i’m so sorry my post created such upset. i was just trying to help.
another great way to find music if you don’t have access to bars and shit is to type random words into whatever you use to stream music. (i use spotify and bandcamp, but i think soundcloud might actually be best if you’re trying to find hella small bands) Then just start listening to the songs with the random words, it’s such a fun experience and you don’t need anyone but yourself. i do it sooo often and have found some genuinely amazing bands.
if you’re looking for a cool new punk band to listen to, i highly recommend looking for local small bands before searching “punk” into spotify.
don’t know how to find them?
what i did is i looked up what some punk bars in my area, i started going on random nights and found bands i liked that way. (if you’re under 21, you can still look up the bars, but go to their instagram, see what bands are playing and see if they are on band camp, spotify, etc.)
this has worked amazing for me, i’ve made so many friends, it’s to the point where certain bands shows feel like monthly family reunions full of so much love and genuine compassion.
hope this helps anyone wanting to be more involved in the subculture
EDIT: if you live in a small town, just search the nearest big city. or honestly any city that you vibe with. every area has a slightly different sound and scene find what you blend with!!