I feel for the Izzy fans, I really do. It sucks to have your favorite character killed off, especially when you feel like their death serves no narrative purpose. It genuinely hurts to lose a character that you identify closely with, and it's okay to be sad and grieve. The character might not be real, but the grief is. Let people mourn. Don't be rude to the ones who are just being sad in their little corners of the internet, yeah?
That said.
Some of the stuff I've seen in the OFMD fandom today? Worst shit I've seen in a fandom that I love and care about, and grief is no excuse. I know I'm a no one in this fandom and I'm mostly typing into a void, but I've got to get some things out:
The show doesn't deserve to be canceled. None of the creators, producers, or writers deserve to be canceled. Nothing queerphobic, homophobic, or ableist happened.
Izzy's death was not an insult or a cruelty or a targeted attack.
David Jenkins and the rest of the writers did not gaslight and abuse anyone (yeah, those are take I've seen).
It wasn't "objectively" a cheap or meaningless or badly-written death. You can hate it and that's okay, but that's still subjective!
Izzy was not the main character or the "heart" of the show. The heart of the show -- the show itself -- is Ed and Stede's relationship. We have been told as much.
"Ed hasn't faced any consequences for his actions." He has though? He didn't gaslight girlboss his way back into everyone's hearts. Izzy is not Ed's hapless and helpless victim. He was almost beaten to death and ran around in a penitence onesie with a catbell on; I think those were consequences.
"How do you feel when gay characters are randomly killed off to help a straight couple progress their narrative? Not good, huh? That's how disabled fans feel." It's okay to feel that way, but don't make any sweeping assumptions about disabled fans. I'm disabled and I'm gonna say that's not what happened here.
"How dare you kill off this character who's abused, flawed, suicidal, disabled, and queer!" Ed is still right over there, yeah? Check, check, check, check, and check. (Little note: I've seen a lot of "he's not disabled!" Even if you don't buy the kneebrace ((Ed Teach with bad joints is so important to me, shhh)), what about invisible disabilities? What about mental health issues? I'm not here to diagnose a fictional character, but it's clear to me that Ed has mental health problems that dramatically impact his life.)
"It's sick that Izzy died in the arms of his abuser apologizing to him." I don't even know where to start with this one, but I get the feeling that some parts of the fandom only consider physical abuse valid. Mental, verbal, and emotional abuse are pretty fucking damaging and I think it's sick that some folks think they aren't actually abuse.
People who enjoyed the last episode of season two aren't media illiterate. People who love Gentlebeard aren't abusive narcissists.
I just.
I really, truly feel for Izzy fans for I too have lost a blorbo. I'm giving a huge hug to the Izzy enjoyers who aren't out there making threats and calling everyone abusers and being outright hostile to anyone who had the nerve to enjoy this season. Like, I genuinely hope you guys are doing okay, and if you need an ear, I'm game.
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ned's breads & the lemonade (& josh)
ned's breads - pieces of creativity that sustains tyler along his 'journey' (album-writing process). he's got to hold on to that creativity during periods of depression (dark, windy rainy scenes). in the end though, it has been damaged by his struggles and he inevitably runs out, forcing tyler to 'backslide to where he's started from'.
ned is, quite literally, what makes tyler a 'breadwinner', echoing ned being his 'papermaker' in chlorine.
the chlorine references are continued with the lemonade which tyler drinks out of a plastic goblet: lemons, being characteristically sour, suggest that this process of channeling his creativity can be unpleasant or even painful (i'm not telling you anything new). lemonades also represent the cliche of 'when life gives you lemons...', reiterating the fact that tyler's inspiration often comes from his struggles with depression.
& josh? josh is a constant, the one who patiently waits no matter what, the icing on the cake except it's the meat in the burger and that changes everything—you cannot have a burger without the meat. he completes what tyler brings to the table (no pun intended). he is the last stop: home.
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Backslide, Vignette, Snap Back, and Oldies Station are so desperately important to me.
