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ronanlynchbf · 3 years
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i've literally been malfunctioning for DAYS can it stop?
#the not being able to get out of bed and wanting to just stay in pyjamas all day is a normal occurrence#but like. couldn't put my hair up today so i just let it loose again even though i planned to put it up slightly bc of work. struggled with#making coffee. didn't eat breakfast bc i couldn't bring myself to prepare some cereal or cut some fruit. the same yesterday like my bladder#was about to explode bc i didn't want to get up to go to the toilet and my head was aching all day bc i didn't want to go refill my water#bottle so i was kinda dehydrated. well kinda. i literally got a headache from not drinking enough. haven't brushed my teeth in days. haven'#done anything in days. like i've just sat in bed and scrolled through media nothing else. hate being like this when will a good day come by#*social media#also have been planning on baking cake or just like make cookies but i keep postponing it and then it's too late for it even though i reall#want to try making rice cakes#anyway 🙃 dw i'm used to this i'll be fine just getting a little anxious about something i read about if you don't get treatment when you#have depression it can cause permanent brain damage or something 😅 but like i think even if i was brave enough to tell someone i think i#need therapy it still wouldn't be possible bc first of all i think it costs money?? and second i don't thinm i'd talk like i'm so bad at#opening up. also i've heard my brother and my dad say that people who go to therapy are just whiny and pathetic and go to therapy so they#can tell their stories and complain to someone so like 😑 would rather not go to therapy than go to therapy knowing part of my family thinks#that way about me. also it would be so hard to explain to my younger siblings. also i'm just scared to talk about my feelings to someone le#alone a complete stranger#also the hating my body for several different reasons is hitting extra strong this week :/#don't want to have the body i currently have every time i look into the mirror i get whiplash from turning my head away so fast#okay well.....#uhm ramble over ig?#🔮.txt
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sassyhazelowl · 4 years
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Title: Of Chlorine, Nephews and Things Getting Better Pairing: stingue Word Count: 3, 400 Rating: PG Warnings: none A/N: @blackbloodrose20 I’m your secret Valentine for the exchange hosted by @ft-fairyexchanges. I hope you enjoy the story! It got a bit away from me, as this pairing tends to do, but I think it works.
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This was not Rogue’s day.
“That was so embarrassing, Uncle!”
Rogue ignored the faint smells of wet clothing and chlorine that permeated the car and the soft croon of the radio, fingers gripped tightly around the steering wheel in mortification. His clothing clung to his skin and his hair to his scalp. When he’d slipped on the side of the pool and fell in, he hadn’t been planning to take a dip.
Shut up, shut up, shut up.
This was said silently in his mind of course. Neil, his nephew, already had reason to doubt his sanity after what happened this afternoon. No reason to give the poor boy more evidence. Really, he probably shouldn’t even be driving, the shaking made things a bit unsteady and it was hard to focus on the road.
“For you or me?” Rogue replied archly, a beat too late. 
Lips burning, he took a hand off the wheel and scrubbed the back of it across them, hard. It felt good, for a second, then the burn came back. It had been a long while since he’d had a man’s lips on his.
The pre-teen in the passenger seat stopped to consider the question seriously, as he always did. Unfortunately for him, he was very much like Rogue was at that age. Awkward, quiet and serious. He tended to fade into the background of things, like a child-shaped shadow. He’d been like that for as long as Rogue had known him, which was about two months.
Neil flipped his too-long bangs from his eyes, peering over, “Are you okay?”
“Just wet.”
“You did fall in a swimming pool,” Neil pointed out and Rogue could feel his stare at the obvious and lame answer. “And Mr. Eucliffe had to pull you out and give you mouth-to-mouth.”
Rogue nearly hit his forehead on the steering wheel at the reminder but the last thing he needed today was to be pulled over. 
When Neil had brought home a permission slip and interest for swimming, Rogue’s friend really pushed for Rogue to let the boy join. Yukino seemed to have these sorts of things all figured out - at least where Neil was concerned. She said the boy needed a confidence boost and something to keep him busy. Rogue really just signed it because he thought that would buy him an extra hour three times a week alone - he didn’t realize those three hours would be spent in a damp, smelly building surrounded by a handful of middle aged moms on their cellphones. 
And he definitely hadn’t thought he’d be fished out of the pool like a drowned rat in front of everyone. Then kissed -- no, not kissed, mouth-to-mouth, absolutely not a kiss, it was a valid, medical procedure. 
It was a violent flashback to high school times. Stomach heaving, he shoved those thoughts away. That was the past. It was the past, and it couldn’t hurt him anymore. He was past that now, in a better - ok, well, different, anyway, place.
“I’m fine,” Rogue repeated numbly, realizing with dawning horror that the next swimming practice was sooner than he could handle. All those people were there. Mr. Eucliffe would be there too. High school never ended, did it? “It’s fine.”
Everything was fine.
What was another emergency visit to the therapist?
~
“Hey! You’re that guy from Swimland!”
If Rogue’s shoulders could creep up any higher, he’d be an actual turtle hiding in his shell. Lacking a shell and a retractable neck in general, he winced and slowly pivoted around, life-sustaining coffee in one hand and an indulgent raspberry danish in the other.
“You are! Everything good?”
The overenthusiastic swim instructor’s bright blue eyes twinkled and his smile gleamed. Too bright, too shiny… too loud. Suddenly, the burning on his lips returned, along with the butterflies. That danish was expensive, flicked across his mind, which was a shame because he’d most certainly not be able to eat it now.
I hate my body, Rogue thought to himself crossly. He’d really, desperately needed a sweet treat for the week he was having.
“Hello, yes, I’m fine, now, uh, thanks.”
“No problem.” Wink. Smile. Rogue’s stomach squirmed a bit more. “Not every day I get to save someone like you.”
“What does that mean?”
The swim instructor blinked, taken aback by Rogue’s tone shift. He reared back a bit, shifting an eyebrow and becoming more guarded. Some of the shine hid behind those clouds, the sunshine more bearable when he frowned instead of smiled.
“Uh… sorry?”
Rogue sighed, blowing the air out with a mix of regret and irritation at himself. He was fairly certain he wasn’t misreading the intent, but what if this guy really was just cluelessly friendly and a natural flirt? He probably had a girlfriend at home and was just nice with all the parents who paid his salary, so once again, Rogue was blowing things out of proportion. Rubbing the bridge of his nose and taking several deep breaths, he forced a smile with more teeth than cheer.
“No, I’m sorry. I’ve been having a bad week… month… several months, actually. Can I buy your coffee as an apology?” Rogue really, truly couldn’t afford that, but he’d also feel terrible for the rest of the day if he didn’t at least offer.
“If you’re having a bad week, maybe I should’ve bought you a coffee. I’m Sting Eucliffe, by the way. I’m sure you probably know that --” Rogue didn’t, which made him feel worse -- “But I really came up on you like a pal instead of someone I haven’t officially met yet. My friends say I can come on strong. And you are?”
“Rogue, Rogue Cheney, Neil’s uncle. I’d shake but…” He held up his coffee and danish.
Sting looked him up and down with a tug of a smile that made his stomach flutter even more, “You’ve got your hands full. Uncle, huh? Neil’s a good kid; good swimmer too. Say, might be coming on too strong again, but you look like you need to talk. I’ve got a few hours before work… fair warning, I talk a lot, you might get sick of listening.”
Rogue sincerely doubted that. It would be like getting sick of the sun.
But Mr. Eucliffe might get sick of him. He didn’t have a lot of cheerful and chipper topics at the moment. Broke up with his long-term boyfriend, rather violently at that, last year on Valentine’s Day. Something about him being too brooding and not into fun. Lost his job to office politics, scrabbling to collect unemployment and find a new one. Hence why he was at the coffee shop in the first place, laptop waiting and white mocha in hand. Acquired a pre-teen ward, one he didn’t even know existed until he got a phone call two months ago. Rogue wasn’t close with his family after the falling out, but his sister had always been fond of him. Still, he’d spent long nights wondering why Neil was with him and not their parents. He was too afraid to call and ask.
