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lovechaity · 4 years

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♠ A child needs to know they matter and someone loves them and takes care of them. Who will never break their hearts.

♠ They dont need to get hurt.

♠ They are the nicest, friendliest people who is willing to learn how to survive with full of fairytale happiness.

♠They need to know how to use every part of their bodies inside and out.

♠ They need to know how to eat, what to eat, what food makes them stronger and happier inside and out, how they can provide food by themselves.

♠ They need to know how to make home, how to create structures. What is safe and why not safe for delicate skins.

♠ They need to know how to save their bodies from the weather and germs with clothes. They can design and create clothes the way they want.

♠ They constantly need to hear good melodious music that wont make they sad but to crave for more.

♠ They need to hear good songs that will make them dance and learn their tasks while hearing them.

♠ Children and their care givers can sing instead of talking.

♠ Care givers can speak to them more than one language.

♠ They can learn self defence, gymnastics and yoga

♠ They can dance all day

♠ They need to learn how and why to stay clean and take bath before they go to bed at 7 p.m.

♠ Care givers has to was to wake up early with babies to start a fresh musical day, everyday.

♠ They need to know how to make themselves happy and learn to entertain.

♠ They need to know how to care others by getting the care their heart needs.

♠ They need to be confirmed that they are allowed to respect everything and everybody.

♠ They need to know how to respect every other children by getting equal love and opportunities by group of patient elderlies who never gets angry and has all the solutions for happiness. A group of people who works hard, plays hard and never preaches mockery and hate.

♠ Every child needs to be worshipped so that nobody will forget how awesome they truly are.

♠ Teach them what they see after they sleep is called dreams. Value their dreams without judging. Healthy mind always dreams. Happy minds with good shape carries good and powerful dreams. Every dream has meaning..

♠ Let them read any book they want accept man made black magic ones which brings no joy and happiness.

♠ They need to learn and have all of these till the age of three, starting from the day hen is inside the mothers belly.

♠ Care givers should be certified by the government or else nobody can have rights to raise any babies.

♠ Everybody needs to recite human rights, children rights and study human and animal psychology.

♠ Everybody has to leave mid century man made brutal rules that is helping no one but conflicting eachother and leaving everybody confused. Unhappy, unhealthy, strict, controlled childhood with rules has never ever been a good news.

♠ It is high time to make plant based food that tastes like beef, pork, chicken, fish and any kind of meat.

♠ It is high time to learn the truth about the human history and teach children to learn from mistakes.

♠ Teach children that maths are magical spells. Because of math, human can create everything and anything that the nature cant make. But nature makes us happy, so nature can bad magic can make everything unhappy.

♠ Teach children that doctors are the superheroes who learns math and science and cares to heal people.

♠ Superheroes are always fighting with villains. It is high time to show superheroes cleans the world, takes care of things and living hearts, finds solutions, never undermines and calls them villains but convinces them to be friends forever. Superhero makes everybody happy and everybody lives happily togather and dies at their old age.

♠ Children's need to know they have time in this nature to live a happy life for a certain long time. They need to be okey with old peoples natural deaths.

♠ People who should not be allowed to raise or love babies should be send to some psychiatric treatments to have peace with their past, present and future.

♠Nobody deserves to be in jail, die, tortured or stay at the borders or at war. Instead of jail, they can stay at the mental hospitals. Instead of tortures and punishments, criminals can undo their pain with the help of doctors. I can bet the worst kind of criminals has way worse than the worst childhoods.

♠ Let us stop being dumb as helpless power hungry dictators in the past. We owe a lot to the children inside of us. Lets think how much happiness we could have had and do justice with the lives thats coming.

♠ Its high time to teach care givers how to make children understand sex from the Very beginning. Starting from nobody can touch them inappropriately.

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crapitskizaru · 5 years

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Strawhats+ in College!AU

AU for the straw hats (plus law and kid) in Greek life?

Warning: long ass post + i can’t quite imagine luff in college

Zoro-ya (Police Officer)

🤯 “Just give me some booze and I’ll make it.”

🤯 seriously, this guy’s lost 99% of the time, whether talking figuratively or literally, both will be correct

🤯 he needs the first few months in college to create a certain routine for himself and all of his classes, as well as adjust his Nap Schedule - it’d be so irritating for him whenever he can’t get a grasp out of the situation or simply forgets which lecture he’s supposed to attend, but he shifts to a total-chill attitude halfway through the semester

🤯 which usually means showing up at a 9AM lecture with a mug of coffee in one hand and a sports magazine in the other - since he can’t focus on whatever the professor’s saying, even if he tries, he might as well do something productive with his time

🤯 contrary to his lectures, he has 100% attendance on every kind of party going around the campus and quickly earns himself a reputation of the guy who never blacks out

🤯 cares more about the nearest gym opening hours than his studying schedule, although he doesn’t neglect it completely

🤯 he studies best in his dormitory - that is, provided he doesn’t have loud roommates - or in a cafeteria, where it’s relatively quiet, but not quiet enough for him to fall asleep

🤯 ends up with a Criminal Justice degree and a major in Law Enforcement

Sanji (Beauty Salon Worker)

😱 “How can you help me? Push me down those stairs, please.”

