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1200.

Are you an only child? >> I was raised like one, since my half-siblings were all decades older than me.

When was the last time you were sick? >> Monday-Tuesday. Fascinating how I've already been sick twice this year, when usually I am sick no times a year.

Do you like the color pink? >> I love the colour pink.

Do you take vitamins? >> I do not.

Where was your last kiss? .

Did/do you like high school? >> I enjoyed almost nothing about high school. What are you wearing? >> Black undershirt, Stitch lounge pants.

What health problems run in your family? .

How old will you be in 5 years? >> 41. Where did you last go on vacation? >> Vacations are not a thing for my household, we're in a low income bracket. The last time we went somewhere for a little trip, though, was in April -- Indianapolis, for the Dethklok show. Almost all of that was funded by Sparrow's mother, as usual.

Ever have an eating disorder? >> No.

What sports do you play? . What quality is most important in a person? .

Who’s your bf/gf? . What’s your favorite Ben and Jerry’s ice cream? . Do you usually wear your hair up or down? .

What TV show do you watch the most? >> I'm always watching several TV shows at a time, but I don't know how to quantify which one I am watching "the most".

Do you have a cat? >> I don’t. Sparrow does.

Do you like polka dots? >> I do not.

Have you ever been to Paris? >> I have not.

How do you feel lately? >> Hungry. Deeply, maddeningly hungry. One day I'll be able to actually eat food again...

Have you ever had surgery? >> I have not. Like any reality shows? >> I am not currently watching any, but there are some I enjoy.

What color do you dye your hair? .

What are you best at? .

What are you worst at? .

Do you like men in suits? >> I like some suits. As long as they're not American fit, basically -- I hate that boxy look.

What’s your favorite season? >> It's summer when I live in a colder region (like here) and spring otherwise, I suppose.

Did you drink last New Year’s? >> I did not. I don't do anything on New Year's anymore, I just go to bed like normal.

Did you like The Passion of the Christ? >> I have not seen it.

Which of the seven deadly sins fits you the best? >> Pride, I suppose. What do people compliment you the most on? .

Is your house two stories? >> It is. We occupy the ground floor.

Do you like Carlos Mencia? >> Haven't heard that name in ages. Am not interested in revisiting his work, though.

What word or phrase annoys you the most? >> For some reason I have a strong aversion to the word "wholesome". I just hate everything about it.

Did it rain today? >> It did not.

What did you eat for lunch? >> I didn't eat lunch because I can barely eat anything at all. I just had a bunch of crackers throughout the day. Oh, and an applesauce pouch and some unadorned toast, you know... for variety... *mimes shooting myself* Do you go hunting? >> I do not.

Have you ever wanted to be a ballerina? >> I have not.

Are you in a band? >> I am not. Where did you last have sex? >> Inworld.

Did you ever want to be an astronaut? >> I did want this, once. The only reason I stopped wanting it is because space travel in its current state is wildly inaccessible to me no matter which way you cut it.

Who was the last person to ‘give you butterflies?’ .

What book are you currently reading? >> A Kiss of Shadows by Laurell K. Hamilton. <3

What’s the last party you attended? >> A child's birthday party. Do you wear a lot of black? >> I do. Not as much as we used to, but still a majority amount.

Do you have your own computer? >> I have two, in fact. It astounds me too. Have you ever had fake nails? >> I have, and I don't favour it. What’s the last movie you saw in theaters? >> Whoof... The Blackening, almost a whole ass year ago. I'm really hoping to get to see Furiosa, because this streak has got to end.

What movie do you want to see? >> Furiosa.

Are you trick or treating this year? >> I have never done this.

What month were you born in? >> May.

Whats your birthstone? >> Emerald. I think.

Do you like where you live? >> Not especially. If I think about where I live for too long I start to feel like I'm falling into an abyss.

Where do you work? >> I don’t. If you could kill someone, how would you do it? >> I'm inclined towards intimate, visceral methods. Stabbing is so intensely euphemistic that I think that's probably the method I'd favour most. But there are some really inventive ways to kill people, I wouldn't want to limit myself.

Are women complicated? >> Everyone's complicated, bitch, let's get you some fruit.

Do you put the lid back on the toothpaste? >> I do. I didn't even realise anyone doesn't. How long have you known your best friend? .

What’s something people criticize you the most for? .

Do you get along better with your mom or dad? . Do you read classic literature? >> I'm sure some of the books I've enjoyed could be considered "classics".

Could you be a hermit? >> I don't think so. The way society and the economy is structured constantly makes me feel like I don't have a place in it and that I should live apart from it, sure, but unfortunately I would die if I had to live completely on my own.

Are you religious? >> I am. Not quite in the way that people mean when they ask this, but I am.

Why did your last relationship end? . Who do you trust the most? >> Can Calah.

What site do you visit the most? >> This week, it's been YouTube. I've watched so many YouTube videos just because I haven't had the energy to do much else.