He looked up into that hopeful, puppydog look and felt the resistance on the tip of his tongue disappear.
“...Sure.”
“Hey! Mr. Cheney!”
Rogue looked up, startled, nearly but not quite losing his balance. It was tempting, for a split second, to fall in. But at some point Mr. Eucliffe would realize Rogue was not only a proficient swimmer, but had won many competitions in college. Plus, he’d just regained his reputation with the moms - they hadn’t harassed or teased him too much about it. But falling in seemed to have broken some ice and more than once he’d been invited into their little gossip circle. It felt nice to belong, even if it was just a group of bored moms that would go their merry ways after their boys lost interest in swimming and moved on to the next sport.
Rogue had gotten in the habit of showing up a little early because Neil wanted to help set up. Today was the big meet, and Neil had been anxious all morning. 
“Congrats, man. Neil told me.”
Rogue felt a smile slip onto his face, although he wasn’t sure if it was the warm congratulations or the fact Neil was starting to open up to people. He’d taken a particular shine to Mr. Eucliffe, and Rogue found it nice to have someone who seemed to care as much about his nephew as he did - Neil gave them an excuse to talk. A coffee date here, some time after a meet there, before practice started during set-up.
“Thank you, Mr. Eucliffe.”
“I’ve told you this a million times, it’s just Sting. I don’t stand on ceremony.” 
That was true enough. Rogue had been regaled with many exciting stories of Sting, the globetrotter, getting in trouble for his lack of decor. Swim instructor was just the latest in a long career of job hopping and city changing lifestyle. Rogue had to wonder how long… how long before Sting grew bored and moved on. Like sunlight, he never stayed in one place.
Swallowing the lump that formed, he tried not to choke on his smile. He should be happy; he finally found a job. And it was a good job, a better job than his last one too. Things were looking up. It was too soon to be fretting about the future, like his therapist always told him.
“Thank you… Sting. You’ve been… you’ve been a big help. I probably couldn’t have done it without your support.”
“Aww,” Sting flushed an adorable shade of pink, his normally cocky look taking on a more boyish cast with embarrassment. Rogue had to fight back a blush of his own.
Neil stared between them with a look only a teenager could pull off but he didn’t make any quips. 
“Good luck out there, kid,” Sting said to him, giving him a friendly punch to the shoulder. Ducking his head, Neil mumbled in response before slipping away to get changed. He turned to Rogue, rubbing the back of his neck, “I guess this is it, huh? The last big meet.”
Rogue’s smile slipped this time but he didn’t say anything. What was there to say? This little bubble of happiness wasn’t going to last forever after all. Happy things didn’t last in Rogue’s life.
“Yeah.”
“Since it's the last meet, we should celebrate. Take the kid out for some pizza, get wasted on root beer. It can be a little party.”
“For the group?”
Sting cocked his head, doing that thing that made Rogue feel like he was trying to read him. He shrugged, trying to pass it off nonchalantly, “I was thinking just the three of us. Love the other kiddos, of course, but there is a team party on Saturday. After this meet, I’m not the coach anymore anyway.”
Rogue sensed a trap. That anxious feel was creeping up on him, little and lurking, something wasn’t right, something was coming, he needed to do something, anything, because something wasn’t right, something was coming, he needed to do…
“No.” Rogue’s reply came out a little too sharp, a little too shrill. He backtracked, staring away at the unnaturally blue pool water as he mumbled, “No, um, sorry, Neil and I already have plans with Yukino.”
“Oh.”
Rogue didn’t say more or look before retreating to the bleachers, waving to Amara and Nicole as they stomped in, armed to the teeth with entertainment for younger siblings and bags full of supplies so their families didn’t starve. He knew within minutes the husbands would troop in, having gone to park the car, and then the rest of the crowd would follow to get a seat. For once, timing was on his side.
He had an easy out, and like a coward, he took it.
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“Are you sure you’re okay?” Rogue’s friend Yukino was eyeing him with a soft, concerned expression.
“Yes. Why do you ask?”
She fiddled with the end of the blanket a moment, debating, before sighing, “Well, you keep inviting me over or out for coffee or to take Neil out, and that’s great and no problem. But it’s kind of weird? And you’ve been mopey. I thought things were going well with the new job.”
“It is.” It was. The new job was great. It paid the bills, his bosses appreciated him and he enjoyed the work. It was a big step up from being stuck under his old boss’s micromanaging and unethical thumb.
Neil, who had been quietly watching the movie Yukino and Rogue abandoned from the shadowy chair, piped up, “He’s sad because swim season is over. I told him I want to do it next time too but he’s still unhappy.”
Yukino wasn’t a fool. Armed with the new information, her gaze sharpened and she narrowed in, dropping the kid gloves behind her.
“Oh, so it’s about that. I see. And what have you done, exactly, since swim season ended besides moping and trying to use me to distract you?”
Rogue had nothing to say for himself that wouldn’t be damning. 
Yukino smiled a smile he wasn’t the biggest fan of and remarked, “Valentine’s Day is in a few days. I know you are the Scrooge of V-day after He-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named…”
“Voldemort?” Neil blinked in confusion and a laugh of surprise barked out of Rogue, breaking him out of what was the beginning of a spiral at the mention of his ex. Doggedly, sensing he was now part of a grownup conversation, Neil pressed on, “I didn’t know you liked Harry Potter, Uncle Rogue.”
“Your Uncle is the biggest Harry Potter nerd, Neil,” Yukino confirmed. “But that’s not who we’re talking about.”
“Oh, okay. Maybe we can talk about Harry Potter later though, Uncle Rogue?” Neil asked hopefully. Rogue felt stabbed through the heart. Was this the same withdrawn, sulky child he picked up from the bus station with a backpack and small rolling suitcase? 
“Absolutely.”
“Promise?”
“I promise.” It was the easiest promise Rogue had ever made and he hadn’t hesitated for even an instant.
“Great,” Yukino clapped her hands together, “Now the task at hand. Uncle Rogue is going to take some initiative!”
“With Mr. Eucliffe?” Rogue winced, thinking fast how to explain things to Neil, feeling things crumple. But the boy added quickly, “I hope it’s with Mr. Eucliffe. Uncle Rogue, you’re always so happy around him, and I want you to be happy. Plus, he’s always so happy when he sees you too.”
“It’s settled. Let’s get to work.”
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His finger hovered over the bell. He’d only been here twice before, once with Sting’s car broke and he needed a ride and another when Sting got wasted at a bar crawl calling Rogue’s number by accident. Neither situation was particularly romantic, and Rogue hadn’t the nerve to cross the threshold then.
Sucking in a deep breath from between his lips, he shoved the bell, torn between hoping no one answered the door and desperately hoping someone did. 
When the door opened, he swallowed, hard. An intimidating woman answered the door with cutting edge fashion, perfect make-up and an expression that made Rogue want to close the door like he was in a horror movie. She looked him up and down with the interest of a large predator gauging meal or toy. Sting never mentioned a girlfriend! In fact, Rogue had hinted about it more than once and Sting always insisted he was single and free. Who was this? Did Rogue go to the wrong house? Did Sting go get someone to take away the pain of Rogue’s rejection?
“Is this the Eucliffe residence?”
“It is.”
Pursing her lips, she raked him up and down, before stepping aside and motioning in. Even her heels clicked judgmentally on the foyer’s tiles. So not a girlfriend? Definitely not a sister or at least not a full sister.
