i love living in this city with you - we will always have new adventures and beautiful places to explore together. i hope that one day we can do it hand in hand, heart in heart

hey everyone!! i’m sorry i haven’t been active in a really long time - but THIS is pretty much why! this is my band, In a Bag - i’m the bassist! if you’re into music, especially really vibey, groovy stuff, i think you’ll really enjoy this. i know it doesn’t seem like it has much to do with the blog, but for me, this is my purest expression of love! so if you’re up for a fun little adventure, give it a listen <3

SHAMELESS SELF PROMOTION PT. 2

hey everyone!!! do you like 80s music? do you like 80s coming-of-age movies? do you like pretty lights and a bunch of kids goofin around? you should check out my band’s music video right here!! we’re called In a Bag, and we’re an alt-rock band from toronto, canada. our video just dropped on friday, and you can listen on spotify, apple music, and everywhere else you can stream! i’m super proud of the work we put into this and i can’t wait to show the work we’ve done on our original songs as well. if you’ve made it this far, THANK YOU FOR READING, and if you wanna keep up-to-date on what we’re doing (and we’ll have news soon!!) follow us on our socials on our linktree: https://linktr.ee/inabagband

the person i love is 14000 km away from me....i love him so much, i just wish we were closer in distance :[

just hang in there anon, i know ldrs can be very tough <3

Hmm im confused by a message a guy sent me. He tells me to come to my session and that hes bored of waiting. What does he mean

Sorry anon, I have no idea. Maybe it was meant for someone else?

❤️ I watch where your eyes go and I wait for them to return to me, so I can smile at you. ❤️

Ahh im the early stages of talking to someone. I wait for him to send a message and then when he does idk how to respond hahaha what is happening

you got this anon!! just do what feels best for you

maybe my hands still shake sometimes but yours are steady when you hold me

How do u know when u have a connection with someone

it’s really hard to say because everyone experiences connection in different ways. in my experience, usually, good connections come with good conversation and mutual respect. i find that people that are potentially interested will try to spend more time with you, might bring you stuff, or try to be more physically close.  that being said, everyone shows affection in different ways and not everyone will do those things to express it! at the end of the day, you’ll probably just feel it when it happens

What is the difference between passion and lust

i think in a lot of circumstances they could be used interchangeably, but i find that the word “lust” carries an image of sin or deviance that passion doesn’t necessarily. this can change depending on the context in which either is used, but that’s the main difference (in my opinion)

is there such a thing as, like, kind of in love??? no, it's not a crush; it's totally love, but... really low-key and quiet. i have fallen in love with this person exactly twice, and the first time it was heart-wrenching, terrible, passionate, unrequited love. and now... look, i know they don't love me back, but this time it's actually fine??? i'm really okay, to the point i might not even want a relationship with them. i just. i love them. and they don't love me back. and i might date other people and i won't mind at all when they date other people but a part of me will always harbor this weird, soft, quiet love for them, and it's just like, wow, you mean so much to me in such a weird way and i don't know how to deal with that.

when i think of him i get all “i didn’t do it right, can i try again, try again, try again” and all “anywhere you go let me go too” yknow. yknow

Hey anon, I hope you’re healing well. It can be tough to let go sometimes, but you can make it through, even if it’s rocky right now

I like him a lot, and it took a long time for me to build up that attraction, and we're one steps shy of a real relationship. It feels like we're going through the motions when we talk and its been a month of the same things. But another boy came around. he made me feel butterflies from the start, and he and I can talk for ages. He isn't as sweet and soft as the other, but he makes me laugh and cry and feel things harder than I have in a long time. We bully eachother in public (1/2)

(2/2) and it's nice to have the banter, but then in private we play nice and tease each other. The first boy has done nothing wrong and has been nothing but loving and sweet and never made me cry. The second stirs up something in me I havent seen before, but God he makes me so mad and I cry but he's always right there to pick me back up. I dont know what to do. Im the only reason 1 and i arent official yet bc I was too scared but now idek who I want? 1 wants to date but idek if i want to? Help!

This is a really tough spot anon, I think the most important thing to do is to figure out what is going to be best for you and make sure that you communicate clearly with all parties involved. If you’re not sure you want to commit, make sure that 1 knows that. With 2, it may not be a bad idea to think about how he’s having an effect on your emotions and how that could affect you in the long-term. In the end, following your instinct will be the best way to figure out your path. Hope everything goes well for you!

It's hard because I've never been in love before, and he makes it feel so right, but it's ldr and i dont think I could do that. I need to be able to hold him. Makes me sad.

LDR can definitely be tough. Just do whatever your heart tells you is right

I had a toxic ex. He hated all my hobbies and critized them mb to make me stop doing them idk. Like for example he would say mb i read bc i have no friends and should talk to people. It made me so sad. He still complains to people i should stop reading and talk, but i talk to ppl everyday idk what his problem was sigh

i’m really sorry you had to go through this anon, but i’m glad that you were able to get out of the situation though! hopefully going forward you have more supportive people around you <3

What are some reasons thats makes a friend distant to you and only you

hey anon, i’m not quite sure what you’re asking? could you please clarify?

Georg Trakl, tr. by Michael Hamburger, from Modern European Poetry; “De Profundis,”

i cant see him until i graduate and it's painfuuuul i just wanna kiss him already:(