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doin-just-fine · 6 months

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Median culture is not knowing whether or not you're median because some headmates are extremely distinct from you but others are not and you've been effectively frontstuck for as long as you can remember...

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doin-just-fine · 6 months

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i am absolutely convinced Edward Ofmd is a system and these are his headmates:

ed (softie, fancies a fine fabric and, ofc, Stede)

blackbeard (protector, Professional Pirate, often triggered out by danger and/or izzy)

the kraken (unbridled violence and chaos)

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doin-just-fine · 6 months

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Something interesting Even if I'm not sure about the existence of people in my system I can still spell out their motivations for hypothetical things.

Example: Yesterday we noticed someone in the system trying to calm us down and we're trying to figure out who it was so we made a list of facets that have a calming role or motive to calm us down and then what those reasons may be... DoinFine: comforts out of necessity and to self-sooth, comforts to feel better (since they're the one the gets to feel for everyone else) Facet 1: Comforts as her role in the space, her job is to relieve, quell, relax any unfortunate emotions. Facet 2: Comforts to distract, change the subject, avoid

I'm not sure if this is Plural unique or if other people can experience this with just themself but I think it's interesting.

#plurality #median system #system #questioning system #actually plural #actually median #plural community #questioning median system #neurogenic #mediple system #facets

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doin-just-fine · 6 months

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Median culture is: "Yeah there's like 9 of us but you're only going to see like, 3 of us. And most of the time it will be the host. Sorry mate, just how it goes."

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doin-just-fine · 7 months

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self diagnosing with what is wrong with me disorder

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doin-just-fine · 7 months

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Introjects do not have to show up being exactly like their source. They do not have to know who they are or even who their source is the second they show up. They can take their time figuring out who they are and also deciding who they want to be, as any system member or even any person gets to do. They can decide what parts of their source they actually want to be like or things they want to change; they don't have to be like their source and it doesn't make them any more or less valid. They can still call themselves an introject, no matter how they got there.

take your time. a baby doesn't know who they are immediately, and neither do you.

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doin-just-fine · 9 months

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( monoconscious / median ) plural culture is thinking someones fronting and then referring to them in third person automatically and going hm . guess not .

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#us fr #doinfine

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doin-just-fine · 9 months

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Plurals who spend a lot of time as their collective identity/single sona/etc I love you. Plurals that don't identify as a system I love you. Median plurals I love you. Plurals who frequently experience mass dormancy, fusion etc I love you. Plurals who are sometimes singlets I love you. Plurals where most of your headcount goes towards headmates/parts/etc that don't have their own identity I love you. Plurals who are still questioning if they're plural or just have a complicated identity/imaginary friends/etc I love you. Plurals that prefer singular language and dislike saying "we/us/ourselves" I love you. Any plural that has an atypical plural identity or doesn't fit in with how a plural person is 'supposed' to be, I love you :)

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doin-just-fine · 9 months

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Monoconscious Monothought + permanent Front Anchor host Median culture is wanting to have or go to a headspace and wanting to talk to the other headmates / facets when having issues with traumatic memories but not being able to due to not being able to leave front and communicate, not even through thought.

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#doinfine #frfr

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doin-just-fine · 9 months

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What the brain doin?? PT. 7 of a questioning median system's journey

"Cloud's evening out"

Cloud fronted fronted for the first time a couple nights ago. This was the first time Cloud had been the dominant one fronting instead of myself.

I was hanging out with a member of my partner system who's basically an edgey rebellious teen, similar to Cloud. The goal that night was honestly for Cloud to just use me as the talking piece like usual. Cloud was already around because these two have hung out before but not formally, but Cloud liked the vibe last time and wanted to do a formal hang out at some point. So with him around I could tell that he definitely had influence over my emotions and certain attitudes but the power over that would fluctuate based on how interested Cloud was in what was happening. Like when me and our friend were just chatting about life and poking fun at each other Cloud was less interested in those conversations but if we switched to a topic that has been stressing out our trauma response Cloud would perk up and get closer because this was something he had big opinions about.

The music was right, the vibes were right, and all we needed was something that would make Cloud want to contribute to the vibe. We started talking about a situation that has been going on and our friend was airing out some grievances and Cloud wanted join in and talk about the stuff that been frustrating him about the situation. Once we started talking about the right stuff it felt like a smooth transition into being different. And thats accurate to how it felt, like me but different, in the weirdest way.

