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I Am Enough

I believe. I am enough. Just as I am and just as I was made to be.

How often do you scroll through your Instagram or Facebook newsfeed and look at the perfect photos of other peoples’ lives, compare them to your own, and feel you don’t measure up?

Or flick through magazines and wish you had that outfit, decoration, hair, complexion, and holiday? Or perhaps you read about someone so who is much younger than you who seems to have achieved so much more than you have in life? At times I can be really horrible to myself and do exactly the things I always say I mustn’t do. I compare myself to people, It sticks in my head and allows my inner critic to completely take over me. I look for reasons that I’m not good enough, that I don’t deserve to be loved or that I’m not living up to my full potential life.

From talking to some of you, I don’t think I’m the only one living with this as an internal critic.

There is generally a lot of pressure to “stack up” in our culture and especially in this world. We feel as if there's something wrong with us if, for instance, we’re still single by a certain age while others are married already, we don’t make a certain amount of income to provide needs and wants, we don’t have a huge social circle and such acquaintances, or don’t look or act in a certain way the world wants to. And the list goes on forever.

So much of our society is based around aspirational messages here and there. Of course, it is not always a worst thing to have dreams, goals, and ambitions in our lives right? But, many of us people struggle with balancing our hopes for the future with feeling satisfied with who we are right now.

These thoughts and comparisons can lead to low self-esteem, stress, anxiety, and the worst is depression.

In the end, it comes down to a feeling as if we are not good enough in life and how are we feeling useless in this world.

I was listening to an author the other day and he said that “The greatest lie we are sold, individually and collectively, is that who you are is not enough. See a magazine stand, we are sold an image of beauty, it makes us think “I am not enough”. But wearing things such as socks, underwear, watch, drink this beer, drive this car, then you’ll finally be enough. That’s the greatest lie I ever heard, that you are not enough. Deep inside you, who you are is whole, perfect, and complete.”

It reminded me that in all this pressure, to measure up to those around us, we seem to totally forget all the wonderful, unique things about ourselves that are within us.

And that it’s important to say, “I am enough”.

As the author said that “Until you stop breathing, there’s more right with you than wrong with you.” meaning you can still be better even when the next thing happens.

I am enough.

Therapist Peer says that if you have a voice in your head telling you that you’re not all you could be, replace it with one that says “I am enough”.

It sounds very simple but it’s not. In reality, it’s not easy to overcome that inner critic.

Peer says, “It’s natural to initially come up with objections to the ‘enough’ statement. ‘I am not really enough because I don’t have a great job and I don’t get what it takes to live; or ‘I am not enough. I don’t even have a decent life.

At this stage, many people give up. Don’t! You simply need to look at the objects which are not helping and replace them with something better. If you keep on with the self-praise and self-love eventually you will run out of objections and your brain will conclude: ‘You say this so often and with such conviction, it must be true. When eventually your brain will start agreeing with you, then you are ﬁnally making real progress in life.”

“When you say ‘I am enough’ say it out loud; say it with feeling; say it like you mean it and say it over and over again until it replaces all those feelings of negativity,” Peer suggests.

Even so, it can be challenging to free yourself from the need to be perfect and simply be who you are while also acknowledging that you still have room to grow, like everyone else on the planet, being able to do so will set you up for future success. Not to mention the ability to deal with obstacles and meet challenges ahead.

#note to self #self love #acceptance #worthiness

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