Just saying, Mirabel is a much better woman than I am. Like, if I were her after the movie ended no one would be able to tell me shit. "Oh, you wanna tell me to clean my room?? Which one?!?! This is MY HOUSE! I'M THE REASON IT EXISTS, PUT SOME RESPECT ON MY NAME!"

A time ago when everyone hyped for Encanto I remember seeing a post that said that Mirabel was a better character than Midoriya and that if she were in Midoriya's place she would have ended up hugging Bakugou. I feel that there is a lot to say about this, first of all I remember how the English fandom of Encanto criticized that the issue of Grandma's mistreatment was not addressed and that it was only solved with a hug (USA) and on their part I remember that fandom Latino responded that they should stop projecting its own family culture in what would be the dynamics of a Latina family. The truth is that as a latina I can say that it's true that culturally we have the family as a very important value, our relationships between parents and children are usually very close and the quarrels of grandchildren and grandparents are usually something beautiful because practically grandchildren are something to consent for grandmothers. What I want to get at is that our family relationships are close and we consider them very important to the point of justifying "you have to help because it's family". However, this type of mentality should change when it comes to factors such as neglect and mistreatment by someone towards another and that is precisely what the grandmother did with Bruno and Maribel, even considering the trauma, she took away one of her children by point of kicking him out of the family because his gift was inconvenient and she alienated Maribel to the point of alienating her from family events, all this is wrong and it's okay if people hold a grudge or deserve reparation. A better movie about family dynamics, effects and generational trauma is Turning red, here Mei confronts her mother, her mistakes aren't swept under the rug and especially because we understand her mother's attitude, there is a sincere apology and the mother shows progress in improving her relationship with her daughter.

What I'm trying to get at with this is that there is no such thing as giving Bakugou a hug or Midoriya being guilty of their relationship because he wasn't able to understand him, the victim isn't the one who should help his abuser to improve, the victim isn't the one who must sympathize with the abuser to the point of justifying the abuse suffered. Midoriya isn't a better or worse character because his relationship with Bakugou is dysfunctional, in his own way even since he entered the UA he has tried to improve his relationship with Bakugou, but it's Bakugou who has problems with him, not vice versa. But above all the traumas and problems of one aren't a free pass to mistreat others, people aren't stress relievers and Bakugou was never justified in his actions just because he had an inferiority complex, he crossed the limit at the time who started harassing and hurting Midoriya and continue to do so even in the AU and in his redemption arc he still does and is disguised as humor. I think what I'm trying to get that Midoriya doesn't owe Bakugou anything, he doesn't owe his forgiveness, he doesn't owe gratitude for being treated as a human being and that Bakugou considers him a friend isn't a prize, Bakugou was his abuser , it isn't about understanding and embracing your abuser because he suffers, the victims deserve more than this or that the responsibility for the abuse received is attributed to them.

I agree with all of this. Can’t add anything else. And as a Latino I also get what you mean when you talk about the culture.