okay… weird tangent. but like, brute force manual labor aside women actually ffr literally do everything better than men? even stereotypically manly things if the woman in question is interested in doing and (especially in the case of what i’m about to discuss) able to do the “man thing”.

i was thinking about it and honestly, i have never seen a woman with a beard or moustache whose facial heard was objectively unattractive… if you disregard the fact that facial hair in general never fits into what society considers “objectively attractive” for women.

women with beards aren’t that common right. there are not all that many women with actual full beards (probably more than you’d think considering that a lot of women remove their facial hair… even when it’s unpigmented peach fuzz… but dermaplaning is another fucking discussion), that’s just how sexual dimorphism works, women generally have lighter and lesser facial hair.

however… whenever a woman DOES have the hair growth pattern for a beard (for whatever reason) and grows it out… she always keeps it nice, clean, well-groomed, even shaped well if she boasts a thick enough face rug for shaping to matter… and it is obvious WHY, dgmw, i know women are socialized to care more about being attractive and “presentable” — but frankly some men will have the fucking ugliest unkempt beards and i think female socialization is correct on the “take some pride in your appearance” front with this one.

i literally had to explain to my last ex that he might come off as more professional in interviews if he like… invested in a beard trimmer and shaped it every so often. because the man’s beard was rectangular. like, disturbingly rectangular. i’ll give him credit for keeping it in… a bubble braid (?) most of the time, that was kinda cool aesthetically… but when he took those hairties out and smoothed out the kinks… the man looked like he’d walked straight out of minecraft.

and the thing is… he didn’t even know what i meant. he was like “what do you mean shape it?” and i just had to fucking white guy blink at him and patiently explain that the mid-length beards you see on like, “attractive” actors don’t just… grow in shaped like that and that men with longer facial hair often still trim small parts of it to shape it in a way that better flatters their faces? and that if he wasn’t sure how to shape it himself he could absolutely just get it done at the barber’s…

and of course he had to ask if i personally thought it would make him more attractive like dude… obviously, but i was bringing it up gently! and as a serious tip on how to maybe come off as more hirable in interviews which could’ve been completely unrelated to my personal thoughts about it because i literally don’t look hirable in my day to day either. not that this entire paragraph is even related to the point i just forgot how annoying men can be. i’m actually not entirely sure how asperbergers even became a thing, because i swear on my mother i have never met a man who DOESN’T have trouble reading social nuances. (i’m aware that aspergers is no longer a thing and that instead we now acknowledge that all parts of autism exist on a spectrum and i’m also aware that the nazis came up with it but please let a woman make a joke)

back to the actual point tho… like dude? you are in your early thirties and have had a beard since your mid twenties bro you… you aren’t familiar with the idea of being able to trim your beard into a different shape? that’s like being unaware of the existence of hairstyles as an elemenary schooler??? and did he just… never look in the mirror at any point before i mentioned this and notice that his beard was literally rectangular, right angles and all? or did he and he was just like “whatever i guess that’s just how my beard looks nothing i can do about that”? baffling.

and women, no on expects women to have facial hair, in fact it is discouraged. women with beards don’t have as many beard-having peers to learn from. and yet… they keep those beards looking fabulous.

even just a little moustache looks better on a woman, but that’s not a fair comparison. men never look good with JUST a moustache. it either looks like they’re a teenager, really into like… steampunk, or a creep of some sort depending on their natural hair growth and style of moustache.

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Don't ask me for relationship advice cause I'll tell you to kill him

I think the fact that women joking about misandry on the internet is seen as such a egregious act is proof of how women’s emotions and self expression is policed at very level.  Like we are expected to take every form of abuse, from microaggressions to actual murder attempts, with stoicism and if we react or fight back or even just make jokes about our oppressors, we are the ones to blame for our own treatment.  Male anger is glorified and excused and but women’s anger is pathologized as irrational and unjustified. 

Fact: You deserve a partner who doesn’t date you despite you bisexuality, or claim to trust you despite your bisexuality. Your orientation is not a negative. It’s never something that makes you harder to date or to trust.

i hate the label swerf being used to refer to any woman who is vaguely critical of the prostitution and porn industry

i support and love sex workers, it's not their fault they are forced by men to do this to survive. i know many other radfems who do, and yet this label is used by people who don't understand basic feminist theory. no one is excluding the actual sex workers themselves. i'm sex work exclusionary, not sex worker exclusionary

religions are just moid cults. all of them.

“men kill themselves more than women 😢😔”

men kill everyone more than women

Why is the moral dichotomy always placed upon women? Why is it only women that have to be pious and self righteous? Why are women supposed to be kind and nurturing while men are supposed to be intelligent and daring? Why can't women be mischievous and loud? Why can't women be human?

Positive experiences in the fat dyke community from FaT GiRL vol 2

does anyone know of a slogan/movement to resist bisexual supremacist logic being used against lesbians and gay men, by homophobic trans activists and the like? Do any other bi women have any ideas for that? Bi women say no to the idea that lesbians need to like penis? Or something?

This is probably one of the most horrific things I read on Facebook in a while.

I feel like society doesn’t really talk about men who are really jealous, really abusive. Like they’re out here praying on their partners downfall.

“Why should rich people pay more” because fuck ‘em

“So you are okay for paying more when you have money” I am not excluded from ‘fuck ‘em’ when relevant

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i really only saw the one poll about UBI specifically for mothers and i was really kind of hoping to see more discussion because i truly do see the points made in support of and in opposition of…

like, i do feel like being pro-mother (in a general societal sense) and working to provide social safety nets for mothers (be they stay-at-home, single, or otherwise) is very much a feminist issue. while i think UBI for all would be better, certainly there’s a benefit in at least fighting for it to make a large number of womens’ lives easier and safer.

however, i also understand that the only reason the government would pay mothers is to incentivise (and therefore coerce) women into a reproductive role.

however… i truly don’t know which way the impact will matter more. like… is it shitty of the government to use money to bribe women into having kids? undoubtedly. but will the impact of that be large enough to outweigh the immense benefit of making the lives of a vulnerable population of women safer and easier? i really don’t know. i don’t even know how to predict and materially weigh the pros and cons

I ever tell you guys about my ethically dubious radio show back in college? The Mad Dad Hour?