What Porcupines Can Teach Us About Making Love

How do we learn about making love? A book, our parents, porn, movies, TV, social media? How about porcupines? This is a hilarious and insightful video and article about relationships, sex, and making love. I will not add anything; please enjoy the video and reflection on making love. Continue reading What Porcupines Can Teach Us About Making Love

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Accepting New Reiki Counseling Clients!

Reiki counseling is a system my teacher designed for working with people through challenging and deep-seated issues. What makes it so effective is the combination of the loving and supportive energy of Reiki, helping somebody move to a slow enough brain rhythm that their inner resistance becomes less of an obstacle. Reiki also creates a safe enough container for us to work on issues that…

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9 Signs You've Done Your Shadow Work

What are the signs you’ve done your shadow work? None of them constantly quote famous authors, Gurus, and teachers. None of them tell anybody who listens or reads that they must do their shadow work. None of them use their spiritual knowledge as a marketing technique for economic success. None of them believe that they know the singular “right way” to lead a spiritually guided life. None of them…

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Conflict Resolution: Transform Your Conflict Cycle

Most couples struggle with conflict resolution. They may call it communication, anger issues, conflict avoidance, contempt, manipulation, narcissism, trauma response, triggers, etc., but we are often talking about conflict resolution. “What is conflict? Conflict is a normal part of any healthy relationship. After all, two people can’t be expected to agree on everything, all the time. The key is…

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First Degree Reiki Training April 20 & 21 2024

A Special First Degree Reiki Training on Saturday and Sunday, April 20 & 21, 2024, from 1:00-6:00. First Degree Traditional Usui Reiki Training is where all new Reiki students begin their Reiki Training. In this class, students receive all four First Degree Reiki Attunements, practice sharing and receiving Reiki, and be ready to share Reiki with friends, family, and emergencies. First Degree…

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What Are We Fighting For?

What are we fighting for or about? This is the question we all need to ask ourselves when we conflict with another person, especially a partner or spouse. As a couples and relationship counselor, whenever a couple shares with me about a “fight” they had recently, I often ask them after they have spoken in great detail how their partner was at fault and what they did wrong, “What was the fight…

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A New Study Reveals the Secret of Why Men Fall in Love

Why men fall in love. This is not as obvious as it seems on the surface. When I was an adolescent boy, I was very confused about what it was that I liked about girls besides their physical appearance. There were girls who I thought were very pretty and attractive, but I had no desire to be with them. Conversely, there were girls that I was only mildly physically attracted to, but they were fun,…

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Online Lunch Meditation Practice Tuesdays & Thursdays!

I am incredibly excited about offering online lunch meditation practice on Tuesdays and Thursdays from 12:15-12:45 (Eastern Time) beginning October 24, 2023! We will practice multiple moving and sitting meditation methods for discovery and meeting various mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual needs.  This is a drop-in practice; you do not need to register or sign up if you want to…

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First Degree Reiki Training November 11 & 12!

A Special First Degree Reiki Training on Saturday and Sunday, November 11 & 12, 2023, from 1:00-6:00. First Degree Traditional Usui Reiki Training is where all new Reiki students begin their Reiki Training. In this class, students receive all four First Degree Reiki Attunements, practice sharing and receiving Reiki, and be ready to share Reiki with friends, family, and emergency situations. First…

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Costa Rican Retreat: The Healing Apprenticeship 2023!

The Healing Apprenticeship is an amazing week-long Intensive at the beautiful Goddess Garden Retreat Center, Cahuita, Costa Rica, January 13-20, 2024. Is it time for you to break through the obstacles that prevent you from sustainably being yourself in all the beautiful and not-so-beautiful ways?  Have you had enough of the same obstacles showing up again and again, no matter how long you are in…

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Second Degree Reiki Training on October 7 & 8, 2023!

I am excited to offer a Second Degree Reiki Training on October 7 & 8 from 1:00 – 6:00!  Anyone who has completed First Degree Reiki Training (Reiki Level One) is invited to participate and move to the next level in your practice. This Reiki Training will be located in Warren, RI. Continue reading Untitled

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Two-Part Workshop: Surviving Technology - Creating Spiritual and Energetic Safety

Who thought surviving technology would be a cultural crisis? In the early days of this thing that we call the World Wide Web, I was deep into my most committed and intense period of mental, emotional, spiritual, and energetic awareness and development. To be fully transparent, I couldn’t do much outside of my work at the Urban League, meditation, Reiki, meals, and sleep. I remember booting up my…

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You Can’t Change Anyone — You Can Only Make Them Think

We can’t change anyone who doesn’t want or isn’t ready to change. While I was still doing drugs and drinking alcohol, many people wanted me to change. They needed me to change. When I got sober in 1989, I often heard a woman named Claire share, “I didn’t see the light. My ass was dragging, and I felt the heat”! This was me. The walls were closing in, and I felt like I had no options. I know that…

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I Want to Know How Human you Are

Can we be unmistakenly human? Are we willing to dive completely into the full human experience without holding back? How human are you? I mean, really human without the masks, protections, and deceptions? I invite you to read this painfully beautiful essay on being human by Taylor Rose Godfrey in elephant journal with an open heart and mind. Continue reading Untitled

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Why I Keep My Car & Desk Messy

Why I Keep My Car & Desk Messy. I have another article published in the elephant journal. Here is an excerpt. The full article can be accessed through the link below. “When I used to consume alcohol and drugs, everything in my life was messy. My bedroom was messy. My refrigerator was messy. My bathroom was messy. My laundry was messy. My car was messy. My relationships were messy. My legal…

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First Degree Reiki Training June 19 & 20!

A Special First Degree Reiki Training Monday and Tuesday, June 19 & 20, 2023, from 1:00-6:00. First Degree Traditional Usui Reiki Training is where all new Reiki students begin their Reiki Training. In this class, students receive all four First Degree Reiki Attunements, practice sharing and receiving Reiki, and be ready to share Reiki with friends, family, and emergency situations. First Degree…

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Fight Languages: How we Argue A Key to Healthy Relationships

For those of you that have been reading my posts for a while, you are aware of The Rules For Fair Fighting in Relationships. Many of you know the Five Love Languages Gary Chapman, Ph.D. introduced. If not, you can learn about them easily here What are the 5 love languages? Fight Languages having a name is new to me. I understood the principles but did not have a term to express them. How we fight…

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