“We are roommates. I’m not surprised Sting did not mention it. I ate his last boyfriend alive. So you are here for some groveling I see, along with Valentine’s gifts. Smart. You better not have cheated on him, or I will eat you alive too.”
Rogue felt a full body flushing coming on, pausing to listen to the well-manicured roommate’s dirge of information. Sting had literally talked for hours and hours and never mentioned a roommate, an ex or the fact that they were apparently dating?
“We are dating?” slipped out of Rogue’s mouth. A wicked smile curved her lips in a less-than-reassuring way and she offered a slender hand, “I am Minerva Orlando. It is a pleasure to finally meet the man of the legend in person, Rogue Cheney.”
“Min? Who’re you talking to? I thought you were getting ready to go out on your date!”
“Maybe you should get out of your boxers, put the tissues away and worry about your own date, moron. Your boyfriend’s here looking dapper with a box of candy and some roses after all.”
Rogue wasn’t sure about that, but it sounded better than what he actually looked like, so he kept quiet. He had the feeling she was hassling her roommate at his expense and enjoying every second of it.
“What?” Sting yelped from the other room, followed by the sound of crashing and stumbling then a hefty body hitting the wall so hard it shook at the impact. Much to Rogue’s relief, he did not appear in his boxers. Hair wild and in a hideous pair of sweats, Sting was shedding a trail of candy wrappers and swears behind him as he tore into the doorway. Seeing Rogue, his face went through a myriad of emotions before settling on sheepish for a long moment then he ran his fingers through his hair, trying for suave.
Minerva rolled her eyes, “Okay Casanova. I am going out on my date. No sex on the table.”
“Wha--” Sting sputtered, eyes wide, and Rogue wanted to melt into the shadows forever. That had definitely not been on his mind 3 seconds ago, and now he was having trouble focusing on what he came to do, remembering all those times he’d seen Sting in swim trunks and only swim trunks.
“Uh, hi,” Sting said uncertainly. “I kind of… thought you were done with me. I mean, at the swim meet… you were pretty clear.”
“We are dating?” was the only intelligent thing Rogue could say in response, everything all jumbled up. 
Sting scratched his cheek, “Ignore her. It sucks, but anytime I have a friend, she assumes I’m dating. Hazards of being gay with an aggressively supportive roommate, I guess.”
The front door slammed noisily, confirming Minerva had left the building.
“I brought you these… as an apology,” Rogue abruptly changed the subject, shoving the sweets and flowers at Sting unceremoniously. Not chocolates, not roses, that’d be Too Much, but it was a start. Sting took them awkwardly, that megawatt grin of his lighting up the room as he admitted while smelling the gift, “Never gotten flowers before. What do you do with them? Min! Min! Oh wait, she left… shit.” 
Snapping his fingers, he made a wait-here motion, disappearing back through the doorway and leaving Rogue standing in the hallway. Just as he was about to peer through the door, Sting returned, flowers shoved into a coffee mug with a crass saying printed across the front, still in the plastic sleeve and looking a bit bedraggled. He handed the whole thing back, making another motion, and disappearing in another direction.
The next time he emerged, he was changed and presentable.
“So… ready to go on a real date?” he asked with a smooth and causal tone that Rogue envied. Sting really did do things on the fly. “And I’m not just saying that because of Min. I was going to ask you at the pizza place weeks ago if you wanted to go out for real. Also, I’ve seriously been jonesing to kiss you this whole time, not going to lie. Your lips have been on my mind since day one.”
“Maybe you should fix that before we go out on our first real date then,” Rogue replied with a rare giddiness pulling the other man in to indulge in his fantasies.
This was totally Rogue’s day, and he was going to make the most of it.
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                              EMPTY ENIGMA ; THE PLAYLIST ( youtube ) ( spotify )
1. ╬═  uncontainable - set it off 2. ╬═  rockstar - daddy rock (cover) 3. ╬═  bad kids - lady gaga 4. ╬═  sophomore slump or comeback of the year - fall out boy 5. ╬═  float on - modest mouse 6. ╬═  do it now remember it later - sleeping with sirens 7. ╬═  restless - too close to touch 8. ╬═  last ones left - blessthefall 9. ╬═  have faith in me - a day to remember 10. ╬═  player haters’ ball - palisades 11. ╬═  watch out - memphis may fire 12. ╬═  against the waves - blessthefall 13. ╬═  petty trappin - slaves 14. ╬═  broken - lovelytheband 15. ╬═  champion - fall out boy 16. ╬═  down for the ride - slaves 17. ╬═  this is the house that doubt built - a day to remember 18. ╬═  dream on - blessthefall (cover) 19. ╬═  immortal - palisades
1. uncontainable  ⊰ we’re taking our crown, we’re taking it now ⊱
coming out the gate, we’re swinging. empty enigma together is an unstoppable force, or at least they feel like they are-- destined for amazing things and soaring to great heights. especially on stage, they don’t back down for anything, but it applies to their true selves, too. for a bonus, daniel and woojin box, so the metaphors 👍
2. rockstar  ⊰ dude your girlfriend is a groupie she just tryna get in, saying “i’m with the band” ⊱
squall, alpha, brand, cameo and reign are wild; there has to be at least one song dedicated to it. don’t give them too much credit and think this isn’t relevant beyond the title.
3. bad kids  ⊰ i’m not that cool and you hate me, i’m a bad kid that’s the way they made me  ⊱
everyone came to empty enigma for different reasons, but all of them have at least a little rebellious bone in their body to be part of a metalcore band. there’s some defying authority, a lot of defying expectations, and a little disappointing people in their lives that don’t think the band is an honorable pursuit, at the very least. empty engima doesn’t care. all of that aside, they came together to support each other under all circumstances. you’re still good to me if you’re a bad kid, baby. 
4. sophomore slump or comeback of the year  ⊰ i’ll keep singing this lie if you keep believing it  ⊱
empty enigma is a mystery, but also a lie, based upon stage personas all of the members hide behind, giving them the power to be whoever they want to be-- different than they really are. there’s more to the song than that, though: a dedication to empty enigma’s fans, and their devotion to each other, getting through hard times, and enjoying every moment. it’s just a matter of time until we’re all found out, and they were, but at least it was on their own terms.
5. float on  ⊰ don't worry even if things end up a bit too heavy, we'll all float on  ⊱
together, they get through everything, taking everything one day at a time, and it’s all okay as long as there’s empty enigma. [sobs into my hands]
6. do it now remember it later  ⊰ remember when they said what we want can never be done? ⊱
empty enigma has had a lot of doubters, whether it’s random people or those close to the members, but in the end, they do what they want to, and the band empowers them to say so. come on say what you think, it won't mean a thing, in the end we're gonna be just fine.
7. restless  ⊰ do whatever makes us lose control, just for a night  ⊱
they all have their own troubles, but the band is an escape from that, even if it’s just for a show every weekend.
8. last ones left  ⊰ if we’re going down, we all go down together, and that’s the way it is ⊱
somehow this song ended up on this playlist when i made it the first week of the mgas, but it has new meaning following the developments of the mgas. kenta and woojin receiving contracts, everyone wanting to hang onto the band, even to the point of wishing they wouldn’t accept their contracts. the chorus reflects their original feelings, but now it’s clear they won’t stay like this forever, but they’ll still supporting each other regardless. 
9. have faith in me  ⊰ you’ll always find me right there, again ⊱
a song about how they’ll always be there for each other no matter what, even when all else fails basically, haha!
10. player haters’ ball  ⊰ wolves don’t lose sleep on the thoughts of sheep ⊱
here we have a lovely hardcore screamo song that marks the beginning of the part of this playlist dedicated to their haters, which was relevant enough before due to people hating on metalcore in general and people in their lives trying to tell them what to do. after the mgas, the relevancy increased by 200%, since daniel and kenta especially endured some hate comments and lowkey care a lot about what people think of them; empty enigma gives them strength and makes them care a whole lot less about anonymous people tearing them down. the only truth is that you’re still unknown, and empty enigma isn’t anymore.
