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nikethestatue · 3 months

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this fandom might actually be the worst one I’ve seen!! I flip through a bunch of diff ship accounts bc listen, ship whoever you want, personally I am partial to elucien but I can admit there’s a lot of evidence for other ships as well. I like seeing all art for ALL the ships!! But then today I see a post about how we need Gwyn’s book because she is a victim of SA and it would be great to read a book about her healing journey.

Idk maybe it’s just me but I get annoyed when someone is always reduced down to their SA so I pointed out that Rhys & Lucien also had SA trauma and there has been no healing journey for them?? How are we going to fill an entire book for Gwyn?? Like, Sarah doesn’t seem to delve too much into healing journeys from SA (in ACOTAR at least 🤷🏻‍♀️ idk about other series) and tends to use it as a plot point to create a traumatic background character. It’s something that greatly annoys me tbh

And then I got yelled at?? And told to read the books again?? Like yes, I am a new reader, and yes it was a Gwyn Stan account (didn’t know that at the time, I literally just replied for the first time from a post I saw on my for you feed) - but nothing I said was anti-Gwyn (how could it be- she’s one of my favs too???) ?? I vaguely know there’s whatever ship war going on but I didn’t even comment on a ship post and I didn’t mention any other names/ships so I was genuinely confused about why I got yelled at on a post that only mentioned Gwyn.

All I said was I doubt Sarah is going to write an entire book about Gwyn’s healing journey ? It wasn’t even ship related so why did I get so much hate?? no wonder this fandom is filled with such toxicity, nobody new is allowed to join even casually unless they earn their masters degree of 16000 pages of analysis (apparently reading the books isnt enough?) and so it’s just filled with the same bitter people since whenever these books came out

Maybe bc I acknowledged I didn’t see her as a main character - because she’s not? She’s very much a side character but who cares? She’s still a favorite of mine? Two things can be possible at once, people!!!

Anyways, tldr I got a slap on the wrist and told I don’t know SJM if I think Gwyn is a side character and I’m just like ok I didn’t say she couldn’t be one later but based on the one book she is in… she is a side character?

I hate this mf fandom I should’ve stayed out of it. What did I even do?? I even apologized if anything I said about Rhys or Lucien was untrue?? And now I’m just annoyed because I should still be able to debate theories about my favorite books with people even if I don’t spend 24/7 reading PowerPoints on ship wars??

They got mad because you were right. That's it.

SJM doesn't write post-SA healing journeys. Again, you were right.

We've had male and female characters who were SAed, in TOG, Lysandra and Fenrys come to mind, in ACOTAR it's Rhys and Lucien and Gwyn, in CC it was Lidia (similar situation as Rhys/Lucien).

These aren't books for deep exploration of post-SA healing. I am sorry. This is an incredibly tough subject, without a singular answer. SO anything she'd do, wouldn't be taken well. Some will say 'too quick!' others will say 'not quick enough!' and everyone will have an opinion. The only reason Nesta got an extended healing (and not from SA) was because SJM used the same methods she used for her own issues. Working out, meditation, being with friends, balancing the physical and the mental, relying on her SO. Beyond that, all of SJMs 'healing' is training and being in love. Or nothing at all.

Gwynriels cant accept the fact that Gwyn is a secondary character. She is not more important than Emerie, or Mor, or anyone else, who's had terrible trauma. Her main was Nesta. Nesta's healed and Gwyn is secondary to Nesta. Gwyn's healing journey is over. She because stronger mentally and physically, she trained, she reached and conquered her 'mountain'. and that is all she needed to do.

They dont want to understand and accept that no one is interested in an 800 page of Gwyn's post-SA healing journey. Even they aren't. That's the truth. They want her with Azriel. Getting it on, having sex, being mated. They don't want to read any 'healing journey'. They want her going on missions, swinging her sword, being a badass, being with Azriel, having Gwynriel sex and having a normal fantasy heroine book. it's all performative. They just want Gwynriel. Is all.

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kitkatopinions · 1 year

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It's still mind boggling to me that there's this mentality that the rwde posters are "harassing anyone who likes RW/BY" and "trying to ruin the show" and are "ruining the show for the rest of us who aren't mindless haters," and - the funniest one - we're "bullying the writers/creators."

Because even if we were just the worst of the worst doing things like sending hate anons and trying to attack people for liking RW/BY (which we aren't,) we'd still just be like... Twenty people, maybe thirty people. RWDE posters on tumblr are not some army, we're more like a book club that just reads one book series and has fun picking at it. Like, if everyone who posted regularly in the rwde tag met up at some bar and we were the only people there, the workers would say it was a slow night. If everyone who posted regularly in the rwde tag all joined Love Is Blind, they might not have enough for a show, since they start with thirty contestants. The amount of regular rwde posters right now would probably fill a small bus, but a big bus would have extra streets.

