The idea of a walrus being so far from its native range and being specifically here does feel less plausible than a fictional sapient being that many cultures believe in turning out to be real. Also, fairy is a very broad category, and is something that could be local to here. If the choice had been between, say, a walrus and a yokai, or a walrus and a chupacabra, I would find it easier to believe that I've just been delivered a walrus (inheritance maybe?) than to believe a Japanese spirit has decided to pay me a visit, or that someone just sent a South American demon thing to eat my nonexistent goats.
What the fairy vs. walrus thing demonstration to me is that humans are a lot more willing to accept an impossible event over an improbable one.
You see, for an event you believe to be impossible to happen, you must be wrong about it's impossibility. It's not easy to accept that you are wrong about the fundamental nature of reality. But once you do, you suddenly find yourself in a world where it makes sense for the impossible event to occur.
When it comes to improbable events, however, Because our brains are bad at processing probability, we treat improbable events like impossible ones, with one key distinction. An improbable event occurring doesn't disprove it's improbability. There is no re-framing that makes a walrus at your door make sense. you're just stuck grappling with an improbable event
The closer a language is to yours, the easier it is to understand, the further it is from you, the harder it is to understand. But there's a sort of uncanny valley right in the middle that makes a language sound silly.
I'm an English speaker. German sounds similar, I can even find cognates sometimes. Mandarin Chinese sounds completely alien, but I can understand that it is a language.
But Dutch, Dutch sounds hilarious. Dutch sounds like a clown version of English. I wonder why that is.
I've heard Spanish speakers say similar things about Portuguese, which makes me think there's some sort of linguistic Silly Zone.
When I have trouble breaking out of that mindset, I try and reason with myself. If I force myself to do X, I’m losing precious time I could devote to something I like, or to another chore; might as well quit and come back to it later. Eating that food that’s disgusting makes me lose time again, and also I read that you don’t absorbe nutrients properly from food you don’t enjoy, so might as well eat something else; also, whether you eat it or throw it in the trash, you’ve already wasted the ingredients anyway. I was supposed to go on a run but it feels like a chore? By the time I force myself to go, it’ll be too late anyway; might as well go to bed earlier tonight so I can have a nice run tomorrow.
It’s not foolproof and I definitely still punish myself, but I’ve gotten better at not doing it.
i went to a tiny counterserve diner once and accidentally poured sugar instead of salt all over my hashbrowns and was eating them sadly anyways. the waitress took them away and started making me another one and I tried to protest, but she just snorted and said "we're not catholic here". now every time i'm doing something painful out of obligation i think about how that is not repenting, this body is not a catholic establishment, there is no nobility in suffering.
1) Never thought about it, but, yeah, that’s a great argument. I don’t think I’ve ever seen the term “men’s care” used that same way for, like, facial shaving supplies and proctologists. Plus, in addition to trans reasons, as someone who started needing some of those “women’s care” products way before they were of age of being considered “a woman”, it makes me feel super iffy.
2) "Jane Doe, Menstruator” sounds like an (even) trashier pendant to “Herbert West, Reanimator” and I love it.
It might sound pessimistic, but consciously remembering that every group has a lot of assholes (and even more people who are neither assholes or great people but just normal, sometimes annoying folks) has helped me a lot. Yup, some of those immigrants are assholes! Yup, that trans person’s an asshole! Yup, those teens are super annoying! They’re people, and they are to be considered and treated as people!
nearly all the arguments for exclusionism amount to "but some of the people in the group i want to exclude are annoying"
like lol okay. yeah, some bisexual people and asexual people and polyamorous people and furries and kinksters are annoying. most humans are fucking annoying. deal with it or perish in debilitating isolation and political powerlessness
me a year ago: no shade ofc, but i don't get why people get into gardening. like, they're plants! they're barely alive! what's the appeal?
me today: his name is hopper, he's a window haworthia, and he's up to four flowers with another one getting ready to bud, and i'm so proud of him!