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how do you make a couple fight without completely cementing the relationship as toxic? what do 'healthy' couples even fight about???

as someone with zero experience regarding arguing with someone whom i didn't immediately cut off afterward because of how it was handled, i've struggled with writing this concept forever 😭

send help pls :')

Every couple fights. Fights and disagreements are a part of a relationship just as much harmony and agreement. It's highly unlikely that there is a person with whom you always agree on every aspect. So, sooner or later you'll reach a point of disagreement and that can be about anything really.

A lot of couple fights are about the most trite things. Who does the dishes? Why doesn't the other want to do me that favour? No, I never said that. You must remember it wrong.

We are the most honest and blunt but also the most vulnerable with the people closest to us. That makes siblings fight a lot and it often makes couples fight more than good friends. Paired with love, these fights don't have to make a relationship toxic. Partners fight about whose turn it is to do the dishes. One ends up having to do it, and the other thanks them for it, promising to do it the next time. I think what is important when writing a 'healthy' fight is to show that even when they fight they still care a lot about the other. If it's a bigger fight, they're thinking about the other a lot afterwards. They feel bad about it afterwards, they're thinking about how the other feels now, they don't like making the other feel bad, they're crushed to find out that they're causing the other's misery. Their heart can't be at peace until they've apologised and made up.

Another sign of a healthy relationship is that minor fights aren't a rarity but are handled well. They can fight about the TV remote and it's not giving their relationship a crack or making them doubt their partner's love. Communication that is well-balanced between two partners and supports a symmetrical relationship doesn't exclude arguments but makes them a means to a functioning life together.

I made a few prompt lists about couples fighting and they are all meant to apply to healthy relationships. Here is an excerpt from a prompt list about minor fights to give you an example.

1. A: "I wanted this cookie!" B: "But there is another one." A: "That's not the one I want." 2. A: "Stop looking at me so weird!" B: "That's just how I look!" 3. A: "That's nonsense! I didn't hug you less than usual!" B: "Yes, you did! Don't try to trick me! I know exactly how long you're hugging me usually and this hug wasn't the same. So I don't approve of it as a real hug. Again!" 4. A: "Get me the remote, please." B: "Why don't you get it?" A: "I asked you a favour!" 5. A: "But it's my turn!" B: "No, it was your turn last time!" A: "That's not true! I remember it clearly!" the full prompt list: ~ FIGHTING OVER SILLY STUFF ~ OTP PROMPTS

other prompt lists about a couple arguing:

~ ARGUING LIKE AN OLD MARRIED COUPLE ~ DIALOGUE PROMPTS

~ FIGHTS OVER A GIFT ~ DIALOGUE PROMPTS

~ JEALOUSY, JEALOUSY ~ PROMPTS (this could turn toxic but you can use most of these for healthy couples)

I hope this helps you. I realised I just rambled a lot; hopefully, it makes sense :)

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powerful.

"Oh."

"Look at me."

"Please.

"Good boy."

"Don't follow me."

"Find me."

"I forgive you."

"Help me."

"No."

"Don't say that."

"Talk about it?"

"Forget me."

"Remember me."

"It's not over."

"Don't ignore me."

"Stay with me."

"I want to believe you."

"For you, always."

"Just... don't."

"There is no us."

"I don't need you."

"Leave me behind."

"Don't bother."

"Fear me."

"Break me."

"I don't care."

"This isn't the end."

"Please hold me."

"I'm right here."

"Wait for me."

"Kiss me."

"Ohh."

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Incredible. Palestinians gathered today in Nelson Mandela Square, Ramallah, in the West Bank, playing the South African anthem to pay tribute to South Africa for taking apartheid Israel to the ICJ over its violations of the Genocide Convention. It is us, as Africans, who say thank you to Palestine for being an inspiration for a just and humane world, and for being our constant ally in the struggle for liberation. This heartfelt and beautiful gesture from Palestinians comes at great personal risk, with the Israeli Occupation Forces committing constant atrocities against Palestinians in the West Bank. We salute Palestinians and stand by their side to demand an immediate ceasefire and an end to Israeli apartheid, settler colonialism and occupation. The bond between Africa and Palestine is unbreakable. It is our shared humanity — our heartfelt solidarity — that will bring an end to hateful violence. Palestine will be free!

