Better half? No, no, this is my worst third. (We are in a throuple.)

"How do you deal with jealousy?" Like, a lot of ways, but also sometimes you just feel it and move on.

I feel jealous when a street cat goes up to someone else instead of me, doesn't mean I carry around cat treats in an effort to prevent random cats from ever picking someone else 🤷‍♀️

*through gritted teeth* saying "get reading comprehension" to people trying to relate to their world is not helpful

I must not allow myself to engage in discourse. Discourse is the brain rot. Discourse is the small death that leads to total annihilation. I will face the bad take. I will allow it to wash over me and through me. And when it has gone I will turn my posting to see its path. Where the discourse has gone there will be nothing. Only good faith will remain.

genuinely from the bottom of my heart LOVE seeing someone discover this blog and like 40 posts in a row 💖

Polyamorous Angel - final version. Flat colors, transparent background, linework under the cut.

[ Pride Angels ]

Oh, also you both will fuck this up on occaision and that's okay and called "the human condition" and you'll forgive each other and it will be okay ❤❤❤

just a lil reminder that

You're never too good for old-fashioned miscommunication!

Might as well make this an advice column I guess 🤷‍♀️

When there's something that isn't jiving with your partner, I want you to assume two things: 1️⃣good faith, and 2️⃣that its a misunderstanding. Because here's the secret, 🤫even when its NOT a misunderstanding, having the other person further explain themselves to you and vice versa is still probably going to make it easier! And if you can't assume good faith of your partner 😬... probably best to be looking for an exit anyway.🚪🏃

So what does that look like in practice?

Not Being Immediately Pissed When There's a Problem

Information seeking/Asking non-accusatory questions. "🤔I'm not sure I'm understanding, can you rephrase that?" anytime you interpret your partner as Wronging You will get you a long ways. "Help me understand why this is so important, because I think I'm missing something" is another good one. Or maybe instead of "Um, what about [prior commitment]??" you try "Is that going to conflict with [prior commitment]?"

Establish a vocabulary/procedure for airing your negative assumptions. Sometimes the shortest path is to just say your negative assumption🤬 and have them go "oh no no no! I meant.." but its easier for your partner not to get defensive if they know that's your plan. Maybe you say "Okay, please tell you weren't trying to..." or maybe you break out the therapist speech and do a "I am having a hard time getting around my initial reaction to what you just said. I hope I'm being unfair, but I can't interpret it any way but..." or, I don't know your dynamic, it could very well be just a casual "broooo you sound like such a dick right. You really be like '[comically evil version of the negative assumption]'." Doesn't really matter, as long as you're on the same page about it not being a sincere accusation.

Stating your own misunderstandings as soon as you see how you got it wrong.

Checking in often. "Wait, how am I coming across right now?" at the first sign of your partner getting defensive and "Just so we're clear, X is happening because Y, and you feel Z about it, right?" when you think you have an agreement, etc.

Now go love each other and shit!

just a lil reminder that

You're never too good for old-fashioned miscommunication!

just a lil reminder that

You're never too good for old-fashioned miscommunication!

Okay this is funny because I do feel this way about monogamy always 💀

Hey can someone who's up to date with tumblr themes DM me please? I need to find one that will allow for an FAQ or a new page for asks but I haven't touched themes in years when tumblr revamped and made it harder and I'm scawed

Pretty polyam of middle school girls to crush together with their friends on the whole boy band, if I'm being honest

Pretty polyam of middle school girls to have a crush on the whole boy band, if I'm being honest

my aro friends are so chill and understanding and I love them sm 💙💖🖤

In my experience as someone who is aro, the friendships I have with my friends who are polyamorous have always been so good and understanding and fun, and I think a lot of this has to do with how we exist outside the expectations of amatonormativity. I don’t really know how to elaborate on that, but my polyam friends have always been the most supportive of my identity and experiences and I appreciate them so much 💚

You’re the one with the poly playlist right? May I suggest everybody here wants you by Jeff Buckley?

I am!😌 Here's the poly song list 🎵 again for anyone who wants it.

It has some questionable implications to me, but I'm going to go ahead and add it as a 2️⃣. Thank you for the suggestion!!

"You can't ship these two characters because one is canonically in a relationship." Have you considered they're polyamorous?

Honestly at this point in my life, I assume every character is polyamorous, or at least in an open relationship 🤷‍♂️ 😂😂

Monog relationships are boring

@nightleaf001

Awwwwwww ya big ole softies couldn't wait one more day 🥰😝😝

I'm glad its working out so well though!! Sounds like you made the right decision. Theory can for sure be different than reality so I'm glad O was actually so chill about it! I'm sure it was a relief after those worries. 🤗

Y'all sound so cuuuuuuuute thanks for sharing the story!! 💙💖🖤

Random but I'm not over how my polycule started on Thanksgiving. It wasn't even intentional, it just kinda happened.

Bestie WHAT. You gotta celebrate your anniversary with turkey forever now?? 💀🙈💀How did this happen????? I'm dying please tell me more

Youtube Knows Too Much 👁️👁️

One of the fun parts about being poly with partners of various genders and pronouns is that my monogamous coworkers simply can not fathom that I have more than one significant other. Instead, they argue over whether I have a boyfriend, a girlfriend, or "someone in between," like Charlie's conspiracy board from It's Always Sunny.