Do you have a Deviant Art account? >> I have three of them. Two of them are defunct (I probably couldn't even get back into them if I tried), and the most recent one is just so I can look at Mature Content or whatever. I don't post on it or anything. Have you read Death Note? >> Way, way back in the day.

Do you have a blacklight? >> I do not. How old where you when you lost your virginity? . How often do you wash your sheets? >> Every other week.

Do anything productive today? >> I tried out a different food other than fucking crackers (cornflakes, with a small amount of almond milk), I played some Grim Dawn (god, Elite difficulty is kicking my ass... where the fuck are the gear drops that I can actually use? spare a gear drop plz?), I watched a movie (Scream, finally, and it actually is as good as everyone says it is, surprisingly), and I watched some YouTube including finding and starting a new LP (Kingdom Hearts: Chain of Memories). I also put my clean laundry away. Is Uma Thurman’s face annoying? >> That's... so specific. what did Uma Thurman's face do to you

How are your grades? .

Most tedious/annoying class? .

Did you skip class today? . Who do you love? .

Would you move anywhere for someone you love? .

Are spiders scary? >> Not as a rule. But there are definitely some spiders out there that I wouldn't want to meet in a dark alley.

Cheetos. Poofy or regular? .

What color are your eyes? >> Dark brown. What shampoo do you use? >> Cantu brand, usually the guava ginger variety.

How old are you? >> 36, for 72 more hours. Whats your favorite music genre? >> I suppose that's metal, since that's what I seem to get the most consistent joy out of listening to.

What’s a total deal breaker in a potential bf/gf? .

You’re at Starbucks. What do you order? >> I'd rather go to a local place if I'm in the position to buy a coffee drink.

Wendy’s or McDonald’s? >> I haven't had Wendy's in ages. McDonald's on the other hand surprised me last weekend with their blatant Popeye's dupe. It was actually edible.

#there are 1200 surveys on this blog? god damn #surveys #survey #random survey

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skyofinfinitestars · 6 years

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“House on a Rock”: Reflecting on how our personal philosophies are rooted in basic ideas, and how it is possible to change that foundation for God

“How does your positionality bias your epistemology?”

That was the title of the first essay I had to read for class, which I would need to write a response paper to. I probably read this title four times over before thinking “ok. I’m not ready for grad school. Fuck me.”

Thankfully the author of the essay explained what that question meant in English: how does “who you are”, your background and experiences, affect how you view the world?

Basically it was a call for the reader to examine their own biases, and why they hold the assumptions that they do. Ended up making for an easier response essay.

Around this time I was being more active on the sub again and had run into a homophobe. By that I mean someone who thinks “homophobia” isn’t real, and who spends most of his time on Reddit throwing slurs around on the_Donald. Whose entire account seemed to be based around how much he hated queer people.

Scrolling through his account on my phone I felt my entire being tense up. This wasn’t anything new, these people exist all over online and I’d run into a lot of them growing up. Thankfully I’m older now and at a point where these things don’t affect me like they used to.

Even so, he was just another bigot. Another dick online. I hate people like him, I thought, god I fucking hate people like you.

In our back and fourth of him showing off the levels of horrible opinions he held, and me trying to come off as condescending and dismissive, he started opening up about another issue and for some reason I invited him to PM me about it.

In private messages, he was a completely different person. He told me about how his parents hadn’t raised him well, how he’s always angry, how he hates himself for looking at porn, how he’s stressed about college, isn’t sure if he likes his classes, and hasn’t made friends because the environment isn’t very social. He feels that there’s nothing that gives him joy except porn and he hated that his life has become so empty.

And I was scared because this person sounds a lot like myself.

When I was in high school I wasn’t really...popular. I guess. I wasn’t attractive, I wasn’t in shape, and I was gay but kept that hidden (some people could tell it in my voice and all kinds of rumors spread about me). I’d heard people behind my back saying I was annoying, and gay, and that they wanted me to shut up. I tried being funny to get people to like me. If I made them laugh they’d like me. Sometimes I’d joke about other people’s looks and mannerisms.

On the I side I was filled with a lot of hate. I hated the “popular” people and how they were always going on about drinking and drugs and sex. Part of me was jealous that I was “missing out” on all three. But it felt better to judge them for it. I hated girls. I’d never say that outright but I grabbed onto sexist ideas of women from seeing other guys online say horrible things. I kind of resented them because they were a reminder that I’d never live a “normal” life. I thought a lot of people at my school were vapid and that I was smarter than most. I felt like I didn’t have any friends so I thought that most people had “fake” friends.

I was filled with so much hate for myself, the only way I could cope with it was to throw it into others and assume the worst in everyone I knew. Because I was always talking bad about people behind their back, I assumed they were doing the same for me.

One time I was walking in the cafeteria and my eyes met a guy who was laughing devilishly with his friend. They both looked at me and went back to laughing. There was nothing to suggest they were laughing at me. They were most likely not aware of me at all. But my first thought was that they had heard something about me and were laughing at me. I went to the bathroom and cried.