Like I said I'm always up front, and twice now I've ridden shotgun in the front this being the second time. With the little one I was still very much in control because they didn't seem to know what they were doing up front. But Cloud seems to know what he's doing up front so it was like I was just kinda waiting. Like when you're on a phone call with someone on speaker and someone else in the room starts talking to the person on the phone. Like it's your phone call and you're just kinda waiting for it to be your phone call again but currently someone else is using your phone call. I was kinda just waiting around for it to be my phone call again. I got to hear everything and be around for it all but didn't tune in too hard because it wasn't my phone call conversation to be apart of.

OBSERVATIONS: I will say there was a distinct difference in me being front holder and matching our friends energy and vibe VS Cloud being the front holder and just naturally having those vibes. When it was just me and our friend hanging out I would tune into myself to figure out how much of it was me and how much was Cloud. Like I said, Cloud had fluctuating influence over my attitude and emotions and I could make the distinction when it was just me, but when he was around that distinction went away.

Usually if I'm holding the front and someone is co-con, if I voice something for them and it mentions me in the 3rd person, saying it will feel weird. For most of my time questioning if I'm a median system, 3rd person language has felt weird because I'm always fronting. Not this time. This time I noticed that when Cloud would talk about me in the 3rd person it didn't feel weird to him.

I'm specifying that it didn't feel weird to him because I could feel myself farther back like how I usually experience my head-mates being around. Kinda there but just slightly next to you. I'm guessing I felt the my emotions distance through Cloud feeling them like how I usually do with him, and I could feel his feelings were more forward than my own. I could feel that to him referring to me in the 3rd person felt right but I could still feel myself finding it weird but it just felt duller and farther away.

Cloud could also tell that I was observing and "taking notes" everything that was happening and was actively making fun of me for it and got mildly annoyed about it because my observations were getting in the way of him being able to focus on hanging out. Because of this I couldn't take too many notes. The only other thing I noticed were the differences between myself and Cloud. My body language changed: I was really bouncy and couldn't sit still but he stuck with one position (to be fair he also gained a cat on his lap so). My opinions changed: I love cats and would have been thrilled to have a cat on my lap but Cloud was very neutral and if anything mildly annoyed by the cat (to be fair our friend we were hanging with is also like that so I'm not sure if Cloud was just copying behavior patterns to match their energy or not). My filter changed: When Cloud was out he had stronger opinions that I would typically try to keep to myself and deconstruct/questions before voicing them but Cloud would just say them. Use of phrases change: Phrases I typically would say would still be said out of habit almost but Cloud would notice that he would never actively choose to say those words in that order. He said something about needing to "spice up" his aesthetic and then actively hated that he just said spice up.

Once the hang out was deemed over we realized that I was trying to hard to observe and take notes on this experience and that I was kinda holding Cloud hostage because I wanted to keep taking notes making it really hard for him to leave. We decided that my partner would switch back in (because that alone would probably help) so they could help us switch out because not only was I holding Cloud hostage unintentionally, but he also expressed that he didn't know how to leave.

When my partner was out heres what I noticed: Cloud got shyer but tried to play it off. Saying "nice to meet you" didn't feel weird, and when my partner offered him to rest our head on their knee Cloud felt weird about it and chose not to. My partner switched the music to something more my style and Cloud really didn't like it and made fun of me for it.

I asked my partner what they thought/observed: They observed many of the things I mentioned here. They noticed that where I would normally push back with their alter in a teasing way on certain things they would say or do, Cloud would either make no comment or agree. I feel like that's in the same vain of Cloud having less of a filter. They were saying it was like a different version of myself where certain aspects of me were cranked up more. They mentioned that this is similar to their experiences with plurality.

Bonus observation: After I came back to being the front holder I could still feel Cloud really close by. I couldn't tell if it was just weird for us to actively think about switching instead of it happening subconsciously so he was like "caught on the chair" if you will or if it was that I was still holding him hostage a bit afterward. But we went to bed almost immediately after we switched around and I noticed that the next morning I could still feel Cloud being closer than usual. It didn't help that a hour after waking up, the situation that Cloud feels strongly about was stirred up some more, but that next day it felt really easy for him to slip in and I had to fight it off. Once my ADHD meds kicked in it got easier which was interesting.