For the past few years, I’ve been struggling with a self-destructive habit that I haven’t been able to break. Even though my family has been super loving and understanding, I keep feeling like THIS time is going to be the time that they get fed up and give up on me for good. “Do you think that now’s the time, you should let go?” I feel like I’ve asked that question a thousand times. And the repetition, which sounds (to me) like he’s TELLING the person he’s talking to that they should let go. They SHOULD get tired of me. My self-destructive habits are hurting the people I cared about. I should have fixed it for THEM if not myself, I should have loved them better.
Vignette just sounds like a relapse to me. The way Tyler sings “Man, it’s been a long night” and “Where do I go from here?” are so filled with exhaustion and desperation. The mental image of people he cares about finding him in the woods, covered in bites, as someone finding you after a relapse and seeing what you’ve done to yourself.
Snap Back is. just. Sometimes you can FEEL your resolve getting weaker, you can FEEL yourself buckling under life’s pressures and going to familiar coping mechanisms. You want to be stronger, to have more resolve, but you’re so freaking tired and it feels inevitable. After all, it only takes ONE weak moment. You have all day to relapse. You have all night. You have all week. Can you REALLY stay determined that long? You’ve done this before. You know you can’t.
(And this line of thinking is inherently self-defeating. You’ve relapsed so many times that you’ve lost faith in yourself. You don’t have faith in yourself, so you can’t win. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy.)
And at the end, when you’ve tried everything and said everything to the people you love as they’re sad and angry and worried and afraid and proud and everything else over the years… “I’ve run out of excuses for why I am this way.”
Finally. Oldies Station. Because life is going to keep coming, and you’re probably going to relapse. You’re still learning to deal with fear and pain without hurting yourself in the process. But you’re still here.
“Make an oath, then make mistakes. Start a streak you’re bound to break.” This philosophy is one I’ve been trying to adopt for years. No matter how many times you relapse, you NEED to keep fighting. There is so much freedom in staring again, KNOWING you’ll probably fail, but putting your all into it anyway. Because sometimes, your all isn’t enough. Whether that’s because life is too hard or you’re too weak doesn’t really matter. That’s not what you need to be focusing on. When darkness rolls on you, when you’re filled with grief and shame and whatever emotions plague you in a vicious cycle, you push on through.
You get better. You get stronger. It’s so slow, but it happens. You’re still here.
And when you do relapse again, you may be disappointed, but you can feel yourself on the come up even when you’re at a low point.
You fell into a backslide yet again, but you don’t quite mind. And isn’t that the goal of healing?
Peace?
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so crazy that they released backslide with the timing that they did
because yeah okay fine let’s release a song with an mv about feeling as though you are disappointing everyone around you and slipping into a cycle of never fully going through with even the simplest of tasks unless you know it’s going to be perfect which it never is going to be and inevitably feeling like you’re letting everyone down again and then slipping back into a cycle of bad habits
they finished the song, stepped back, looked down and said yup let’s released this emotional hydrogen bomb and they did it exactly when i started going back into that exact same cycle of dumpster fire depression and anxiety okay that’s SO FINE
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"i used to be the champion of a world you can't see" / "i am suppose to be king of a kingdom"
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Been thinking about Thirteen and Missy, thought I'd share my thoughts here too.
So, consider a Missy who, after the events of The Doctor Falls, actually makes it back to the Doctor. They travel together for a while. And maybe to begin with she's actually really trying hard to do things the Doctor's way - overcompensating even for what Simm!Master did, and she really does appear to have changed. The Doctor can't help herself, of course, she has hope and starts to really believe it. Maybe even Missy does too. But she can't keep it up, of course she can't, and she backslides massively and the Doctor is hearts-broken.
Idk man, I just have so many thoughts. Maybe one day I'll do something with it! And go further with exploring that wonderful line of "Your version of good is not absolute. It's vain, arrogant and sentimental" which I wish they'd done more with tbh
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