I didn’t realize it until college, but one major factor to my constant depression was the assumption no one liked me, and that everyone was horrible. This foundational idea was the source of a lot of other ideas and assumptions about the world that would eventually trickle down into maintaining a negative outlook and personality.

And I could see something similar going on in this online “bully”. I noticed that whenever he talked about any individual or group of people, he would always pair them with a negative adjective. He couldn’t even say anything positive about our President...he supported the President but he would show his support by degrading others around him in news stories. He could only describe people in negative terms.

Of course he wasn’t doing that on purpose or with intention, instead I think this is revealing something deeper. In talking about him and his life he’d pointed out that he is Reformed Christian, and I can’t help think that combining “Total Depravity” with the cruel ways his parents raised him [he didn’t share any details of course] could have lead him to create “everyone is evi no matter what” as the foundation of his outlook. And it would explain why he has so much self hatred for looking at porn, and why he describes any sinner as “degenerate” or “barbaric” or “depraved”. I think that he is so caught up in hate that he hasn’t internalized the loving forgiveness of God.

How can I pretend to be better? Sure I don’t throw around slurs, but my first reaction to him was “I hate you, I hate people like you”. How am I better if I reflect hate? Had I not invited him to reach out to me [on a whim], I wouldn’t be thinking about this stuff now. I’d go on praying and chatting with Christian friends and stuff and wouldn’t have thought I needed to change. How can I pretend to be better when I felt the same way about the world, and I had thrown out hate at others as well?

“So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” - John 8:7

In thinking about where our biases come from, how we grow up to view the world, I think about how easy it is to use experiences as the bases for our assumptions, and how we keep building assumptions based off of them.

Months ago I tried out a meditation place, and there the woman explained the process to me and the idea behind it. That there is one reality, objective reality, and then there are people, and because of our limited experiences we can’t observe objective reality without the filter of subjectivity, and our reaction to the world is rooted in our experiences. We look back at our memories of events and it’s normal for our memories to be distortions of what actually happened. So when thinking about ourselves, it is easy to make the mistake of thinking of our memories through a lens of negativity. If I assume “no one loves me”, and I look back at my memories through that lens, I’m going to “create” new impressions of memories and assume they all point to the “fact” that “no one loves me”.

And I think that’s why low self esteem makes it harder to break out of addiction. Any addiction you want; drinking, drugs, food, porn, internet...if you have the presupposition of “I’m a piece of shit who’s going to fail at life anyway”, then well you may as well reach for the bottle.

I came back to Christianity from a negative outlook on life, and realized that if I am going to serve God in a meaningful way then I would need to change the foundation of my personal philosophy to one that was more positive in ways that Jesus was “positive”. What I mean is, we are all sinners, so it is pointless for me look at others with cynical eyes as if I were any better than them. Instead, I need to look at others with forgiveness and compassion. I needed to love others as God loves me.

“Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.” - Matthew 18:21-22

A favorite idea that I learned from Orthodox theology is that everything Jesus did was an act of sanctification. For example, Jesus got Baptized, not because He had sins that needed washing away or anything, but because He is setting an example for us to live, and He is sanctifying the act of Baptism so it becomes a Sacrament.

Like how He sanctifies water, God sanctifies being human. Humans aren’t just humans. Because of Christ, we are now reflections of God, windows to the Divine.

We are Ikons of the Living Christ.

And so, for the purpose of having something direct, brief, but also concrete, the foundation of my philosophic outlook as a Christian is,

“I am an ikon of the living Christ”.

That has so many implications. That means I must work to reflect Christ in everything I say and do. That means that I must treat others with love as God loves us, and that means that everyone is sacred at their foundations, in spite of their flaws. That means limitless forgiveness. And more.

Not going to pretend like any of this is easy. It’s super easy to type and say. But it’s hard to internalize. It’s hard to actually forgive others, to look at someone who has wronged you or insulted you or has thrown so much hate at you and to reply “I forgive you”. Being loving to everyone is so difficult. But in making this the new foundation of my outlook, it has made it easier to deal with problems.

Of course when talking about stress and depression, changing your outlook isn’t going to solve all of your problems. It would be silly to say that all you need is an outlook change in order to overcome a mental disorder. But it does make it easier to cope. If I fall into a depressive state, I’m less inclined to think the worst about myself. I don’t even believe the thoughts I have in my head. “Nobody loves you”, I don’t even take that seriously anymore. My family loves me. My friends love me. God loves me. And I have to love them back.

This ended up much longer than I hoped, but this has been bugging me for a couple days. If you have been going through a rough time, or if you’ve “always” been in a rough time, then maybe self reflection is something you can do to work on coping with negative assumptions. Maybe you will realize that you’ve taken these assumptions for granted for so long that you have ignored other options. Maybe it will help you find more comfort and trust in Jesus.

No matter what, I hope this encourages more people to plant a new seed and let something beautiful grow.

