I’ve probably already said this but I’m so thankful for this MaDD community. Most of my life I’ve been thinking I was the only person in the world spending hours in daydreams everyday, it feels so good to feel understood.

Is your parame an original character or is he/she inspired to an existing person/celebrity/character?

For me, my parame is inspired by a celebrity. It actually started being the exact copy of that person but with time she evolved in my mind to someone who is like 98% original lol I just kept the name basically

My parame is friend with all her exes because I just can't stand the idea of losing a para.

Sharing a paracosm? Am I the only one?

Tell me if you also experienced something like this: as I was 12 years old me and my best friend were huge fans of a band and we both really liked the singer, so we both used to daydream a lot about him and what it would be like to be their friends... okay, this is quite common I guess, however

we knew about eachother daydreams so we decided to merge them and live the same daydream. 

We talked about the paras as they were real and we agreed the plot together like “today this para will be with me, next week it will come on holidays with you” and when we talked we explained the other what happened in our part of the paracosm so we could link all the pieces. 

It was super cool and at that point I had no idea of what MaDD was. 

Everything ended in a couple months as we were busy with school and activities and out interest in the band vanished. But now that I think about it I realised maybe we were both maladaptive daydreamers that shared a paracosm for a while, isn’t that crazy?

In the following years we never talked about it and I never told her about maladaptive daydreaming... 

do you think I should? 

"Because of maladaptive daydreaming...”

let’s talk about all the things, good or bad, that make us different because of maladaptive daydreaming, I’ll start with something nice:

1) Because of maladaptive daydreaming... I have a huge music knowledge

... 

There must be a way...

...to use MaDD to get better in life... to daydream a better version of yourself until you become that version... 

Thanks for 200 MaDD followers

Help me find info about this: (please?)

I don’t remember where but once I read or heard something about MaDD explaining a theory about different types of daydreams for different daydreamers, like, “if you daydream about being famous it means you’re shy”... this kind of things. 

I would love to know more about this, are there studies about the topic?

Another question for MaDDers:

WHAT’S YOUR FAVOURITE SONG?

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Main paracosm VS many paracosms

Let’s start by saying that I’m not an expert and this is just my opinion. 

I have MaDD myself and since I joined tumblr I talked to many maladaptive daydreamers here: basically if we consider the number of paracosms the spectrum can go from people who have just one main paracosm they spend all of their daydreaming time in, to people that change their paracosm every time they daydream.

I think that those who are in the first group are the ones who really have a stronger emotional attachment to their paras and it will be harder for them to give up daydreaming than for those in the second group.

What to you think? Is this an obvious consideration or am I totally wrong?

How does having MaDD limit you?

Okay I know this is not the funniest topic ever but how does having MaDD limit you in your daily life?

Personally, the main problem for me is avoiding social situations because I can't wait to go home and stay alone to daydream. I am an introvert and I used to be really (I mean REALLY) shy as a child, but now I’m not shy anymore, I don’t have problems talking to people and making new friends; the point is that too often I tend to avoid social situations because I would rather stay home with my imaginary friends (which is pathetic but it is what it is, I’m sure you guys can understand). This causes fear of missing out sometimes.

Concerning my scholastic and now professional goals instead, I used to get easily distracted in elementary and middle school, unable to finish my homework and to stay focus. Later, I learned a trick that helped me staying focused and being productive (I’ll explain it in next post) so it MaDD impair my achievements.

So I can say now MaDD is limiting my social life because I skip social events and opportunities to make real friends in order to daydream on my own (and I hate when this happens) but it does not change my results in school/work. 

MaDD terminology (I’m confused)

Hi, obviously I’m new to this community and I’m confused by all the terms lol Finding a MaDD community on tumblr was great but I still feel like I’m falling behind, so, can anyone help me? 

For what I understood “MaDD” stands for Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder, the “paras” are the characters of our daydreams (?) so “parame” is... my character, like who I am in my daydream? 

Did I get it right? What other terms do you use?

Hello

to the over 100 fellow MaDDers who decided it was a good idea to follow this blog, please remember you are not alone, you can talk to me whenever you want, if you have a question or a doubt, let's discuss it and figure out a solution together.

How many lives are you living?

Let’s get straight to the point here: I am a maladaptive daydreamer and I spend a lot of time in my own world. Sometimes I think this disorder is making me waste the only life I have, some other times I think I’m lucky because I’m living twice: in my world and in the real one. What do you think?

Asking for a friend:

Ok so the question is: what if I have a boyfriend but also in my paracosm I daydream about everyday I have another boyfriend? The boy in the daydreams is my parame’s boyfriend so I guess it’s okay (?) 

Does any of you live a similar situation? Should I feel bad about it? I’m confused. lol

Do you guys have any para-pet?

Tell me about them, I'm curious