Facing Feminism

Disclaimer: This blog doesn't intend to hurt any sentiments of females nor intend to disrespect women in any way. This post is not against women but against side effects of feminism. Dear Readers, I got many suggestions about my next topic but today I want to discuss a few instances. Everyone knew about the instagram chat group "boys locker room". The incident was few guys were sharing inappropriate pics of girls and the chats were also not appropriate. Few guys were active in the group while few were just a part of the group giving no inputs. A girl got the chats and made it public. Women's commission on suo moto took action against those boys and filed a legal complaint. The action by commission was obvious and appropriate but few a days later the same incident came out as " girls locker room " where the same thing was done by girls but this time there was no complaint, no commission, no police and no inquiry. Why?This is just one incident I shared. I know every male, in their life, daily go through such incidents and suffer in any way. In short they are FACING FEMINISM. If we go in detail about such an incident, do every guy in the group were responsible for this? and if yes, then what about girls. Why didn't any commission came out to take action against those girls? If the commission speaks about rights of women, they should also be loud about duties of women.Feminism is a word which is for supporting women but not for harassing men. Yes, I agree women should be respected but why men should not be. In this 21st century we are talking about equality but it should be seen from both sides. Favoring one should not lead to injustice to others. I remember my mom taught me "Not to hit any women in any case. Fight through words not through hands". But is the same thing taught to a girl? Few incidents of our history have proved that females are suppressed and dominated but in today's world the scenario has changed.Ending this, I would like to leave you with a question. If a man is hitting a woman, the public says " kaisa jaalim mard hai, auraat ko maarta hai". But if a woman hits a man, the public says " jarur mard ne kuch galat kiya hoga" Aren't we are facing feminism?

Ignored Talks

Dear Readers, i feel last week was so traumatic for us after we heard about the suicide case of the well known and loved bollywood actor. With that, the media, social sites and various bees got their topic to hum about. After a few hours of the news, I could see on whatsapp stories, instagram pages and other social media asking their loved ones to talk about their issues but does it really make any difference?

The highly guessed reason for his death was depression and people started saying that he should have shared those issues to his near and dear ones before he took that drastic step. Was it easy for him to do so? Wouldn't he have tried to share his issues and difficulty to his friends? I think yes, He tried. He would have tried to talk but his talks were IGNORED TALKS.

Let's not talk about him, talk about us. Whenever we feel sad we try to find a face to speak, a hand to hold, feel relaxed and a shoulder to cry upon. We try calling various people but most of the answers which come "Busy, talk to you later" or no answer. Till the time they call you back, it might be late. I saw various posts and messages asking to share what I feel, feel free to talk and share, but dear social media freaks, I request you instead of posting such things please try to create an environment around you where not everyone but few of your loved ones feel free to share with you. Let them feel that their talks are not IGNORED TALKS. 

R.I.P to all souls who lost their life because they felt they are alone and ignored.

Te veré pronto mi ángel.

Silent Molestation

When we hear the word Molest, we get on a roller coaster of thousands of thoughts, millions of perceptions and billions of the repercussions. In my last blog while discussing about being LGBTQ, i mentioned that almost 50% of boys are bisexual but the question is are they bisexual by their choice? No, most of them are not I guess. They are forced to do so and that's what we call it Molestation. We get to know everyday in the news about child rapes, molestation cases and eve teasing related to children. But we never try to imagine what if the same is happening in our house too. Can there be any person who is molesting and any child who is being molested? I am glad to say that the thought of society has drastically changed and now they no longer care about the question " LOG KYA KAHENGE".

The children are being educated about good touch and bad touch and they are asked to inform if anything wrong happens to them. But still many children don't express their horrible experience to their parents. The prime reason i think is that something is lacking in that education we give regarding molestation and then it becomes SILENT MOLESTATION. We forget to tell them that the victim (child) is not supposed to feel bad, it is the culprit (molester) who is supposed to feel bad and get punished.