Even if we were super duper terrible venomous leeches desperately trying to get people to hate RW/BY, there are like, over a hundred people probably who post RW/BY content that isn't negative. I can't confidently say there's a thousand, but my point is that there's way more RW/BY fans than there are rwde posters, they could populate a small convention, we couldn't even populate a movie theater.

People can literally block all of us in one day easy and then go about their merry way (because we don't fucking block evade lol) and they won't have to be bugged by us anymore. Like, anti-rwdes love to tell us how popular RW/BY is and how nobody cares what we think and the RW/BY writers don't know who we are (which that last one is definitely true,) but then will talk about how no one can say anything good about RW/BY without being attacked by us rwde posters and how we make it not fun to be a fan and how we're responsible for anything that goes wrong with RW/BY.

Seriously, the only way people's enjoyment of RW/BY is being 'ruined' by haters is if they're actively seeking us out.

#rwde

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1d1195 · 3 months

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I get scared that I’m in the portion of my life that is the part where everyone said it would get better, and if this is the best I’m going to get…. And I’m not even being ungrateful for some of the good I do have it’s just the bad is so debilitating. I’m at the point now where I’m very sure that there is someone who hears our prayers and wishes and they are just laughing at me. Cuz one time is a coincidence but after over twenty years worth you figure that it’s you. So now I’m at a point where I no longer pray and wish and that’s devastating in its own way. I’m not sure what I want out of messaging you about it, you don’t have to post or respond, I just needed to say it to someone. If I tell my boyfriend it’ll kill him. How do people keep hope and how can I be better at it?

Thank you for feeling safe enough to message me something like this. I know it's hard to say things like this out loud so I'm glad I could offer some help in just you getting it off your chest. Also, fair warning, with these types of messages I tend to ramble and go on and on, so I apologize for that in advance. I don't intend to sound preachy or like I know best, either. You can ignore everything I say, honestly, I won't be offended. The gist of it, is you're not alone and you can't lose hope.

(Upon finishing my answer, it's long-long. Like 1k words)

I'm not an extremely religious person but I totally get what you're saying. My mom always said going to church and saying a prayer would make things that I felt were bad feel better, but I've never really felt much better afterwards. I won't delve too deeply into the religious side of things, but I really understand what you're saying. There are some pretty terrible people in the world who get whatever they want and then there's me who said my prayers before bed for YEARS and asked for help and got nothing in return. It's really hard to feel faithful when it seems like every prayer goes unanswered. I know what you mean by feeling devastated by no longer wanting to pray or wish. But I also think that if you take a break, it's not like you can't go back. One thing I do still believe in is the higher powers that be will always take someone back even if their faith was shaken.

I don't think you're alone in how you're feeling. I've had to redefine my happiness a lot over the last few years. Sometimes it feels like I'm doing myself a disservice by doing so, but it also feels like if I don't then I'll spiral real bad. I feel the same way you do, I have a LOT of good in my life that I'm very grateful for, but it's hard to ignore the overwhelming parts that aren't so good. Even as a society there is so much bad and turmoil. It's hard to believe in good things and a bright future when, especially in the last few years, it seems like the world is on a mission to not have a future. I worry all the time that I will never be able to afford a house or have kids (something I've always, always wanted) and moreover that my parents will never meet my kids because they'll be gone before I can afford it. I worry I'll never be happy with how I look or feel about myself. I worry that my long-term boyfriend will never propose because we can't afford that either. I worry that people are constantly judging how I choose to live my life because of all these things. I always feel behind.

I'm not sure I have the answers on behalf of everyone, but for me, I've chosen to really focus on my own peace of mind. The parts of my life that are good, I spend more time focusing on those things. I have a job that supports the apartment I'm fortunate to have. I love my boyfriend. Because of where I teach I was able to get all my student loans forgiven. I enjoy reading books and writing on here. I am really focusing on being better to my body physically and emotionally. Every time I have pasta or a bake potato I think about how good life is.

I've definitely mentioned it before but I'm very anti-news and I tell everyone it really changed my life by turning it off. I still read headlines so I'm not totally in the dark and I'll look things up if necessary, but not watching all the horrible things that have happened in my state has made me infinitely happier.

Part of my own weird philosophy here is that I have to believe in hope. It's not something I let slip by. I hope all day long. You're not wrong though, it's probably the hardest thing I've ever done because it seems like there's every reason not to have hope these days. It's super frustrating. But I watch these videos of "humans being human" and it's all these heartwarming stories of people catching children out of burning buildings or saving a dog from a flood. They make me cry and make me hope. https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/ is also a REALLY good website to make you believe in humanity and good when you're feeling down.

