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onewomancitadel · 2 years

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You can ignore this, but I think a lot of the "simp"(Im sorry for using this word) talk comes from "White Knight Syndrome". People have an instivtive revulsion towards it. I think Jaune helping Cinder reminds them of that which is why they find it gross. Thats why you notice this natural aversion to it in real life. People are trying SO hard to not be a WK that they actively try to avoid helping a woman do anything. To be continued...

Continued: This is then reinforced by women who have the whole "I'm an independant Woman and I dont need no man" mindset. Which is good. Nothing wrong with that at all btw. Males have simply seen this and concluded that women don't in fact need their help with things. Which is true, but then this trickles down to how we react to fiction. SO if we have Jaune and ACTUAL white knight helping a women in need on screen? Most of the reactions are going to be disgust. To be continued...

Continued: Alright. I'm done. Thats the gist of the issue. You can ignore this now. I only commented because I saw the discussion when browsing your blog. I know this topic annoyes you and ruins the sanctity of your channel so please ignore this. I don't want the discussion to ruin the your mood. I only sought to give you some context. That is all. Please have a wonderful day and don't let the tragedy of modern social dynamics ruin your evening. Knightfall is beautiful and so is your blog.

No other asks came through other than these, but I suspect one may have slipped through.

If you're going to send a lengthy message, get a Tumblr account and use the dashboard view to send a post-length ask that way. It means I don't have to copy out multiple messages and asks do not disappear that way, as the old ask style is unreliable.

"I'm an independant Woman and I dont need no man" mindset. Which is good. Nothing wrong with that at all btw.

Lol.

Males have simply seen this and concluded that women don't in fact need their help with things.

Everybody needs and deserves help. You're conflating the issue. Basic care and compassion and respect - and love - in real life OR a fictional ship is not the same thing as women being forced into a social contract with men where financial 'help' from men is exchanged for domestic labour and sex. The point is that 'help' men have given to women has not been unconditional. It's not a 'privilege' that women no longer receive. This is completely unrelated to anything that I discuss on my blog in the context of compassion and redemption. Fundamental compassion and care is not... fuck me, this is actually fucking ridiculous. How is being in love with a woman and/or helping her BAD?

Listen, if one's worldview is so broken that that is misconstrued as 'whiteknighting' we have bigger problems than you think. This is why I don't want to talk about it. You're taking this idea of 'whiteknighting' seriously - a way men surveil other men - and putting it at my feet like it's a real phenomenon I need to be careful of or something that is a direct response to - feminism? So is this women's fault now, too? Lol. Don't answer that. I don't really care.

SO if we have Jaune and ACTUAL white knight helping a women in need on screen? Most of the reactions are going to be disgust.

Most? Are you serious? You're talking about some people with extremely broken mindsets and extremely broken relations to other people. I don't think this is 'most'; I am actually rather optimistic about men, contrary to what might be implied here given it's such a dark topic.

Jaune is not an actual 'white knight', I'm sorry, that's absurd.

I know this topic annoyes you and ruins the sanctity of your channel so please ignore this. I don't want the discussion to ruin the your mood. I only sought to give you some context. That is all.

I don't lack context.

I know very well what is motivating this discussion. I also think it should be treated with the absurdity it deserves. I highly doubt my opinion is wanted by anonymous trolls, anyway, and as such I have not expanded beyond some earlier ask-response conversations (whence the topic of 'simp' arose). I have been accused of things I have not said and they have neither read nor comprehended any of my writings. They are not worth my time. I don't want to have feminist debates on my Tumblr blog. It is not open season on this shit. I want to make my dollies kiss in peace.

The sanctity of my blog isn't violated because I think that my ideals hold up against whatever nonsense some anon with a chip on his shoulder is peddling in my inbox.

I understand that you are trying to be helpful and you obviously have some measure of respect for my time so I appreciate that.

I realise that you said I don't have to respond to this - and I've now opened myself up for fire on the front of speaking on the topic of gender once again, I'm sure some anon will get pissy with me - but I was actually rather insulted by the notion that I don't fully understand what's going on. Lol. Trust me. I know.

Frankly, I don't agree with you, and so I figured it was worth responding. But, you are being kind and respectful, and to me that's worth more. Take care. Have a nice day.

Just no one please send me an ask about this topic ever again.