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.” - Matthew 7: 24-27

#blog post #christianity #bible #loving kindness #homophobia #bullying

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09/06/2019 DAB Transcript

Song 1:1-4:16, 2 Corinthians 8:16-24, Psalms 50:1-23, Proverbs 22:22-23

Today is the 6th day of September. Welcome to the Daily Audio Bible. I am Brian. It is a pleasure and a joy to be here with you today as we take the next step forward, stepping forward into the back of this week for sure but stepping forward in the Scriptures and we’ve reached another special point in our year where we’re encountering some territory in the Old Testament that we haven’t encountered before. So, today and tomorrow we’ll be reading a book known as the song of Solomon or the song of songs, which is indeed a radical departure from the territory that we've been spending in Job and Ecclesiastes, which definitely took us deep into the idea of endurance and the reality of suffering as well as meaninglessness and chasing the wind. So, we’ve been in some unique territory that has allowed us to actually open up and think some things through that we normally avoid. However, moving into the song of Solomon is like putting on a completely different hat, like we’re going into completely different territory.

Introduction to the Song of Solomon:

This little work, this poem is short but it’s potent and its potently beautiful, and its part of the wisdom literature in the Bible. So, in this Song of Songs we’ll discover that human sexuality is indeed a celebrated part of the biblical narrative but this poem as many other layers. So, like from a literal perspective it's the story of the passionate consummation of love between a man and woman who are completely lost in each other. And just…if we just left that alone, if that's what this book means then it is a witness to marital love and the bliss of passionate physical relationship. So, it stands alone that way, but the ancient Jewish tradition looks at the poem allegorically. It's poetry, right? So, you can look at it poetically. So, from this perspective, the story that’s being told in the Song of Solomon reveals God's passionate love for his children, who are the Hebrew people and this view is totally, totally supportable in other areas of Scripture in both the old and the New Testaments. In the Christian tradition, the Song of Solomon's is an allegorical look at Christ's passionate love for His church and a foreshadowing of His desire for His bride. So, in this case, all of those can be true and we can just allow the Holy Spirit to lead us as we approach the Song of Songs because there's a number of lenses that we can we can look through. So, invite God as this is being read. But no matter how we approach the Solomon it's a very meaningful portion of Scripture that speaks to us on different levels. And since it is love poetry, it's become a tradition around here for my wife Jill to join me in the reading. There are male voices and female voices that occur in this poem. And, so, let’s drink deep of the beautiful poetry that we find in the Song of Solomon.

Prayer:

Thank You, Father. Thank You, Father for Your word. Thank You for the way that it just continues to touch different things in us, and it comes to us as a live thing as a friend who speaks the truth to us no matter what's going on in our lives. And, so, so many times we may come to the same passage and find it speaking something so much more poignant to where we are on any given day, and we thank You, we thank You for this guidance. And as we spend this time moving through the song of Solomon, come Holy Spirit, reignite our love, our love for our spouse, our love for You as our Father, our love for Jesus as our Savior knowing that as passionate as we can imagine being, our passion pales in comparison to Yours for us. And, so, we walk into Your embrace and it feels safe and it feels like home and we invite Your Holy Spirit to continue to lead us into all truth as You promised. We pray these things in the name of Jesus. Amen.

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Community Prayer and Praise:

Hello, I called last week just to let you guys know that I was nine days sober. I forgot to say my name, I’, Olia from Minnesota. Yeah, today is day 17. I have no idea how I’ve made it this long, it’s just God is the only thing I can think of. Yeah, I just want to thank Asia and I think her name was Polly from Alaska that said her daughter is nine years sober, I can’t even imagine that right now. Just such a blessing that I’ve been just sober this long. I don’t reorder the last time I’ve been this sober, especially over a holiday weekend. I also wanted to just say a prayer for little Sherry and your back pain. I completely understand that. I have a fully fused Spohn and that happened when I was a teenager and ai still del with chronic back pain. And, so, I’m sending prayer to you. Thank you. Bye.

Hey DAB family this is Stephanie and Oklahoma. I’m missing work today. I’m an RN at a local hospital and I’ve had return of panic attacks which I haven’t had to deal with in a number of years but six weeks ago my mom died, I just found out that my oldest son has lymphoma, medication that I’ve been on for decades stopped working and I got just really death oriented in my thinking, knew that that wasn’t good and sought help. And, so, in between all the circumstances I also…I’m going to medication changes. I’m just frustrated to still be dealing with this after decades of counseling, seeking God, that’s been the biggest thing. I just…I’ve begged Him to take this away from me, this anxiety disorder, always being on the lookout, always fight or flight. I had to quit working trauma ICU ER because I burned out with the same thing three years ago and I’ve been doing a relatively easy job and a recovery room. So, I just need prayer because that’s the only thing it’s ever gotten me through before and I know it’s the only thing that’s going to get me through now. I pray that you would ask for wisdom from the physicians that are treating me and that I would…it’s when it happens, my mind is pretty settled it’s just my body completely freaking out – vertigo, sweating, nausea. So, I just I need help guys. I’m not in a good place and I need to be in a better place. I’m supposed to go on a missions trip to Honduras in February. Thanks all.

