Is what we do when scrolling through Instagram... ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Something heard after tuning into @kellyokogwu @intothelightpodcast ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ The type of comparison we do unintentionally, which I agree @coleenmensa is the worst kind. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ First time hearing it but it sounds logical. I sometimes leave insta feeling drained. I can legit fall asleep on Twitter. So much info per milli second.⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ I also went through an unfollow spree...just last year. I tried to do ‘sparks joy’ (Marie Kondo) cleanse but insta wasn’t having it (Blocked Me...that’s all they know) & I ended up unfollowing almost everyone. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ In consideration of my entire health (physical, financial, mental, spiritual, emotional) I needed to declutter my feed and fill it with positivity around #Wellness & #ChronicIllness. This is something I personally have to manage hence the route I’ve taken.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ I also strongly believe in unfollowing (softblock) anyone who isn’t good for my mental & emotional health. Some people take this to heart but We don’t have to. Let people have space url & irl.⁣ And remember it might not be forever. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Social media can be as toxic as you make it. Be intentional, take breaks & have a feed You are happy with. https://www.instagram.com/p/B83rHlDFhKE/?igshid=1kmn78hoinkhh

#TB #Editorial by @yvonnegold99 ⁣ ⁣ Photogenic & Unapologetic ⁣ ⁣ #BlackAndWhite #UnlikeLife #GreyArea #PopMagazine #Model & #Influencer #ClaimIt #OwnIt #ShineLikeYoureSupposedTo #MindTheBusinessThatPAYS #RecoveryFromNarcissists #StressRelief https://www.instagram.com/p/B83nfZDle_r/?igshid=1nxrkgtg55qu

Said Theodore Roosevelt.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Thanks to @coleenmensa on @kellyokogwu #Podcast @intothelightpodcast ...⁣ ⁣ I learnt there are two types of social comparison: Upward comparison, when people compare themselves to people who are better than they are...& Downward comparison, when people compare themselves to those who are less proficient than they are. ⁣ ⁣ I see our differences very clearly & find it odd others would compare themselves to me without considering the life I’ve had to live, to have and do the things I do. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ HOWEVER ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When Kelly & Coleen spoke on ‘self comparison’ I stopped what I was doing #Pause...⁣ ⁣⁣ In the past two years I’ve spent a lot of time reminiscing about the years I lived without pain. From being active active (weekly gym & yoga), to finding it hard to walk from my bedroom to the kitchen without having to take a break. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I used to be on GO...YES to everything. I never self compared because I was too busy. I never career compared because everyone n everything was inspiration to do more....⁣ ⁣ Until I found my purpose & started @springmelanin I listened to feedback and spent 2years setting goals to improve as each event came and went. ⁣ ⁣ I personally feel I achieved more in those two years than ever before. Alongside the outer work I’m doing the inner work. ⁣ ⁣⁣ Idk where I found the strength & courage but I’m glad I did because life has been better for it. https://www.instagram.com/p/B83exo7lOYd/?igshid=14v62m87ahhsq

I let my mind speak #NoRegrets ⁣ ⁣ #Rainfall #LoveWins #Gratitude #Grateful #Thankful #Overcoming #GodBlessed #Protected #BlackGirlMagic #Wellbeing #MentalHealthMatters https://www.instagram.com/p/B8wgRS-lITg/?igshid=1p8k706tcpawp

It feels good to laugh 😄⁣ ⁣ Smell the roses 🌹⁣ ⁣ Am Steel Hair 💁🏿‍♀️⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #Grateful #Gratitude #FeelingGreatToday #LifeIsABlessing #Overcoming #DontRushMe #IHaveMyReasons #LoveWins #Protected #Blessed #BlackGirlMagic #Wellbeing #Melanin #ILoveBeingBlack #ThankYou (at Brasserie of Light) https://www.instagram.com/p/B8wckO4lSI8/?igshid=12xyuqdt1ec93

I don’t do it for the gram, I do it for the fam 🌹👑⁣ ⁣ #ComingBack #Overcoming #Anxiety #Growth #Light #Darkness #Balance #ItsInnate #IveGotThis #BlackGirlMagic #Melanin #SisterHood #HITH https://www.instagram.com/p/B8wb4NPF5RN/?igshid=rpoouq3hxbhj

Many Moods Many Moons 🌚🌝⁣ ⁣ No matter the phase...the first is my fave 😄🧿⁣ ⁣ #Laughter #Heal #Soul #VeinPoppinBanter #AllOfMyTeeth #LFW #LondonFashionWeek #Presentation (at Pushkin House) https://www.instagram.com/p/B8ZYnScFP18/?igshid=x1ycg6mr76m7

Celebrate & Support fashion which derives from passion 👑⁣ ⁣ Inspired by their #Jamaican #Heritage ‘Femme Du Monde’ AW20 Collection was born 💫 #Minimalistic #LuxuryWear. (at Pushkin House) https://www.instagram.com/p/B8ZYHlvF53V/?igshid=r1idg6atq74p

For @maisonbentofficial 🧚🏿‍♀️ (at Pushkin House) https://www.instagram.com/p/B8YbQN9lPL1/?igshid=1seay0h8ulm3l

Swear tah God I was cramping...but I made it look pretty doe! ⁣ ⁣ #OverAchiever #StillGottaWork #Blessed ⁣ ⁣ https://www.instagram.com/p/B8OJqM1ljC-/?igshid=tzo54adetemd

Up skill before you upscale ⁣ ⁣ & try your hardest not to dwell 💫 https://www.instagram.com/p/B8OIOf9F-ny/?igshid=ok23vnqgyeva

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax 🧘🏿‍♂️ #Breathe https://www.instagram.com/p/B8Llwr2lVB5/?igshid=15l7a10hmcbt6

Koffee hottin’ up di temperature 🔥⁣ ⁣ Editorial shot by @sayhellojess_ for @sum.magazine @ohpolly #OhPolly #Rapture https://www.instagram.com/p/B8Gejz8FtAB/?igshid=11zb2hp4l24cr

This is fate not clout.⁣ ⁣ Whatever is fabricated will never prevail. ⁣ ⁣ #GodsChild #Protected #Blessed #HigherVibrations #Model https://www.instagram.com/p/B7_nvRGl0Fa/?igshid=7oo8211aqr24

May my strength evoke courage within others 💪🏿👑 https://www.instagram.com/p/B79R8i-l2WZ/?igshid=1hmctz5z09ou6

Keep going, girl. Do your show.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #RecoveringFromANarcissist #Wits #ChristianValues https://www.instagram.com/p/B79Cif-F3uS/?igshid=hk2za97p1afm

I kept the wig 💇🏿‍♀️ #NollyWood #NollyWoof https://www.instagram.com/p/B79A9ohlh1v/?igshid=1jdreci3qgayp