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Hey, hope you’re doing better… time will make things better, believe me. Just here to give some advice ig, I don’t if it’ll be useful or not, but here I go.
First of all, you are not a bad person. You couldn’t know he was an abuser at all, none of us could… Even if there were signs or not; abusers tend to be good at hiding them… Also we never really know a content creator/celebrity/influencer/etc. We just don’t. The person who they show us can be just a part of them or a completely made up “show” persona. So, it’s not your fault for not knowing and admiring/loving him while you didn’t know. You did nothing wrong at all.
Now that you know, you can do smth abt it. If you want you can give away stuff you have of him (like merch) or use it in privately (as to not show any more support for him). Please don’t burn stuff or throw it away in the trash just to make a point; it really helps no one, you’ve already payed for it, you can’t take the money back, so better give it another use—reuse, reduce and recycle pretty much.
This will be controversial, but you aren’t a bad person for liking something that was made by a bad person. I know this is the “separate the art from the artist” conversation… but just here me out: sometimes I think it’s really not the sin everyone is making it out to be, as long as you try not to support the “artist” (content creator and his music in this case) any longer and acknowledge that the artist is bad, I think you are okay.
You aren’t tainted, bad or somehow it means you are an apologist. It really doesn’t. Just be cautious with it; not saying this like in a “hide that you like him so ppl don’t realize you like him and so /know/ or think you are bad person”, but more in the “some people might be triggered by him and because of what was reveled it’s probably best to try not to support him anymore”.
Support always meaning giving him more money, expanding his voice, introducing more ppl to him and his music, etc.
That said. You can still listen to his music if you want. Again, it’s not a sin or reflection of who you are; it doesn’t make you bad by association or bad at all. Just try to listen it in other ways to not give him any more money or any more of a platform.
You could listen to his music on ytb, many channels have uploaded his stuff and since they are not official acc’s I don’t think he gets any money from it. You could download his music and listen to it outside Spotify or whatever; you can do so from ytb with YouTube Convertors :) You could also listen him from SoundCloud, just make sure the /file/ you listening wasn’t uploaded by the official band (if they even have a SoundCloud acc?).
I wanna add. Just like this could be a “separate the art from the artist” conversation, ig it could also be a “death of the author” one. You are free to take whatever you want from his art, it is yours now and having that doesn’t make you bad because he is bad. Doesn’t really work like that.
Lastly I guess, it takes time to grow out of an attachment to someone. So please give yourself time, be kind to yourself… It will happen eventually, believe me.
In the meanwhile, specially if you feel too guilty about listening to him or watching his content, you can look for alternatives. There’s plenty of recommendations going around rn, both for similar music and streamers to listen/watch instead; so you could look into those. Yk what they say: nothing like a new hyperfixation to replace another B) haha Idk if anyone has ever said that but sometimes it works like that.
Hope you feel better soon. I do. Hope you get to forgive yourself if you need to? I don’t think you did anything bad, but sometimes we feel like we did regardless… so I hope you found forgiveness if you need it. Remember to be kind to yourself and give it time.
Best of luck. Sending good vibes to you too 🌟✨💫🌸🌻🌱
Thanks so much Anon, that is actually really helpful advice. Luckily, I have other content creators, it’s just hard to go from being obsessed and worshipping him to crying in bed because he is a bad person. I don’t have any merch, but I wanted the records for record day, but I kinda didn’t think it was a good idea anymore… At first, I was trying to distance myself, ignore it cause it hurt to much to think. What I was doing yesterday was keeping myself constantly busy so I didn’t get the chance to think at all. Now I’m kinda accepting it and a little step forward I’ve seen myself take is instead ignoring videos bashing Wilbur on TikTok, I watch them and not avoid them. It’s baby steps but it’s something. I used to use YCGMA to fall asleep, but stopped two nights ago coincidentally, I haven’t dreamed, or haven’t had as vivid of dreams that I’m used to. I basically conditioned myself to be obsessed with him, and not I need unconditioned myself.
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Hey friend! I totally understand what you’re going through, I was an avid P!ATD fan during possibly the worst year of my life, and when I learned about some of the things Brendon Urie had done I didn’t know how to face it cause his music had accept my bisexuality and literally served as my armour at a time I was sleeping on relatives couches & such.
I just wanted to tell you what you’re going through is totally normal, I understand why you feel conflicted but you aren’t a bad person for still feeling some level of attachment to a person that got you through a tough time.
