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flutterby-system · 14 days

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@funnier-as-a-system

Sending them kisses in my brain

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flutterby-system · 19 days

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So we definitely need more positive representation of DID, but you know what would be funny? Mildly inconvenient representation of DID.

Oh the world is ending and you need to know about this one specific thing? Yeah I have a guy for that but he doesn't feel like fronting right now

Sorry what's happening rn is this the bad guy? Yeah I just switched in idk what's going on

I know you're dating one alter but we're currently co-con with another alter who hates you so idk how I'm feeling rn

And just who do i think I am? It's funny you should ask that I actually don't know right now

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flutterby-system · 8 months

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@funnier-as-a-system

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flutterby-system · 8 months

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shout out to systems who don’t know everything about their system. who are confused and tired of trying to know every single thing. who don’t know their alter count and don’t bother to figure out. idk more appreciation for confused systems.

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flutterby-system · 8 months

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i love how whenever someone is like "i think (whatever disorder) is becoming kinda misrepresented online" people immediately jump to "yeah this is why self diagnosis is wrong!!" deepthroat the boot a little faster why don't you

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flutterby-system · 8 months

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Oh my gosh

I was reading some old rps I did like 3-4 years ago

One of them I was playing King (Roman and Remus fusion from Sanders Sides) and he is SO DID CODED

Like after every sentence I needed to just make some ✨realizations✨

-host (most likely, it’s almost 6 at who knows at this point)

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flutterby-system · 10 months

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can i get some little & caregiver emotes maybe?

sure! her eyou go, i made these awhile ago but never posted, feel free to ask for more! Requests are opened again ^^

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flutterby-system · 10 months

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@funnier-as-a-system

“Look,” said the demon. “This is the 13th time you’ve summoned me to sell your soul. My boss wants to know where you’re getting all these souls.”

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flutterby-system · 1 year

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if this happened to me I would simply be fine with it

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flutterby-system · 1 year

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Here’s to OC fictives!

Ones who are “OP”

Ones who are self inserts of the host or another headmate

Ones based on fandoms

Ones who love their source and ones who don’t

Ones who give input when the system’s writing/drawing their source (I do this a lot lol)

Feel free to add on! —CH from the Lemon Lime System (I don’t wanna give my whole name yet ^^’)

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flutterby-system · 1 year

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on fictives/factives/introjects

In light of a lot of myths and misconceptions we’ve seen floating around, we want to make a thread on fictives and factives. Especially for confused singlets (folks who aren’t a system/plural/multiple).

First of all, let’s start with defining the terminology, okay?

Fictive = a system member who is based off a fictional character, species, or from a fictional world. For some, it’s purely neurological. For others, it’s a spiritual thing. Beliefs vary– that’s OKAY. Some don’t see themselves as “actually” them, but some do– that’s OKAY.

Factive = a system member who is based off a person who exists, or existed, in this world. This can be celebrities, influences, historical figures, or just regular people that the system knew/knows. (Including, sometimes, pets, other people’s system members, or abusers.) Again, can be neurological or spiritual, and viewpoints vary on if the system member feels they are “actually” that person or not. Again, regardless if they do or don’t, it’s okay.

These are similar to, but not the same as, fictionkin and factkin. Fictives/factives are terms for systems, and usually they enter the system knowing who they are without living as someone else, unlike kin who are born as one identity but awaken to one or more kintypes. Systems AND singlets can have kintypes. The lines can blur sometimes! Sometimes a “singlet” will realize a kintype is a system member, sometimes a system member will think they’re a fictive (or think they’re not) and it turns out they’re fictionkin (or remember who they are).

Here’s a primer on kinfolk-related terminology: [link]

if you’re not a system, please don’t use the term fictive/factive for your kintype. And please don’t call fictives/factives kintypes. We have also seen some folks using the term “fictive singlet”, and unless you were part of a system at some point but the system fused leaving you– a fictive– as the sole operator of the body, please don’t use that term. It just perpetuates misunderstanding.

With terminology out of the way, let’s cut to the chase.

Fictives and factives ARE real. They are a real thing that happens with systems, and it’s ALWAYS existed. Many of the oldest, most well-known systems have had fictives and factives. This isn’t new. At all. (Traumagenic systems, especially those with DID/OSDD– and medicalized literature– may call them introjects. Just FYI.) Beliefs on how/why they happen vary. And in the end it doesn’t honestly matter. They exist. If you don’t believe that, you shouldn’t be interacting with systems.

Now, there’s a lot of myths being flung around lately. Mainly, that fictives/factives “believe this” or “think that”. Even systems are doing this. Please stop assuming! Not all fictives/factives “know they’re not REAAAAALLY that person”, and not all “really think they are”. The fact of the matter is, all systems believe differently. Even fictives/factives within the same system will sometimes have different beliefs. And it’s very important, regardless, to respect those beliefs. Mostly because you’re… not going to change anything, lmao.

Some fictives/factives are strongly neurological and believe they were created by the brain based off a person who would bring the system some sort of comfort or stability. They still may or may not want to be treated as that person. ASK. Talk about it. Be compassionate.

Some fictives/factives believe they’re spiritual in origin and believe they ARE that person, usually from a different timeline, though beliefs can vary widely. They may or may not want to be treated as that person. ASK. Talk about it. Be compassionate.

Some systems say that they can purposefully form or “bring in” fictives/factives, some systems say they can’t. Both are fine!

Regardless of what a fictive/factive believes, most aren’t going to harass their “canon source”– whether it be writers, artists, game designers who created a fictional media, or real people like celebrities or streamers. Most keep a good distance out of respect. Especially true for factives, who usually understand the delicate nature of the situation. It’s just etiquette that if you interact with those involved with, connected to, or who ARE your source, you don’t bring it up because it can cause a lot of singlets discomfort.