😱 so overwhelmed, since he has to reconcile his job and lecture attendance

😱 due to his blood family giving zero shits about his education or future, he’s on his own - and he still somehow makes it, although not without having a mental breakdown every weekend

😱 (credit to the cute anon) Sanji was eligible for a scholarship but because he's officially a Vinsmoke, his biological family is too rich for him to get one, even though they don’t provide any support, let alone a financial one; he probably has a massive debt as well

😱 whenever he’s not at work and can’t even think about studying, he attends all those wild parties in order to create some bonds and find his drinking buddies

😱 has great time management skills, thanks to all of his struggles, and keeps up with his college budget - unfortunately, the most probable situation is that he’d be the only person he can actually rely on

😱 however, it wouldn’t stop him from putting himself out there whenever he’s got a chance; after all, the love of his life may be waiting for him just around the corner

😱 because he’s stressed out of his mind most of the time, he indulges in various addictions that may not be good for his health but at least provide the tiniest bit of calmness in his hectic schedule; whether it’s plain cigarette-smoking or excessive drinking, or even having sex with strangers just to get himself off and have an illusion of being cared about, he does it all without a blink, since that’s what keeps him going

😱 provided that he finally finds the time to study, he’s actually quite a fast learner - mostly in the silence of a library or in his own flat

😱 has a major in Cosmetics

Nami (Childcare Worker)

😈 “You’re already drunk? Good luck with that, pal.”

😈 just like Cersei, Nami’s not really into this whole sisterhood deal if she doesn’t know the people well - with the exception of Robin, who might be her one, true bestie, she doesn’t necessarily put much effort into strengthening any bonds

😈 she somehow has a great GPA, even though she attends more parties than lectures - but with her natural charms and wits, she’s able to convince pretty much anyone just how good of a student she is

😈 even though she likes to keep a safe distance from people, she enjoys partying and getting to know her colleagues; it’s always fun to prey on those who had the misfortune to black out as the first ones

😈 when she actually decides to show up to a lecture, her outfit needs to be on point, otherwise she wouldn’t feel comfortable at all

😈 regarding the time she dedicates for studying - it’s usually during the afternoon in the library, since she hates when someone disturbs her focus; her notes have to be highlighted and organized, that’s what gives her peace of mind

😈 ends up with a major in Psychology

bonus:

Usopp (Graphic Designer)

😱 “I have, like, three dollars for the entire week.”

😱 stressed out of his mind

😱 he knows the only person he can blame that on is no one other than himself, due to his advanced skills in procrastinating or simply not being able to focus on work when he needs to, thanks to his ADHD

😱 stays up late - not for assignments, which he manages to bullshit his way through 10 minutes before they’re due - but to watch old vines compilations, a guy who felled a tree with a chainsaw made of paper, detailed descriptions on how hydrogen bombs work or the entire playlist of Crash Course on world’s history

😱 at first may have a hard time bonding, but once everyone notices how good of a friend he is, he certainly won’t have any problems regarding social life or party invitations

😱 the boy’s on his phone almost all time - whether to keep up with his exploding social media or read a random article he accidentally clicked on; he’s also known for sending snaps in the middle of his lectures or tweeting about campus life and its most up-to-date gossip

😱 he studies most effectively when with a group of buddies - usually in the campus cafeteria; loves to keep his notes as colorful as possible, but he doesn’t really care for aesthetic

😱 naturally, majors in Graphic Design

Chopper (Elementary School Teacher)

😵 “Omg, I’m going to fail this exam.” *gets 92%*

😵 i don’t really agree with Oda on this whole teaching deal - I think it’s obvious he’d go to med school to become a doctor

😵 one of those students who study really hard and it pays off, but he still stresses out everyone around him

😵 has perfect lecture attendance, because he actually enjoys listening to the professor; also asks a lot of questions regarding topics he doesn’t understand at first

😵 quickly makes friends, due to the whole year coming to him for explanation regarding various fields in the syllabus, or to just simply study with him - somehow, his aura of pure focus and concentration beams down on those around him

😵 could get a slight coffee addiction, since he tends to study during the night

Robin-chwan (Cabin Attendant)

☕ takes surprisingly huge amount of joy in making up fake exam dates and then scaring her fellow colleagues with it

☕ what she’d prefer is simply studying on her own with piles of books stacking up all around her - she doesn’t need someone to explain a certain topic to her, she does it well enough on her own

☕ therefore, she’s not a huge fan of attending lectures, although she knows she has to; but usually just ends up reading the textbook ahead without paying much attention to the surroundings

☕ she studies best with scribbling notes on the margins of the book, maybe creating a few mind maps to link the historic events together, also uses only one highlighter since too many colors would be distracting

☕ regarding her social life; since she quite often reads around the campus, in various places, she gets a lot of chances to talk to people and is not afraid to start the conversation first

☕ shows up at parties and usually stays up till the morning - minding her own business and with a group of friends, she knows how to have fun and keep herself entertained

☕ pursues Archeology, that’s for sure

Franky (Pilot)

👻 “Ayyy, which paper is it today? Bring it on, losers.”

👻 even if he is a little bit overwhelmed, he doesn’t let it show - he just tries to have as much fun as possible while doing things that have to be done

👻 once he decides to study a topic, he’s not giving up on it or taking a break until he gets it; that may have something to do with the fact that the faster he’s done with studying, the more he can party and load himself with waterfalls of energy drinks that he so loves

👻 if the subject picks his interest, he likes to tune in to the lecture and listen to the professor - he may or may not try to reconstruct whatever project is discussed later on, in his own dorm and with his own safety rules

👻 he is quite popular around the campus, due to his outgoing nature and easiness in cracking jokes, as well as being always down to a makeout session or simple petting with anyone who he finds attractive

👻 goes with Aerospace Engineering

Brook (Detective)

👑 “I’ll be honest with you, I don’t know what day it is. And I don’t care.”