You don’t have to force yourself across that bridge yet, you will get there eventually.
Engaging with a creator and their work involves an element of trust and it’s natural to feel betrayed in this situation.
Just take it easy, I swear it’ll pass.
thank you. And you’re right about the trust part, I will admit, I was wee-bit obsessed with him, as he was my main artist and comfort streamer, all of this is so much and what I’m doing now is just kinda trying to distract myself. If I’m distracted, I don’t have to think about how he’s an abuser. My irl friend has been helping me keep busy and distracted. I’m basically just trying to keep myself so busy that I don’t have to think. I don’t know if that’s good or bad, but it’s working. I think the best thing I can compare it to is a song I like, called two birds, I feel like the bird who wants to let go who wants to leave the wire, but is still holding on tight.
“Two birds of a feather
Say that they're always gonna stay together
But one's never going to let go of that wire
He says that he will
But he's just a liar
Two birds on a wire
One tries to fly away and the other
Watches him close from that wire
He says he wants to as well, but he is a liar
Two birds on a wire
One tries to fly away and the other…”
I hope that makes sense…
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hey, as someone who has been with Wilbur for 4 years as a fan, this tore out my heart. but deep down inside I had a feeling that he's not who he is on the camera and his lyrics now make a lot of sense. none of this is your fault or the fault of us, his now ex fans. we didn't know, we couldn't have. please, take care of yourself, don't throw away anything wilbur related - just make it private, archive it or upcycle/recycle it, if you can.
drink a lot of water, eat well three times a day and please don't doom scroll.
Also, Thanks, this means a lot Anon
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hey, as someone who has been with Wilbur for 4 years as a fan, this tore out my heart. but deep down inside I had a feeling that he's not who he is on the camera and his lyrics now make a lot of sense. none of this is your fault or the fault of us, his now ex fans. we didn't know, we couldn't have. please, take care of yourself, don't throw away anything wilbur related - just make it private, archive it or upcycle/recycle it, if you can.
drink a lot of water, eat well three times a day and please don't doom scroll.
Luckily, I don’t really have anything Wilbur related, just a half baked cosplay that’s easy to use as normal clothes, I don’t know what doom scrolling is, but I have an idea considering what’s going on over here, I’m kinda distancing myself from anything on social media that’s Wilbur related, wether it’s making fun of him or talking about him.
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I’m not okay, none of this is okay.
Wilbur Soot was my comfort streamer. What he did to Shelby was terrible and unforgivable. I’m so sad that the person who made me feel safe in a community was an abuser. What he did was domestic abuse. I desperately want to stop supporting him, but it’s difficult. His music was what made me feel safe when I was in a bad place physically and mentally, and it’s difficult to get rid of that attachment I hold to the person who no matter what clip I watched of him, made me happy. I don’t know how to feel. Does anyone have any advice? Btw, in no way am I making this whole situation about Wilbur, this is about Shelby, she was abused and Wilbur Soot was the abuser. I don’t know how to just remove a person who used to be the one who got me through a tough time, out of my head. His music, his clips, his characters, LoveJoy. I need advice. And before you start bashing me, I’m a minor, I’ve never had to go through this thing, and I want to know the proper way to go about it. I want to be as respectful as possible, but I don’t know what to do. Just a few days ago, I was begging my mom to ask her friends in the UK to buy me LoveJoy records on record day, and now I’m crying and overwhelmed, I feel awful that I basically worshiped an abuser, and can’t let go of the things that quite literally saved my life. Please help me.
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I’m not okay, none of this is okay.
Wilbur Soot was my comfort streamer. What he did to Shelby was terrible and unforgivable. I’m so sad that the person who made me feel safe in a community was an abuser. What he did was domestic abuse. I desperately want to stop supporting him, but it’s difficult. His music was what made me feel safe when I was in a bad place physically and mentally, and it’s difficult to get rid of that attachment I hold to the person who no matter what clip I watched of him, made me happy. I don’t know how to feel. Does anyone have any advice? Btw, in no way am I making this whole situation about Wilbur, this is about Shelby, she was abused and Wilbur Soot was the abuser. I don’t know how to just remove a person who used to be the one who got me through a tough time, out of my head. His music, his clips, his characters, LoveJoy. I need advice. And before you start bashing me, I’m a minor, I’ve never had to go through this thing, and I want to know the proper way to go about it. I want to be as respectful as possible, but I don’t know what to do. Just a few days ago, I was begging my mom to ask her friends in the UK to buy me LoveJoy records on record day, and now I’m crying and overwhelmed, I feel awful that I basically worshiped an abuser, and can’t let go of the things that quite literally saved my life. Please help me.