I think (and hope) your boyfriend would also be supportive if you told him. There's a chance that maybe he feels the same way? Or maybe he can help you feel better in a way that you haven't thought of yet. If you choose to not tell him, I hope you find someone to talk to instead because it's REALLY hard to do this alone. I'm in the same boat as you; I know it's easier said than done. I don't tell my boyfriend how I'm feeling a lot of the time either (that's why I'm always writing cathartic things about how I feel on here).

You're also always welcome to share how you're feeling here. Good or bad. I'm a great sounding board (in my personal opinion). I would love to cheer you on or support you when you're feeling down. Whatever you want. Obviously I'm not a professional, but I can feel how difficult things seem for you in what you wrote. I'm a firm believer in happy endings too, so if this doesn't feel like this is the best, then you haven't hit the best yet. So you can't lose hope. I know it's hard and I don't think enough people say that. Having hope is one of the most challenging parts of my life. I was REALLY negative for...gosh, I think it was something like 6-8 years. My friend pointed out I was really negative. Over a Facebook message. Just said she was worried about me. It was like a switch in me. I didn't realize how bad I got.

So it's not going to be easy, but I hope you don't lose hope. If you feel like you can't, let me know. I'll hope for you too.

Hopefully, (no pun intended) this helped just a little. Please let me know if you ever need to vent, I'm always going to be here 💕

xoxo

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histronic-gizmo · 1 year

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Guess who wrote an entire rant in response to an anti who tagged me in a post regarding the Stanley parable, only for it to not post because they had blocked me by the time I hit send 💀

I'm gonna rewrite it here

@the-redacted-line (obvi don't harrass them, don't engage with them, i don't know the full INs and OUTs of how blocking on tumblr works but I'm hoping they'll see this)

Here's the tags they put in that post

I never was saying I want to see problematic content of TSP, there's already a few good things on AO3, I was complaining because I'm barred from interacting with 90% of the TSP fandom here on Tumblr.

The Stanley Parable is SO important to me, I can't express that enough. I actively avoid problematic fan work with it because it's not something I enjoy or seek out with this game. I just, Yk, support people who do want that!

I'm upset that I can't interact with amazing art because I'm not an asshole about made up and intangible shit. I'm upset I can't make friends with most people who enjoy this thing because I'll be called a p*dophile.

I'm not at fault for YOU seeing my proship post that was tagged with 4 different variations of "proship" solely for filtering purposes. If YOU don't want to see proship stuff, filter the tags. The filtering system exists for a goddamn reason.

I have a long list of variations of various things filtered and I never see shit I don't want to see. And when I do? Guess what's going in my filter list?

I was sexually assaulted as a child and I am haunted with terrible intrusive thoughts of sexual assaults, murder and violence. I go to therapy and I've done all the coping mechanisms in the book. Nothing has been nearly as effective as coping with fiction. My therapist and I work extensively to make sure it's not having the opposite effect on me.

Some antis argue that if it's to cope, you should keep it to yourself. I'm disabled, and I don't always have the energy or resources to create this content I need to cope with my day to day life. People posting fanfiction, Fanart, original work, and other fanwork with problematic content is almost the only way I can access this coping mechanism.

Problematic content is IMPORTANT. It's not for everyone, it's not supposed to BE for everyone. Like everytjing, it should be clearly marked, tagged and labeled so people who don't want to and shouldn't see it DONT.

There are very little problematic fanworks that aren't clearly marked. The ones aren't marked are a problem that should be addressed, but the solution isn't to ban and shame problematic content.

Proshipper doesn't stand for "Problematic Shipper", it stands for "Pro Shipping". It's supporting people who are problematic shippers.

Its an acknowledgement that fiction affects reality, but in a different way than reality affects reality. It's an acknowledgement that people can explore things in fiction without it bearing any meaning on them as a person. It's an acknowledgement that it can affect reality and make people's trauma worse, so things should be clearly marked. It's an acknowledgement that fiction can affect reality and give survivors a safe environment to work through their trauma.

Its an acknowledgement that fiction and reality are different planes of existence. They're connected in so many ways but they are seperate.

It's an acknowledgement that survivors deserve to heal. Just because my way of healing doesn't work for you doesn't mean it's disgusting and shouldn't be used. Just because it's unhealthy for you doesn't mean it's unhealthy for me.

No one is trying to say you have to want to see, make, or support problematic fictional content. All we ask is that you stop labeling it as wrong, disgusting, and unhealthy. All we ask is that people who don't like it stop harrassing and demeaning those who do.