#seraphina's asks #user: anonymouse

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cherrywoes · 3 years

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cuddle headcanons. (ft. diluc and kaeya.)

title: cuddle headcanons

characters: diluc and kaeya (separate.)

fandom: genshin impact

requests: open.

rating: nice and fluffy

a/n: thank you @sullen-angel24! i'm glad to see you in my ask box dear! <3 istg kaeya's was throwing me for a loop so i went with my best interpretation of his personality and in-game actions thus far. i'm a kaeya main and i struggle to write him smh. anyway! i hope you enjoy it! <3

diluc: cuddle headcanons

i feel like diluc would be one of those people who are intentionally a little skittish around intimate contact of any kind, but secretly loves it on the inside,,,

like there are only so many ways he can express his emotions through his words, usually which come out either wrong or not quite what he meant, so he can convey his emotions better through small actions, whether that be a hug or something else *wink wonk*

but on a more serious note, i do believe diluc is an actions over words kind of guy. he values actions over words, at least, because they mean more to him than anything you could say in the long run.

so cuddling with diluc would more than likely be a "behind close doors" affair, so to speak, he isn't fond of public affection and would much prefer it to be on his terms in a place where he feels safe.

that said!

cuddling with diluc is like cuddling with a heater. it can be comfy, depending on the weather (dragonspine) or it can be absolutely awful depending on the heat (mondstadt or liyue), but either way, the man runs pretty hot on a regular basis due to his abilities, so cool clothing--or none at all--is a must.

diluc very rarely wears much of anything because of it (this is if nighttime cuddles are a thing) so you'd have to be comfortable with an unusual amount of skinship with him. at first he might be a little wary and wear clothes, for propriety's sake, but would quickly grow weary of the whole thing and be as comfortable as possible.

since diluc has strong upper body strength (he has to, being a claymore wielder) he has a rather firm grip when it comes to holding you to his chest. it is pleasant and comfortable, not too hard and not too loose, but just enough to where you can feel comforted and protected--which is the goal.

if you are ever in distress, tired, sad, or anything at all, you can always track down diluc at the dawn winery and know he'll be ready to offer cuddles at a moment's notice, but only because it's you.

play with his hair. do it. he says he doesn't like it but he does. do it when he turns his back to you and just cuddle him from behind and run your fingers through his scalp, twist his hair into braids, muse it thoroughly--he'll be much more compliant and at ease than if you hadn't.

his favorite cuddling position is when he's on his back and you're snuggled right up to his side, resting your cheek somewhere between his shoulder and chest and a leg thrown over his hips, comfortable and leisurely. especially in the mornings, when neither of you have nowhere to go immediately and can just sit and bask in each other's presence.

his second favorite would probably be face to face but it's rare that it happens because he'd much prefer the first. he enjoys just flicking his gaze over your face if you've fallen asleep, or just staring into your eyes in general if you're awake, feeling as if his stare alone could convey the many words he would never say.

at the end of the day, diluc is a pretty soft boi with a fairly rough background so handle his heart with care please!

kaeya: cuddle headcanons

the opposite of diluc, i think kaeya would be opposed to any kind of skinship--for the most part. while he certainly appreciates a good hug or pat on the shoulder here and there, he's averse to contact for extended periods of time lasting longer than maybe a few minutes.

he is able to express himself more thoroughly with his words, i believe, than his actions, because his actions can be easily misconstrued, as past actions indicate. *cough* so he much prefers verbal affirmations to physical ones, but however, if the traveler (yourself) is more skewed towards physical affection, he supposes he can't complain, since it's you, after all.

with kaeya, you would have to start out small; lingering touches, never fully encompassing or heavy, but light and delicate. get him used to your extended presence, so to speak, and he'll be more inclined to be touchier because, despite what he says or indicates with body language, he does crave that interaction with you even if his mind vehemently opposes it.

in a compromise, he'll sit as close to you as possible, but the rest will ultimately be up to you.

cuddling with kaeya, at first, is a bit of an awkward thing. he isn't sure what he wants, so he tries to do what is natural--deflect with flirtatious comments and fond words, distracting you from his uncomfortableness, but you see right through it.

over time, as he grows more accustomed to it, he grows clingier, even going as far as cuddling you in public spaces. the knights of favonius' hq has never known him to be as close as he is to you at any given time.