Hi, this is Christine from Washington state and I just heard a woman call in that lost one of her dogs and she’s depressed and her other little dog is sad and she’s had a cancer scare and I just want to know I was busy doing something so I didn’t get your name but I am praying for you and you are loved and I’m praying for your marriage too. So, hang in there. Sometimes God brings us through bad things just to get closer to Him. So, your loved and being prayed for.

Good morning Daily Audio Bible community this is Diane Olive Brown calling from Newburgh Indiana. Shalom, shalom. Nothing is missing nothing is broken. Well, today is September 4th 2019 at 7:43 in the morning and I just finished reading September 1st 2019. I’m catching up but I’m getting closer and we just finished Job and oh my goodness, what a wonderful experience that’s been. What can I say? What can I say? Oh Father, forgive me, forgive me. I didn’t know what I was talking about. I didn’t know what I was doing. Forgive me. Well I just want to say I love this community so much. I appreciate how your helping me to grow up in Jesus to become a mature bride of Christ, to become His best friend. When you start out with these desires of your heart, you don’t even know what you’re asking for, to be God’s best friend? Thank you, Daily Audio Bible. Thank you. I just want to finish with [singing] thank You Jesus for the grace that You have given us when we could never repay…

Yes, this is Tammy and I have asked for prayer for my daughter Megan before on Daily Audio Bible and we need prayer yet again. She’s fought __ from breast cancer an aggressive form and then she had a bone marrow transplant because her breast cancer treatment caused her to have leukemia. And it was going well and last week they found new leukemia cells and she goes back into treatment. Lord, please, I ask that You would heal my daughter and Lord especially her heart that is hardened against You right now because she doesn’t believe that You have her good in mind and I ask the Daily Audio Bible community to pray with me for her heart to be bound for home in God’s heart and know the love that You have for her. And I’m asking for a miracle, that her body would be healed in Jesus’ name, completely every cell made whole, her heart and mind made whole. Would you please agree with me Daily Audio Bible community? I’m a pastor and Muncie Indiana and I pray that all who would see Megan’s healing would be the glory of the Lord and that many would be drawn to Him. So, please I ask that you would come with me in these prayers for my daughter and also for her boyfriend Aiden who’s walking with her but also is __ God. So, Lord I ask that You would make possible what seems impossible right now in Jesus’ name. Thank You.

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jayatisvaid · 4 years

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31 Motivational Quotes which help you to overcome Depression and Anxiety

In today’s world, people of all ages either they are male or female, older or child feel stress. In this present-day, anxiety disorders, depression is the most common mental illness across the country, with millions of adults infected every year.

Once in a while, we all go through a phase in life where we feel anxious about the things we are afraid of. It is perfectly normal to feel anxiety in some areas of your life but if this starts stopping you to enjoy your life then it becomes a burden.

The experts at APA define anxiety as “an emotion characterized by feelings of tension, worried thoughts and physical changes like increased blood pressure”.

People who don’t know about it or have never felt anxious in their life don’t know how blessed they are and they also don’t understand how it feels like to be against your own mind all the time.

Those who are going through anxiety disorders, panic attacks or depression only understand what they really are going through. If you know someone who going through it, be patient with them and lend them an ear. That will be really helpful.

You can also help them by sharing some of these anxiety and depression quotes. Words are more powerful than you can imagine. It can take one person to a place where they feel safe or really uncomfortable.

These anxiety and depression quotes will help you to find out more about it or the once who are already going through it, will help them to get relax for a while.

1. “Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength- carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”

― Corrie Ten Boom

2. “After all, what is happiness? Love, they tell me. But love doesn’t bring and never has brought happiness. On the contrary, it’s a constant state of anxiety, a battlefield; it’s sleepless nights, asking ourselves all the time if we’re doing the right thing. Real love is composed of ecstasy and agony.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Witch of Portobello

3. “Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.”

― Søren Kierkegaard, The Concept of Anxiety: A Simple Psychologically Orienting Deliberation on the Dogmatic Issue of Hereditary Sin

4. “To hear the phrase “our only hope” always makes one anxious, because it means that if the only hope doesn’t work, there is nothing left.”

― Lemony Snicket, The Blank Book

5. “If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath.”

― Amit Ray, Om Chanting and Meditation

6. “The more you pray, the less you’ll panic. The more you worship, the less you worry. You’ll feel more patient and less pressured.”

― Rick Warren, The Purpose of Christmas

7. “Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems”

― Epictetus

8. “Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.”

― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

9. “To venture causes anxiety, but not to venture is to lose one’s self…. And to venture in the highest is precisely to be conscious of one’s self.”

― Søren Kierkegaard

10. “Anxiety is love’s greatest killer. It makes others feel as you might when a drowning man holds on to you. You want to save him, but you know he will strangle you with his panic.”