-- African Artists Against Apartheid, photos by Alaa Daraghme, 10 Jan 2024

As the International Court of Justice prepares to consider whether Israel is committing genocidal acts in its war on Gaza, Palestinians in Ramallah have gathered for a rally celebrating South Africa, the country that first submitted the case against Israel and a nation with longstanding ties to the Palestinian cause. “This rally is actually under the banner of ‘Thank you South Africa'” Al Jazeera correspondent Hoda Abdel-Hamid reported near a crowd gathered around a statue of Nelson Mandela in Ramallah. South African flags could be seen waving in the background. “This rally started with words from the mayor of Ramallah, who said South Africa represented a ‘beacon of hope’ for the Palestinians, reminding them that deep-rooted relations between South Africa and the Palestinians go back to the days of Nelson Mandela.”

-- "Palestinians celebrate South Africa in Ramallah rally" by Linah Alsaafin and Brian Osgood, 10 Jan 2024 16:30 GMT

#palestine #south africa #free palestine #free gaza

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it's always so fascinating and heartbreaking when a character in a story is simultaneously idolized and abused. a chosen prophet destined for martyrdom. a child prodigy forced to grow up too fast. a powerful warrior raised as nothing but a weapon. there's just something so uniquely messed up about singing someone's praises whilst destroying them.

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“You left,” Nate replied softly, his eyes burning deep, unforgiving holes into Jeremy’s back as he continued on, “I was hoping you wouldn’t.”

@athenswrites @hayatheauthor @sacred-algae @dogmomwrites (fufhdhdhshdhdus I think that’s all I’m so bad at tagging sorry-)

Last Sentence - Tag Game

I was tagged by @zestymimblo :D

Rules: post the last sentence you wrote in your WIP and tag as many of your followers as there are words in the sentence.

Last sentence from MOOOS (watch me struggle)

“It would be better to come back with something, though, so Aintín Indie wouldn’t look at him with too much disdain in her eyes.”

oh lord 24 if im counting correctly so sorry to any random person that i dont interact with at all that i’ll be tagging

tagging: @thetruearchmagos @gaymushroomenthusiast @clearcloudlesssky @serendipminiewrites @lordcatwich @hydraulicbenadryl @theunboundwriter @the-stray-storyteller @dancinginsepia @worldsfromhoney @bassguitarinablackt-shirt @fleamontsoleil @aalinaaaaaa @olive-riggzey @holdmyteaplease @the-teen-writer @athenswrites @chaotic3metanoia @bittersqxtch uhhh thats only 20 but idk anyone else so open tag ig :) (but only for four of you /j)

#Book of a godkiller #hyde wip #this was so fun thank you

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Last Sentence - Tag Game

I was tagged by @zestymimblo :D

Rules: post the last sentence you wrote in your WIP and tag as many of your followers as there are words in the sentence.

Last sentence from MOOOS (watch me struggle)

“It would be better to come back with something, though, so Aintín Indie wouldn’t look at him with too much disdain in her eyes.”

oh lord 24 if im counting correctly so sorry to any random person that i dont interact with at all that i’ll be tagging

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hydraulicbenadryl · 7 months

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My dad had the right idea when he called me "Girl,,,, boy? Thing" Like damn I sure am a girlboything.

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Your annual reminder to not donate to Salvation Army!

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Everything You Need To Know About Writing Gunshot Wounds

Welcome to the latest installment in my ongoing series on crafting realistic wounds in fiction! After covering stab wounds and burns, it's time to explore the next wound category frequently explored in fiction—gunshot wounds.

Gunshot wounds are a recurring motif in the realm of storytelling. They're something you can easily come across in every genre, however, authors often poorly portray gunshot wounds due to lack of proper research. I understand finding the right resources to aid with your writing can be hard, so here's my comprehensive guide on how to write gunshot wounds.

How To Categorise Gunshot Wounds

There are certain factors you need to consider before writing a gunshot wound. These details are instrumental in crafting a vivid and plausible narrative while avoiding plot holes. The first and most important one is identifying the type of firearm used to inflict the wound.

Picking The Right Firearm

Selecting the appropriate firearm to inflict a gunshot wound is a pivotal decision. It's not just about choosing any gun; it's about picking the right one to align with your desired outcome and the narrative's overall impact. Here's a quick guide on how to pick the right firearm.