if he's working late and refuses to come home, you can easily wedge yourself into his lap on his chair and cuddle him that way, which is counterproductive since he can't resist when you do that.

because he runs quite cool, being a cryo user, he's the best to have during mondstadt heatwaves or impromptu trips to liyue. he sleeps with several blankets so if you end up having a cuddle session before bed, either wear cool clothes or be prepared to sleep naked (not that he would mind). *wink wink nudge nudge*

he's a blanket hoarder and collects blankets. you can't persuade me otherwise. i will die on this hill.

in an interesting turn, he doesn't like his hair played with, but he will play with yours, although not in the neat and pretty designs you probably would. usually it ends up knotted and matted worse than before if you came off of a mission, because while his touch is playful, it more than often comes with disastrous consequences.

his favorite position is cuddled up behind you, as close as he can be, with an arm under your head and another wrapped around your waist, his hand close to your heart. you can either hold that hand or reach up and stroke your fingers down his arm and he'll be happy. bonus points if you twine your legs together with his, he loves that.

his second favorite is less of a cuddle and more of a bear hug; specifically, more like a koala hug. it's less of an intimacy thing and more of a "i enjoy being greeted this way" thing, especially if he's the one coming back from a lengthy trip or mission. just leap on him and hold tight with your arms and legs (don't kill the poor bby tho) and he feels loved and appreciated and actually wants to return to you than mondstadt.

kaeya, when all is said and done, yearns for affection and affirmation, so be careful with him; he does, despite what he claims, breaks easily.

#genshin impact #headcanons #diluc headcanons #kaeya headcanons #diluc x reader #diluc x traveler #kaeya x reader #kaeya x traveler #genshin impact diluc #genshin impact kaeya

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doodlebloo · 3 years

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That's actually one of the things I find worrying about ranboo as a cc. I totally agree with you that there should be instances when a streamer just says - listen I dont know enough about this to speak on it or just extracts themselves from the conversation but ranboos complete avoidance of controversial stuff can be kind of a detriment to him.

Because whenever he does end up doing something wrong a lot of his devoted fans lose it really easily. Like with the dressing like a lesbian comment which could've resulted in a tiny clarification tweet from most creators needed a full somber stream from him. Or his inability to stream with controversial creators, fundy mentioned him not coming onto his stream once and so many folk on twitter were cheering ranboo on for supposedly hating who they hate despite the fact that they're long time friends.

I just feel that ranboo is inadvertently allowing himself to be put on a bit of a pedestal where people feel like he's a perfect person who agrees with all of their personal stances and never makes mistakes and when he eventually does stumble it's a lot further for him to fall than it is for most streamers.

^^^ Very much agree.

It's a bit of a double-edged sword, because obviously the longer he goes without making many huge mistakes, the more people will misconstrue that to mean that he'll never ever make any mistakes and then will demonize him the first time he has a really huge misstep.

A lot of Ranboo's fans are very young and very online, meaning that the reason some of (not all of) his fans like him is simply BECAUSE he hasn't done anything "bad" yet, which obviously is bad for both of them - Ranboo will receive hate and lose fans the first time he slips up, and his fans are just sitting and waiting for him to make a mistake.

It sucks because by all accounts it is a very good thing for Ranboo to be such a thoughtful cc, for him to take others' feelings into account and try and keep himself educated on things and such, like that's very kind and noble of him. Him being placed on a pedestal is an unintended side effect, and while it is a terrible thing to have happen to him, that doesn't mean he should STOP being mindful of what he says onstream (not accusing you of saying that, just making my own separate point here :])

I feel like this is the sort of thing that will get better with time, if only because Ranboo will naturally decline in popularity as time goes on. (And between you and me, I'm sort of looking forward to the streamers getting a bit less popular so they don't have as many things to worry about, but I digress.)

At the end of the day Ranboo can take care of himself and I wouldn't feel right trying to speculate about how I think he feels about all of this. I agree that it sucks for him to be put on a pedestal and be touted as some perfect person who has all the "right" opinions and can do no wrong, and I really hope he's able to strike a balance between genuine thoughtfulness in what he says/does and avoiding things just because he thinks he'll get "in trouble" - still being conscious of the effect his words/actions have without sacrificing his own wants for that, if that makes sense!