― Anais Nin

Social Anxiety Quotes

11. “Don’t worry if people think you’re crazy. You are crazy. You have that kind of intoxicating insanity that lets other people dream outside of the lines and become who they’re destined to be.”

― Jennifer Elisabeth, Born Ready: Unleash Your Inner Dream Girl

12. “Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it.”

― Dorothy M. Neddermeyer

13. “Our anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strengths.”

― C. H. Spurgeon

14. “Do not let your difficulties fill you with anxiety, after all, it is only in the darkest nights that stars shine more brightly.”

― Ali Ibn Abi Talib AS

15. “Life is like a game of chess.

To win you have to make a move.

Knowing which move to make comes with IN-SIGHT

and knowledge, and by learning the lessons that are

acculated along the way.

We become each and every piece within the game called life!”

― Allan Rufus, The Master’s Sacred Knowledge

16. “I’ve spent most of my life and most of my friendships holding my breath and hoping that when people get close enough they won’t leave, and fearing that it’s a matter of time before they figure me out and go.”

― Shauna Niequist, Bittersweet: Thoughts on Change, Grace, and Learning the Hard Way

17. “Anxiety’s like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far.”

― Jodi Picoult, Sing You Home

18. “It’s OKAY to be scared. Being scared means you’re about to do something really, really brave.”

― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

19. “If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.”

― Brené Brown

20. “I want to be the best version of myself for anyone who is going to someday walk into my life and need someone to love them beyond reason.”

― Jennifer Elisabeth, Born Ready: Unleash Your Inner Dream Girl

Living with Anxiety – Short Quotes

21. “Feelings don’t try to kill you, even the painful ones. Anxiety is a feeling grown too large. A feeling grown aggressive and dangerous. You’re responsible for its consequences, you’re responsible for treating it. But…you’re not responsible for causing it. You’re not morally at fault for it. No more than you would be for a tumor.”

― Patrick Ness, The Rest of Us Just Live Here

22. “Anxiety was born at the very same moment as mankind. And since we will never be able to master it, we will have to learn to live with it—just as we have learned to live with storms.”

― Paulo Coelho, Manuscrito encontrado em Accra

23. “But I can hardly sit still. I keep fidgeting, crossing one leg and then the other. I feel like I could throw off sparks, or break a window–maybe rearrange all the furniture.”

― Raymond Carver, Where I’m Calling From New and Selected Stories

24. “Even if she be not harmed, her heart may fail her in so much and so many horrors; and hereafter she may suffer–both in waking, from her nerves, and in sleep, from her dreams.”

― Bram Stoker, Dracula

25. “It was that sort of sleep in which you wake every hour and think to yourself that you have not been sleeping at all; you can remember dreams that are like reflections, daytime thinking slightly warped.”

― Kim Stanley Robinson, Icehenge

26. “Chronic anxiety is a state more undesirable than any other, and we will try almost any maneuver to eliminate it. Modern man is living in anxious anticipation of destruction. Such anxiety can be easily eliminated by self-destruction. As a German saying puts it: ‘Better an end with terror than a terror without end.”

― Robert E. Neale, The Art of Dying

27. “I get so god damn lonely and sad and filled with regrets some days. It overwhelms me as I’m sitting on the bus; watching the golden leaves from a window; a sudden burst of realisation in the middle of the night. I can’t help it and I can’t stop it. I’m alone as I’ve always been and sometimes it hurts…. but I’m learning to breathe deep through it and keep walking. I’m learning to make things nice for myself. To comfort my own heart when I wake up sad. To find small bits of friendship in a crowd full of strangers. To find a small moment of joy in a blue sky, on a trip somewhere not so far away, a long walk an early morning in December or a handwritten letter to an old friend simply saying ”I thought of you. I hope you’re well.”

No one will come and save you. No one will come riding on a white horse and take all your worries away. You have to save yourself, little by little, day by day. Build yourself a home. Take care of your body. Find something to work on. Something that makes you excited, something you want to learn. Get yourself some books and learn them by heart. Get to know the author, where he grew up, what books he read himself. Take yourself out for dinner. Dress up for no one but you and simply feel nice. it’s a lovely feeling, to feel pretty. You don’t need anyone to confirm it.

I get so god damn lonely and sad and filled with regrets some days, but I’m learning to breathe deep through it and keep walking. I’m learning to make things nice for myself. Slowly building myself a home with things I like. Colors that calm me down, a plan to follow when things get dark, a few people I try to treat right. I don’t sometimes, but it’s my intent to do so. I’m learning.I’m learning to make things nice for myself. I’m learning to save myself.

I’m trying, as I always will.”

― Charlotte Eriksson, Everything Changed When I Forgave Myself: growing up is a wonderful thing to do

28. “How can a person deal with anxiety? You might try what one fellow did. He worried so much that he decided to hire someone to do his worrying for him. He found a man who agreed to be his hired worrier for a salary of $200,000 per year. After the man accepted the job, his first question to his boss was, “Where are you going to get $200,000 per year?” To which the man responded, “That’s your worry.”