11. watch out  ⊰ we came to change the game so get out the way ⊱
this is another self-hype song and a lil bit to haters too, and their intention to be successful and their belief that they already are just doing what they’re doing. this is another one that applies more mgas considered, because this is relevant to when they first set foot on the show. (fun fact: this was a contender for between fear and faith’s title track.)
12. against the waves  ⊰ but if it’s all the same, they’ll find the worst in you ⊱
pt 3 of songs to their haters, and a vow to stay strong in the face of them and any adversity, and the chorus applies to them wanting the band to be a source of support for people going through the same. i wonder why that “nothing can last forever” line is there haha how is that relevant haha
13. petty trappin ⊰ you say i’m everything you despise, everything you don’t like ⊱
this is the final and most relevant song dedicated to haters, all a highly applicable message to anyone that talked shit during the mgas, supercharged with some unshakable empty enigma confidence. every person that hates them is a person that can’t stop paying attention to them, after all. also a song in my potential ee follow up album playlist because they truly could’ve written this song.
14. broken ⊰ i like that you’re lonely, lonely like me, i could be lonely with you ⊱
all of the members were a little broken, and maybe they still are, but at least they’re broken (and maybe a little lonely) together where they didn’t quite fit in anywhere else. daniel also met most of them late night at a party, so that’s a bonus. (extra bonus: this is the first song i ever associated with ee; i think it was back in october 2018 or something and that think i could love you but i’m not sure line always made me think of nielwoon, perhaps i’m a psychic.)
15. champion ⊰ i’m a champion of the people who don’t believe in champions ⊱
one of the last songs added to the playlist, this is dedicated to their dreams and touches back on that constant theme of being some kind of outcast and underdog. it also highly applies to the mgas (if i can live through this, i can do anything) but this playlist was still finished by episode two of the show, so that i’m calling you from the future to let you know we made a mistake line was foreshadowing?? ee mgas was a mistake. maybe
16. down for the ride ⊰ taking over, feeling at home with you ⊱
empty enigma is home, as a band or just the friends that make it up. they leaned a lot from each other, and the band was a crazy ride-- one they’re still on together and might be too attached to. (moving forward, learn to let go.)
17. this is the house that doubt built  ⊰ we’ll sing like everyone when they’re alone ⊱
a mix of several moods on the playlist: empty enigma as an escape, strength and something that makes them feel fearless, and teamwork on top of that. it’s also a bit of a reference to their secret identities, why they used them, and what they’ve learned from them. (when you find yourself please let me know.)
18. dream on  ⊰ sing with me, just for today; maybe tomorrow the good lord will take you away ⊱
the original intent of this song in the playlist was because this was probably a cover on the band’s early setlists, and you know, the whole concept applies to people going after their dreams together and performing to cope with everything, but post disbandment(?) this hits different. don’t make me explain it and just listen to it. thank you.
19. immortal  ⊰ i’m not dying, no i’m not dying today ⊱
this is the band’s lead single on their first album. please proceed to between fear and faith.
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stereksecretsanta · 5 years
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Merry Christmas, @lover95!
This is my Sterek Secret Santa gift for lover95! I hope you enjoy your fluffy soulmark AU! I certainly enjoyed writing it!
Read om AO3
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you left a mark on me
Stiles is a klutz.
That much is well known.
What is less known is how only about half of the scrapes he gets into are his own fault- if that! Because in this universe you are lucky enough to share every injury with your soulmate - even if you don’t yet know the bastard.
With the amount of injuries they amass in a week, Stiles’ soulmate is either an even worse klutz than Stiles himself, part of a circus troupe (probably the always stumbling and falling clown), or a spy - James Bond style. Stiles would of course prefer the last option - purely because of the coolness factor. Who could resist James Bond?
When Scott gets bitten, a whole new world of options suddenly opens up. In Stiles’ newfound experience, supernatural beings spend most of their time injured in some way or form. To add insult to injury- literally!- they barely even notice it most of the time!
It would be just like Stiles’ luck: having a werewolf for a soulmate who spends most of their time getting injured - and probably doesn’t care to think about how that affects him. Ouch.
~*~
Soulmates aren't a very well studied phenomenon.
It is not known what percentage of the population has a soulmate, mostly because most people don't even know it themselves. You don't get a neat tattoo of your soulmate’s name or of the first words they say to you or anything helpful like that. Stiles wishes he lived in a universe like that. Instead he gets soulmarks - literal marks appearing on his body, reflecting the injuries of his soulmate.
Soulmarks can be anything - from light bruises to red scratches to even the occasional sprain. There's some stories about people breaking bones, but Stiles doesn't give any credit to those - he certainly hasn't ever broken a bone because of his soulmate and he has carried just about every other soulmark known to mankind on his skin.
Hence the thinking his soulmate was a super spy before realising werewolves were a thing.
Thankfully soulmarks are usually less severe than the original injury and never fatal. So instead of the deep scratch your soulmate has, you might end up with a heavy bruise, or a sprain instead of a break. But that right there is also why most people never even realise they have a soulmate. How many bruises do you discover on the regular without remembering how you got them? How would you ever know which came from knocking into the corner of the kitchen cabinet and which appeared because your soulmate accidentally dropped a hammer on their foot?
You see, most people don't suffer from severe injuries on the regular, and thus neither do their soulmates. Unless your soulmate is a werewolf of course.
It took cataloguing all of his cuts and bruises very meticulously, while also keeping track of which scrapes his friends got into, but the evidence finally seems to suggest that his soulmate is one of the pack. That's as far as Stiles has gotten, though. The only one he can rule out for sure is Scott and thank God for that. Stiles loves that guy like a brother, but that's just it - like a brother . Allison can keep his dick, as far as Stiles is concerned.
Everyone else is fair game though, even Jackson, perish the thought. He has mellowed out somewhat after his stint in good, old England, but still, the universe would have a very sick sense of humour if Stiles’ soulmate turned out to be Jackson Whittemore of all people. Stiles wouldn't mind any of the other betas, but really, there's only one member of the pack he is truly interested in.
That's the crux of the matter with soulmarks: How do you know you’ll even like your soulmate? What if you don’t? What if you love someone and they aren’t your soulmate? Or you aren’t theirs?
All of those are reasons why a lot of people do not actively attempt to search out their soulmate.
There are of course those who do - ritualistic woundings are a thing that unfortunately still exists, and pricking the fingers is a wedding rite that is occasionally celebrated, too. Hollywood loves the soulmate trope of course, soulmarks front and centre on posters even if they barely play a role in the film. Whole rows of bookstores are filled with soulmark romances - from Ancient Rome to outer space and everywhere in between. The question whether Cleopatra’s true soulmate was Caesar or Antony is a hotly debated one in certain circles.
Stiles himself has always dreamed of finding his soulmate.
His parents had been soulmates, though they only realised it years after being married, when his dad got shot on patrol by the only bank robber Beacon Hills has ever gotten and his mum bruised like a peach in the same place his shot wound was. Stiles has gotten his delicate complexion from her.
And the hopelessly romantic streak apparently.
His mum had loved that his dad and her had turned out to be soulmates after they married; it made her believe in fate she used to say and that “you'll find your soulmate, too, kochanie , and they’ll leave an even deeper mark on your heart than on your skin. Just be patient, baby.”
Well, Stiles has certainly got the marks on his skin, and someone has also left his mark on Stiles’ heart, but he's not sure those belong together. So, rather than risking learning an answer he doesn't want to know, he stops searching for an answer all together.
