I've literally seen someone respond to a joke picture involving a vibrator (the one with a sickle and vibrator) with “ummmm well sex toys are Individualist and a commoditization of natural human sexuality, they isolate and disconnect us from other people :/”

related are the longstanding cis feminist hangups around various sex toys being Phallic, “centering penises”, “identifying with Male Consumption of women's sexuality”, “making sex between women about penises and therefore about men”, etc.—unfortunately with the rejoinder from other cis feminists often failing to reject the [obviously transmisogynistic and stupid] premise itself, instead only disagreeing along the lines of “no, dildos and straps aren't anything like penises, they don't have anything to do with penises, which means they're fine [but penises are still innately bad and unfeminist etc.]”

pretty bleak 🤪