#again let me know if this is weird or parasocial to talk abt and i will delete it but the topic is interesting #and im not trying to speak for ranboo OR be critical of him if anythng this is crit of the fanbase #the sentiment i expressed in my original post was just about how sometimes it is refreshig for a streamer to just Not talk abt somethin yk #bc there are some topics (such as colonizers killing natives) that really just dont have any place on a stream you know like #it isnt censoring yourself it's just avoiding an unnecessarily dark topic that you arent qualified to speak on #and its comforting knowing that Ranboo wont say controversial things just for the sake of saying them #like he shouldnt HAVE to be THIS careful about what he says by all means he should say what he wants and not feel that much pressure #but i just find it sort of comforting that he very obviously thinks before he speaks/is thoughtful about how his words affect others yk?#you are very right tho anon this was a good point #anon #asks

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asmo-ds · 3 years

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Right??? *Sigh* I treat characters I love as if they were... Y'know, people to an extent, they're very important to me. Idk how I'd handle a large influx of new fans treating them without respect, but I'm trying so hard to be positive. I want more people to love and see them. I want the VAs to get more roles because I care about them! But as someone who views the whole lot of them as like, comfort characters? I'm so scared of how people will treat them or even like... Treat me?

A lot of neurodivergent people (such as myself) get into these kinds of fandoms and when they get put out to a wider audience it's like trying to mix a bunch of random chemicals and hoping whatever happens, no one gets hurt.

I really don't want to see this crash and burn, I know OM isn't just my safe space and I don't want to see anyone leave out of stress. I've seen it with so many fandoms and I don't want to add this to the list of things I no longer find joy in.

On like a sidebar I'm especially afraid because I'm really attached to Levi and I am terrified of his character being misconstrued and I can just see how it would go down. People don't understand characters like him. He's odd, he won't necessarily appeal to the neurotypical masses and as someone who really relates to him, seeing how people treat him will really affect me personally. I don't want to hear a massive influx of people calling him a lolicon or like, saying how people shouldn't like certain characters or start cancelling the game or something. Especially right now bc this is like, my only interest. 🐍

you did it

you put everything i wasn’t able to vocalize into words

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reasonsilovemywife · 4 years

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Buckle up, I've got something to say

Most of you will ignore this post. I hope that you take time to read it, especially my white friends and colleagues...

I've hesitated to really speak my mind on the murder of Armaud Arbery, the murder of George Floyd, and the aftermath of these murders. I opted to not watch the videos of their murders, of their last breaths. I opted not to watch because it will only piss me off even more. I know the outcome without watching. I've seen it over and over again. I don't need to see it over and over again, again. I've hesitated because I feel helpless. I've spoken against racism almost my whole life, at least since high school. And what has that changed? Have I really made things better? Have I done all I can to end racism? I've felt outnumbered, I've felt intimidated, I remember feeling what my heart tells me is right being contrary to what others tell me is right.

Maybe I could've communicated better, but lacked the ability or lacked the information that would be more persuasive. Maybe I could have organized better, but lacked the commitment or the access or knowledge. Or maybe they just lacked the empathy for their fellow man. I still, vividly, remember the first time I saw racism play out in front of my very eyes. Innocence lost. It's still painful to this day. I've said in the past, as long as racist parents raise racist children, racism will never go away. But even worse, racism isn't just anecdotal, it isn't just individual-based. It is systemic. It has been woven into our institutions and structures over such a long period of time that it is subtle to someone who is not directly affected by it.

I feel helpless because of "all the progress that's been made", at times it feels like no progress has been made. In the 50s and 60s, it was Emmett Till, four little girls (Addie May Collins, Carol Denise McNair, Cynthia Wesley, and Carole Rosamond Robertson), Willie Edwards, Jr., Cpl. Roman Ducksworth, Jr., Jimmie Lee Jackson and many others. In this past decade, it's been Tamir Rice, Trayvon Martin, Eric Garner, the Charleston Nine (Clementa Pinckney, Cynthia Marie Graham Hurd, Susie Jackson, Ethel Lee Lance, Depayne Middleton-Doctor, Tywanza Sanders, Daniel Simmons, Sharonda Coleman-Singleton, Myra Thompson), Philando Castille, Armaud Arbery, George Floyd, and once again, many others. So when we continually see these killings play out, the progress that has been made can feel hollow and inadequate.