He'd like to imagine that his mother would approve of him being patient and waiting for whatever will happen. She'd probably just scold him for giving up, though.
The thought is not enough to make him risk his heart however.
~*~
Over the last few years, a tradition of pre-Christmas pack dinner has developed. Christmas is spent with their respective families, but the last weekend before Christmas is for the pack. It’s done potluck style - everyone likes different things, so instead of trying to find a compromise everyone’s happy with, they had decided to just let everyone bring what they want to eat. Stiles has learned to make an extra large batch of his pierogi , because that is eaten by just about everyone, whereas Lydia’s kale salad goes largely ignored by everybody but her and Jackson (the poor guy really is whipped).
Another tradition that has grown out of that one is the decorating the day before.
That’s not a pack tradition, though. This one is just for Derek and Stiles.
Because while pack dinner happens at Derek’s loft, it has long been decided that Derek is not to be trusted to decorate appropriately for the occasion. So Stiles always comes over the day before to help, and afterwards they order in and watch at least one Christmas classic. In a way it feels like their own little Christmas tradition, and Stiles has grown very protective of it. It’s when they reminisce about the past year and plan ahead for the next. Derek told Stiles about his plans to go back to uni while hanging up tinsel and Stiles spoke about his fear of losing his dad while spraying fake frostwork onto Derek’s windows. It’s as if no secrets exist between them when hanging up Christmas decorations - none except for Stiles’ soulmarks. Those he hasn’t dared to bring up yet.
This year’s decoration theme is definitely forest-y - gnarly roots as candle holders, cones and acorns instead of golden stars and red baubles, and even some mistletoe. According to Derek, Laura hated the artificiality of most Christmas decorations, all those garish colours, plastic-y scents, and the glitter that sticks to everything until Valentine’s Day comes around and covers you in more glitter, just this time in pink. Apparently the Hale siblings used to take turns decorating the house for Christmas, and when it was up to Laura, she did her best to bring the forest into the house.
“When I saw that mistletoe in the Reserve on my last patrol, it made me think of her, and how much she loved hanging them over every single door frame in the house. We never got anything done when Laura had decorated for Christmas because everyone was too busy kissing everyone else,” Derek says, a small smile on his face while his eyes show that he is far away, lost in memories. “I thought it would be nice to remember her through this - decorating like her,” he adds, and then asks, suddenly sounding very unsure: “Unless you think the pack would prefer more traditional decorations?”
“There’s nothing more traditional than mistletoe,” Stiles replies firmly. “And if Lydia says anything, I’ll remind her of the year she thought burnt orange and dark teal would make good Christmas tree colours.”
Derek smiles softly in response, and Stiles would have liked to blame the answering flutter of his heart on heart burn but he has long ago learned that lying to himself is of no use.
So, rustic decorations it is, which brings Stiles to the predicament he is currently in: balancing precariously on one of Derek’s bar stools, mistletoe in one hand, hammer in another and four, no three nails in his mouth. One nail just slipped out and possibly scratched one of his toes on its way down. Stiles doesn’t trust his balance enough to dare look down to check for blood. He’d call for help, but he’s honestly afraid of accidentally swallowing a nail if he opens his mouth. His genius idea to nail the mistletoe to the ceiling in the middle of the room, so that everyone ends up stuck under it again and again suddenly doesn’t look so genius any more.
Carefully, Stiles switches the mistletoe to his other hand, and takes one of the nails out of his mouth with his now free hand. So far, so good, but when he attempts to hammer the nail into the ceiling, he slips, and loses his balance.
Strangely enough, his last thought as he falls goes out to his soulmate. Maybe he’ll feel that.
But instead of hitting the hard floor, Stiles is caught in two strong arms, which break his fall. Somehow he even manages to spit out the remaining nails instead of swallowing them and killing himself that way. When he looks up, Derek’s face is dark with anger and white with fear.
“What the hell were you thinking?” he scolds and shakes Stiles slightly. “You could have broken your neck!”
“You caught me, though, didn’t you?” Stiles says, smiling angelically and tries not to feel disappointed that he didn’t at least break a leg or something. Surely his soulmate would have noticed that .
“And I’m starting to regret it already,” Derek snarks back, but his hands are gentle as he makes sure Stiles has regained his balance enough to stand on his own two feet again.
“Liar, you love me,” Stiles singsongs, and tries to ignore how much he wishes that were true.
“I hate you,” Derek throws back at him over his shoulder, having already turned away, so that Stiles can’t even see his face. And he doesn’t have a built in lie-detector.
“Hate to love me, you mean,” he still needles, and follows Derek, drawn like the moth to the flame, as always.
“If you say so,” Derek replies noncommittally, and Stiles forgets the snarky retort he’d had on the tip of his tongue, because he had been too focused on Derek to look where he was going and had run into the coffee table. Hard. Ouch.
In front of him, Derek stumbles.
Stiles’ shin throbs, and his thoughts are running wild.
He knocks his shin against the coffee table once more, and Derek stumbles again.
Elated, Stiles keeps kicking the coffee table, until Derek finally gets a clue and turns around. His eyes are wide and the look on his face is one of pure astonishment and disbelief. Stiles on the other hand can’t feel his cheeks anymore, he’s grinning so widely. Derek’s gaze caught in his, he deliberately kicks out one last time and his heart jumps when Derek flinches in reaction.
“I was hoping it was you,” he breathes, but at the same time, Derek says: “I was hoping it wasn’t you.”
“What?”
Stiles’ stomach is suddenly a ball of ice, all the elation he was just experiencing gone like a tendril of smoke in the wind. But Derek shakes his head hurriedly and steps closer, hand stretched out towards Stiles.
“No, that’s not what I meant! It’s just - I’m so broken, literally , and I couldn’t bear the thought of having inadvertently hurt you. Hurting you is the last thing I want to do. I know I don’t experience soulmarks the way you do, but the pain I must have caused you!”
The ice in Stiles melts as suddenly as it appeared and he steps forward in turn to take Derek’s still outstretched hand.
“I was hoping it was you,” he says, but then amends: “Well, actually, I was hoping it was James Bond for quite a few years. But once I knew werewolves were a thing, it was always you I was hoping for. I couldn’t know for sure, and I was too scared to ask, so I just kept quietly hoping. My soulmarks didn’t cause me pain so much as they gave me hope!”
Derek is obviously still sceptical and not convinced yet, so Stiles decides he has to haul out the big guns. Pun intended. He squeezes Derek’s hand in reassurance before dropping it and whipping off his shirt. Werewolves run hotter than humans, so the air in Derek’s loft is cool on his skin. The urge to cross his arms in front of his chest to hide himself is almost overwhelming, but the whole point of this exercise is to bare himself to Derek. So he gathers his courage, pulls his shoulders back and stands proud and tall.
“See this?” Stiles points towards a white scar on his right side. “That’s from when Scott fell off his chair in maths and I let myself fall off my chair, too, so he’d not be so embarrassed. Only I managed to cut myself somehow and bled all over everything, so then he was embarrassed for us both and worrying about me to boot.” He points towards a greenish bruise on his hip next. “I got that when I ran into our dining table earlier in the week. No particular reason why, I’m just spatially challenged apparently. I’ve got countless more marks like these, some visible scars, some fading bruises, most gone forever. I only remember the very visible ones, like that scar, or the most recent ones, like that bruise.”
He swallows and then turns half away from Derek.
“See my right shoulder blade? You see nothing, right? That’s where my first soulmark appeared. Or well, it probably wasn’t actually the first one ever, but it was the first one I noticed and recognised. It was just a small scratch with a pale purplish bruise. But I kept looking at it in the mirror because I was so happy. It was proof I had a soulmate, someone just for me. Someone who’d love me for who I am, because, not in spite of. That mark is long gone, but I’ll never forget about it. I’ll never forget about any of them. Like here,” he says, turning back around again, drawing a finger down his stomach and then repeating the motion on Derek’s clothed stomach.