AMNESIA: It's not like I don't remember the events that occurred while Cloud was holding front but it's like the memories are harder to recall. When I was discussing this with my partner they reminded me that our friend and Cloud agreed to hang out again when ever they could next and when reflecting on that it was from a 3rd person perspective. For me, only my old memories are in 3rd person POV. So for a fresh memory to be that way is weird. I also don't look like me in the memory but idk if that actually means anything.

I'm not sure what to make of this myself. I think I'm gonna try having Cloud hang around my partner who is very different personality wise and see how it effects or doesn't effect his behavior, as well as seeing if I can bring him out to the front like that by myself by finding other things that draws him out and not just talking about things that make him angry/protective. I will say if Cloud truly is a facet and not just me giving myself permission to feel and express specific negative emotions, he is very much a protector type. He pretends like he doesn't have opinions or that he doesn't care about anything but he does and when he does its intense. I also forgot my plan. I planned on trying to "turn around in the chair" the next time I was pushed to co-pilot instead of pilot and I totally forgot so we shall see next time, if I remember.

As always, Asks are welcome whether its questions, comments, or your own experience!!!

#What the brain doin #median system #actually median #questioning median system #questioning system #system #actually plural #plurality #plural community #neurogenic #Cloud #switching #co-con #median system switching #median system fronting #median system co-con

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doin-just-fine · 9 months

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We give this one a 8/10 The clothing options are fun but honestly could use more plain options. Our own picrews below the cut!!

Plural-friendly Picrews

welcome to our ongoing rating of picrews, specifically for plural folks/ systems!

please feel free to rb with your systems picrews (and own rating, if you want)!

we hate when our picrews all look identical- so a lot of this rating is based on the variety and customization possibilities, and doesn’t reflect on the skill of the artist!!

brightgoat! overall rating- 8.4/10

physical variety- 7.1/10

aesthetic variety-8.3/10

additional variety- 9.7/10

rating details and our example picrews under the cut!

physical!

skin tones- 7/10 (could use more medium tones)

body/face shape- 7/10 (a few bodies, several similar face shapes)

facial features- 8/10 (distinctive noses, expressive mouths and eyes)

skin features- 9/10 (face and body scars, makeup, eye bags, wrinkles, freckles, vitiligo, facial hair)

feature placement- 8/10 (can move most)

hair types- 4/10 (could use more variety in textures and natural colors)

aesthetic!

hair styles- 5/10 (various fun colors, could use more styles esp for short hair)

outfits- 9/10 (lots of fun/fantasy/costume options, with many different designs under "color" selections! could use more basics)

accessories- 10/10 (so many! each "color" selection is a different piece, so dozens of earrings, necklaces, hats. also included; headphones, cameras, small animals, decorations for horns!)

background- 9/10 (lots of aesthetic photos. can have items in the background or a fun overlay)

other notable options!

nonhuman elements- 10/10 (eyes and pupils, fanged mouths, horns, pointed and animal ears, antenna, scales, whiskers, plant and mineral growth, wings and halos, etc)

inclusive details- 9/10 (hearing aids, heterochromia, head coverings, eye patches)

misc. expression- 10/10 (SO many options! lots of hobbies and interests! over 30 animal companions)

overall thoughts- by far the most choices we've ever seen, so this is a popular one around here! while the face shapes and hair are not our favorites, the overwhelming amount of of fantasy and nonhuman elements and clothes more than make up for it! this one is essentially a dressup game for us lol

disclaimer- this is just our opinion! there's definitely things we forgot to consider, or that other systems look for more. if you have suggestions for our rating system, let us know! love ya, take care!

#picrew #plural picrew #system picrew #plural picrews #picrew rating #picking plural picrews #plural #system #osdd #did #median system #actually median #questioning median system #questioning system #actually plural #plurality #plural community #DoinPicrews

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doin-just-fine · 9 months

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We rate this one a 5/10. Not a big fan of this one. Summer is the only one who REALLY liked the way hers turned out. Our own picrews below the cut!!

Plural-friendly Picrews

welcome to our ongoing rating of picrews, specifically for plural folks/ systems!

please go ahead and rb with your systems picrews (and your own rating if you want!)

we hate when our picrews end up looking identical- so a lot of this rating is based on the variety and customization possibilities, and doesn’t reflect on the skill of the artist!!