👑 what he mostly pursues is not a high GPA or his lecture hall but quick entertainment involving some sort of sexual acts or just innocent intimacy with another person - it gives him a rush and he has no problems in admitting in front of himself that he might be quite hooked on it

👑 studies when it’s an absolute must, whether with a group of friends or on his own, he just wants to get it over with and indulge in campus social life - if he makes notes, they’re usually on a plain sheet of paper written with black ink; that’s how he’s able to focus and regurgitate information

👑 loves the parties and gatherings where he’s usually in the center of attention - and people like him, because he’s not too cocky and conceited, he just wants to have a good time

👑 gets a degree in Criminal Justice

Jinbe

🧣 “Just don’t.”

🧣 he’s the one who makes it through college without any actual problems or breakdowns every other day; and he doesn’t have a lot of sympathy to those who complain too much

🧣 he’s just there, observing the huge amounts of alcohol being poured into certain individuals who most probably have an important exam the next day and he’s slowly losing his faith in humanity

🧣 he just needs some time to understand that different people have different ways of dealing with certain stages of life - some do that with a peace of mind, some need vodka and liquor to get through it, and that’s just how it is

🧣 would want to pursue a career of an FBI Agent or Fish and Game Warden, he’s not sure yet, but he’s getting there

🧣 has a rather simple recipe for a productive study session - in the comfort of his own flat, where all the textbooks are available and within reach

🧣 ends up with a degree in Criminal Justice

The Edge Lord (Doctor)

☃️ “No, I won’t have sex with you.”

☃️ so tired and fed up with the whole world - he just wants to focus on studying and getting through his exams, but people keep throwing distractions at him no matter how unwelcoming and obnoxious he gets

☃️ since there’s no one hotter than him on the campus, he draws quite a lot of attention; unnecessary attention which he’d rather pass to someone else

☃️ “Leave me alone, for Christ’s sake.”

☃️ he doesn’t attend the lectures only when he’s too tired - other than that, he prefers not to miss anything and he can always spend the time doing something productive

☃️ he studies most effectively with a textbook and a black pen, scribbling shortened notes on the margins and underlining important phrases

☃️ Traffy’s got few friends but he’d chop himself to tiniest pieces for them - and he knows they’d do the same for him as well

☃️ engages in various extracurricular activities for the sake of credit, or as a form of spending time when he’s got no particular plans for the afternoon

☃️ he’s constantly stressed - therefore, he likes to have a quick drink before the lectures or during the night, which turns into quite an addiction, but he knows he wouldn’t be able to get through it all without alcohol or other forms of stress-relief

The Spawn of Satan (Weapons Dealer)

🔥 “Aye, if you ever need someone to show you around or somethin’, just call me.”

🔥 no one knows how he gets through the exams - but he does, and would be capable of getting high scores, if only he decided to study more than the bare minimum

🔥 what he’s most interested in is being around people, throwing parties or attending them, drinking booze and having a damn good time with his friends - after all, he’s there to have fun and make memories

🔥 his method of studying the night before an exam is simple; he just reads the paragraphs and underlines the phrases that he thinks are important, and that’s all it takes for him to remember and understand the material

🔥 what he’d rather be doing is getting laid and making out with everyone, but also, surprisingly or not, working a part-time job - he needs the money to feel that he’s in control of his own life, to know that he’s got financial stability and is not dependent on anyone other than himself

🔥 would have a hard time figuring his life out and what he wants to do in the future, but, thankfully, he’s got that one friend that will stay by his side no matter what - so that Kiddo will never be alone in this mess

Mochi Mochii

🍩 “When is this going to end?”

🍩 he minds his own business - or, at least, tries to; due to the excessive amount of family reunions or casual barbecue invitations every other day, he gets so distracted from his studies

🍩 he knows what he went to college for and keeps his aspirations in mind at all times; despite his great time management skills, broad schedule and a bullet journal, he still far too often ends up cramming in the library the night before an exam - since he doesn’t want to let down his family and leave them hanging during all those gatherings that they always invite him to during weekday

🍩 Mochi doesn’t really get all this hype for getting hammered and carrying out make-out sessions with strangers whenever possible, so he just sits back and observes the shit going down around him at parties

🍩 he enjoys studying, but only the topics that he knows are useful or genuinely interest him - in a silent library or a bookstore, he highlights the most important information and sticks post-it notes all over the pages how cute is this?

🍩 would go for either Criminal Justice to become a security guard or training programs for tattoo artists

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haven-m42 · 5 years

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The University

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The University building has fifty floors and houses all of the education and childcare programs, from the daycare and nursery to the college floors, and every grade-level in between.

Navigation

The first few floors are the library, which is where the monorail drops students off. The huge set of elevators to the right is used for all students to get up and down in the university, so there are a lot of them. They're big and glass-sided.

Moving upwards on the elevator past the library are the college floors: Engineering, Medical Science, Liberal Arts, Technology, Law, Quantum Studies, Education, Veterinary Science, and others. These departments are run and operated by residents of the Haven.

Still moving upwards are the high school levels, then middle school, then elementary school. Each of these levels has a brief decontamination process upon entry to prevent the spread of illness.

The Nursery

On the penultimate level from the top of the building, through a decontamination chamber, you’ll find a large, dim open space with various Summers and Beths and Mortys and one Doofus Rick cradling or playing with baby Mortys and Summers. The walls are made of fish tanks and the floors are not carpet—she was VERY firm about not having carpet, as a disease risk—but a soft, plushy sort of polycarbon.