The problem we’re currently having is a LARGE influx of newer, much younger systems who have grown up way too involved in parasocial relationships and haven’t learned boundaries. Plus most are steeped in sysmed ideology, so they don’t listen to community “elders” who tend to skew towards inclusivity, and are often shunned because teens have grown up in this weird culture of “adults (especially queer adults) are ~~icky~~”. It’s hard to establish community connections and teach younger systems history and etiquette when “DNI if 17+”.

There’s also a large influx of young systems who are tossing around the word “psychotic” and “delusional attachments” in regards to their plurality… which we can’t comment on too much, but it creates a vastly more complicated situation.

POINT BEING:

1. Yes, it is a real thing. Fictives and factives happen in systems of ALL types: trauma-formed, nontraumagenic, disorder, nondisordered, diagnosed, undiagnosed, etc. They’re not new terms and they’re not new phenomenon in any way, shape, or form.

2. No, it’s NOT roleplaying. (Not even if the system is nontraumagenic.) It is not faking, acting, wish fulfillment, or imagination. They’re not “delusional attachments”. (Although some may start out that way!) If you accept systems and system members as real, then accept fictives and factives as real, too.

3. Please don’t make assumptions about what a fictive/factive believes. If they say “I’m not really that person”, or “yes I believe I’m that person”, respect it. It isn’t inherently a problem, either way. (You can have a belief without that belief harming yourself or others.)

4. Please don’t let the bad behavior of a few sour your opinion of an entire community. Yes, the plural community is having a problem with (mostly) young systems participating with in-fighting and harassment. But that is not the entirety of the plural community.

5. Don’t crap on fictionkin/factkin, either. Their existence isn’t inherently bad or harmful. It’s what people DO with it, as with anything else.

DISCLAIMER: When we say to respect a fictive/factive that believes they are actually who they say they are, we mean in the sense of them believing they are A VERSION of that person. This is NOT the same as, say, a factive claiming they are THIS WORLD’S version of (person). If a factive is claiming to be “the real (person)”, as in, THIS world’s version of that person… yes, that is concerning. We know. And it requires a deeper conversation than twitter can allow. Still, don’t harass or mock that person or system, please.

Another PS: a system being heavily (or all) fictives/factives doesn’t mean they’re fake or even “more likely to be” fake. A system having many (or all) fictives/factives from one “source” doesn’t mean they’re fake. System size doesn’t mean anything. Brains are cool like that.

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flutterby-system · 1 year

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love calling fictional characters my best friends. theyre real. to me. you wouldn’t get it though

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flutterby-system · 1 year

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One of our alters the first time they fronted had this issue

Luckily we were on call with a couple friends we are out to so they were able to do vague sign language and gesturing and it was actually kind of funny

Luckily they’ve learned to type and also we got a text to speech app for them to use

However, that was just a case of a nonverbal adult alter who was perfectly fine

It can be scary when a little, or even an adult who’s shutting down, when there’s no way to communicate

Vague gestures can work.

Having a routine where if somebody is with them, having something like “1 for yes 2 for no” “left hand snacks right hand stuffed animal” sort of thing.

Something calming nearby helps. We have a picture of the little’s favorite protector on our phone wallpaper and there’s been a few times where seeing him has made them feel better. We also try to always have a stuffed animal or toy or fidget at all times for littles and adults alike.

It can be scary when the body can’t communicate externally but the point of a system is to help the body and headmates. If you’re able to set something up so whoever’s front can get help from other alters it can do wonders. The aforementioned protector will always pull an overwhelmed little out of front if needed. We can ask for any intrusive thoughts to be blocked from front. Nonverbal alters still have thoughts so they can still communicate with other headmates.

-host

What is it like having nonverbal headmates in front who can't type?

Does anyone reading this have this experience? I'm really interested in how this works, exactly and what causes it?

Is it an actual inability to type, a fear of talking in any form, do words get jumbled up when they try or something else entirely?

I'm really interested in hearing the experiences of different systems with this.

Thanks! 😁

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flutterby-system · 1 year

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I swear up and down that my earbuds today said “hi asshole” and then immediately started playing a different alter’s favorite song

I can’t tell if it was calling them an asshole

Or was calling me an asshole and then was hoping to trigger them front so I’d leave skkwlwkejdndhdm

-host

#did #osdd #plural system #plurality

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flutterby-system · 2 years

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Hey

I’m Bing.

I go by he/they pronouns.

Pretty sure I’ve been around for like 10 years.

Could not tell you how old I am. 20s probably.

Don’t quite know what my job is. Originally thought I was an Adult™️ to replace kiddos when they needed to go back, but when we realized I’ve been around for this long, I’ve probably been out a lot more than the host realizes.

Unfortunately fronting means most of the memories our host is unaware of gets forgotten, with a couple things leaking through the cracks here and there.

I like orange and somebody related that to bingiplier, and since I’ve been going by the legal name my whole existence that name kinda stuck.

I’m not a fictive, just named myself after him.

Anyways,

Hi.

-Bing

#did #osdd #plural system #plurality #intro post

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flutterby-system · 2 years

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I love vague labels that make people go "but that's confusing" or "but that could mean anything" Good. Keep guessing lol

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flutterby-system · 2 years

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Is this not just DID??

You are a master of of the mind palace technique, so much that you can entertain yourself for hours just spending time in the fictional place you have created inside your head. One day, while roaming around in your palace, you’re shocked to find signs of a break-in.

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