im so ready to be in a relationship so whenever the universe is ready hmu with a keeper

How we all felt in this moment

we’re not talking about this

or THIS

we’re talking about THIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIS

I’ve been thinking about gay dating lately and how most gay people are like, years behind straight people in terms of dating. Because we are often closested and/or fearful for our safety and/or not around other gay people, we don’t get to hit all these “normal” dating milestones like expressing attraction to our crush and going through the awkward “figuring things out” stage or even learning how to get through a breakup. I don’t even think we just postpone this process but because a lot of gay people are forced to pretend we’re straight, either by dating people as a beard or actually trying to force that attraction to be there, we actually go backwards in the process so that when we finally are able to start dating for real, we have to unlearn toxic internalized homophobia and heteronormativity in what becomes its own process, usually lasting our whole lives.

We go through the world craving someone who understands our struggles and can relate to our experiences, but when do we learn what our relationship is supposed to look like? When do we learn that our relationships maybe won’t look exactly like a straight person’s, that we have to regulate our fear of homophobia with our desire to hold our partners hand, when do we learn that our sex isn’t a fetish and our relationship won’t end in a “bury your gays” trope? We get stereotyped and mocked for moving in with our partner after only knowing them for two months, for meeting our dates on Tinder/Grindr as if there’s some magical hub of gay people elsewhere that we just haven’t found. But how else do we figure things out at 25 or or 45 or 75? Gay dating is such a different process from anything else we see day-to-day, straight people don’t realize this and sometimes we don’t even realize it ourselves but it’s true and even if you don’t have all the answers understand that that’s expected and it’s okay.

all y’all had to do was vote for hillary clinton

This is the greatest progression of events I have ever read, where’s my historical gay romance novel about this

When the game shits you and pushes its middle finger up to yours

Stop letting your heart and your pussy choose your men.

are you fucking kidding me

Kesha performs Praying at The 60th Annual Grammy Awards ceremony | January 28, 2018 (x)

SZA attends the 60th Annual GRAMMY Awards at Madison Square Garden on January 28, 2018 in New York City.