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girlscience ยท 1 year
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I... *deep sigh* I got an online dating app again (gay this time, not tinder again lol) for a couple different reasons. But I still don't get it. I enjoy talking to some of the people, it's just kinda fun get to know you stuff. Mostly I've been talking about anime or fantasy or cosplay, all stuff I like and it's cool to find so many people around me who are gay and into that stuff too! But like. I don't really have feelings about any of these people beyond maybe "nice!" or "attractive!" which to me aren't really special feelings? or idk actionable feelings? Like those feelings don't make me want to flirt with them or go on dates with them or do ~things~ with them. But I guess that's enough for other people? Because some of them have flirted with me or literally asked if I wanted to learn carpentry from them while they build a bed for their friends kid (which. one very gay. two that sounds very cool) but we literally started talking like an hour ago?? You are already telling your friends about me? Straight up told your friend I was sweet and respectful??? I am so confused.
#i don't know anything about youuuuu#i don't know how your voice sounds or what you laugh like#i don't know your favorite food or your pets names or where you went to school#or what you want to do with your life#i haven't done anything with you like hang out at a pool or gone on a hike or pulled an all nighter with you#or seen your house or know if you match your socks or have sensory issues or how you like to dress#or literally anything i know about my friends#and i don't know how i am supposed to have feelings about you just from this#sometimes it's hard for me to have noticeable feelings about people i have been CLOSE friends with for years#it's not that i don't want those feelings or that i don't ever want to be in love#but am i supposed to be crushing on you already???#that has literally only happened to me like once in my life and it was with a girl i actually saw irl!#(the most beautiful girl in the world tbh but sadly i never spoke with her because i was terrified ๐Ÿ˜ญ rip)#but everyone else i have (maybe... kind of debatable) had a crush on has been on someone I have known for at minimum a year first#i don't understand this 'catching feelings' thing. and I feel bad#like I am giving them these tepid lukewarm responses to their flirting but it's not that i don't like them! I just don't feel like that yet!#and I wouldn't be on this app but I am.. lonely isn't the right word... yearning? no. umm Idk I want to kiss someone. horny? ๐Ÿ˜‚#also not the exact right vibe... Idk I just want to be gay with someone and friends and hang out at each others homes#and watch anime together and make out. I want experiences that I haven't ever had before.#I want to get my turn at having the highschool friendship/relationship that I didn't get to have#and I don't know how to get this any other way#(yes i have had friends flirt with me.. sometimes VERY explicitly. you know who you are if you read this. but#sorry I'm not into you like that ๐Ÿ˜‚ which tbh I think u are joking anyway so ๐Ÿ˜‚)#and so like preferably I would start this whole thing from a point of friendship but I don't have that so like...#my options are apps or irl and that is terrifying and I have zero clue how that works at all. I feel like it involves me going to a bar#and that's so scary#so here i am. idk
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