And yet some men still found a way to feel attacked by this message that’s outright trying to help them.

the barbie movie very explicitly said that men also suffer under the patriarchy and should support rather than compete with one another and are good enough just by being themselves and shouldn’t define themselves around a woman or relationship and somehow that wasn’t positive enough

i think the difference between the barbie's treatment of ken's in barbieland vs the ken's treatment of barbie's in kendom can be summed up pretty easily actually:

barbie's ignored ken, realistically they were given an opportunity to have their own lives and do what they wanted and they didn't do it. everything revolved around their barbie's, ken would only have a good day if barbie did or if barbie acknowledged him. they never tried to do anything they genuinely wanted to.

whereas when the ken's took over, they brainwashed the barbie's into liking them and doing things for them. they would bring them beers and act like waitresses, give them foot massages or watch films they otherwise wouldn't be interested in. they became mindless and existed to serve the ken's. they were no longer just friends with the barbie's, they didn't want barbie to love them back, they wanted to own them.

people talking about ken falling down the patriarchy pipeline out of neglect or loneliness but why couldn't the ken's form friendships and communities like the barbie's did? why is it up to barbie to ensure that ken doesn't feel that way? at what point is it acceptable to blame barbie for ken's feelings? barbie let ken come to her party, watched him beach, held him whilst he went to the hospital, agreed to let him go on her journey, says hi to him when she sees him, things friends do and things she's shown doing with all the other barbie's, but if he still feels loneliness after that because she doesn't want to kiss him or doesn't love him back, why is that barbie's fault? meanwhile the entire time ken is ignoring other ken's out of his fixation on barbie and is even trying to "beach" other ken's off and causing problems with other ken's to gain barbie's attention

to me it's the perfect representation of the real world in the sense that women will leave men alone, men will want to own women, and women will be blamed for men's neglect and loneliness but it's a paper cage they create for themselves because they refuse to see women as individuals and arguably they don't actively try to create and nurture communities in the same way women do. ken's story is sad yes, but it's a story of his own design and what makes it worse is that he blames barbie for it. not himself, not mattel, no the real world but barbie, who's friendly disinterest in him means that she should be the one who is blamed and punished

And I’m proud of that

do you actually ship azula with mai and ty lee or was that just a funny post bc...

idk if this is meant to be judgmental or anything but maizulee is the only dynamic in which i honestly truly ship mailee enough to discuss it LMAO don't get me wrong i understand why people ship it but i personally like mean wlw and people force them in the sunshine/grumpy trope too often so

out of the three girls my preferred dynamics are broken down as

maizulee (preferred above all)

tyzula (NOT when ty is just the sunshine girl and azula is evil. not that way)

maizula (NOT when mai hates everyone else ever except azula and acts as her defense lawyer. not like that)

mailee (quite frankly i'd be more open to discussing it or going into the tags if not for fandom)

and that's what you missed on glee

Ok if s2-5 choni was the same as s7/50’s choni maybe I never would have dropped the ship

I still don’t get how people will demonize Mai because of her comment about “Not asking for your [Zuko] life story.” Y’all. This is the same show that had Zuko basically ignore Toph reaching out to him for comfort during their “special field trip” when she’s always there for him, just to make us laugh. The same show that had Sokka poke fun at Jet’s death because this is a kids show that’s also a comedy that’s supposed to make us laugh. It doesn’t mean that Zuko he doesn’t care about Toph’s trauma. Or that Sokka doesn’t care about Jet and by extents Katara. But I don’t think I need to say that because the fandom knows. No one holds those moments against Zuko or Sokka because we know that it’s the show reminding us that this is still a comedy aimed at kids. So why can’t Mai get the same grace when she brushes off a comment her loved one said, in a way that’s supposed to make the audience laugh like Zuko and Sokka’s comments?

Wow. Weaponizing rape because some idiot willing walked into a werewolf den. I’d say I’m shocked but you’re not the first one to do that completely out of pocket and not at all comparable “comparison”.

Let me fix it for you. Me saying that it’s Snape’s is own fault is like me saying “It is Snape’s own fault for knowingly making the conscious decision to put himself in harms way due to his own malice. Had he been bitten it would have been his fault because he knew that he’d find a werewolf and decided to go hop right to it”. There, fixed it.

