whyireadsomuch
Jess It Up
"A mind needs books as a sword needs a whetstone if it is to keep its edge. That's why I read so much Jon Snow.” ― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones
12265 posts
Don't wanna be here? Send us removal request.
Last Seen Blogs
junting-pm-blog
微大叔
rehamareislove
poeta paranoica
firecrotchkiss
this house is not a home
littlewriterboyo
I Love Whump And Angst
littlesnorlaxx
is this Dylan O'Brien?
Text
A surprisingly helpful bit of social maneuvering I've figured out from trial and error:
Throughout your life, you are going to need things from people. Often, it's going to be on a deadline. And when that deadline passes, you generally want to know what's going on. So, you need to ask them.
There are two kinds of people, broadly, in this situation. The Shameless will tell you what the holdup is, with absolutely no regard for if the reason is "good enough". This is actually very helpful, because you get the real reason immediately, and can start working on a solution.
The Ashamed is trickier. People who are Ashamed are people who were often told they were giving excuses when they were trying to explain, and they'll often avoid you until they solve the problem on their own. This causes them and you a lot of stress, and often takes a lot longer to solve.
Long term, the strategy for dealing with people who are Ashamed is to provide a supportive environment where they're comfortable sharing any problems they're having with getting things done. But, there's a way to at least partially short-circuit that:
Provide an explanation for them.
One example might be "Hey Susan, I noticed that I don't have your report yet. Are you busy with other projects?" The readymade explanation signals that you're willing to accept an explanation, which is the big anxiety point.
Sometimes, you still won't get an honest answer- especially if the honest answer isn't "good enough" by the standards of the person who traumatized them. But, I've found that it often at least gets you a lie that lets you give them some slack or work around the problem.
Let's say that Susan has actually completely forgotten that she needed to do the report. She's horrified at herself, and completely unwilling to admit the real problem. But, she can now safely reply with "Sorry Jennifer, I've been swamped, and it got lost in the mix. I can have it to you in two days. Does that work?"
From there, so long as Susan gave an estimate for when she can actually do it, she and Jennifer can hash out a solution.
It's not a perfect solution, but it works astonishingly well for how small of a change it is.
3K notes
·
View notes
Text
having approached higher education with the basic and incurable attitude that I will do whatever the hell I want whenever I happen to feel like doing it, and with a healthy amount of disrespect for the university as an institution, I still really fucking like it. I think it's neat. people should keep track of everything humans know, and they should keep beautifully organized and maintained archives, and people all over the world should be able to visit that place to speak with other scholars, and the existence of the school should be independent of the fortunes of whatever nation or land hosts it. all humans everywhere should agree by common accord that these places are not to be destroyed. visiting a nice university library is like stepping briefly into a world where that's the case
1K notes
·
View notes
Text
Reblog if you think a woman can be complete without children
Y’ALL HAVE TIME TO REBLOG THIS. IT TAKES LESS THAN FIVE SECONDS.
521K notes
·
View notes
Text
The Glass Essay, Anne Carson | Molly Brodak, Molly Brodak
8K notes
·
View notes
Text
I Am All In Rewatch - Episode 2x17 (Part 2)
And boy did she rally for Luke? And I just I just fell so more and more in love with her character. Like what an outstanding episode for Lorelai. I mean, I think she could murder people from here on out, I'd still love her...Like mom, you don't understand what real life is all about and what loving other people is about, and opening your heart to an entire community of people is about. Where their status is not involved, money is not involved. It's real feelings, it's real values, you know. It's like treating people well no matter what station of life they're from. -Scott
52 notes
·
View notes
Text
Its obvious to me when people who post about canaries in mines have never met a canary. Like yeah the miners had a special device to revive the canary because canaries are one of the most adorable creatures on the planet and they make adorable little chirping sounds and honestly probably loved the sounds of machinery and people talking so it was probably loud and friendly with the workers. Whatever though maybe meet a canary sometime and youd understand
93K notes
·
View notes
Text
It's just an American robin but it looked so pleased to have that leaf for its nest.
301 notes
·
View notes
Text
Hey, also? Disliking certain gender norms (NORMS! Norms are not universal!) because you're either personally uncomfortable with it or because you have genuine societal criticisms is NOT "Misogyny!" A woman disliking another woman for personal reasons, because SHE as a human being disagrees with/is annoyed by HER as a human being is ALSO NOT "MISOGYNY!" Making harmful GENERALIZATIONS about "women" IN GENERAL is Misogyny! Words mean things!!!
Women do not have to get along with every other woman just because they're women!!! Women do not have to agree with or support everything that every other woman does just because they're women!!! Because WE ARE JUST PEOPLE!!! We have the full range of human emotions and unique opinions just like everybody else!!! I'm not a "woman" first and a "human" second! I'm allowed to have my own tastes and opinions, and I'm even allowed to be annoyed or angry sometimes! Women can be wrong or mean or selfish sometimes because they are HUMAN! BEINGS! To deny that a woman can be those things is to deny her full humanity!!!
50 notes
·
View notes
Text
youtube
#youtube#education#college#higher education#teaching#empathy#emotional regulation#mental health#k 12
0 notes
Text
36K notes
·
View notes
Note
I’m in my first ever semester of community college, I was super nervous the first day but seeing your quote helped me calm down. Thanks for being quotable I guess
I'm glad I was there.
4K notes
·
View notes
Text
Kill the mentality that a female character is “weak” if she is in love with a man. Love is not weakness.
Also kill the mentality that a female character is “weak” if she is kind and sweet. Kindness is not weakness either.
18K notes
·
View notes