Nakdraws!! Overall 6.1/10

physical variety- 6.1/10

aesthetic variety- 5.8/10

other variety-6.3/10

rating details and our example picrews under the cut!

Keep reading

#picrew #plural picrew #system picrew #plural picrews #picrew rating #picking plural picrews #plural #system #osdd #did #median system #actually median #questioning median system #questioning system #actually plural #plurality #plural community #DoinPicrews

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doin-just-fine · 9 months

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We love doing picrews so we're gonna play along with these!! Tagging it to #DoinPicrews

We give this one a 7.8/10 Everyone was super happy with how theirs looked and we really like the art style, it's super cute!! Our own picrews below the cut!!

Plural-friendly Picrews

welcome to our ongoing rating of picrews, specifically for plural folks/ systems!

please go ahead and rb with your systems picrews (and your own rating, if you want)!

we hate when our picrews all end up identical- so a lot of this rating is based on the variety and customization possibilities, and doesn’t reflect on the skill of the artist!!

Makowka! Overall- 7.6/10

physical variety- 7.6/10

aesthetic variety-7.8/10

other variety- 7.3/10

rating details and our example picrews under the cut!!

physical!

skin tones- 7/10 (has a range of both realistic and fantasy tones, but could use more realistic variation)

body/face shape- 7/10 (several body types and face shapes)

facial features- 6/10 (cartoony style simplifies many features to be similar, but ok range of expressions)

skin features- 10/10 (scars, vitiligo, makeup, wrinkles, acne, dimples, freckles, face/body hair)

feature placement- 8/10 (allows you to move most)

hair types- 8/10 (good textured/curly choices)

aesthetic!

hair styles- 9/10 (many options, lots of fun colors, allows highlights)

outfits- 8/10 (many basic options, several different designs and colors available)

accessories- 8/10 (allows multiple piercings, has variety of necklaces, glasses, hats)

background- 6/10 (plain colors with a few pattern overlays, pride flags)

other!

nonhuman elements- 8/10 (horns, pointed and animal ears, skin colors)

inclusive details- 7/10 (heterochromia, head coverings, eye patch)

misc. expression- 7/10 (a few speech bubble/star overlays, expressive faces, pride flags)

overall thoughts- the style is super cute and options are good, but many face outcomes do look similar. we still love the overall effect of these, though!

disclaimers: this is my opinion! there's definitely stuff we forgot to consider, and different systems will look for different things than us! also, "10/10" is in comparison to other picrews, there's always room for improvement! love ya, ur doing great!

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doin-just-fine · 10 months

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What the brain doin?? PT. 6 of a questioning median system's journey

"Stuck in the chair"

Like I've mentioned in the past, I, DoinFine, am always fronting. I've heard and seen many systems describe their head space with a chair for those who are fronting to sit in so we kinda think of it the same way. I'm always sitting in the chair.

I'm pretty sure that the source of my plurality is my inability to process emotions correctly (I'm still working on a post explaining this but it's difficult for me to understand and therefore hard to write about which just confirms my suspicions). Anyway, the other day I was feeling random negative emotions happening in the background. When I say background what that means is this: It feels like it's happening behind me. Like I was experiencing them next to me or outside of me. You know how you can hold emotions in different parts of your body? It's like that but the body part is next to you not attached to you. So I don't literally feel the tension I hold in my shoulders due to stress like it's next to my shoulders instead of in them, its that gut feeling that tells me that the tension in my shoulders is due to stress that I feel next to me. For me when I say background specifically, it feel like that previous statement with an added layer of white noise or static between the emotion and myself.

As of right now I do not have a visual head space beyond the chair. When experiencing this weird emotions I wanted to know what was happening so I was going to try and follow the feelings to a source. but I couldn't. I can't tell you why it felt this way it just made sense when I was feeling it: I felt like I was about to turn around in the chair. and with that realization I began to panic a little. I felt like system thing and people and emotions were happening behind me and all I had to do was turn around to see what was going on but my chair wouldn't move and my "head" wouldn't turn. Like I had been strapped to the chair.

This applies to more than just background feelings. I feel like when others are close to the front I want to look at them, or rather, acknowledge them completely but I can't because they're always just behind the chair.