The Impact of Firearm Selection

The firearm you choose can significantly influence the severity and appearance of the gunshot wound. Whether your goal is a graphic, gory injury or a precise, long-range shot, the choice of firearm plays a crucial role. Here are some guns you to consider:

Handguns: These are versatile and commonly used in close-quarters combat. They can result in gruesome, close-contact wounds with a higher potential for damage due to their stopping power.

Shotguns: Shotguns disperse shot pellets upon firing, making them suitable for creating a broader pattern of injuries. If you aim to depict a devastating, close-range gunshot wound, shotguns can be a fitting choice.

Rifles: Rifles are known for their accuracy at longer distances. When you need a precise, long-range shot, rifles are the go-to option. They tend to produce a cleaner wound channel, especially when used for a targeted, well-planned injury.

Choosing the Right Firearm for Your Narrative

The type of firearm you select should align with your story's objectives. If you intend to evoke visceral, gory reactions, opt for handguns or shotguns used in close proximity. On the other hand, if precision and long-range engagement are key, rifles can achieve your desired outcome.

Keep in mind that firearm selection can affect the wound's damage, trajectory, and overall portrayal in your narrative.

Categorising The Wound

Once you've identified the type of firearm, you need to establish what type of wound your character will incur.

In order to bring your character's injuries to life, it's important to first identify what you're dealing with. You can do this by categorising the injury based on several factors. For gunshot wounds, this includes the type of firearm used, the bullet's trajectory, and the specific areas of the body affected.

You can categorise your character's gunshot would into seven main categories, here's a quick breakdown of what these categories look like and the level of severity associated with them:

Penetrating Gunshot Wounds: These wounds occur when a bullet enters the body but doesn't exit. The bullet remains inside the body, causing damage along its path.

Perforating Gunshot Wounds: In this case, the bullet enters the body and exits on the opposite side. This type of wound can have a different set of implications due to the bullet's trajectory.

Ricochet Gunshot Wounds: Ricochet wounds happen when the bullet bounces off a surface before hitting the character. The nature of the surface can influence the severity of the wound.

Through-and-Through Gunshot Wounds: As the name suggests, these wounds occur when the bullet enters one side of the body and exits through the other. The trajectory can greatly affect the injury's severity.

Close-Contact Gunshot Wounds: These wounds result from the firearm being fired at extremely close range. The proximity of the gun to the body can lead to unique wound patterns and burn injuries.

Shotgun Wounds: Shotgun wounds differ from those caused by handguns or rifles. The shot pellets disperse upon firing, leading to a broader pattern of injury.

Long-Range Gunshot Wounds: When a character is shot from a considerable distance, the wound might appear different due to factors like bullet tumbling and loss of velocity.

The Anatomy of a Gunshot Wound

To create a vivid portrayal of a gunshot wound, writers need to grasp not only the external appearance but also the internal effects it has on the body. A well-executed description captures both the physical trauma and the emotional turmoil experienced by the character. Here are some symptoms you should take into consideration.

1. External Appearance and Bleeding:

Wound Size: The size of a gunshot wound can vary significantly based on the type of firearm and bullet used. Smaller calibers may leave entry and exit wounds that are relatively small, while larger bullets or high-velocity rounds can create much larger wounds. Be specific about the size, which can help readers visualize the injury.

Blood Loss: Gunshot wounds typically result in bleeding. The severity of bleeding depends on factors like the wound's location, the size of the blood vessels damaged, and the bullet's trajectory. Mention the amount of blood, but avoid excessive gore unless it serves a specific purpose in your narrative.

Coughing Up Blood: If the gunshot wound affects the chest or lung area, characters may cough up blood. This symptom often signifies a more critical injury and can add drama to your story.

2. Internal Damage and Symptoms:

Pain: Gunshot wounds are painful, and the character should express this pain through their actions, dialogue, and internal thoughts. Describe the sharp, burning, or throbbing sensations as they resonate through the character's body.

Shock: Depending on the severity of the wound, shock can set in. The character may appear pale, sweaty, and disoriented. This state of shock can impact their actions and decisions.

Loss of Function: A gunshot wound may impair the use of the injured body part. Describe any loss of function, such as the inability to move a limb or use it effectively.

Fainting: In extreme cases, characters may faint due to the pain, blood loss, or shock. Be sure to contextualize this within the narrative, as fainting can have significant consequences for the character.