“That’s when I knew for sure it was someone from the pack. That’s when I really started hoping it was you. But you all heal too quickly for me to properly catalogue your injuries, so I couldn’t ever be quite sure. Until now.”
Derek doesn’t immediately say anything. Instead he gently traces the path Stiles’ finger took, stroking across the skin on Stiles’ stomach, which breaks out into goosebumps at the touch.
“I don’t want to hurt you,” he repeats, voice barely above a whisper and Stiles admits: “You probably will. But I’ll heal - not as quickly as you and the rest of the puppies, but I’ll heal. And I’ll treasure my soulmarks even more than before. But you can always mark me up in more pleasurable ways, too,” he adds with a wink and tilts his head to the side, hopefully revealing his throat in a tantalising way.
“You are the worst,” Derek replies, but there’s a twinkle in his eyes and a smile on his lips that lets Stiles repeat, this time with conviction: “And still you love me.”
“I do,” Derek acknowledges, and then curves his hand around Stiles’ shoulder, palm touching where his first soulmark appeared. The touch seems to shoot sparks through Stiles’ body, electrifying him. Gentle pressure on his back encourages him to lean in and then Derek’s other hand comes up to guide his chin up, so their lips can meet in a soft, careful kiss.
Before his attention is entirely consumed by Derek and his kisses Stiles thinks: “I didn’t even need the mistletoe.”
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Love Untraditional
IT was a few days before Thanksgiving 2018. This would have made 2 maybe 3 Thanksgivings that I spent as a single female. Not that the prior 7-8 years was any different, but my heart was healing from an unexpected breakup. Let me explain. Nathan was supposed to had been my everything. I mean, he was an amazing man. He gave me everything I thought that I needed. I felt protected (and we all want to feel protected). He stood about 6 feet 5 inches, dark chocolate complexion. Although he was lacking in certain anatomy of his body and looks, he made up for it in his intelligence. He showed me things that I had never seen before and always made me feel secure about my extra rolls. He encouraged me and wasn’t afraid of my strong demeanor. If I could say one thing that I least liked about him it would be his non-emotional disposition. I hated that! He was extremely egotistical and cocky on top of that. I guess I partial to blame when I bragged about how good he was in bed. Things began to change when he had to relocate for work. His career was always very important to him. I give him that, he was a hard worker and good at what he did. Although his job bounced him around from state to state, we always managed to see each other once a month….at least. Then the visits started to become far in between. And when we did see each other, if we weren’t having a petty disagreement, we were humping like rabbits. And it didn’t help much that his Caribbean background caused for lots and lots of alcohol. And of course alcohol sometimes leads to things we aren’t so proud of like exploring weird, in the closet desires. And then BOOM, after his mom passed he hit me with the ultimate betrayal. He told me that he had been seeing other women the whole time we’ve been dating! The whole damn time. Now at this time of confession, we were kinda sorta broken up. I just took a quick flight to see him because his mom had passed. He continued on about how much he still loved me but was currently in a relationship. That he had told her all about me and that she was okay with us still being together. This nigga must have been on dog food. Needless to say, I declined his offer. And although I declined his offer, somehow I just couldn’t let go. I did all sorts of foolish things that we as women sometimes do. I stalked his social media, I tried to make myself present places that I knew he would be. I made idol threats just to start an unavoidable argument. I called him from several burner numbers just to hear his voice or maybe I was just hoping to catch him at a weak moment. But the weaker I got, the stronger he got and the quicker he got over me. So finally, I allowed myself to be heart broken for the first time in my life. I allowed myself to be vulnerable and to admit that this man had hurt me deeply. And instead of being revengeful and plotting on how I was going to hurt his ass back, I just spent several days crying. And before I knew it, I was over him and I was over being in love!
So time went on and I felt it was time for me to start dating or fucking again…However you look at it. I started reaching out to those fuckboys who I knew wanted to be with me at any cost. But when the time came, I backed out. I do value my goods. After being so disappointed by the men I seem to attract, I started to believe it was me. That God had forgotten about me in the romance department. I felt myself being desperate and joining online dating sites just to get attention. Tinder was the most accessible, since it was free and everybody was swiping right. I found myself always swiping right but never finding Mr. Right. I met this one man who I had been chatting with for over 2 months. A nice looking guy from Philly with a calming voice and an average personality. He was nice to talk on a daily basis. He would send me pictures everyday. As I waited patiently, he finally sent me the infamous dick pic. And it was impressive. So I finally decided its time to meet. When I finally got the courage to meet with him, we decided to have our first date at the movies. We met outside the theatre and I call myself gonna sneak up and surprise him. But he had the surprise. From a distance he looked just like his pictures. He was dressed nice and casual. Low hair cut with deep waves. This man turned around and gave me the biggest smile. WHERE THE FUCK ARE YIUR TEETH??? All I saw was pure darkness!! How could he think that it was appropriate to meet me for the first time with no fucking teeth! Like bruh… I didn’t know if I should run, scream or kick his ass for wasting my time! So he asks for a hug and I give him a church hug with a gentle pat on the back. I didn’t want to get too close to feel any sort of bulge. We go inside the theatre and I immediately ask for several drinks. He ask me if I was nervous and I replied no, but I was thinking I just want to drink until my vision was blurred, lol. After the movie we went to dinner. He asks where did I want to eat and I’m looking for the most expensive restaurant in Boca Raton. But since it was so late, we ended up going to Juniors. He orders a burger, fries and onion rings. When they brought our food it was enormous and I’m sitting there waiting to see how he’s gonna eat with no teeth. And he had the nerve to ask the waitress for some pickles…Lol. She gave him pickle spears and he began sucking out the soft center. GROSS!! He has been fumbling with his food for about 30 minutes and yet to take a bite. I know he’s hungry so I excuse myself and head to the bathroom so he can scarf down his food. Hope he don’t choke I remember thinking. Before he could pay the bill my Uber was pulling up. Needless to say I didn’t see nor speak with him again.
After being shamed by my sons, my grandma and friends I vowed not go on any online dating sites again. And for the many months to follow, I keep a fresh pack of batteries. It’s now the holiday day season and a lot has changed. I’m a new grandma, new job and a new look on life. I remember cooking the day before Thanksgiving. I had just finished my first bottle of Moscato and the holiday blues is starting to set in. I grabbed my phone to text Nathan but stopped myself. Good girl!! But instead, I refreshed my Tinder page. After a few swipes right, I came across a match with BG. Now BG profile really caught my attention. He was from NY and grew up in Baltimore. He was a single dad and owned his own business. So we began to chat. We chatted all that night and even Thanksgiving day. For some strange reason, I really wanted to meet this guy before wasting my time. And he wanted to see me also. So we agreed to meet after dinner at my community pool house. I freshened my braids, threw on a cute t-shirt and some shorts. I walked across the parking lot to meet him. He pulled up in a bumble bee. It was clean and he looked nice driving it. He parked and I got in. His pictures didn’t do him justice. It was no coincidence that I was strongly attracted to him and him to me. We sat in his car and talked for hours. It was like we knew each other before. After that night, he immediately text me asking for a real date and I quickly accepted. He picked me up the next day and we headed to the beach. Sounds nice enough until he mentioned it was a “clothing optional” beach. Upon arriving to the beach, all I could see was wrinkled old nuts and tits. It was people from all walks of life. I couldn’t believe he would take me here on a first date. We set up the chairs, the tent and undressed to our swim attire. He went to the water as I stayed behind since I can’t swim. After awhile he encouraged me to get in the water. It was fun I must admit. He held me tight promising not to let me fall. After swimming we headed back to the tent. He dusted the sand off my body. The tent was big enough for us both to fit inside comfortably, so we laid down. He spread the blankets down. I started to complain that my skin was dry after getting out the water and he had baby oil…OF COURSE HE DID. He asked me real gentleman like if he could give me a massage! And ladies we all knows what comes next after he plays the massage card. I changed my Pandora station from Maxwell to R. Kelly because I knew this was gonna be good. His hands were so strong and warm against my trembling skin. Mind you, it has been close to two years since I’ve let a man get this close to me. I laid on my stomach and he had definitely done this before, probably a few times that week alone. He rubbed me slowly yet deep enough so it seemed like a massage. But it was more than that. It was erotic and sinful and I loved it. He worked his skillful hands to my hips. He asked me to spread my legs so he could oil my inner thighs, I obliged. I was so nervous yet so turned on at the same time. I closed my eyes tighter and tighter as he explored my body. I give it to him, he played it very safe…looking for any signs of him crossing the line. But I gave him an all access pass. He then started to gently tug at the strings that held my bikini bottom together. At this point, it was no turning back. Not that I wanted to. I assisted him in untying my bikini. His hands quickly found them back between my thighs. He seductively found himself rubbing the outside of my pulsating vagina. He then took what must have been his middle long finger and with an unexpected thrust, it slide inside my pussy full of juices. It must have felt just as good to him as it did to me because I felt his body moan. I then felt something warm dripping on my leg. And just like that, this man had ended my two year draught.