― Max Lucado

29. “It did what all ads are supposed to do: create an anxiety relievable by purchase.”

― David Foster Wallace, Infinite Jest

30. “Some people feel guilty about their anxieties and regard them as a defect of faith. I don’t agree at all. They are afflictions, not sins. Like all afflictions, they are, if we can so take them, our share in the Passion of Christ”

― C.S. Lewis, Letters to Malcolm: Chiefly on Prayer

Inspirational quotes for anxiety sufferers

31. “Life is like a sandwich!

Birth as one slice,

and death as the other.

What you put in-between

the slices is up to you.

Is your sandwich tasty or sour?

― Allan Rufus

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What is wrong with looking at pornography? It’s not like you’re getting a girl pregnant or spreading STDs.

When Jesus warned that anyone who looks lustfully at a woman commits sin with her in his heart (Matt. 5:28), He spelled it out in no uncertain terms that it is not enough to avoid pregnancy or STDs. It is not even enough to avoid impure sexual contact; we must also resist impure sexual thoughts and looks.

The problem with using pornography is that it emasculates men, degrades women, destroys marriages, and offends the Lord. You may be thinking: “That’s going a little overboard, don’t you think? I mean, what’s wrong with checking out a few Internet sites?” Take a look at the effects of pornography, and you will see why real men do not use it.

What does pornography do to a man? For starters, because it cripples his ability to love, it robs him of the capacity to be a man. The essence of manhood consists in readiness to deny oneself for the good of a beloved. This is why Saint Paul reminds husbands in his Letter to the Ephesians that their love must be like that of Christ, who allowed Himself to be crucified for the sake of His beloved, the Church (Eph. 5:21–33).

Pornography defeats this calling. Instead of denying himself for the good of the woman, a man, through the use of porn, denies the woman her dignity in order to satisfy his lust. In essence, pornography is a rejection of our calling to love as God loves. It is no wonder that those who use it are never satisfied. Only love satisfies. One marriage therapist noted, “People who use pornography feel dead inside, and they are trying to avoid being aware of that pain. There is a sense of liberation, which is temporary: that’s why pornography is so repetitive—you have to go back again and again.” Her insights are well understood by those who have felt entrapped by the allure of lust. One recovering porn addict admitted that viewing pornography “brings intense disappointment, precisely because it is not what I’m really searching for. It’s rather like a hungry person standing outside the window of a restaurant, thinking that they’re going to get fed.”

In a way, the fact that pornography allows men to indulge their lust without having to worry about pregnancy or STDs is part of the problem. It encourages him to live in a world in which sexuality offers only pleasure without meaning or consequences, in which “no one gets pregnant, no one catches a disease, no one shows signs of guilt, fear, remorse, embarrassment, or distrust. No one suffers from the sexual activities of others and the men, at least, are always carefree, unrestrained…. The priority of lovingly protecting one’s partner is of little concern in pornography because no harm seems possible.” Living in a world of fantasy allows a guy to escape from reality and evade the demands of authentic love. Therefore, it does not liberate him. It enslaves him.

Put simply, pornography is the renunciation of love. As the writer Christopher West said, “[Pornography] seeks to foster precisely those distortions of our sexual desires that we must struggle against in order to discover true love.” For the person who indulges in porn, the purpose of sex becomes the satisfaction of the erotic “needs,” not the communication of life and love. Pornography trains a man to value a woman only for what she gives him rather than for the person she is. Because he is so focused on what he is getting, he doesn’t learn to give.

Some guys will slough this all off, saying, “Boys will be boys,” or “I’m just appreciating the beauty of womanhood,” or, “I like the articles in the magazine.” Sometimes they will realize how unconvincing these arguments are, and they will become resentful, saying, “You want to repress sexuality and rob women of their freedom. It’s unhealthy for you to have such little appreciation for women!” This defensive attitude is apparent in the way strip clubs advertise themselves as “gentlemen’s clubs” for “adult entertainment.” Why would a man feel the need to justify his behavior as “gentlemanly” or “adult”? A man does not need to announce that he is a gentleman, nor do adults need to remind others that they are mature. Actions speak for themselves.

Yet even when a man’s lack of self-control makes him immature and his behavior cannot be reconciled with the title “gentleman,” he still feels a need to identify with authentic manhood. No matter how far we fall, Christ has still stamped into our being the call to love as he loves. If we untwist the lies and humbly come before the Lord in our woundedness, he will raise us up and make us true men.

What does pornography do to women? Since it trains men to think of women as objects to be used instead of persons to be loved, guys speak of them as objects and treat them as objects. One longtime producer in the porn industry admitted “My whole reason for being in this industry is to satisfy the desire of the men in the world who basically don’t care much for women and want to see the men in my industry getting even with the women they couldn’t have when they were growing up. I strongly believe this, and the Industry hates me for saying it.” He added that the porn industry is simply “a playpen for the damned.”