This is the Nova Eileen Childcare Center, which takes care of babies six months and under so their parents can either work or pursue their education goals. So many residents arrived pregnant that the late Commander of the Haven decided a nursery was critical.

The Daycare

Past that is the daycare, which cares for children between nursery and elementary school age whose parents work other positions in the Haven during the day, or who have chosen to take college classes, or who need to run errands or attend their own healthcare appointments. The staff in the daycare are either volunteers or students going into caretaking fields like nursing, teaching, or psychology, doing their field work and training and internships. It's good practice and it naturally fulfills the roles the Haven needs.

It’s a totally open level, about three stories tall by itself, consisting of a giant playroom with different kinds of equipment and sectioned off for different ages. Along the side are enclosed classrooms, all glass-sided, where children are having more quiet reading time or painting/dancing/bouncing around with joyful Doofus Ricks. A plethora of Morty, Beth, Summer, Jerry, and Rick adults—about one per seven kids—are supervising the play area. Plush floor, educational toys, and a surprising number of various humanoid species. Eighty-seven percent of the children were born here at the Haven, and the rest don't remember a time when they weren't here. As such, they've only ever known this diverse population, and it doesn't occur to them to bully based on appearance or movement.

Three and four-year-olds can be a little territorial and moody, and there’s some basic shoving and the occasional biter. But there are disciplinary systems in place for that, which mostly includes supervised mediation between the parties and quiet or 'reset' time.

Many of parents who come to the Haven from abusive situations have a very difficult time trusting others with their children. The Founder developed the viewing and observation deck (behind a two-way mirror) along the perimeter of the top floor of the daycare level to help the transition. It's obviously closed to the general population but open to all parents.

The Rooftop

There is a rooftop garden that takes up the entire top of the University building, with a few playground sets and sandboxes, and a walking track along the fenced edge. The whole thing is the size of a football field, maybe. Young Smith-Sanchezs are romping in the sun, watched over by their teachers, who are (of course) also Smith-Sanchezes.

Someone falls and skins their knee, which might prompt a visit to the Urgent Care on the bottom floor of the Hospital building next door.

A volunteer staff member scoops the child up with an exasperated grin and tries to comfort them the old-fashioned way first. The stairs off that roof go right into the daycare facility on the top floor of the building; outdoor time is a big part of their day. The other side of the roof is a green space for the college kids, with picnic tables and a little cafe.

Alcoholic beverages are banned from the University building.

#:: descriptions #:: the university

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swestergrenflourbabyblog-blog · 5 years

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Infancy (age 0-1)

Let me tell you... time flies by. It seems like just yesterday, I’d brought baby Hunter into the world. As I celebrate his first birthday, I reflect back on some of his more prominent milestones/”firsts” as an infant.

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In his first few months, Hunter proved to be a handful. Though he slept almost 16 1/2 hours in his first few weeks, transitioning to about 10-12 hours a night in later months, I regularly checked to make sure he slept upright, fearful of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), or the “the sudden and unexplained death of a baby younger than 1 year old,” as defined by KidsHealth (https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/sids.html). Likewise, I made sure to feed him every 2-4 hours, setting an alarm for myself daily while changing his diaper some six times a day.

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At four months, Hunter rolled over for the first time; I was absolutely ecstatic. By the time he was seventh months old, he could crawl and prop himself up. This was most evident in our journey to the Lafayette Library, where I read him several picture books. Not only did he grow more attached, but Hunter began to crawl between the aisles of the library! I chased after him, laughing in excitement. It must have been the cutest thing I’d ever seen! Fortunately, I took him to the library at a time where others babies were not present; I didn’t want to frighten him, as he’s begun to develop stranger anxiety and would have cried at the sight of others. I’m not too concerned, however, as he seems on track developmentally.

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As a parent, I had to make a tough decision early in baby Hunter’s life: should I take him to daycare, or hire a home-nanny? As a writer for the New York Times, my editor demanded I keep reporting to the best of my ability. To find a solution, I turned to research.

According to Psychology Today, “For the first three years, infants and toddlers do best in home-based settings. They tend to experience less stress, less illness, and fewer behavioral problems.” Yet, based on a comprehensive longitudinal study done by the National Institute for Child Health and Human Development (NICHD) over fifteen years, findings showed that the nature of their home experience is most important, not the kind of care a child receives. “No matter the form of early childhood care, optimal outcomes are experienced by children who experience warmth, responsiveness, and the right kinds of stimulation at home.” Time in non-parental care, however, does have an impact, with findings suggesting little kids do better with less than thirty hours of nonparental childcare a week (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/going-beyond-intelligence/201702/preschool-nanny-parental-care-daycare-what-s-best).

In line with my research, I spoke to friends and family of past-nannies to find a kind, compassionate woman with high ratings for baby Hunter. In the meantime, I discussed hours with my boss to ensure Hunter received no more than thirty hours of nonparental childcare a week.

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Another concern of mine was (and my scenario) opposite-sex parenting. Could I be up to the task of raising a boy?

According to one U.S.News article, many ”psychologists agree that boys do not require constant male guidance to grow up confident and healthy.” Rather, the task is more than doable with the right mindset (https://www.google.com/amp/s/health.usnews.com/wellness/for-parents/articles/2017-03-21/how-solo-single-moms-can-raise-confident-healthy-sons%3fcontext=amp).