By diving into the details of a gunshot wound's anatomy, you can craft a compelling and realistic portrayal that draws readers into the character's harrowing experience. I haven't exactly covered every symptom out there, but these are the major ones you should take into account when writing.

Medical Assessment and Treatment

Once you've established your gunshot wound, it's now time to focus on the aftermath. One of the main factors to consider is the medical process that follows. If your character is supposed to die from the gunshot then you could probably skip this section, but if they're alive here are things you need to consider.

1. Initial Assessment:

Scene Safety: In a real-life scenario, safety is paramount. First responders will ensure the scene is secure before approaching the injured person. Consider factors like the presence of firearms, potential threats, and the safety of medical personnel.

ABCs of Assessment: Medical professionals follow the ABCs—Airway, Breathing, and Circulation. Writers can reflect this in their storytelling by highlighting the character's ability to breathe, cough, or speak after being shot.

Vital Signs: Mentioning vital signs like heart rate, blood pressure, and oxygen saturation can help convey the character's condition and the urgency of their medical treatment.

2. Trauma Assessment:

Focused Assessment: Medical personnel perform a thorough examination to identify the gunshot wound's location, entry and exit points, and any associated injuries. This assessment informs their treatment plan.

Imaging: Depending on the complexity of the injury, X-rays or other imaging may be required to visualize the bullet's trajectory and any potential damage to internal organs or bones.

3. Treatment:

Bleeding Control: Stopping the bleeding is a top priority. This may involve applying pressure, packing the wound, or even tourniquet application in extreme cases.

Wound Care: Depending on the wound's severity, cleaning and suturing may be required. The character's response to this procedure can add an element of realism to your narrative.

Pain Management: Gunshot wounds are excruciatingly painful, and medical personnel will often administer pain relief or anesthesia during treatment.

Monitoring and Observation: Patients with gunshot wounds require careful observation and monitoring for signs of infection, complications, or changes in their condition.

By accurately portraying the medical assessment and treatment of gunshot wounds, you not only enhance the authenticity of your writing but also depict the physical and emotional toll such injuries can take on your characters. This attention to detail helps your readers connect more deeply with the story.

The Psychological Impact

Gunshot wounds don't just inflict physical harm; they also leave lasting emotional and psychological scars. It is important to note that the extent of the psychological impact on your characters will heavily rely on various factors.

For example, you need to consider whether or not this injury is something normal for them. Do they work as a spy, assassin, or other such roles that would mandate such dangerous injuries? You also need to consider who shot them. Does this wound come with emotional damage as well? Think of Aaron Warner’s reaction to Juliet shooting him.

If you’re sure your character will have some extent of a psychological impact, here are some factors you should consider.

1. Shock and Denial:

Immediate Response: Characters who have been shot may initially experience shock and denial. This can manifest as disbelief, emotional numbness, or a surreal sense of detachment from the situation.

Physical Symptoms: Shock can lead to physical symptoms like trembling, chills, or even fainting. Incorporating these details can make the character's reaction more genuine.

2. Fear and Anxiety:

Survivor's Guilt: Characters may grapple with survivor's guilt if they are the only ones to emerge unscathed in a violent encounter.

Anxiety: The threat of recurrence or the fear of returning to the location where the shooting occurred can trigger anxiety and panic attacks.

3. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD):

Flashbacks and Nightmares: Characters who have survived a gunshot wound may experience recurring flashbacks and nightmares, vividly reliving the traumatic event.

Hypervigilance: PTSD can lead to hypervigilance, where characters are constantly on edge, expecting danger at every turn.

4. Depression and Isolation:

Emotional Withdrawal: Characters may withdraw from social interactions, experiencing feelings of isolation and sadness.

Emotional Numbness: Some may describe feeling emotionally numb, unable to experience joy or pleasure.

5. Recovery and Resilience:

Therapeutic Support: In your storytelling, consider how characters seek therapy or counseling to cope with their emotional scars. Therapy can be a path toward recovery and resilience.

By addressing the psychological impact of gunshot wounds on your characters, you create more layered and relatable individuals within your narrative. This depth allows readers to connect with the characters on a profound emotional level.

I hope this blog on Everything You Need To Know About Writing Gunshot Wounds will help you in your writing journey. Be sure to comment any tips of your own to help your fellow authors prosper, and follow my blog for new blog updates every Monday and Thursday.

