Matt's situation started off a little rocky - as LDR's can when you have to rely on phone/internet to stay connected. With a little communication shift, he was able to calm her insecurities and get back on track.

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One thing I've learnt in my own dating/relating journey it's this; While putting ourselves first is key to a happy, empowered life, we have a duty of care to the people we date. A lot of people play the 'you'd better prove yourself to me' game - because they're scared. They think it's empowerment. It's fear. Which often leads to us treating each other with disrespect, because of what that 'other' guy or girl did before 'you' came along. And the cycle continues. When I was at my man-hater worst in my late 20's, I was MISERABLE! I felt like men 'owed me' and needed to prove themselves (I was terrified of being played). That mentality will only hurt you more. When you practice a 'duty of care' with people you date, you start treating yourself better as well. The process is more positive. Even if you have to disappoint someone - it's better than any guilt you'll carry around for ghosting them. Be kind. To them and you. Ains 😍 If you're ready to meet your dream woman, join my 90 day intensive, Manifest Your Missus. You get EVERYTHING you need to meet, attract and build a relationship with that one amazing woman effortlessly! Apply here https://highvaluemaledating.com/manifesting-a-missus

My #1 focus in my work with you isn't actually on relating to women at all. That's a byproduct of the inner work you do on yourself. And you don't need to overcomplicate it - the simple fact is, when you let go of fear, you naturally attract what you want. If you're ready to meet that great woman, join my Manifesting A Missus 90 day intensive. Over this 90 day intensive, you will get EVERYTHING you need to meet, attract and build a relationship with that one amazing woman... effortlessly! Either click the link here https://highvaluemaledating.com/manifesting-a-missus or if you're on Instagram, click the link in my BIO.

Tattoo it on your head so you never forget. Oh and SAVE it so you can come back to it when you feel you need a little buttkick.

When I started out, I spent thousands of dollars on courses, books & other resources by coaches such as David DeAngelo, Neil Strauss, Mystery, Kezia Noble & Marni Kinrys. ⁠ ⁠ I went to LA to meet a pick up artist & learn his tricks and I’d take men out to bars to teach them how to meet women.⁠ ⁠ But over the years it evolved (as did I); ⁠ ⁠ It became less about tactics & strategies and more about the spiritual aspect that's the most transformative work to date.⁠ ⁠ I use Energy Healing (e.g. Reiki), Law of Attraction principles, A Course In Miracles lessons, NLP, relationship psychology, attachment theory and so much more to help you get the woman you want.⁠ ⁠ It turns you into a multi-dimensional man women can’t help but fall all over for… ⁠ ⁠ because it makes you GLOW!⁠ ⁠ In your face, body, mindset, attitude, self awareness and the way women see & treat you.⁠ ⁠ It transcends cheap pick up lines by showing you that you ALREADY know how to do this...⁠ ⁠ all you had to do was let go of the shit that dulled your shine.⁠ ⁠ Ai⁠ns ⁠ Are you ready for me to help you get the woman you want?⁠ ⁠ Send me a DM or book a free consultation here http://bit.ly/workwithainsleym⁠ ⁠ ⁠

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'So what do I say?' I'm sure is your next question...⁠ ⁠ and it's really simple...⁠ ⁠ how do you talk to anyone?⁠ ⁠ 'Hi , how's it going?'⁠ ⁠ The key here is slowing down. When you've followed these steps, you've managed your internal state.⁠ ⁠ So whatever comes out of your mouth will be congruent with a calm, centered internal state...⁠ ⁠ which means more YOU and less 'guy who's terrified'.⁠ ⁠ When you go straight to 'I need to talk to her to get something out of her', that's when it falls down & the fear comes up...⁠ ⁠ and your whole vibe will come off desperate, because you're being pushed by your own agenda & you're not in integrity - which you then project onto her, and she responds accordingly.⁠ ⁠ Stop overcomplicating it.⁠ ⁠ Just follow these steps and the right words will come to you.⁠ ⁠ Trust yourself.⁠ ⁠ Ains 😍⁠ ⁠ Want to learn more? Get my book, She Wants You, How To Make Her See It here ⁠https://bit.ly/swyhtmhsi ⁠

Back in 2015 I went to L.A. to meet a pickup artist. I'd studied the 'art' for almost a decade and wanted to be 'picked up' by one as a woman. Through the process, he talked me through what he did to bed over 15 women a week, from fast touching to words, right down to the bar he took them to and living next to the bar (that's dedication). Honestly? I felt icky, coerced & uncomfortable. He hypnotised me, but I snapped myself out of it when I realised what he was doing. I told him I had to be somewhere and left him, head hung, disappointed, standing there on the street as I got into an Uber. Truth be told, I felt sorry for him. He was good looking. He didn't need tactics to manipulate insecure women to sleep with him. But something happened in his past that led him to believe he needed to hypnotise and use trickery to get women into bed. You don't need to ACT like anything to attract anyone. The acting IS the undoing of you. It creates a divide with women based on the false belief that you need to be something you aren't already to get something you don't have. But all you need to do is ground back into YOU. Then you attract her naturally. Get my book, She Wants You, How To Make Her See It here https://bit.ly/swyhtmhsi Ains 😍

