant trans guy - honestly the rejection and villanisation of queer masculinity is not only hurtful and isolating to masculine trans men but it also makes us fem guys uncomfortable. It makes me feel like the only reason I'm accepted in a space where my masc brothers are excluded is because I'm not really a man in their eyes, or I'm less of a man. And I'm walking on a tightrope because I don't know how much masculinity I'm allowed to show before they decide it's too much and exclude me too. It's infuriating to constantly have to defend and stand up for queer masculinity in spaces that claim to be safe
Bro you speaking the truth fr
Honestly I present myself in a hypermasculine way because I feel like I have to put in that extra effort to be truly seen as a man. Granted, 95% of it is genuinely who I am (especially the down to fight attitude, loving the gym, being interested in guns, hunting, axe throwing, and camping) but putting that extra "oomph" behind it is what helps me pass 99% of the time irl.
But I often find myself ostracized in many queer spaces, even at my school, because I refuse to tone down who I am for anyone. I've pushed back hard on anti-masculinity sentiments in my school's GSA, and a nonzero amount of people likely view me as an asshole because of it. I don't give a fuck though, let people be as masculine as they fucking want.
The only thing I can say is to keep fighting the good fight, and don't worry about what dickheads try to tell you. You're allowed to be as masculine (or not) as you want to be and you're no less of a man for it.
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most of the people on this site are not calling men babygirls or malewives in even remotely gender-subversive ways they're just doing the fandom equivalent of calling a man a faggot for crying
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kill the shift manager in your brain
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Tried to make Aphrodite jojo posing, failed, now I have this, hope y’all like it.
And yes, those are top surgery scars, god bless him.
#saint seiya#saint seiya fanart#pisces aphrodite#knights of the zodiac#OH NEAT???#cough cough my gender goals tbh
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"Queer people should be weirder"
Y'all can't even handle trans men with full beards who lift weights and won't take your shit without calling them "examples of toxic masculinity"
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Ok, probably a bad idea for me to get into this during midterms week but I've been seeing a lot of (really bad) misinterpretations of what transandrophobia is and I feel the need to get this off my chest.
Transandrophobia is NOT
A way to excuse or mock transmisogyny
"Run of the mill" transphobia
"Run of the mill" misogyny
A tool to oppress or speak over women of any kind
The same thing as "men's rights"
Thing is: I'm not saying that transmascs cannot ever be misogynistic or transmisogynistic, what I'm saying is that the idea of transandrophobia is not that. Transmisogyny is a real problem, and I do not deny that my trans sisters suffer from it. If you genuinely believe I am being transmisogynistic and point out specifically where, I am willing to listen and correct myself.
But I am also asking that you do the same for us. Just as transmisogyny is a word to describe the unique type of discrimination experienced by transfems, transandrophobia is a word to describe the unique type of discrimination experienced by transmascs. And again, it's not just misogyny + transphobia, it's being invisible, condescended to, having our identity dismissed in the context of reproductive healthcare, being excluded from discussions around reproductive healthcare, and much more. Some of these may overlap with what transfems and nonbinary people face, and some may not.
There's also the myth going around that transmascs, especially trans men, are privileged because it's "easier" for us to pass. That's far from true. I am a binary trans man who has been on T for 2+ years and I pass insanely easily. BUT I AM ONE OF THE RARE LUCKY ONES. And even if my experience was common or guaranteed, any male privilege I have is CONDITIONAL ON PASSING. "Choosing" to be a man in spite of my birth circumstances does not make me privileged. Privilege does not get handed to you if you are changing your identity away from your AGAB, regardless of what gender you're changing to or from. (This is without touching on how me being east Asian may factor in)
And while I'm at it: MEN OF ANY SORT ARE NEITHER INHERENTLY EVIL NOR INHERENTLY BIGOTS. SIMILARLY, WOMEN ARE NOT INHERENTLY GOOD OR SAFE. Neither one's birth sex nor their chosen gender have any weight on whether they are a good or bad person. It is the individual's actions and only the individual's actions that matter.
This is getting long and rambly, but to reiterate the main point one last time:
TRANSANDROPHOBIA AND TRANSMISOGYNY ARE BOTH IMPORTANT WORDS THAT ADDRESS IMPORTANT PROBLEMS/TYPES OF OPPRESSION, AND IT IS IMPERATIVE THAT THEY COEXIST
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