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writeblr intro moment

hola, call me radio

18+ | he/him | neurodivergent

i like to draw, read, write, and roleplay, but i struggle a lot with creativity 🥲 i play video games too! also not very well. list of interests and other pointless things below the cut. not new to tumblr, but very new to writeblr and nervous so likely wont post much writing of my own for now.

most of my writing is fanfiction, but every so often i might write about my own characters even if theres not really a big story behind them haha.

use of tone tags is appreciated when talking directly to me

what i write

genres:

| hurt/comfort, angst with a (usually) happy ending, drama and trauma, slice of life(?), in-between scenes, very little romance

reoccurring themes:

| queer characters, trans characters, neurodivergent characters, past toxic romantic relationships, unmentioned/toxic family relationships, a whole lot of bickering, unlikely friends, platonic/queerplatonic friendships, excessive worldbuilding

length:

| most of my stories are between 1k-20k. i'm not great at writing long, chaptered stories, but i love to write (supposedly) short stories that usually get out of hand. they're also particularly dialogue-heavy since i can't be bothered to describe a room for 30 pages

what i read

| anything! i'm not very picky. as long as it has a good flow, developed characters, and more plot than romance, i'm sold. nothing against romance of course, i just don't prefer it being the main idea without anything else to give substance

what i'm interested in

| peoples ocs, my friends' ocs, a handful of cartoons, a few animes, plenty of video games, etc

that's all!

i'll most likely update this intro in the future as i get more into the writeblr scene, but for now, thanks for reading :] i hope to see y'all's amazing writing!

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i love you nonbinary people who don't use they in their pronouns you are valid and you are nonbinary i love you genderfluid people who use neopronouns you are valid and you are nonbinary i love you agender people who don't dress in androgyny you are valid and you are agender i love you everyone who falls under the nonbinary part of being trans and you are trans enough i love you all

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This tag came from @autumnalwalker, so thanks for including me in this game!

Gonna pass it on with soft tags to @catchingbigfish, @iamwritehere, @the-finch-address, @taveren-writing, and @bardic-tales, as well as leaving it an open tag! Rules— share incorrect quotes with your OCs using this link

using some characters from my Castle series cus I think I used characters from my unnamed wip last time. Some of these are...more in character than I think they're supposed to be lmao

Seen: What happened?! Ryder: Do you want the long version or the short version? Seen: Sh-short?? Ryder: Shit's fucked. Seen: Okay, long. Ryder: Shit's very fucked.

Hank: Awww, why don't you like cats, Mickey? They're just snuggly buddies! They have toe beans! They make a little blep! What's not to love?? Mickey: I don't know Hank, I just prefer to be conscious instead of dead on the floor. Hank: Mickey: I'm ALLERGIC.

Red: I ran into Ryder in the kitchen at 1 AM last night and when I asked them what they were doing, they just shrugged, said “these are my roaming hours,” and wandered off, strumming vaguely on their guitar.

Ryder: Just so everyone knows, don't ever try to climb a tree at night carrying a strobe light, owls DON'T like it. Mickey: ...what happened? Ryder: I made a VERY bad mistake.

Blue: The moon looks beautiful, doesn’t it? Chase, looking at Blue: Yeah… but do you know what’s more beautiful? Blue and Chase in unison: *sighs* Red

Hank: Look, I’m glad everyone’s on the same page. Hank: But it’s the last page in a book titled “we’re all going to die”. Seen: That’s not even clever.

Neal: You’re giving me a sticker? Blue: Not just a sticker. That is a sticker of a kitty saying “me-wow!” Neal: I’m not a preschooler. Blue: Fine, I’ll take it back- Neal: I earned this, back off!

Mickey: I’m sad. Hank: Don’t be sad, because sad backwards is das. Hank: And das not good.

Mickey: The moon looks beautiful, doesn’t it? Seen, looking at Mickey: Yeah… but do you know what’s more beautiful? Mickey and Seen in unison: *sighs* Red

Ryder: My head hurts. Red: That’s your brain trying to comprehend its own stupidity

Hank: Do you think different paints have different tastes? Ryder: They do. Chase: ...Why did you say that with such certainty?

Hank, holding an antique bottle: Is this whiskey or perfume? Seen: *grabs and chugs the entire bottle* Seen: Seen: It's perfume.

Seen: Why are you on fire? Neal: This is just how my day is going.

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