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So this is why Aimsey asked if he wanted to borrow their (Idk Aimsey's pronouns) binder
The way everyone has been so supportive of like, me, has meant a lot the last day :)) I’m only gonna get wilder just you wait
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Hello! I’m a cis ace, but all are welcomed! :D
since the old version of this post was flagged for ‘adult content’…
reblog this post if your account is a trans safe space or owned by a trans person!
along with that, reblog if your account is a non-binary spectrum safe space or owned by someone on the enby spectrum!
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~Me Neither....~
Cc!Wilbur X Gn!Reader
A/n:yeah,so hello!❤️...I had a shit day today but I didn't have a lot of homework! This week I'm finishing school on Thursday!
Summary;Wilbur and you meet in the outskirts of Brighton and have a conversation about the past and future. You both confess your feelings for each other and kiss for the first time. You agree that, together, you can create something better than anything you've been dreaming of.
Prompt:Fluff ig
Listen to this while reading!
You and Wilbur were meeting outside, in the outskirts of Brighton. The sun was setting, casting a warm orange glow across the sky. You took a deep breath of the salty air and smiled. You had always loved Brighton's ocean breeze, and it was one of the things that had drawn you to Wilbur in the first place.
"Hey, what's up?" Wilbur said, walking towards you with a smile on his face.
You greeted him with a hug and looked up at him. "Nothing much. Just enjoying the view."
Wilbur wrapped an arm around your shoulders and led you to a bench nearby. "This is the perfect spot for a chat."
You sat down beside him and took another deep breath, closing your eyes and leaning back against the bench. The ocean breeze tickled your hair and brought a smile to your face. You couldn't think of any other place you'd rather be right now.
"You know, I've been thinking," Wilbur began. "I write a lot of songs about the past, and how I miss the times when things were simpler. But lately, I've realized that I don't just want to look back. I want to move forward, and create new memories."
You nodded in agreement. "I know what you mean. I feel like I'm constantly chasing after something I can never quite catch up to. And it's just so exhausting sometimes."
"Exactly," Wilbur said. "But that's what's so great about being here, with you. I don't have to worry about any of that. I can just be in the moment, and enjoy everything that's happening around us."
You felt a warmth spread through you at his words. For a moment, everything else faded away, and it was just the two of you, surrounded by the ocean and a sky full of stars. And if that was all there was to life, maybe it wasn't so bad after all..
You and Wilbur sat in silence for a moment, basking in the peacefulness of the moment. Suddenly, he leaned closer to you and whispered, "You know, I've been thinking...maybe it's not just the past we should be chasing after. Maybe it's each other."
Your heart skipped a beat as you looked into his eyes. What was he saying? Was this really happening? "What do you mean?" you asked, your voice barely above a whisper.
"It's like you said, we're both chasing after some sort of ideal that we can never quite catch up to," Wilbur explained. He leaned in even closer, his voice now barely audible. "But what I realize now is that maybe we don't need to chase anything, we just need each other. And maybe, just maybe, together we can create something that's even better than anything we've been dreaming of."
You felt your breath quicken as you realized what he was proposing. And for the first time in a long time, you felt like there was nothing in the world you wanted more. "Yes," you said, smiling up at him..
Wilgur smiled back at you, and for a moment, the world seemed to stand still. And then, in a single, beautiful moment, he leaned in and kissed you. You felt like you were floating on air, and time seemed to stand still. And in that moment, you knew that together, you could create anything you wanted....
As you sat there, locked in each other's embrace, it felt like nothing else in the world mattered. You both knew that you had found something special, something that neither of you had ever experienced before. And in that moment, everything else disappeared, and there was only the two of you, surrounded by the sound of the ocean and the feeling of each other's touch.
At last, you pulled away, slowly coming back to reality. "I can't believe that just happened," you said, still feeling as though you were in a dream.
"Me neither," Wilbur said, his voice tinged with disbelief. "But it felt so right, didn't it?"
You nodded, feeling a warm glow spread through your body. "It did," you said, smiling up at him. "It felt like this is what we were meant for."
Wilbur smiled back at you, his eyes filled with emotion. And in that moment, you knew that you had found something special, something worth fighting for. You both knew that no matter what the future held, you would always have each other. And in that moment, you both felt like you could do anything, as long as you had each other by your side.
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