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ohhalefire · 1 year

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Can we hear more about the story of you and your 23 siblings and how you all found each other??

lol so eventually i do plan on making a whole youtube video on this story, and since i don't want people in real life to ever know about this tumblr, i don't wanna go into too much detail in case someone's ever able to like, cross-compare an eventual video i make about this with this post xD but the tl;dr is this:

sperm banks were 100% anonymous, in the old days. There was no way to find your donor, or your half-siblings, or anybody - or so people thought. But then 23AndMe and Ancestry came along and changed all that.

I met a few sisters, at first. And it was weird - we had the same interests! We were all musicians, all high-energy, and so, so obviously related. It was exciting, but there were only a few of us.

Then I got a message from a guy on Facebook, saying basically "ahahaha 23AndMe says we're half-siblings, do you think some error happened somewhere?" and I was like, "I mean, maybe not - I'm a sperm bank baby, so I've found a few half-siblings so far. It wouldn't be too weird for me. Are you a sperm bank baby?"

And he was like, "...not that I know of."

Well, oops.

But he'd seen my profile picture by then. There was no doubt, putting the two of us side by side, who we were. He is 100% what I would look like if I were an all-American football dude. If my profile picture hadn't been up, he told me later, he might not have believed it, but my face sealed the deal.

And lo and behold: he was a loud-AF musician, too. Just like the rest of us.

The story of him talking it out with his own parents is not mine to tell, but suffice it to say he suddenly had a major fire under his ass to find out everything he possibly could about our sperm-bank family. Within a few months, our little group chat ballooned to 20-something, mostly through his hard work of connecting us all. There was a point in time when we would acquire more than a sibling a day! it was truly a strange time.

And yes indeed: we're almost all artistic, and moreover, almost all musicians. The apples really didn't fall too far from the tree, it turns out.

Again, there's so much more I could get into here that I really don't wanna for fear of the rest of the world finding out who I am, because lol my story is pretty unique, and I don't think it'd be too hard to figure out my identity based on it if I went too deep xD and y'all know how terrified we all are on here about being Found Out but suffice it to say that we all adore each other, and I genuinely feel like getting these extra siblings has only brought extra goodness and wonder into my life. I'm lucky - because I've always known I was donor-conceived, I found that this aspect of my life wasn't at all a source of trauma or rejection, but rather just a source of light, love, and joy.

Also, in case someone does still cross-check this post in future: I wrote 26 sibs in the original post - the number 23 is associated with 23AndMe, which I also wrote about, so I'm so sorry, I know it was confusing - but after a re-count we think there may be 29 of us so far xD Looking for than even 30 any day now!

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