Perhaps most important, “Banish any ‘man of the house’ notions about your son” and “set limits early.” I should focus on my son’s needs, not address Hunter as some knight in shining armor or confidant. Likewise, it is important to teach my son values, like kindness, compassion, and helpfulness. As a mother, I’ve made sure to act as a role model for Hunter, who can follow in my lead. I make sure to always treat others with kindness and maintain a positive attitude in his presence.

Just as important, I need support. According to Dr. Meg Meeker, it’s essential to have a confidante/friend who can “keep me sane.” Having someone who will listen to me vent can help me work through problems and keep me strong. Fortunately, I’ve found comfort in my friend Claire, who’s helped guide me through the process of parenting as she raises a child of her own (https://www.megmeekermd.com/blog/4-tips-for-single-moms-raising-boys/).

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asfeedin · 4 years

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Eight science-backed tricks to make you feel less sad

The little things really can help. (Nappy.co/)

Happiness can feel hard to find these days, but research shows that there are free and easy ways to help boost your mood—at least a bit. If you’re feeling low, consider trying some of these evidence-based tricks to turn your day around.

Drinking a cup of tea

Scientists are still working on figuring out exactly how tea manages to placate our troubled minds—and how strong the effect actually is. But there is evidence that a good cuppa will make us feel better more often than not. Some researchers think a large chunk of tea’s benefits could come from the fact that we tend to drink it in scenarios that are conducive to relaxation, but that just gives you an excuse to turn your afternoon tea break into a little ritual filled with other comforts, like a favorite cookie or a snuggly blanket.

Smiling and laughing—even if your heart isn’t in it

Faking it until you make it may not be the secret to everlasting happiness, but trying to look a little perkier may actually help your mood a bit. A recent meta-analysis of dozens of studies on facial expression and emotion found a small but significant effect: Scowling can actually make you feel more upset, smiling can make you feel happier, and so on. Consider giving yourself a grin in the mirror when you first wake up, because it might just put a little pep in your step without you even realizing it.

There has also been some research suggesting that self-initiated laughter can lead to genuine chuckles. So, don’t discount the therapeutic benefits of a silly video or tweet that always makes you snort; take some time to crack yourself up, even if the effects feel short-lived. (My go-to laugh inducer is this stupendously stupid meme about a corgi. The corgi looks so proud of their awkward heart butt!!! Hilarious.)

Moving around—even if you aren’t interested in “exercise”

There are heaps of evidence that working out has mood-boosting benefits, but it can be understandably difficult to get motivated to break a sweat when you’re feeling down in the dumps. And that’s to say nothing of the difficulties of exercising while stuck inside, working from home, managing childcare, or maintaining a stressful job as an essential worker. If you’re not someone with a standard exercise routine to begin with, now may seem like a horrible time to start.

But there’s good news: Studies suggest that any kind of increased activity can help make you happier. Dance around the kitchen while you’re brewing a cup of tea. Do some simple stretches between Zoom calls. Walk up and down your hallway while you’re on the phone with friends. Instead of focusing on the task of planning a workout—which may serve to sour your mood even more—just try to move more than you did yesterday. And once you’re feeling a bit better, consider scheduling some serious at-home exercise that suits your needs and abilities, because the effect will be even stronger.

Thinking nice thoughts about other people

One recent study found that subjects who were instructed to wish happiness upon everyone they saw ended up feeling better than others. In other words, when you scroll through Instagram, try thinking to yourself, “I really hope that person is having a good day” every time you see a human face. One study isn’t enough to prove that this kind of positivity has a universal effect, but it can’t hurt. And given that many people unconsciously use social media as a way to feel better about themselves by viewing others in a negative light, we could probably benefit from a bit of a change in perspective, anyway.

Getting creative

The American Psychological Association highlights creative activities for their ability to provide an emotional boost. Drawing and coloring can be especially beneficial for young children, since the practice is an effective way to distract them from the things that are making them sad. Even if the person whose mood you’re hoping to boost is a grown-up, a coloring book or paint-by-numbers set can provide a soothing and enriching endeavor.

Praying or meditating

In addition to improving our reactions to traumatic situations, prayer and meditation may also release oxytocin, which is a hormone known for supporting social connections (and often associated with making us feel good). Of course, these practices will only be beneficial if you believe they are a good use of your time. If prayer doesn’t suit you, meditation and mindfulness practices can have the same effect: Prompting you to take some time to reflect on your feelings and look inward, which will help you stop fixating on problems you can’t control. You can find more tips on how to practice mindfulness here.

Helping other people

Altruism is great for its own sake, but what’s in it for you? A whole lot, according to some research. Volunteering time or money to a good cause can induce a sort of “helpers high,” triggering a release of hormones that help your brain feel good. If you don’t have the means to donate to charity, you might make some cloth masks for those in need, organize the PPE collections for your local hospital, ask old, sick, or otherwise encumbered neighbors if you can help them by picking up their groceries, or simply call a friend who you know is struggling with the current situation. Helping them feel better will help you feel better, too.

Going outside—or bringing nature inside

It won’t surprise you to learn that spending time outside is associated with lowered rates of depression, better health, and an improved mood. If you’re feeling glum and can take a walk around the block or sit in your yard for a spell, the great outdoors can definitely help.

Not everyone has safe or easy access to the outside world, but at least one study suggests that listening to nature sounds offers some of the same benefits as a real trip outside. Since sunlight itself is also associated with giving your brain a happy chemical boost, simply sitting by a sunny window or using a daylight-mimicking “happy lamp” could help as well. Other research suggests that houseplants can have a positive effect on human moods; one Japanese study found that looking at a potted plant for just a few minutes a day made workers less stressed.