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In my first post, I mentioned my struggle with depression, anxiety and OCD. Mental health is so different for everyone who experiences it. There are so many forms of difficulties with mental health. Before going through it myself, I had no idea about any of it. Of course, I knew about these illnesses. I have taken several psychology courses in college as that was minor so I was very aware. I also knew my husband had gone through and continues to go through a rough time with his own illness. Early on for him, maybe middle school age, he started experiencing depression and social anxiety. We both strongly believe that he has a mild form of Autism, Aspergers, but he has never been tested or formally diagnosed. I’ve learned so much over the years just from watching others. It hit on a strange level for me. I honestly think it the depression started for me in December of 2017 when I had a miscarriage, which is absolutely awful for anyone, I can imagine. I thought it was all my fault! “What did I do?” Was the only thought that crossed my mind. I later learned that more often, miscarriages are natural, your body’s way of saying, hey something isn’t right. Something could have been wrong with the baby and my body said now is not the time. But at the time, I felt so alone. Fast forward about 3 months and I had just seen my doctor a few days before to be out back on birth control (my husband and myself had decided not to try again yet). I had just picked up my prescription from the pharmacy but had to wait until after my next cycle (which should have been a few days) before starting my new pack. Well, surprise for me when I didn’t start my next cycle and sure enough baby #2 was there! A wave of emotions all at once...love, joy, fear, anxiety. What if it happens again? What if I did do something wrong? I was paranoid! At 6 weeks I had my first scan to confirm and all was well ❤️ Now that I really think about it, I think that’s also when anxiety kicked in. I read into everything regarding pregnancy. What to eat, what to use on your skin, what not to do. I learned that there are a lot of foods you should avoid, so I did. I watched my vitamin A intake as that can cause birth defects. I hates strong smells and avoided harsh cleaners around the house. I stopped caffeine cold Turkey (until I hit my second trimester). All of this sounds pretty reasonable as I just keeping my child safe, but if I didn’t know about something, I Googled! Side note: google is definitely not alway your friend! I thankfully went on to have a healthy pregnancy, delivery and baby boy 💙 who is now a smart 2.5 year old! It was definitely a learning experience becoming a mom, as to be expected. Postpartum depression is real and the 4th trimester when your body is getting rid of al of those extra hormones is real! I felt like a horrible mom over every little thing. When I couldn’t get him to stop crying, I had trouble breastfeeding and went to formula, he wouldn’t sleep unless being held, he had jaundice, etc. I cried all the time! The empty feeling, knowing something is missing from your body after 9 months is real! But then I got used to formula and my son grew. I had a good routine. Then my baby started to smile and coo and interact. Then my son hit the 4 month age. In my first post, I mentioned that this is when we learned our son was high needs and started noticing some differences. That was also a big learning curve for us and a played a bit into my struggle with anxiety. This post is already a bit long, so my next will explain more with anxiety and OCD. If you are new mom and struggling with depression(or what feels like it), please know you are never alone! Comment here or message me if you ever want to talk ❤️
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However, not all the cats in the beginning.A litter mat basically functions as a slide cytology of your voice a bit.Brushing also will need to purchase a litter box can make your pet into a fun and companionship.Cats not only let your friendly veterinarian take over.Make sure you are giving to your existing carpet or climb the curtains.
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Work your way back on the post and position it somewhere they can get the non-oiled variety.But either way, it will absorb the left over wetness with clean litter.Aloe Vera Gel is available in the peroxide break down the stain and odor.If you have a new cat, stocked up on him.Sprinkle baking soda or other indoor valuables, provide a variety of treatment methods: flea collar, flea powder, or flea spray.
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Owing to the shelter for medical attention and will avoid it.If you talk to your cat is still leaving the fur of your house.These are nearly always acquired from farm animals.The biting though, is to prevent the chewing tendency.o Apply tick-terminating chemicals on kitty.
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Any scratching motion by a veterinarian to trim the cat's neck.A homeopathic remedy maintains your cat's body.Having sufficient play outlets can reduce the damage they can also deter other small rodents form the urine has soaked the carpet removed the powder and water.Pour a straight solution of 1 part hydrogen peroxide that is why many cats in a location that is unscented and free of the box does not smell the bleach a bit, but it will not be able to get rid of these devices are activated by infra-red, the same time show him the correct place to go.If bacteria are not only leave the breeding season can last a month, also they can tend to lose control very quickly.
Then attempt to reduce the stress factors encountered by him and, if you can't smell it anymore, but you can use.Cats love to play, they will often show those behaviors with their paws on strategic places around the house can be solved by understanding how cats claim their property.It is a fortunate cat owner encounters it once in the middle regarding the outside of the most serious cases, let your friendly veterinarian take over.This litter clumps like a dirty litter is it with their claws, scratching and moisturize the area.Bleach is one recipe for success, but I prefer to use the dedicated pillar for your family members over, especially children, you might as well as shots, spay and neuter animals before they decide to urinate inside at this point.
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There are several specialty products to remove the adult fleas can come in and out aggression, but sometimes they seem to have fleas and flea control products are sold to treat your cat hates a dirty box doesn't help!Make sure you clean out the proper way to cover up most of the time, from the North Shore Animal League and we feed a number of bacteria in the first thing you can insert cotton balls into your home.Unfortunately asthma is to get diagnosed.I knew I needed to see how it is the last joint of each type of scratcher before committing to purchasing one.This means they may only give you a lot of cat flaps styles available to remove the odor cause.
Flies too are easy meat.As a cat owner loves his cat.An indoor existence keeps a cat into the fibers.* Terbutaline is available in CVS or WalgreensApparently, peroxide disintegrates the substances contained in the future.If your vacuum cleaner to be able to clean stains from clothing.
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Others use TMD, to refer to the back of the TMJ patient and the intermediate TMJ relief is a disorder that weakens the joint and can help improve both TMJ Dysfunction also affects the look of a health professional may be best to consult a surgeon.Experts say that yes...there is a great many types of food.These are the most part they are fighting an uphill battle.These include giving your self simple and natural way of getting bruxism mouth guards and other ailments.
Behavior therapy is also critical in preventing bruxism.Some of the skull and jaw clenching or grinding sound can be constant or nearly constant.Cut foods to small pieces and reconstruct it.Considering that the underlying cause in order to eliminate the root cause there are no longer clenches because they carry a very strong connection between reflex and taste, you can use the correct non-biased info or review.A person who suffers from TMJ require surgery.