When its reported, there are also few changes to be done in our traditional procedure. When your child behaves abnormally in past few days then you should get an instinct of something being wrong. Always trust the words of your child (even if you strongly believe it to be wrong else in future it will turn to SILENT MOLESTATION) and pacify the child that he has taken a very good step by informing you about it. Also try not to panic in front of them and never ever force them to tell the name of the culprit because it can make them feel anxious. First thing is that we should tell our child that everything is normal and it will be normal ahead too. It can take time for the child to enlighten the molester name but give them the time and space. Whenever you get to know the name of the molester, don't ever bring the child in the proceedings of confronting the culprit but just inform the child about the  punishment the molester is gonna face.

I know it's hell difficult to face this situation but once you handle it manage to pacify your child that life is the same and nothing happened, trust me it won't affect you for long time. In fact it won't affect you and child at all.

Happy Reading 😊

Compatible Marriage

Marriage... A word which creates a lots of feelings, emotions and a step to bring drastic change in your life. If we talk about India, marriage is treated as very sacred and important part of our lives. We start sharing every bits from the journey of our life with a person to whom we get married and that's why they are said to be better half. But what if that half is not compatible to you.

For marriage two options are seen in India (Love or arrange). If we look back to 30 years then arrange was only the option and Love before marriage was a crime (Laughs). What i feel is either it's arrange or love, most important thing is compatibility and it should be a Compatible Marriage. Many people argue that it's difficult to be compatible in an arranged marriage but i find it equally difficult to be compatible in love marriage as well. Only having feelings for each other is not enough to spend your entire life together because there can be difference of opinions, choices and lifestyle. Love happens between souls and hearts but not between brains.

Now the question arises that what to do if we are unable to find compatible partners? We are left with two choices, either to push our-self to make compatibility with our loved or arranged partner and start changing (or asking your partner to change) or keep searching until you find the compatible one and till then enjoy your single-hood.

Choice is yours...

Self Harming Respect

Self respect is a word which we generally use to keep our inner soul alive, to keep us confident but we never knew that there is a very thin line between self respect and EGO.

Yes, its ego. When do we use the phrase self respect? To win over a verbal debate or to win others? We use this phrase these days to make others realise their mistake (as per we). Lets say, if u go in a verbal discussion with your friend and post that you stopped talking to them. what it can be, self respect or ego? We know that not talking to them will hurt us, it will influence negativity to our mind and many thoughts will start rolling in which actually doesn't even exist. And there we start hurting our-self, and its said self harming respect but actually its ego.

We know that in today's context its very important to maintain relations and relationship but shall it cost our self respect? I think everyone will agree that it will depend upon the person with whom we are maintaining relations. And yes, its the answer. Those persons who seriously keep a value and is important then we should prioritize that relation first but if its taken for granted then self respect is parmo dharma.

Lets talk about our family. Our parents and siblings. Do self respect shall intervene between our relations? I think it should but remember when you feel its becoming a self harming respect then its a point of realization that its not self respect but its EGO. In that case, we should talk or discuss and end it there.

Self respect might result in not maintaining relations but ego will always end up your relations.

LGBTQ.. A curse??

Dear Readers, before judging me on my topic lemme thanks myself that i got guts to find a corner in this big space of internet to express myself. Now, with respect to topic i really wanna ask you all a question. Being a member of LGBTQ is a curse? and if yes who decides it?

Sometimes we face challanges in society for being different and sometimes we are rewarded for the same. The debate on acceptance of LGBTQ is still not on in our society. Noone even wanna discuss about it or want to express about it. Is the society who stops us doing so. But wait, who is in society? that's we.. We are society. Is it really difficult in small cities and rural areas to accept this topic because obviously its not known to them or they are totally new to it?? 

NO.. as per reports more than 50% of men have been bisexual at any point of time in their life. But imagine what when it comes to other people they start judging. Those 50% guys are bisexual not because thay feel it but just because they need to satisfy their physical needs. Many members to this community still dont want to belive that they belongs to LGBTQ.

Because they themself feel ashamed of it. They start worrying about society, about family reaction and more typical question LOG KYA KAHENGE?. Being LGBTQ is not a curse. We made it curse. The LGBTQ guys made it curse. If you are different then go and express urself. its difficult but yes not impossible and dont think about society but just convince tyour family. If they love you they will accept as you are.

I am eager to know how many of you did.