The takeaway: If you can safely spend time outside while keeping your distance from others, make that a priority as often as you can. If you can’t, then use open windows, natural light, plants, recorded nature sounds, and happy lamps to approximate the outside world as needed.

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Eight science-backed tricks to make you feel less sad

The little things really can help. (Nappy.co/)

Drinking a cup of tea

Smiling and laughing—even if your heart isn’t in it

Moving around—even if you aren’t interested in “exercise”

Thinking nice thoughts about other people

Getting creative

Praying or meditating

Helping other people

Going outside—or bringing nature inside

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scootoaster · 4 years

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Eight science-backed tricks to make you feel less sad

The little things really can help. (Nappy.co/)

Drinking a cup of tea

Smiling and laughing—even if your heart isn’t in it

Moving around—even if you aren’t interested in “exercise”

Thinking nice thoughts about other people

Getting creative

Praying or meditating

Helping other people

Going outside—or bringing nature inside

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zillion-ronald-manus · 6 years

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Ok buckle up my children of the Garden of Weeden, it’s time for a thought exercise. (A case for preventative eugenics)

m(((KEEP IN MIND, I AM NOT A PROFESSIONAL IN ANY RELEVANT FIELD TO THIS DISCOURSE. PERSONALLY, I’M JUST A SHITPOSTER WITH OPINIONS)))

[also if you notice weasel words like “most if not all” or “typically” it’s because I don’t research my shit and there’s no accounting for human weirdness - anything on group political opinions is never in absolutes. Dealing with groups is mandatory for broad issues is difficult for a non-collectivist like me]

The term “meme” as we use it today, in summary, came about from Richard Dawkin’s The Selfish Gene. I haven’t read it myself, but from what I understand a meme is a thought that is transferred from one to another - like a kind of abstract parasite, being passed and/or mutated through socialization. Memes that can not spread die out or go dormant. memetics is a very interesting field and while it’s not a professional source, I recommend this video (and many other of Emplemon’s non-YTP longform videos) to learn about memetics and the how and why. or find your own sources. The linked video also has other subjects as well, but it’s primarily about practical application of memetics.

One thing that many on the left are against, in most cases, is Eugenics. Now I’m not gonna make any big arguments for it - like all technological concepts it must be taken slowly or we risk fucking up to a point we can’t recover. Measure twice, cut once, all that jazz. Except eugenics, in it’s original icky form (originally just killing/sterilizing people with undesirable traits like being queer, retarded, or jewish) is not argued for at all except in fringe groups that have little to no political sway, and even less acceptance in the modern political climate.

Most if not all of what can be considered “eugenics” nowadays is more of what I would term “preventative eugenics” instead of “remedial eugenics”, wherein issues that could arise that we can detect before childbirth can be solved before childbirth to grant the child a better life than they otherwise would have - as opposed to remedial, where the kid would be born fucked up and then turned into a lamp or soap or ash or something.

preventative eugenics could create a much more able working class - both mentally and physically. Less (possibly even none, once advanced enough) people born physically-challenged, less people born mentally-challenged. Less strain on the common family, less pain on individuals unlucky enough to be born into a malfunctioning body, less drain on schools, towns, governments, the world, to allow such people an even playing field.

Of course there are some issues with this - with humanity, many of our most special innovations and ideas have come from the out-group, some of which probably did have some sort of mental illness - you need an outsider to be able to come up with something new after all (another emplemon video on the normie-outsider dichotomy here)

Because of this, there may be an autism panic - where if curing autism becomes possible, it will be cured en mass - making autistic people even more of a minority than they already are. There would obviously be losses from this, and the normie:outside ratio would increase, but I believe there’s a solution to this, if vague (because I don’t have degrees in genetic science and psychology, give me a break I’m an internet shitposter):

1. Study the nature of autism, if our current knowledge is inadequate

2. Educate mothers on the potential hardships, and potential differences of having an autistic child

I believe in at least some level of freedom from government, and so I believe that the government should not mandate that autistic babies be normalized - that would be extremely unethical, and most definitely WOULD lead down the nazi-slippery-slope that many people would like to avoid. In this case, it should most definitely be the choice of the parents.

Wait a sec, Pro-choice?

Now an argument on abortion, the lethal current form of eugenics that replaces my theoretical non-lethal preventative eugenics, is a related but oft-discussed issue already, and this post is already very long. I just want to point out that this is a bit of a wonky issue.

on the left, they are typically pro-choice, that a woman should be allowed to abort a fetus inside their body (the main argument being whether the government should fund it or not), but are typically against eugenics even in the manner I’ve described earlier, which is strange. Abortion is typically used as an escape plan after an irresponsible sex life (or rape) leads to unintended pregnancy - but it’s also used eugenically, if less common than other reasons. There are certainly women who have gotten or will get abortions if their child would be autistic, or have some other severe deformity that would further complicate childcare. While it’s looked down upon (and in my opinion, worse than the preventative eugenics I’ve laid out earlier as it plain ol kills the baby instead of normalizes it) it is not illegal and is definitely a form of abortion that happens.