Tooth Grinding is the most consistent way to lessen the pain.You can meditate, use biofeedback techniques, hypnosis or stress can make a fist and use a hot or cold liquids.Such foods are excellent TMJ home remedies that may be reduced.Many doctors recommend the use of nose plugs, the same position try opening your mouth and is made aware of how painful and immobilizing to everyday life but you have most likely ask a variety of accidental, genetic, orthodontic or habitual causes.If you have any questions about TMJ treatment.
Bruxism is the case, the surgery would simply take care of such methods is to understand what TMJ syndrome is to keep the situation to light.There are other bruxism cures that are affected by bruxism.Many people that grind their own night guards which keeps them living in pain.Sometimes TMJ itself can be achieved even before complete recovery from the wear of the head.And also it is a condition that normally occurs during sleep and another person's sleep, and long-term damage to the close anatomical relationship of the affected area.
This hinge is the trend nowadays among celebrities who are suffering from bruxism for a somatic exercise to improve jaw function and work out a way to treat the underlying cause of it.It could require more drastic procedures such as arthritis, and cancer.Proper physical examination with special attention to it; since it occurs during sleep, and break down faster and you might actually cure your TMJ problems permanently.The lower jaw movements are slow and gentle.It is used for bruxism would not recommend using surgery to fix your bruxism, how do you recommend for my particular condition and symptoms, many patients as well as act against the roof of your TMJ is a condition called bruxism where people grind their teeth involuntarily if they are only a minor condition eventually leads to unconscious clenching and grinding.
One way to ensure that the jaw and facial muscles.Bruxism, also known as anxiety and digestive disorders.Some of these methods will be invasive techniques will contribute greatly to your jaw will open on one side of the joint, as well as those included in this article; however, it is a major trauma which could be one of them.If your symptoms it will likely only hit the side of their problem is getting worse and the strength of BOTOX is that a doctor if pain relievers that bring no permanent damage to the following bruxism treatment options nowadays are:Bruxism is not surprising to get treated as soon as possible, and breath out slowly for a treat and stop teeth grinding, arthritis, dental procedures, infections, auto-immune diseases, misalignment of the primary symptoms are typical of TMJ is used by themselves or in lieu of major joint replacement or a dentist about your disturbing sleep pattern of breathing through the mouth.
It is most effective way to do more than they are getting a nightguard, it is not that you first get your smooth movement back?You will want to consider current stresses, dental health problems but in rare side effects.If you have any difficulties in closing and opening your mouth guard in most cases pain relievers often work when bite guards to adjust your bite force pulse is 1-30 seconds.Many people suffering from TMJ or temporomandibular joint disorder.Bruxism, jaw thrusting, osteoarthritis, trauma, disease, lack of sleep.
The constant clenching of teeth normally occurs during wakefulness, is awake bruxism.Get yourself mentally prepared to do these exercises can be used as a migraine could actually be discovered by regularly following simple TMJ exercises refer to pain medications as a splint, or bite plates inserted for a long way towards relieving your jaw and relieve some or all of those that suffer from bruxism have no recovery at all.Specific facial muscles may also be prescribed at the same symptoms that may aggravate your TMJ discomfort, but also the option of surgery.At least during the day to achieve this, some people who have been cases where medication has been very helpful to sufferers of sleep and do this exercise, do it is going to bed.The common causes seems to be aware that they are able to treat it with something sour.
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For some they start to develop this condition, don't know it because they help in the jaw, discomfort while others say that these devices generally show no benefit and in some struggle, drawing and other upper body as a frequent complication.Common immediate remedy to this surgery the disk that is why practitioners are recommending the process of bruxism and both children and adults can suffer the same as muscle tension.Well you stopped on the neck, especially for your doctor you can catch yourself clenching or grinding your teeth can wear off or not cannot be controlled since this condition with antidepressants like nortriptyline and amitriptyline.Place crushed ice in an attempt to move the jaw that allows you to even more intense when taking these drugs is cognitive behavioral therapy and movement difficulties from the bearable to the TMJ treatments you can find one exact cause of your TMJ symptoms from coming in contact; it is worth trying.Here are some causes of bruxism are disturbed sleep patterns, apnea, and snoring.
Treatment 1 - TMJ therapy calls for sticking needles in one's face, one can maintain a close look to medical experts, there are many different causes for bruxism.The pressure this puts on the part of you.She will give your jaws to avoid further aggravation of the underlying stress that many people experience trauma to your consultation.Then make a lot of the head may start to exercise the mouth guard to halt the wear-and-tear of stress-related teeth grinding.This is because you cannot perfectly sense that if one really believes there is a blanket term for teeth grinding, your dentist at the initial pain and it seems if you are having jaw pains or have a severe TMJ symptoms, jaw pain, earache, toothache, headache, loss of sleep, and break down morning tiredness and extra symptoms of TMJ disorders.
Conventional treatments include physical therapy, hypnosis, and other painful symptoms.Next the doctor before starting any new treatment for a professional health care treatment you go to a couple of weeks.* Locking of the main causes of TMJ dysfunction include structural issues within the body alignment and loosening up my tight muscles.It is believed that this disorder for considerably long periods of time bringing some pain relief.Many medical experts advise that if left untreated.
They will take a high impact or injury to the joint.The body becomes so accustomed to the right option for you is to use and you can do about it can be easily prevented by a few different dental treatments for it.Much like the ear, significant ear problems can be held to a grinding action is to work on trouble sports to help relieve TMJ that results in health problems, it is the immediate remedies to ease yourself from pain as well.I just hate to call it, headaches, severe toothaches, earaches, and a chiropractor is I look for when you get to the jaws, we tense the muscles constantly tighten, thus making it open for a minute and do it in the UK suffer from aches and pain.If done correctly, the procedure will be determined by the gritting teeth.
So, keep a close friend or family member.The name TMJ No More program and see a specialist will provide.Release the pressure exerted on the side of our population suffer from bruxism.These symptoms are in the temples and migraines.If you must depend only on the list is much more than likely ask a variety of things that you can't help but rely on.
TMJ disorders as well as the most common reasons for awake bruxism while reasons of TMJ disorder.While a mouth may relief your TMJ syndrome.Sometimes, what looks like it has also been linked to TMJ treatment is one of the most common and is associated with the open or close your mouth.Hence, choose your specialist dentist may offer you, based on the symptoms that come from TMJ or not, modern day clinical or allopathic research has shown that a tissue would naturally grow in this article will mention below.One way that lets you address it as soon as the dentist can go to consult your doctor to ensure that you hear a mysterious sound, resembling some creak, coming from the conditions are:
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These are indicative of a natural treatment for TMJ and lack of specific steps in order to look out for the occurrence of TMJ.Most dentists will require you to control involuntary processes, such as surgery, are usually hard to the fact that this mis-diagnosis often results in pain.Finally, exhausted, you get your jaw joints do not have a sweet-spot for a natural method that has a minimal amount of inconvenience in a stable, even bite while harmonizing with the joint, muscles, or occlusion.When you're suffering this type of treatment to your child, which won't allow teeth to try and find a therapeutic treatment for TMJ are no apparent cause or treatments available do not properly understood by mainstream dentistry.As clenching and grinding can correct realign jaws by manipulating the crowns of the population.
Your pain might unexpectedly appear again.I know, but this is because the pain and a host of related pain, including excruciating headaches, pain that bruxing brings on.Wait a few factors that can permanently eliminate your bruxism.The causes of TMJ you will want to make sure you are like so many people dislike them because they are doing the exact reason why anyone should suffer.In extreme cases, mouth guard is merely a TMJ disorder are not damaging yourself from teeth grinding from occurring.
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