Things that are normal for bisexual women:

-Being unsure if you’re gay, straight, or bisexual

-Experiencing homophobia

-Wishing you could be a man to date women

-Breathing fire

-Not wanting to date or have sex until you’re ready

-Not wanting to ever date men and choose exclusively women

-Experiencing attraction to men and women differently

-Having a fat juicy pussy

-Feeling alienated from both straight and gay culture

-Being upset over stigma against bisexuals

-Fitting some stereotypes and not others

-Being able to fly

-Worrying over whether or not you’re objectifying other women

-Wanting to dress and be seen as more masculine

-Ability to raise the dead

-Being the smartest person around

-Occasionally freezing time by accident

I hate the internet ppl can just say shit that doesn't make any sense and ppl just go "oh ok" but you could not get away with that if everyone lived in reality

I have had to unfollow TWO people for reblogging a stupid post about how saying single gender bathrooms etc are necessary is misogynistic or whatever because it means that we don’t expect men and boys to act decent and by saying gendered facilities are needed it’s sending the message that they don’t need to learn to not be gross and that misogynistic behavior is fine. Sorry but are you stupid lol are you living in the current time and not an imaginary world where we can safely count on all men to not be sex pests and creeps

my question is how would y'all describe your political beliefs?

- far left

- left leaning/moderately leftist

- centrist

- moderately conservative/right leaning

- very conservative/far right (then how are you a radfem lol)

- don't care about politics

Thanks for the poll anon!

Why shouldn't bisexual women be in lesbian spaces? Spaces that center female homosexual attraction, which we experience? Why would that be considered an "invasion"?

Should every lesbian space need to be centered around a lack of attraction to men? Or should they be centered around a shared attraction to women?

Something I've notice from being in a "queer" community is that both me and other bi women are told that we might be lesbians with comphet if we even mention that we prefer women or are more attracted to women than men. Like sure, there are some lesbians who experience comphet because of internalised homophobia, but omg the frequency that I've seen this happen at is crazy. It's like they're saying the only way to love or be attracted to women as a woman is if you're a lesbian and that bisexuality is some sort of synonym for heterosexuality. I feel like that's why labels such as "bi lesbian" is just thrown around today and lesbian spaces are invaded by women who are clearly bisexual. Anyways, bisexuality isn't the "in between" of homosexuality and heterosexuality, it's its own sexuality.

I loathe having discussions with non-intersectional white feminists on the representation of women in media we had growing up. It's because when I mention the lack of representation of women of color who were not the token POC or full of stereotypes, they respond with "We're talking gender issues, why are you bringing race into this?."

However, they are not the ones who while growing up felt ugly because they weren't white. They're not the ones who had to witness all the boys favoring white girls. They are not the ones who growing up wanted to chemically lighten their skin just to feel pretty for once. They're not the ones who were either sexualized and or infantilized because of their race. They are not the ones who hated themselves and their race so badly.

They have the luxury of being seen as women first, and not race first, then women.

Hey, happy Earth Day! Who wants to talk about climate change?

Yeah, okay, fair, I kinda figured the answer to that would be "ugh do we have to?" What if I told you I have good news though? Good news with caveats, but still good news.

What if I told you that since the Paris Agreement in 2015, we've avoided a whole degree celsius of global warming by 2100, or maybe more?

Current projections are 2.7C, which is way better than the 3-5C (with a median of 3.7C) we were expecting in 2015. It's not where we want to be - 1.5C - but it is big, noticeable progress!

And it's not like we either hit 1.5C and avoid all the big scary consequences or fail to hit 1.5C and get all of them - every tenth of a degree of warming we avoid is going to prevent more severe problems like extreme weather, sea level rise, etc.

This means that climate change mitigation efforts are having a noticeable impact! This means a dramatically better, safer future - and if we keep pushing, we could lower the amount of global warming we end up with even further. This is huge progress, and we need to celebrate it, even though the fight isn't over.

It's working. Keep going.

This is such a great piece, I definitely recommend a read.

This is the most antisocial generation. I'm identifying so many detrimental effects of having a phone based childhood in myself. I'm still so addicted to my phone. I crave real social interaction, but it seems unobtainable. I've gone through trying to quit social media before. In high school I used to be able to lose my phone in my room all day or leave it at home. I cannot do that anymore. I sometimes spend every waking hour staring at a screen. Even the books I try to read are on a screen because my local library doesn't carry the ones I actually want to read! It seems like their collection has shrunk because people read less physical books now. They get their information and entertainment online, and they prefer the easy access of ebooks. I miss spending hours pouring over a book and finishing 200 pages in one day. I haven't done that in years.

More recently, my attempts at quitting are depressing. Because it's got my family too. My dad spends most of his time watching youtube. My mom spends most of her time playing useless games for tiny prizes and scrolling through facebook. I'll set my phone down wanting to interact only to be met with people around me lost in their own screens. If I try to say something, I'm ignored or given some distracted answer. Even when we have conversations in the car, my mom is constantly distracted now. She's a worse driver too. She can't focus. I can't really either. She also makes less sense now, because her train of thought is all over the place.

