#idk maybe i just shouldnt ask questions but i really want to understand things fsgjkl and i've been trying to figure it out on my own | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

piplupod · 2 months

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that question is sparked by me seeing a very obnoxious (i.e. eyestrain to the point of inducing a headache) dni banner that lists "bi lesbians" on it and I look at the person's carrd and they have "anti-neopronoun/xenogender/mogai" listed right underneath "bi lesbians/lesboys/etc and supporters"

and i am just. feeling a little crazy. because i genuinely do not understand this fsdjkl i feel like... if you are supportive of xenogenders then you should understand gender is complex and doesn't line up nicely with sexuality labels sometimes so you have to twist things to make them fit right for you and your internal experience... this is why we have cool labels like cloudgender and stargender and all that fun stuff!! these labels are cool! they are good! so why suddenly are we saying that lesbians and gays who do not fit the traditional "i am solely a woman attracted solely to other only-ever-women" box are wrong and bad ?

i dont want to be saying horrible things bc im misunderstanding or straight up not seeing the issue though, so genuinely if anyone has insight please tell me because im so beyond confused at this point

#also isn't gay considered an umbrella term at this point? i.e. the gay community (the queer community)?#like it has a meaning yeah but we also use it as an umbrella term in wider culture i thought... maybe i am misunderstanding that though #so im just ... not sure what the whole ''mspec gay'' being bad is about #this is hurting my head im rly trying to figure out what ppls issues are with this #and i just. i think maybe its the whole ''words have meaning! we can't muddy the waters!'' which is totally fair #i'm not sure what the answer is #but also i think maybe even if ppl ID as bi lesbians... i think everyone in the wider world still understands lesbian to mean wlw #and i really doubt that'll change anytime soon. so i don't think that its necessarily an issue?#am i talking nonsense right now? sticking my foot in my mouth? im just very confused fdsjkl im rly trying to figure this out #i've been sitting watching it all for the past few months and i cannot wrap my head around it so ... i come hat in hand to ask here LOL #idk maybe i just shouldnt ask questions but i really want to understand things fsgjkl and i've been trying to figure it out on my own #and i'm getting absolutely nowhere so dsgjkl i figure its okay to reach out to a community to ask instead of driving myself crazy alone #pippen needs 2nd breakfast

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