On the right, they are typically pro-life, that a woman should either not be allowed to abort a fetus inside their body, or depending on your beliefs (each side has diverse memetics after all) you may just want it to not be government-funded, or perhaps it’s okay as long as it’s just for rape-sourced babies. It’s a complicated argument, lots of opinions, but the right typically has more pro-life traits than the left. Can’t make any case for the current or future overton window, but the right falls generally on the pro-life side of that window, even if the window’s all the way to the left. Since Preventative Eugenics would involve altering a fetus, it opens up more complications - you aren’t taking a life and in many of these cases would be improving a life (if the operation works). Would this be alright as it is not taking a life? prosthesis and operations, and psychiatry in general are not sins of god as far as I know (don’t have a theology degree here and haven’t read the bible all the way through people, give me some leeway), and those are essentially the same thing, except less precise and traumatizing to those who are inflicted with disabilities. Would you rather your child be born unable to walk, then make it through life with a wheelchair (or in a cool-ass future, robotic legs/exoskeletons like in robotics;notes), having had to experience their disability, or your child be born able-bodied, use less resources, and have an altogether better experience? there are arguments either way, so for that reason I am of the opinion that choice should be available in this theoretical situation.

there’s obviously a lot of discussion that could be had here, and shutting down talks like this by basically saying “well, you’re using eugenics! You’re just like Hitler because you don’t want retarded people to exist!” is incredibly dishonest to the conversation. I don’t want starving people to exist either, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to kill everyone in africa to reduce world hunger statistics. Improving the quality of life for all of mankind requires our limited resources to be used more efficiently - the less disable-bodied people we have, the more effectively resources can be used on this earth, and on the small scale a child that is not born special will most likely have a better experience than one that is (although you could argue that retardation is the ultimate form of “ignorance is bliss”)

and back to the original topic - the reason I made this post is because this strange thought, mutated or synthesized from memetic concepts I had already come across:

as memes are essentially mental genes passed down through social interaction, you could consider ostracization, ignoring, exiling, etc. as mental eugenics - analogous to sterilization of others, except it’s much harder to mentally sterilize someone - short of physical impairment or death, or absolute isolation, it’s near-impossible to prevent someone from spreading ideas, if they can communicate at all.

In essence, is attempting to manipulate or sway public opinion not the act of memetic eugenics?

Also, the subject that was talked about the most - is the manipulation of fetuses to remove defects, mental or physical, good, allowable, deplorable? We must also consider the slippery slope that could also lead to designer babies (we run into the same issue with robotic enhancement too - more money buys better baby genetics, more money buys better robotic arms with more guns in them).

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How to Tell If Someone Is Worth Your Trust

Louise Delage. Remember her?

She was a 25-year-old social media star, who in 2016 gained over 50,000 likes in a couple of months with photos of herself at boat parties and exotic travel destinations. She seemed like a fun, free soul who was enjoying her life to the full – but the reality was very different. In fact, she was an alcoholic, and was actually being used as part of an anti-alcohol campaign created by French agency BETC.[1]

The campaign, known as “Like My Addiction,” was designed to raise awareness of alcoholism among young people. The daily images of Louise appearing to enjoy her life with a drink in hand was the perfect set up. People loved her social accounts, and no doubt many people began to dream of emulating her lifestyle. When the reveal came, her social media followers were made to realize that they had failed to spot that Louise was actually a sad, struggling alcoholic.

It’s an extreme example, but in the real world (as well as in the virtual world) we can easily be duped by people who are not what they first seem.

Don’t Let Your Bias Blind You to the Truth

When meeting people for the first time, you’re most likely to trust your instincts and judgements. However, this may not be the best way to proceed, as it’s likely that you have some inherent biases.

Neglect of probability bias – many people find probability to be a difficult concept to deal with. This leads them to make black or white decisions. In other words, they choose either 0 percent or 100 percent. The problem with this type of decision-making, is that most things (and people) aren’t just day or night. In reality, they are a mixture of things. So, a person who you may regard as 100 percent good, may in fact, have a negative side that you overlook due to bias.[2]

Illusory-correlation bias – this can be described as our tendency to erroneously connect an action and an effect. For example, you see a news story about a shark attack at a beach you are due to visit. Although the shark attack is the first in decades at that location, you immediately decide not to swim in the sea during your holiday. The odds of being attacked by a shark are incredibly low, and in reality, millions of people swim safely in the sea every year. Therefore, by staying out of the water, you’ve allowed the reported shark attack to cause an illusory-correlation bias in your mind.[3]

Biases can cause us to make faulty assessments of people. And this can be bad news for us.

Making the Wrong Judgement Can Be Harmful to You

Imagine that you interview someone to look after your young children for one night a week.

The 20-something lady appears calm, confident and easygoing. She also has childcare qualifications. As the safety and well-being of your children are paramount, you ask the lady for references from previous childcare work she has done. As if expecting that question to come up, she reaches into her handbag and takes out an envelope which contains two handwritten letters. These appear to be genuine reference letters from two of her previous employers.

As everything seems in order, and the lady appears qualified and friendly, you find yourself drawn to offering the part-time childcare role to her immediately. However, something inside stops you doing it. Instead, you say to the lady: “Thank you for your time today. I’ll let you know tomorrow if we’d like you to start.”

After the lady has left, you decide to do a quick bit of online research using the person’s name and address. What you discover horrifies you. Credible news stories state that the lady had both of her children taken from her by social services due to her maltreatment of them. She was also prosecuted for the offence, and had served several months in jail!

Having discovered the truth about the lady, you rightly decline to offer her a position caring for your children. But just think how close you came to giving her the job. It’s enough to give you nightmares.

As the above demonstrates, making the wrong judgement about a person can be bad news indeed.

Use These Seven Tips to Decide Whether a Person Can Be Trusted

Learning how to correctly determine if someone is trustworthy is easier than you may think. And to prove this to you, I’ve put together a list of seven simple tips for deciding whether a person should be trusted.