It didn't used to be like this before the covid years, before she lost her job and I was away at college. Nothing to occupy her time but her phone. My dad has other hobbies. He fixes cars and goes mountain biking. I'm trying desperately to form hobbies and stick to them but I'm not doing so well. And my mom? She seems so lost.

I'm scared that we're losing something we can never get back.

"No one remembered my birthday-" Well, but did YOU tell anyone it was coming up and you wanted to celebrate it with them?

"I wish someone would see through it when I tell people I'm fine-" Well, but have YOU considered not lying when people ask you how you're doing?

"I am so resentful of my friend because they keep doing this thing that really bothers me-" Well, but have YOU directly communicated that the thing is bothering you?

"I am burning out because my friend keeps expecting me to help them with serious struggles-" Well, but have YOU tried to establish the boundaries you need to feel okay?

"No one ever asks me about this thing I really care about-" Well, but have YOU brought it up yourself?

"I miss my friend but they haven't texted me-" Well, but have YOU been reaching out to them?

Sometimes people are mean, uncaring assholes, in which case you get to be mad. But sometimes you just need to communicate better. Try communication before you assume someone doesn't care!

Why is it so fucking hard for people to grasp that sex is not a service. Stop comparing sex to actual services and maybe it'll finally click why sex as an industry is exploitation

Growing up I always heard “when boys are mad at each other they just punch it out, whereas girls are catty and hold grudges” and the latter was always presented as the less favourable option. Obviously I’m not excusing cruel behaviour, words do hurt, but I think it’s a great example of how boys’ bad behaviour starts to be forgiven or not taken seriously so early. Men using violence as their emotional outlet is the cause of so much suffering in this world, towards women, nonbinary people, children, and other men. This is not disconnected from behaviour exhibited and internalized in childhood. Maybe we as a society should show a bit more concern to boys seeing violence as an acceptable outlet for their emotions, rather than placing the brunt of this critique on girls who might say cruel things about each other but rarely lay a finger on each other physically. Just a thought

Not to mention how much it's overlooked that boys and men often are cruel and manipulative with their words too.

I just don't know what trans people gain from progressives pretending switching pronouns for someone (someone who does not pass) isn't hard. It is super hard actually. It's not even a political stance, and it's not about hating trans people or being transphobic, but why are we acting like the accommodations people are asking for to deal with their dysphoria are super duper easy to adopt and if you struggle to figure it out then you're a bad person?

I just really can't stand it.

True + thank you I need to not be so hard on myself

And also escape my debilitating perfectionism and stop pressuring myself to be some super impressive person. Whose standards am I even trying to meet?

I am literally just a human being!

I guess I'm young and I'm still turning out. I don't have to be a dud forever but the duddiness really does feel inescapable :(

further comment on my post about birth rate and natalism. a lot of women responded, "yes and also so many of us want children but can't afford to have them!" it's totally a fair and important comment to make, but after seeing 100 of them in a row i feel like i have to add... look, my research suggests so far that all types of socialist intervention which make childbearing more attractive for women still do not bring the birth rate above replacement. when i say in that post that the evidence doesn't bear out a version of natalism that is feminist, that's what i mean. what i have read so far strongly suggests that the completely free birth rate as far as we have ever been able to see so far in modern history is probably slightly below replacement. consider that even if you personally want children, if you want fewer than three children, your desires point toward the maintenance of a below-replacement birth rate. for every woman who doesn't want any children, another woman must want five to push the birth rate above replacement. the fact that the birth rate is below replacement is the exact thing that the antifeminist right considers an emergency. so, the argument that women would have more children in a more equitable economy, although it's probably true, is not enough for them and we need to be aware of the weakness in that argument. read this anti-feminist piece in compact magazine for an example of their perspective.

i worry about the consequences of the argument, "well, we would have more children if the state would perform a different policy intervention than the one the right is suggesting." i feel that this argument represents a type of socialist natalism. again, i understand where the comment comes from, but my point is that attempting to alter the decision of a women to not have a child should not be an appropriate motivation for policy intervention point blank. that's why i think we need to be generating economic ideas that presume below-replacement birth rate is the only free and just demographic future for all human beings.

Someone told my mom the preferred terminology has changed from african american to black and now she's been saying "the blacks" like um mom I know you're well intentioned but can you please just go back to saying african american

I got a rude ask about not being a separatist and I want to actually go into detail about why I don't consider myself a separatist when I answer it.

But people do know female sparatism as an ideology is different than thinking any female only spaces should exist, right? Not being a separatist doesn't mean I want all coed bathrooms or something. Or that I dont believe in things like women's shelters. Like huh???

I guess I'm young and I'm still turning out. I don't have to be a dud forever but the duddiness really does feel inescapable :(