this poor perosn 💀

OH MY GOD LETS GOO

I want to see cowboy studs, knight studs in shining armor, bartender studs, body guard studs, basketball playing studs, king studs, Queen studs, studs in black suits, studs with piercings, indie soft boy studs, studs who write poetry, studs who paint, firefighter studs, EMT studs, studs who work in construction, studs that sew and knit, studs who bake, studs working at flower shops, studs as piercers and tattoo artists, nurse and doctor studs, studs in STEM, studs with tech jobs, farmer studs, studs who love to work in the garden, I just want to see studs doing anything and everything.

We should appreciate studs more, being black and queer masculinity/gender non conformity together is beautiful. Their struggles are so unseen and I hate it. Studs deserve love and kindness. They’re not always the big scary tough one. Studs are full of love and light and kindness. We should pay attention to their history, their roles in our community, and for once try to protect and uplift them. Studs are important and we need to be there for them.

When is it my turn to have a pretty fem tend to me while I’m bleeding out?

Me when her when she

I need people to stop acting like studs are so aggressive and mean or are basically men. You’re racist and misogynistic. Studs are literally some of the sweetest people on the planet and have always acted as protectors of our community, It’s time we protect them back. This includes trans women/trans fems who identify as studs!!!

TERFS FUCK OFF

Just to reiterate how Arya and Sam have these parallels of not being able to comfortably fit into Westorosi society’s patriarchal ideals unlike their ‘perfect’ siblings and yet while the theme of toxic masculinity is acknowledged and recognized in Sam’s narrative by fandom, Arya gets hit with nonsense like being ‘male coded’.

In this too we can see the inherent misogyny in this fandom, where Samwell is allowed to be different and like different things and he is appreciated for loving songs and dancing. He gets sympathy for the abuse and toxic masculinity that he faces. His relationship with Gilly is celebrated, he is deserving of love and romance.

And yet Arya gets the hate simply for wanting to learn how to use a sword (And it’s not about using a sword either considering the male characters are badass for using a sword!).

She gets labelled ‘NLOG’, there are popular posts about how her journey is ‘masculine’ or how she is ‘masculine-coded’, posts about how she has ‘internalized misogyny’, where she will never be a Lady because she is not ‘feminine’ enough. How fans only like her because she’s ‘male coded’. How she is not ‘realistic’ or a boring character because she’s ‘male-coded’.

Posts on how Arya will never get love or romance, even when older, because she’s the wrong kind of girl. There are essays about how Arya did not try hard enough to fit in, that she’s equally at fault for the contentious relationship between her and Sansa because she did not spend enough time sewing and doing things that Sansa liked. That Ned not punishing Arya for picking flowers from the marsh or getting her a ‘dancing’ master is him showing ‘favoritism’ implying that Arya should have been punished for stepping outside the bounds of patriarchy dictated femininity.

Arya is treated by fandom like she is flawed for not being the right kind of girl. That she is not important in the narrative because she’s not the right kind of girl. The compassion and kindness so very clearly inherent in the character and embedded in the narrative is ignored in favor of her being a violent killer because she’s not the right kind of girl. Her intelligence, perceptiveness, quick thinking, critical thinking skills ignored because she’s not the right kind of girl. Also ignored widely by fandom that Arya too has taken abuse and kept silent because what good would it do to react and be killed?

These sexist double standards have only widened with the TV show’s horrendous misogyny in the way they wrote and depicted Arya Stark, stripping the character of all the nuance, complexity and everything that makes Arya, Arya in the books. Instead we got an one-dimensional trope in GOT, the complete opposite of book Arya Stark. As GRRM has stressed again and again, the show is not the books and the show characters are not the book characters. Take your ‘Arya has a masculine journey’ posts dripping with misogyny, elsewhere.

[Note:I am not denying the fatphobia with respect to Samwell which is indeed a thing and the reason for why, despite being one of those rare good guys in Westeros, he gets used the least for shipping. Something that GRRM himself bemoaned in one of his blog posts. I am just referring to the difference in how toxic masculinity and femininity are treated by this fandom because while the toxicity of one is recognized, the other is celebrated as a good thing]

People shipping Vi with a man is so funny as if she isn’t the most lesbian to ever lesbian.

If you laugh at my jokes just know I’m ready to propose 🫶

They’re so

"I think about jumping / Off of very tall somethings / Just to see you come running / And say the one thing I've been wanting / But no."

I’m not fighting with a transphobe. get blocked loser

Thinking about how Vi refused to give up on jinx even though people kept telling her jinx was too far gone

Thinking about how Vi refused to give up on jinx even though people kept telling her jinx was too far gone

That’s a murder to you. She’s my wife

When you’re mean to me this is who you’re being mean to

I figured out I was gay because the idea of a man saying “you’re mine” to me made me want to throw up and die but the idea of a woman saying it made me so flustered I had to sit down.

I need her in a way that’s concerning to feminism