1. Observe the person from different perspectives and in different situations.

You don’t want to judge a person too easily. By doing this, you won’t be giving yourself enough time (or material) to form an accurate assessment of a person. Instead, try to observe the way a person behaves in different scenarios.

For example, someone at work may seem warm, approachable and super-friendly. However, you may see a different side to them when they go out drinking with friends on a night. Instead of the amiable person you see at work, they may become boisterous, arrogant – or even aggressive.

2. Analyze their behavior to see if it’s consistent across different circumstances.

As discussed above, people can show different sides to their personality depending upon the situation they are in. A reliable, trustworthy person is more likely to demonstrate consistent behavior than someone with something to hide.

If you’ve ever watched those ‘border control’ TV programs, you’ll notice a pattern. People with something to hide are often overly-friendly at first (when they are trying to smuggle something into a country), but when it appears they are about to get caught – they frequently express irritation and anger at the border control staff. An honest person is likely to show far less divergence in their emotions.

3. Take time to discover the “whole picture” of a person.

I’m sure you’ve heard the expression: Don’t judge a book by its cover. Well, this is true not just for books – but for people too! You must take an adequate amount of time to reach a fair appraisal of a person.

As an example for you, remember a time when you moved into a new house or apartment. You may have introduced yourself to your neighbors, only to find that one of them seemed quite rude and abrupt. You took an instant dislike to them. But as future events would show, you were too hasty in your judgement. This particular neighbor turned out to be the most helpful. They received your mail, cleaned the entrance way to your properties – and even offered to look after your pets when you went on holiday. In hindsight, it appears they were just having a bad day when you first met them.

4. See if they trust others.

People who are easily suspicious of others, are the very same people you may not want to give your trust to.

This was suggested by a recent study of the behavior of online video game players.[4] The study found that those who were happy to cooperate and rely on other players were less likely to double-cross their partners in a game.

In other words, trust is a two-way street.

5. Ask yourself how much you know how they think.

Getting inside someone’s head allows you to understand how they think and act. One way to do this is to listen closely to what they say. Our words often betray are true thoughts.

Criminal investigators frequently use this trick. When interviewing a suspect, they ask lots of questions, including some that are not specific to the particular case. They do this to see whether a suspect will reveal more about themselves than they might wish to do. A guilty person may try very hard to hide the truth. But in their efforts to appear innocent, they can often trip themselves up.

Once you discover a person’s thought patterns, you’ll be able to make a fair assessment of their trustworthiness.

6. Try to learn about their past.

The person standing in front of you may look like an angel – but what do you really know about them?

Before giving your trust to a person, it makes sense to learn about their past. Employers understand this well. Whenever they’re hiring new staff, they’re likely to have a rigorous recruitment process. This usually starts with a detailed look at a resume. If the resume fits the bill, then the candidate will be asked to come in for an interview (or series of interviews). The employer will probe the candidate about their qualifications and their work experience. If the candidate is lucky enough to be selected for the job, references will be required before any contract is signed.

While you don’t need to be this thorough when assessing a person, it definitely makes sense to be aware of their past.

7. But don’t strive to know 100 percent about a person.

If you do this, then you’ll likely to never reach the stage of deciding on their trustworthiness.

Instead, aim to know a decent amount about a person. This may be 15 percent, 30 percent or even 50 percent. The exact percentage is unimportant. The key thing is to understand enough about a person to be confident in deciding whether they can be trusted. A good example of this, is when choosing an automotive technician. Their ad in the local newspaper may sound appealing, but do some research to see if their customers have been satisfied with their work.

We all have trust issues from time-to-time. It’s just human nature. However, if you follow the seven tips above, you can super-charge your people assessment skills. This can help you to match up with trustworthy people, and to avoid the dishonest and undependable.

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Reference

[1]^Adweek: Who Is Louise Delage? The Troubling Truth Behind an Overnight Instagram Success[2]^Changing Minds: Neglect of probability bias[3]^Brain Biases: The Illusory-Correlation Bias[4]^Phys Org: Study explores trust in online gamers’ psychology

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How to Tell If Someone Is Worth Your Trust

Louise Delage. Remember her?

It’s an extreme example, but in the real world (as well as in the virtual world) we can easily be duped by people who are not what they first seem.

Don’t Let Your Bias Blind You to the Truth

Biases can cause us to make faulty assessments of people. And this can be bad news for us.

Making the Wrong Judgement Can Be Harmful to You

Imagine that you interview someone to look after your young children for one night a week.

As the above demonstrates, making the wrong judgement about a person can be bad news indeed.

Use These Seven Tips to Decide Whether a Person Can Be Trusted

1. Observe the person from different perspectives and in different situations.

2. Analyze their behavior to see if it’s consistent across different circumstances.

3. Take time to discover the “whole picture” of a person.

4. See if they trust others.

People who are easily suspicious of others, are the very same people you may not want to give your trust to.

In other words, trust is a two-way street.

5. Ask yourself how much you know how they think.

Getting inside someone’s head allows you to understand how they think and act. One way to do this is to listen closely to what they say. Our words often betray are true thoughts.

Once you discover a person’s thought patterns, you’ll be able to make a fair assessment of their trustworthiness.

6. Try to learn about their past.

The person standing in front of you may look like an angel – but what do you really know about them?

While you don’t need to be this thorough when assessing a person, it definitely makes sense to be aware of their past.

7. But don’t strive to know 100 percent about a person.

If you do this, then you’ll likely to never reach the stage of deciding on their trustworthiness.

Featured photo credit: Stocksnap via stocksnap.io

Reference

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