Just like my words on a Facebook and Tumblr post can feel. And that's mostly all I have to offer, words. I can post and opine on Facebook / Tumblr all day, but is that really going to change anything? That's why I feel helpless. During my career at UPS I was hopeful to get involved in the community, to help underprivileged children, to help the homeless, and to get involved with anti-racist organizations in order to contribute to a better, more equitable and more harmonious community. But the truth is, I just worked. I just worked 70+ hours per week for a corporation that pays me for 50 hours per week, but expects me to do more and work longer if needed. But I digress. Yet, this leads to a lack of time and a lack of energy, and that's why I feel helpless.

I feel helpless because too many white people are dismissive on the issues of race. It doesn't negatively affect white people, so there's no need to get involved, right? This is one of the most obvious proofs of white privelege. And that's precisely the reason you should fight for social justice for minorities. If you don't want to be considered a racist, then stop looking the other way, stop benefiting from white privilege then deny that white privilege exists, stop acting as if "reverse racism" is equal to or worse than racism against minorities. If you don't want to be considered a racist, then care, act and live as if you're not a racist.

If you're response to "Black Lives Matter" is "All Lives Matter" instead of "Yes, They Do", then you are part of the problem and are clearly missing the point. Stop dismissing racism as a problem Black people (and other minorities) have to deal with. It's our responsibility as White people to end racism, not theirs. They're the victims of racism in America, not the perpetrators. So fix your damn self. Stop being tolerant. Stop being complacent. Stop being dismissive. Stop acting as if it's not your problem, because it is 100% your problem. My problem. Our problem. The problem is you've benefited from it, I've benefited from it. We've benefited from white supremacy our entire lives, and usually don't even recognize it. How could we, it's normal to us - although it should be abnormal. If you don't believe racism in America is systemic and intentional, study up on redlining, study up on the inception of policing in the South, study up on the educational, financial, and even medical care disparities during segregation and how it still affects us today.

Also, stop with all the generalizations. That goes for everyone. Stop painting everything and everyone with such a broad brush just because you're too lazy or too simple to actually learn and discern. Humanity is not a monolith. People groups are not a monolith. All Black people are not the same, all white people are not the same, all law enforcement are not the same, all protesters are not the same, etc., etc. There are good and bad in all things, including humanity. I know for a fact that there are good, moral, heroic police officers out there, because I have family and friends who are those good police officers. I also know for a fact that there are crooked, corrupt, criminal police officers out there. Those are the ones that I am against, those are the ones we all should be against, especially the good cops out there. You can be fully supportive of LE and also be fully supportive of the arrest and conviction of dirty cops. It's not mutually exclusive. Also, don't confuse the peaceful protesters with the looters, they are not the same people. People marching, holding up signs are not the same people as the ones damaging property.

Speaking of protesting, if you've never protested, please stop telling other people how to protest. How would you know the right way to protest, you've never needed to. Although I wasn't a huge fan of Kaepernick, his peaceful protest was just, but it made "us" uncomfortable so "we" hated him for it. He literally stated that he was protesting police brutality and racial injustice and literally stated that he was not protesting the military, not protesting the flag, but you hated him for it and, with the assistance of this ignorant ass president of ours, Kaep's mission was tainted, blurred, misconstrued.

Now, a lot of us our finally opening our eyes that he was right all along.

Speaking of Trump, can we get him off Twitter, at least until we can get him out of the White House. This dude has quoted white supremacists multiple times, then when questioned about it, acts as if he had no idea. Multiple times. He takes no responsibility for his actions. It would take less than two minutes for him to Google before posting. He's blatantly ignorant at the least. And don't come at me about the economy, the economy has been steadily improving since 2010 but y'all didn't want to acknowledge that until Orangina got in office. But let me get off politics because I'm not supporting Biden's stupid ass either. It would be nice if we had a worthy candidate, a dream deferred.

Although I feel helpless at times, I won't give up. I still have hope for the future. But the future starts now, it starts with us. Have empathy, be sincere, treat people as you would have them treat you. That's a good starting point, but remember, that's just the starting point.

#WeveGotWorkToDo

#BlackLivesMatter

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