ik people like to act like sex and imbalanced sexual dynamics are uniquely traumatizing (moreso than any other kind of power imbalance, abuse of power, or just flat out abuse period) but from personal experience not really. there's nothing inherent to sex and sexuality that makes it traumatizing. there's nothing inherent to sexual trauma that makes it more traumatic than any other trauma.

and chiefly trauma is never really about the intentions of any party who made or let it happen. someone who wants, intends, and tries to hurt you might bounce off you just like that; because they simply failed to psychologically damage you, because what they did didn't bother you a lot whether it be mental physical or sexual. conversely someone who does not want, intend, or try to hurt you may scar you for life with something either they don't understand is harmful or isn't even inherently harmful and is uniquely that way to you.

i just. i'm annoyed at the narrative of trauma being taken away from the survivor themself. if i say this was traumatizing and you think it's not a big deal, too fucking bad, listen to me. if i say that wasn't traumatizing at all and you think it's the worst thing in the world upon hearing what it is, too fucking bad, you don't get to tell me what my trauma is. i'm sick of seeing people put words in each others mouths and tell someone's story for them without that person's consent. idk like? it makes me so angry that whenever i used to talk about things people would blatantly disregard the most horrific times of my life and instead focus on stuff i was neutral or even positive toward as a big terrible thing that ruined me.

nowadays i'm very grateful to have people who are chill and don't jump to conclusions no one asked them to. people who listen when i tell them "i know this sounds bad but it wasn't actually" or "i know this sounds stupid but this was world shattering." people who i get to laugh with. the RIGHT people who extend me the same kindness of knowing their strange "good bad things" and "bad fine things."

life just isn't as simple as "this is always terrible for people" and "this is always fine for people." PEOPLE aren't a monolith. yes, even that thing that you think must be the worst thing possible. yes, even that thing that you think no one could possibly be hurt by. it's hard to involve myself in serious discussions about abuse because there is a very clear Narrative people want to follow and if you as a "victim" don't follow it then either it didn't happen or you're wrong about your own experience.

hopefully I can consult my therapist about this phenomenon in discussions of abuse and trauma. and also about the specific thing that made me think of this. it irritates me quite a lot when others pity me for something that i knowingly chose-- and in retrospect never hurt me either. like what are you fishing for. why are you looking at me like that. i'm fine, maybe you're the one that needs counseling if my talking about this creates such a visceral reaction in you.

everytime i rewatch the second half of the until dawn fandub im reminded of how lifechanging it is

every day i fight the overwhelming urge to sound of music my friends

I get that it's not the job of every person who's fluent in their first language to teach it to new learners, but why is there such an attitude surrounding new learners? Why is there the idea that every person should be fluent before they dare speak aloud? You don't have to let people be wrong, but you do have to accept that there is a polite way to correct someone. If you're going to correct someone you should at least muster the effort to do it politely. You don't have to point out a mistake in a way that shames someone. That discourages learning, which in turn only causes even more of the situations that had you acting this way in the first place.

Idk why you'd feel the need to flex on someone who's showing you a vulnerable point. If someone trusts you enough to fail around you that's not something you should scorn. Is it not in poor taste to break a child's wrist when they challenge an adult to arm wrestling? Why are you trying to gain a feeble sense of power over someone who is still learning? I don't get it.

today is sami national day! (february 6th) 🤍

Had another ask about Norway and the Sami languages too, but I cannot find it

It is the national Sapmi day! Lahkoe Biejjine!

I do think Norway and Sapmi would be separate countries much in the same way Norway and Sweden are. During the Viking Age, they definitely co-existed in some of the same areas, but what is the very north of Norway today was not included in the country of Norway during this period of time - mostly only inhabited by Sami people. Norway was considered its own country from 871, so at the beginning of the Viking age. The Sami people were also a nomadic people, so borders are a bit difficult to pin down regardless.

In Hetalia we see borders change all the time, i.e. Baltics living with Russia during the Soviet Union, and I do think Sapmi today very much reach all the requirements to be considered its own entity in Hetalia. I prefer Sapmi as their own nation and character in Hetalia, because I think that would be very beneficial to showing off the culture better. Though Sami people (in Norway) are of course no less Norwegian because of it.

In regards to the missing ask about Norway speaking any of the Sami languages, I think most likely he would not? He probably knows a few phrases or sentences in Nordsamisk, but not enough to hold a conversation or understand much.

Suggest having a look at @saltlakris 's design for Sapmi ✨ they also most likely have a better understanding of this than me 😅

i want more o/ne p/iece self shipping buddies but i am so awkward with interacting with people 😓

i watched the first 2 episodes of reacher w my dad when they first came out and i really. it was the most dull bland boring show ive ever seen in all my life.

Omg thank u for the nice comments on my horse attempts 😭 I was trying I swear, like 9 million references pulled up

IF YOU NEED REFRENCES I SAY USE BREYER HORSES [you dont need to buy the models btw i just mean like looking at the site and their photos of their models]!!!!

Their models arent always perfect but they're super good for understanding anatomy if youre starting out I personally think, they're what I used for mine, also real horses in simpler poses or anatomy models are really good. Also you are so welcome!! I frequent the horse / equine art tags so i tend to see when someone draws something horse and I saw yours and honestly i wouldn't have even gessed it was a first try you did soo good with the anatomy of it all! But yeah I reccomend looking at breyer horses for pose and like anatomy learning cuz it can make it easier to break down due to the way they photograph their models!!

Im also debating posting a breakdown of how i tackle horse anatomy sometime soon but i haven't really planned it yet, if i make one, i hope it'd end up helpful lol

hope u guys don't mind me being a little queer sometimes and talking to myself in the tags, it helps clear my head since people can filter out rant posts easily

People calling men that are barely below average height "short kings" are WEAK and will not survive the winter much less any season... instead start calling men under 5 foot short kings or die by my blade!!!!!

> Canadian

You’re one generation removed from being another fucked up mongoloid with a mouth full of deformed teeth just like the mutants who inhabit the island your genetic defective grandparents came from. Cope, seethe and die you half bred fuck. You’ll never be an American.

Bro you need to get over your anger issues. If you haven't noticed America and Canada are both fucked. My children will grow up free of hate and whatever parental dysfunction that causes you to be so angry. And I'd rather take my harsh winters over your gross summers.

ofc ive always had adhd, but personally what really fucked up my attention span is agar.io (and being depressed enough to play it for hours every day. people whose lives are ok dont do that shit)

ok maybe dont post in the estinien tag if you're just gonna be negative and shitty? like go away this isnt your fucking space

Destroying words reading comprehension with my eye beams. Sometimes instead of mocking people just help them to understand hmmmmm?