Sorry to ask this. I was going through a blog when I saw a callout post. I checked it out of curiosity. One of the things that was pointed out was : "when they were 31, they had sex with a 18 year old -they are a teenager!- and it's predatory! I (the writer of the callout) am 21 years old and even I don't have sex with 18 year olds because they are very young and it's very predatory!"
So, idk how to feel about that? Especially as someone who has never been in a relationship. I'm 20 years old, soon I'll be 21. Looking at myself at 18 and the future 21, I really didn't change that much? Physically or mentally. Yeah 18 is young but so is 21?? I don't think it's predatory, am I wrong?/serious question
And for the first part, yeah a 31 year old being with a 18 is weird for me, but aren't they both adults? They also said it's because 18 year olds lack experience, which can be true but that's assuming they have never been in a relationship before(with people their own age or similar). So, it can be weird but predatory? Is it?/serious question
I'm sorry if the questions are upsetting &/or weird but I really don't have anyone else to ask- parents are out of question, they literally think you should teach people about sex right before marriage- and I don't trust most online spaces. There's also zero books about such things in my country because "protect the children!!". So now we have an adult(me) who was raised to never ask question about these things and now is confused as hell. Hmm.....
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It's all hogwash.
On average, I would assume that a 31-year-old having sex with an 18-year-old is a bit of a creep. However, it would depend entirely on the circumstances. Is this 18-year-old a naive high school student? Or are they someone who's been working a job for several years? Maybe the older person is their coworker whom they got to know.
A 21-year-old and an 18-year-old can be weird in the US if they only just met and one is a high school student while the other is a university student. But what if they met in some very different context where they're more in the same stage of life? Sure, I side-eye upperclassmen who start dating freshmen the first week of their freshman year, but what about later on in the year? What if both of these people aren't students at all and are, again, working a job together?
"You're mature for your age" is a line that creepers feed to younger people, but it can also be true. Some people just get along better with older partners.
We shouldn't be too draconian about any specific rule. You can only judge by the real circumstances of a specific set of people.
Predators are defined by their behavior, not ticky-box demographics. There is no absolute that lets you detect them and protect yourself. People wish there were because they would feel safer. That's what this kind of post is about.
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100 NSFW Questions Ask Me!
Here’s 100 NSFW questions we’ve come up with. Send in some numbers and you get your answer.
1. First kiss?
2. First time masturbating?
3. First sex toy?
4. First kink tried?
5. First time doing oral?
6. First time having sex?
Turn Ons
7. Biggest turn on?
8. Biggest turn off?
9. Quickest way to get horny?
10. Weirdest thing that ever turned you on?
11. What’s the most attractive part of the body?
12. Top 3 places to be touched?
13. Ultimate fantasy?
14. Do you like the idea of a three or moresome?
15. Do you send nudes? Do you like receiving them?
Preferences
16. How much kissing do you like during sex?
17. Sex or masturbation?
18. Spit or swallow?
19. Cut or uncut dicks?
20. Rough or sensual sex?
21. Oldest person you’d sleep with?
22. Loud or quiet partners?
23. How much foreplay do you like?
24. How much teasing do you like?
25. What is too big for you to take?
26. Do you do hookups or only sleep with a partner?
Location
27. Favourite place to have sex?
28. Would you have sex in public?
29. Last place you had sex?
30. Where would you most like to have sex?
31. Do you like spontaneous sex, or do you need to be in the mood?
32. Could you go through with a hookup at a strangers house?
Kinks
33. What’s your biggest kink?
34. What’s your limit?
35. Are you okay with name calling in bed?
36. Would you do any BDSM?
37. Do you prefer to tie somebody up or be tied up?
38. Favourite type of bondage?
39. Do you like orgasm denial/forced orgasm?
40. Do you like overstimulation?
41. Do you like having pain involved?
42. Do you like biting/being bitten?
43. Have you ever been made to/made somebody beg for it?
44. Do you have any strange or extreme kinks?
45. Have any roleplaying preferences?
46. Send a kink with this number. Do you have that kink?
Masturbation
47. Do you own sex toys? How many?
48. Favourite Sex Toy?
49. What do you masturbate to?
50. How often do you masturbate?
51. How often do you use sex toys to masturbate?
52. Do you masturbate with penetration?
53. Do you go for multiple rounds or settle at one or no orgasms?
Oral
54. Do you enjoy giving oral?
55. Do you prefer giving or receiving oral?
56. What makes you orgasm the fastest when receiving oral?
57. Do you have a preferred technique for giving oral?
58. Can you deepthroat?
For people with dicks… (you can answer these when you send an ask)
60. How long and how thick is it?
61. Do you do anal? Top or bottom?
62. Are you circumcised?
63. Do you like your balls being played with?
64. Do you enjoy prostate stimulation? Ever came from it?
65. Where do you like to finish?
For people with vaginas…
66. Do you like playing with your clit?
67. How do you prefer to do it?
68. What’s your breast size?
69. How often do you go braless?
70. Do you finger yourself?
71. How familiar are you with your g-spot?
72. Do you squirt?
Sex
73. Favourite position?
74. How often do you do unprotected sex?
75. How loud are you in bed?
76. Do you enjoy having nipples played with?
77. Do you like/dislike/love/hate cum?
78. How good are you at dirty talk?
79. Do you get sleepy after an orgasm?
Other
80. Do you like wearing/seeing people in lingerie?
81. Do you masturbate or have sex with clothes on?
82. What’s your favourite style of underwear?
83. Are stockings/thigh highs a turn on?
84. Ever had somebody say no to a kink you suggested trying?
85. Do you trim, shave or leave pubic hair untouched? How do you prefer partners?
86. How many orgasms can you have in a day?
87. How many other people know your dick/bra size?
88. What do you wear to bed?
89. Do you eat ass? Do you like having your ass eaten?
90. Try to describe how orgasm feels for you.
91. Have you ever been to a strip club? How was it? If not, would you?
Fun questions!
92. Do you name your genitalia?
93. What would be your stripper name?
94. Any funny sex stories?
95. What food if any would you use during sex?
96. Would you give somebody a sex toy as a gift?
97. What’s the weirdest porn you’ve ever seen?
98. Do you often get horny in public?
99. Ever used something that isn’t made for sex in the bedroom?
100. Have you ever walked in on somebody or been walked in on?
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