honestly i really do get the appeal of having separate bedrooms even when in a serious relationship/marriage/partnership. i love having my own space to retreat to. a nest i can tuck myself away into. i love being able to decorate my room exactly how i want it and not having to compromise to someone else’s taste - it’s a space specifically designed to be as relaxing as possible FOR ME. and i don’t think that i’d lose that just bcus i fall in love with someone. and i don’t want THEM to compromise on that shit either, i want them to have their perfect personal sanctuary as well. and it’s not like we can’t set foot in each other’s rooms or spend nights in each other’s beds it’s just - it’s the knowledge that you have that nest. that when you need that retreat, it’s there. there’s so much weird stigma and judgement about what separate rooms must say about the state of your relationship but like. no i get it i absolutely get it.