I have no idea what this person in particular has done, I doubt they've done anything, they haven't harrassed me. I want to make that clear.

It's just hard to be on your side when your side got me in the emergency room because of the massive amount of death threats, graphic violence descriptions, and insults I got in my Tumblr ask box on a daily basis.

I rarely ship problematic ships because my hyperfixation rarely have an opportunity for them (if we ignore Rick and Morty, that's very recent and out of the ordinary for me)

But I refuse to support and be in the side of people who think fiction is so much more important than reality that I get told I deserved to be raped as a child because I thought two cartoon characters should kiss.

You may not have said that, but that's who's side your on.

#long post #trauma dump #tw anti #the stanley parable #discourse #shipcourse #proship #proshipper #proshippers #proship safe #proshipper safe #anti anti #anti antis #for the love of god dont harrass the person i tagged thank u #tw rape #tw csa

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wham-bam-thank-you-jam-wrestling · 2 years

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Full disclosure, I had this thing 3/4s written last week, but decided to hold tight on posting (bite my tongue?) because it was an objectively bad episode with very few things I could identify as positive.

This week's episode still wasn't great, but there were more than a few positives so I feel much more comfortable about listing some of them here.

First off, an honourable mention, a carry over from last week:

Battle Royals - This one wasn't a particularly good one, but I've seen several worse this year (including the big, famous one) and, what can I say, they're still one of my favourite match types. It would have been nice to have a surprise winner, and Riddle used elsewhere on the Money in the Bank card, but this was an entertaining way to open the show.

Theory - I don't enjoy this guy at all. So far he has been nothing more than a generic heel with an interesting and innovative move set that he doesn't know how to work into the story of a quality match. And do not get me started on his hackneyed, stilted and often uncertain mic work. Tonight, however, he did his best out-of-ring work yet in that backstage segment with John Cena. I get it, he didn't write it, but the delivery was on point and I was genuinely impressed by his little anti-Cena promo.

Asuka - She did nothing of consequence tonight but generally speaking, I'm a fan of almost everything Asuka does. She has a great look, a great entrance and puts on entertaining matches. She also does a great job of minimising her weaknesses i.e. she doesn't talk too much and only says things that need saying. "No one is ready for Asuka" is a great catchphrase and she understands humour. None of this may be new - I wasn't watching WWE the last time she has a major run - but I'm enjoying it all.

John Cena - This one's kind of obvious because it was JohnCena night. And it doesn't really apply to the product as a whole at present. I just wanted to acknowledge that (a) he has a certain quality that makes me understand why people argue his WWE G.O.A.T. status and (b) he seems like a legit quality human because of the way he has used his celebrity to improve the lives of those less fortunate than him. Also, he has an aura of humility that is kind of rare in people of his status.

Chad Gable - This guy is one of my favourites. He is a consistent source of entertainment no matter how he is being utilised. He might just be the best TV match worker - tonight's match was a thumbs down, but WWE booking is going to WWE book - in WWE today and his mic work, despite being a little one-note, is always great.

Kevin Owens - You can pretty much just re-read what I wrote in the Sami Zayn section of the Smackdown version of this. Only dialled up from 10 to 11. In my humble opinion, KO is the best part of the WWE right now. He elevates the bad to good, the good to great. He can work an entertaining match with anyone. He can work mid-card and main event. He can do comedy and he can do the serious stuff. He puts his body on the line and he gives everything he has to entertain the fans.

That's probably enough gushing for now, but before I go, I do need to quickly note some of the things that just are not working, on Raw and in WWE at the moment

Bianca Belair - don't get me wrong, she is on a solid trajectory to being company-carrying talent. However, she still has a LOT of work to do with mic in hand. is nowhere near where she needs to be in terms of mic skills and promo ability to be opening the show. She has a great chance to be a

That opening 5-way match - that match just made absolutely no sense in terms of execution. Why were there only ever 2 competitors in the ring at the same time? What were the other 3 doing while we were watching a series of 1 vs. 1 matches? I'm these things aren't that easy to choreograph, and the action in and of itself wasn't terrible, but come on. That suspension of disbelief I often reference does not extend to a competitor disappearing from a multi-person match for 3 minutes because they were on the end of a transition move that would never keep them down for longer than 10 seconds in a singles match.

I have plenty of other complaints, but that's not what this post is about, so I'll leave those for now, specifically the one overarching complaint I'm going to attempt to work into my long-overdue, long-form piece on what it means to be a "professional" wrestler.

Cheers

#wwe #wwe raw #john cena #professional wrestling #wreslting #bianca belair #asuka #kevin owens #alpha academy #chad gable #money in the bank #monday night raw

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