velaofftherails
Im Going Silly Mode
Call me Vela 21 They/ThemRecovering persona fan, plays dnd now Please treat my undiagnosed ass with care
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Tbh need a dungeon meshi edit using the song “Down” by Worthikids.
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I notice sometimes in my notifs that people will follow me after liking just a single post of mine.
Wanted to say that's the kind of unconditional positivity I needed, thanks boo
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Babe, when people say "healing takes time" that means more time than you can control, not healing any%
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This has been my experience, on both sides.
People tell themselves that they help others solely for the sake of others. I do not believe that is necessarily true. I believe a lot of people, myself included at some points in time, help others mainly for the feeling of accomplishment, of relief, of joy. These people are empathetic, and often when someone comes to them with their issues, they absorb a little bit of their pain. The joy is to see the person they are helping experience relief from the listeners help, it is to see their *investment of emotion, returned.*
Therefore, problems come when the listener has invested that emotion, when the listener has absorbed their pain, but with none of the return of joy. The listener gets to experience the same helplessness as the other does. They do not like that. They want to help it, and so the listener will try to tell the other that they can help it, especially if that listener has never experienced that kind of helplessness themselves, they will actively deny it, and they will resent the one with problems for making them feel that helplessness.
I've had to deal with mental illness for the better part of a decade, and because I am very open about that being the case, I have interacted with hundreds upon hundreds of people who wanted to "help" me, and over the years I've noticed a pattern
A lot of people seem genuinely offended that my experiences are different from theirs
And this can't all be blamed on me being a low to high key caustic bitch most of the time, I have seen people get pretty upset when I make simple statements like "I do not have access to the resources I need"
Exercise, meditation, mindfulness, etc. a lot of people hold the firm belief that if something worked for them, it will work for everyone, and the only reason I'm saying it didn't work for me is cause I did it wrong, didn't do it long enough, am lying about ever actually doing it, or some other reason where they can continue to believe that my experiences are illegitimate and theirs are universal
This can be especially bad in queer spaces for me, cause on top of all the stuff I just described, people sure are comfortable deciding that I'm actually a white woman living in the blue parts of California because a lot of their attempts at hopeposting kinda fall flat when I live somewhere where the existence of queer people is outright criminalised and I have no viable means of leaving
A lot of people who claim to "care about mental health" seem to still buy into some Protestant Work Ethic adjacent ideas where the only reason you aren't doing something about the problem is because you're choosing to and nothing else
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Are you a Top Gun or a bottom gun?
...you can't just *ask* that
Sorry- I THOUGHT THIS WAS AMERICA?
-Julia Lepetit & Karina Farek
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LGBTQIA+ and knuckles
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Affirmations but rude? Yeah
"I'm not cute" Your definition of cute is fucking garbage, try mine, it includes you
"I'm not smart" Yeah well *I am*, so turn your brain off and listen when I say you are too
"I'm not kind" Okay so starting now, I say that you are and you do the kind thing and believe me
"I'm not strong" Your strength has literally inspired me, don't talk about my hero like that
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Flashlights may shine farther but they can't ever be in the light they produce. Shoutout to all my flashlights out there. Sometimes its fine to just be the bulb
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God, this is torture, the light of the sun will never reach the bottom of this pit. This is the end for me-
Holy shit, Jacob Geller uploaded! Its 30 minutes?? Thank you God!
(I'm not kidding he did upload, go watch him)
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