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Are You Stuck In The Friend Zone?⁠ ⁠ It doesn't really exist, it's just a construct.⁠ ⁠ BUT⁠ ⁠ It's easier to say 'Friend zone' than 'there's a woman I like, she's a friend & I don't know how to turn it into more'.⁠ ⁠ Here are 3 things to stop doing; ⁠ 1. Being too much in your feminine energy. If you try to be 'one of the girls', she won't feel sexual feelings towards you.⁠ ⁠ So ramp up your masculine energy. That is, strong, focused, driven and grounded... and you don't need to 'fake it', you already have it. Just lose some of the softness you're using because you think it's what you need to do to attract her.⁠ ⁠ Lead your own life and cultivate a strong sense of your own sexuality.⁠ ⁠ 2. Date other women. If you're holding a 'reserved spot' for her, she'll feel it. ⁠ ⁠ 3. Drop the agenda. It sounds counter-intuitive but you have to get off needing her or anything about her. ⁠ ⁠ This need is showing up in your energy, which blocks attraction... and stops you saying what you really want to say (and being your strong, masculine self).⁠ ⁠ Your fear is keeping you in a comfort zone with her... which also kills attraction.⁠ ⁠ Grab my book She Wants You, How To Make Her See It to get the woman you want. Link is in my BIO or you can get it here https://bit.ly/swyhtmhsi⁠ ⁠ Ains 😍⁠ ⁠

3 Ways To Be Intentional About Getting The Woman You Want.. Without Being Rigid⁠ ⁠ 1. Get clear. Know what you're looking for. then put yourself in environments or situations where she's likely to be.⁠ ⁠ 2. Be open. Have an abundance mindset that there are great women everywhere and pay attention to opportunities.⁠ ⁠ 3. Be patient. Date women, get to know more about them and yourself in relationships with them. You'll understand the right one more by spending time with the wrong ones.⁠ ⁠ Are you ready to connect with women at a deeper a level, so you can attract that great one into your life?⁠ ⁠ Join the Man Aligned 40 Day Transformation. All the info is on the link in my BIO (just scroll down the page & you'll see it) or click here https://bit.ly/ManAligned ⁠ ⁠

I remember years ago I was super into a guy and Dad said to me, 'Just ring him and tell him'.⁠ ⁠ So I did.⁠ ⁠ And he didn't feel the same way.⁠ ⁠ And I INSTANTLY felt better, because I knew where I stood... even though the outcome wasn't what I wanted.⁠ ⁠ Just remember 'no' from someone is leading you to a 'yes' from someone better. ⁠ ⁠ Rejection isn't bad - it's just a sign to either course correct on your approach OR that she's just not the right one. ⁠ ⁠ And when you take the emotion out of it, or stop believing that her rejecting you means something about who you are...⁠ ⁠ you just move on as if it's no biggie.⁠ ⁠ So now we've got that out of the way, just go do it.⁠ ⁠ Life's too short to be wondering.⁠ ⁠ Ains ⁠ ⁠ Discover more about women & attraction with my book, She Wants You, How To Make Her See It. ⁠ ⁠ It's on the link in my BIO or you can get it directly here https://bit.ly/swyhtmhsi⁠ ⁠ ⁠

THIS is balance (and my entire business model).⁠ ⁠ You can be masculine AF and still embrace your feminine side (think of hot fireman holding a puppy type deal).⁠ ⁠ When a man's strongly in touch with his feminine traits, it gives him so much influence with women...⁠ ⁠ because he's not scared of her being feminine.⁠ ⁠ Where it loses its balance is in a relationship where you spend too much time in your feminine energy & let her lead.⁠ ⁠ She'll be turned off just as much as you are by women who are too masculine. ⁠ ⁠ And annoyingly it's different for everyone (it's really impossible to measure).⁠ ⁠ But when you heal both (which is the work you and I do together), you become a powerhouse in dating & relating with women.⁠ ⁠ You find your centre and step into the man you know you can be.⁠ ⁠ Ains ⁠:) ⁠ Wanna step into High Value Male status today?⁠ ⁠ Join the Man Aligned 40 Day Transformation. Over 40 days you will shed the layers of fear, self doubt and the past...⁠ ⁠ and become your truest version of yourself... who can connect with women in a way they've never felt before.⁠ ⁠ You'll find it on the website link in my BIO (just scroll down the page) or join here https://bit.ly/ManAligned ⁠⁠

It's the secret to getting what you want. When you're all over the place, don't know what you want, your actions & intentions are chaotic and you feel wobbly in yourself, then you create this energetic barrier to that one true desire (in this case, 'her'). We're so hell-bent on meeting someone, that we forget to cultivate ourselves to create the right environment for it to happen. That's KEY! And while she's not showing up, it's because you're not creating the right environment in your mind, body & soul for her to just glide into your life. Until then you'll keep hitting walls in your love life & getting nowhere. So your #1 focus is on alignment. When you understand yourself, are intentional and clear about what you want and cultivate this every day, it's EASY to recognise that amazing woman. Join my Man Aligned 40 Day Transformation and I'll transform you into the man women want and you want to be. The link is in my BIO or you can join here https://bit.ly/ManAligned

Presence is the only thing you need to cultivate. Alignment falls under that camp... but when you practice it, you become it... and you step into the man you thought you always wanted to be... but actually ARE (somewhere along the way, you just forgot). ⁠ Stop worrying about what to say, how to be, how to act to attract a woman & be successful in your life.⁠ ⁠ Just practice presence... and everything will flow effortlessly from that.⁠ ⁠ Is it hard?⁠ ⁠ Hell yeah... especially if you're a slave to your thoughts.⁠ ⁠ But keep at it.⁠ ⁠ Over time, you'll notice a gentle shift. It'll be so subtle and gradual that you'll barely notice it.⁠ ⁠ Be patient. Be persistent.⁠ ⁠ Ains 😍⁠ And if you're ready to really nail this 'presence' thing to the wall, so you can connect with women more deeply, be more present with her, attract better options into your life (and much more!), join the Man Aligned 40 Day Transformation. All the info is on the link in my BIO or you can get the full deets here https://bit.ly/ManAligned ⁠ ⁠