Sirius is not the attacker, if you’re going to do something as gross as bring up sexual assault to make that moron look better then at least get the facts right. Here’s what’s canon: Snape figured out that Remus was a werewolf when he saw the school nurse escorting him to the WW, so he knew that something was up with him and he knew that the school had it under control. Snape then put his nose where it’s not supposed to be, why? “Because I don’t want people thinking that they’re as wonderful as they seem”. Snape then figured out that Remus was a werewolf and taunted the marauders about it, Sirius then T O L D him how to get access to Remus and unless you want me to believe that Snape has no mind of his own, then he willingly got out of bed, went to a restricted area, went into an even more restricted area hoping that he would find a werewolf.

So like I said before; it’s Snape own fault that he only got bit. He wanted to see a werewolf and he got just that.

It’s Snape’s own fault he almost got bit by a werewolf

‼️‼️‼️ it's honestly getting weird with how obsessed people are with assigning “masculine” and “feminine” traits to queer relationships to make one “the man” and the other “the woman” in the relationship when neither character has demonstrated that they lean more towards traditional masculinity or femininity. It’s even weirder when the POC (or the darker person if both are POC) is automatically assigned the role of the man (using that loosely) even when 1-they don’t show to be leaning towards masculinity more and 2-the white (or lighter if they’re both POC) person is actively showing a lot more masculine traits than them.

Like choni for example. I have my issues with the ship and the shippers but this forced masculinity on Toni by the shippers is one of my biggest beefs with them. Last time I checked Cheryl was the one who constantly does traditionally hypermasculine things in choni’s relationship, Toni might be the voice of reason and act as emotional support but still if anyone checks the box of “masculinity” it’s Cheryl. In fact, being the voice of reason and the soft never ending emotional support/stand in therapist aligns more with the traditional view of a female/feminine partner so why is Toni still portrayed as the masculine one? (That’s a rhetorical question, we know why) . Cheryl is the one who has gotten physical several times for Toni, sis literally started shooting arrows at people for her sake, she’s the one who provided for Toni with her money, she’s the one who pulled a lot of grand gestures for Toni , she’s the one who gets possessive, all traits that I normally see associated with masculinity. While I have an issue saying that someone “is the man in the relationship” and it’s a mindset I’m trying to unlearn, for the sake of this post, I’m going to say that it’s clear that Cheryl is the man of the relationship for a lack of better phrasing/understanding. So for fans to insist that Toni is the more aggressive, assertive, dominant and all around more masculine one is very weird to me and it’s too much of a pattern to ignore anymore.

Stop forcing masculinity on black women, brown women, black men, brown men, etc in favor of feminizing their white/lighter love interest.

One day, we’ll discuss how fandoms have a tendency to attach hyper masculine traits to black characters. More especially if it’s in a same-sex relationship with a white character, no matter how soft canonically the black character is. 

There is this an errant need to always attach “protector“ or “the strong one“ title to black characters, and it’s even worse when they are portrayed by darker skinned black people.

It happens with Finn and Poe in the Star Wars sequel trilogy fandom. Finn is always the one who must defend or console or step up for Poe, even though he’s a 24 year old who was stolen from his family, and turned into a soldier against his will as a child, and then thrust into a war, which, he did not have to fight in and could’ve run from. However, he is the one who must always protect the “softer“ Poe.

It happened in the First Kill fandom with Juliette and Calliope. Calliope was attached hyper masculine traits even though we’ve seen her dress in “feminine“ ways and carries herself in a “more feminine“ manner. However, she is the one who has the job of protecting Juliette in a fandom eyes.

We have it with Devon and Jake in Chucky, even though they equally fight to protect one another. Devon is always portrayed by fandom, as having to be the one who “protects“ or “consoles” and is always there for Jake meanwhile fans rarely ever give scenarios where it could be the other way around. Canonically Devon and Jake protect each other as equal as possible. However, you could never tell from fandom speaks of them. Devon always has to be the protector. Devon is always be the aggressor. Devon must always be the one who looks after Jake.

Don’t get me started on how Interview With The Vampire fandom attached Louis is “the man of the household” connotations when placed against Lestat even though the show itself tells you HE’S the housewife, and we see who really has the power between the two of them, but it is so rarely reflected in how fans write and speak of them. LOUIS is the soft-spoken, LOUIS is the one who needs the constant protection, LOUIS is the one who is insecure overtly however, it is almost never reflected in how fans engage the characters. 

And if I were to get into how they’re almost always treated by fans as cruel whenever they do not agree with their white partners actions, or they do something for themselves or how they are never given empathy that black fans don’t have to fight for them to be given, or they are held to a much higher standard than their partner, I could be here all day.