When men learn their concept of intimacy from videos and magazines, they may accept the idea that a woman’s no is actually a yes and that she enjoys being used. This can lead to a rapist mentality. Consider, for example, a study done in the Oklahoma City area. When 150 sexually oriented businesses were closed, the rate of rape decreased 27 percent in five years, while the rate in the rest of the country increased 19 percent. In Phoenix, Arizona, neighborhoods with porn outlets had 500 percent more sex offenses than neighborhoods without them.

Ted Bundy raped and killed dozens of women. Sentenced to die in the electric chair, he requested that his last interview be with Dr. James Dobson, the founder of Focus on the Family. In that meeting Bundy talked openly about pornography and told Dr. Dobson that his struggles all began there. He explained that all his fellow inmates had an obsession with pornography before going to prison. Porn magazines and videos lay at the root of innumerable rapes and murders. Countless victims of child molestation also report that their abusers exposed them to pornography as an attempt to desensitize and seduce them. No one can tell the husbands, siblings, children, and parents of those violated and deceased women that pornography is harmless. Besides, wouldn’t it infuriate you if a guy simply looked at a woman you loved in the same way he looked at pornography?

What does pornography do to marriages? To be blunt, pornography is the perfect way to shoot your future marriage in the head. Imagine that a young man has a habit of using pornography, and he does not reveal this to his fiancée. He hopes that once he is married, the desires for illicit sexual arousal will subside. But what becomes of his lust once he marries? It does not disappear; it is foisted upon his wife. The pornography has trained him to react to the sexual value of a woman and nothing else. He has trained himself to believe that women should be physically flawless and constantly sexually accessible. Even if he rejects this intellectually, the fact remains that pornography has warped the way he looks at women. One psychologist who specializes in sexuality problems noticed, “the more time you spend in this fantasy world, the more difficult it becomes to make the transition to reality.”

Provided a man’s wife is a life-size Barbie doll with a squad of makeup artists and hairdressers who follow her around the house, things might run smoothly for a time. But when reality confronts fantasy, the man will be left disillusioned, and the woman’s self image will suffer. No real-life woman can ever fulfill his disordered desires and fantasies. They focus solely upon self-centered gratification rather than mutual self-giving and joy in pleasing one’s spouse.

One woman explained that if a man’s real-life partner is not always as available sexually and willing to do whatever he wishes as the women he has fantasized about, he may accuse her of being a prude. If she looks normal, and unlike the models he has come to adore, he may accuse her of being fat. If she has needs, the passive images in the magazines, then she may seem too demanding for him.

In other words, he will be quick to blame his disorder on her; his fantasies will have robbed him of the ability to be truly intimate with his wife. One reason he is unable to have healthy intimacy with his wife is because intimacy is not an escape from reality but the capacity to see the beauty of the other. The presence of lust in the heart of the man blocks his ability to view the woman as a person. He has reduced her to an object and ignored her value as a person. When this happens he forfeits love. True intimacy is impossible.

It has been said that the problem with pornography is not simply that it shows too much but that it shows too little. It reduces a woman to nothing more than her body. Thus a man will assume that the greater the body, the greater the value of the woman. With this mindset men not only expect their future wives to look no less perfect than Miss September; they also don’t appreciate a woman’s most beautiful and precious qualities, since a centerfold display can never reveal these. This drives men to look elsewhere in an impossible quest to satisfy their lust. After all, pornography fosters the false mentality that casual, uncommitted sex is the most fulfilling and enjoyable. Who does not want to be fulfilled?

One response to the marital dissatisfaction often caused by pornography habits is to bring pornography into the bedroom. This is a vain effort on the part of the man to have the illicit excitement he has formed an attachment to. The poor wife may allow this, but the joy of loving has escaped the man, who no longer sees the value of the person and the need to deny himself for her. Married couples who use pornography find that their marital problems only worsen. If a husband needs to pretend that his wife is someone else in order for him to be excited, then he will become less and less drawn to her. Instead of making love to her, he is destroying love between them. At the very moment he is supposed to be renewing his wedding vows with his body, he’s committing adultery in his mind.

Because the effects of pornography are so severe, Christian men and women have an obligation to rid their lives of it. According to Pope John Paul II, God “assigns the dignity of every woman as a task to every man.” When we act in a way that is contrary to the dignity of women, we act contrary to our own dignity and vocation as men. For this reason, the Holy Father says, “each man must look within himself to see whether she who was entrusted to him as a sister in humanity, as a spouse, has not become in his heart an object of adultery.”

Even if pornography had no adverse effects on people, we must never forget that sin is not simply a social matter. We owe it to our neighbors to love them, but we also owe it to God to honor him in all our actions and thoughts. To lust after his daughters is a grave sin, even if no one becomes pregnant as a result of another’s imagination. “So shun youthful passions and aim at righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call upon the Lord from a pure heart” (2 Tim. 2:22).

(EXCERPT FROM “IF YOU REALLY LOVED ME” BY JASON EVERT)

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