The only time I felt like was anywhere but in the chair was when the kiddo was co-con. They like booted me from the chair or I was suddenly allowed to leave the chair I'm not sure. But If they ever come back to the front, I'm going to try "taking a look around" when I feel like I've been pushed off the chair.

Until then, does anyone else relate to this? Or has anyone experienced this before? How did or do you navigate it?

#What the brain doin #median system #actually median #questioning median system #questioning system #system #actually plural #plurality #plural community #neurogenic #Doinfine #Front Stuck

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doin-just-fine · 10 months

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Median culture is wanting to come out as plural but also worrying that you're not actually plural, even though yesterday you were incredibly certain of your plurality.

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#median system #questioning system #fr #questioning median system

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doin-just-fine · 10 months

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What the brain doin?? PT. 3 of a questioning median system's journey

"Headcount"

Ok so this is going to be a headcount/introduction post of everyone I'm currently aware of.

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Me! (I don't feel comfy giving out my name) I'm the one who writes the posts, I'm always in front, I am the core and the host. I'm 22 and my pronouns are They/Them

Sign off: -DoinFine 🛸

Tag: #DoinFine

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This is Summer (name in the works) I don't know to much about her. She's the one who I most often expect to see in the mirror if I'm not expecting my own face. She's around 22 as well, She/Her.

Sign off: -S🌾

tag: #S

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This is Cloud. His name rang through my head at one point. It wasn't until I started chatting with him over notes app and Antar that I connected it to him. He's 17-22 ish??, He/Him, he's a gatekeeper and protector. He has been the only one to co-con with me. (I've also noticed that when Cloud is texting, he doesn't bother with capitalization)

Sign off: -cloud 🌩

Tag: #cloud

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And this is Tommy. He's happened cus I would cosplay c!Tommyinnit from DSMP that were focused on his trauma. I was using it as a way to tap into my own emotions that I have difficulty accessing. He became an emotional outlet. He is 15-17, and He/Him pronouns.

Sign off: -Toms 🌳

Tag: #Toms [IMAGE ID'S]

[image 1 ID: A drawn Picrew by PepperJackets of Doinfine (me). The picrew has curly brown hair and pale white skin with little blemishes on the face. Their eyes are closed and they have a big grin. They are wearing a Queen (the band) shirt with a brown plaid over shirt on top that has little stickers and pins: a green star, a Saturn pin, a yellow star, and a crescent moon pin. They are also wearing a couple of necklaces (plain) and one necklace with a rock on it. They have leaves falling around them and mushrooms on their shoulders. All against a blue background. End ID]

[image 2 ID: A drawn Picrew by PepperJackets of Summer. The picrew has long brown straight hair and straight cut bangs. She has pale white skin and a big grin with open eyes. She is wearing a beige shirt with a pink collar and a brick color cardigan that has little stickers and pins: a red star, a cat pin, a blue star, and a leaf pin. She is also wearing a necklace with a star pendent. All against a pale green background with white hearts.

[image 3 ID: A drawn Picrew by PepperJackets of Cloud. The picrew has black fluffy hair that covers his eye and pale white skin. He has two black earrings in (one each ear) and he has a unamused facial expression. He is wearing a black hoodie with a black jacket over top that has little stickers and pins: a black star, an evil smile face pin, a grey star, and a devil pin. He is also wearing a necklaces with a tooth on it. He has a little speech bubble that contains just a scribble. All against a dark grey background. End ID]

[image 4 ID: A drawn Picrew by PepperJackets of Tommy (Toms). The picrew has short yellow messy hair with a little plant growth on top and pale white skin. His eyes are open and he has a big grin and open eyes. He is wearing a red shirt with jean overalls on top which has little stickers and pins: a red star, a cat pin, a blue star, and a leaf pin. He is also wearing a necklaces with a green medallion on it. All against a yellow background with white clouds. End ID]

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doin-just-fine · 10 months

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Reminder to all the headmates/alters out there that developing a distinct style of talking, an accent, a sense of style, a sense of individuality, aside from the rest of your system, takes practice a lot of the time. You don't need to feel like you're not distinct enough, figuring out who you are can take time, and figuring out how you are most comfortable talking and existing is a process of trial and error. Don't fret about it– you'll figure it out eventually.

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