my teeth hurt. so bad

i think it’s really funny that i’m scared to talk abt being high on the weed website

search “palestine” on a-polite-melody’s blog

i don’t think i understand. i only did some skimming (there’s a lot) but most of this looks pro-palestine. the only things not pro-palestine im seeing are some posts talking about the rise in antisemitism, which isn’t anti-palestine. (/gen, not angry, thank you for pointing this out to me, i just want to make sure im fully understanding the situation)

i’m going to think abt that ask forever, just like i think about those asks supporting asexuals. i love you all

just to like- counteract the person who so desperately wants you to ignore what trans men are saying about how we experience oppression:

hi. thats pretty cool of you; "supporting before you hate". i really do hold out hope that people so vehemently denying transandophobia will just sort of...become quieter as the years go on, become less prominent. seeing more people in the tag is nice, gives me something to look forward to when i have time to unwind, hop on tumblr and see people who get me, who care about how hard it can be to find masculinity and what that means to us and moreover having to go and carve out a place for that masculinity in a world that refuses to recognize that from us without violence.

its bleak out there. stay strong. your siblings've got your back.

this ask is exactly why i hold that sentiment. transphobia and in this case specifically transandrophobia is so dark and prominent, i refuse to let my community be swallowed by it. too many people lose their family every day, their homes, their lives. your ask proves to me that people know they are loved. i promise things will be okay some day, and im going to keep loving everyone until it happens. thank you for this ask, it means a lot to me. i hope you’re having a wonderful day and you see more positivity in the world soon. i’ve got your back too. always

i thought the post was a reblog of the ad and it was a fucking hilarious 30 seconds. still love transfems and trans women, that’s not a fucking joke, but it was a hilarious 30 seconds

love transfems and trans women.

Considering the fact that erasure is one of the biggest contributing factors to transmasc oppression. I think that a poll in which the majority voted that transandrophobia doesn't exist, ironically, is evidence that it does. It is a demonstration of our erasure, and the erasure of our oppression.

But also. Imagine being so childish that you think a tumblr poll supercedes the actual lived experiences of real human beings. Sheesh.

and before anyone comes up to me like “ohhh ur mad” yeah, i am mad. transmascs deserve better and you all know that.

if you want to actually tell me who it is and why they’re a zionist that would be awesome. thanks.

Of course you reblog from zionists 💀

sorry, was i supposed to be checking every single blog before i click the reblog button? jesus christ. obviously i didn’t know

Of course you reblog from zionists 💀

sorry, was i supposed to be checking every single blog before i click the reblog button? jesus christ. obviously i didn’t know

a lot of people are going to hate me for saying that but it’s true. i will always support before i hate. my bad

Holding up a 2000 person poll as proof that transmascs shouldn’t speak about the ways our masculinity is intrinsically tied to our oppression and can compound with it in complex ways that aren’t just “gives more privilege” (ie. intersectionality) is sad, actually.

Good job. You’ve found an audience of people who also want an oppressed minority to stop talking about their intersectional experience. Do you want a round of applause? Do you think you deserve a prize? Do you think you’ve made a point other than that your following (and following-in-law) mostly agree with you?

Like. I don’t know. Anyone who’s cultivated a like-minded following could make a poll like that with similar results about pretty much anything. A transmisogynist could do the exact same thing and I’d bet the person who made the “is transandrophobia real?” poll could see how the results of that poll are extremely biased and not indicative of anything except an audience who agrees. But hey. If it confirms your right biases it’s right, if it confirms someone else’s wrong biases it’s wrong, even if the methodology was the same, I guess, because…….. ???

So yeah. Anyone worried about someone having made a poll? Don’t be. All that poll does is show the demographics around the person who made it. Well, and generate an ego boost for “being right”. It sucks, it shows how many people will glom onto someone because it’s trendy to hate on a particular queer group (if polls were a thing back during ace discourse this particular blogger would’ve made a similar one back then about cishet aces (we’ve all been saying this shit is recycled but ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)), but the best thing to do is block, move on, and raise awareness about why that thing was bullshit. It’s unfortunately the only way these “discourses” “stop”. You just push through reminding yourself that these are a noisy minority of the community and raising awareness of bigotry.

i could argue that transandrophobia doesn’t imply that. i could show receipts. i could tell them what it actually means. but the truth is that supporting your community should always come before hating your oppressors, and that means the most to me.

think about it. best case scenario we listen to transmascs and help support them. worst case scenario, i imply that men are oppressed. until someone gives me a worse worst case scenario, this argument means nothing to me

the reason that transmisogyny exists as an axis of oppression is because both transphobia and misogyny exist, and it is the intersection of these that creates a force that is more than the sum of its parts. transmascs absolutely face specific challenges in society, but transandrophobia implies the existence of androphobia. while many men do face systemic oppression, it is not on the basis of being men, and they often have privilege over women with similar social identities. the oppression transmascs face is often also based on misogyny, especially infantilization or the assumption that trans men are just confused women

i’m more worried about supporting my transmasc family and community than i am worried about accidentally implying men could be oppressed.

the reason that transmisogyny exists as an axis of oppression is because both transphobia and misogyny exist, and it is the intersection of these that creates a force that is more than the sum of its parts. transmascs absolutely face specific challenges in society, but transandrophobia implies the existence of androphobia. while many men do face systemic oppression, it is not on the basis of being men, and they often have privilege over women with similar social identities. the oppression transmascs face is often also based on misogyny, especially infantilization or the assumption that trans men are just confused women

i’m more worried about supporting my transmasc family and community than i am worried about accidentally implying men could be oppressed.

sorry i was in a rush because i was heading to work, this sounded pissed off but i’m not. i think this is a good conversation to have. i’ve never seen anyone talk about transandrophobia being the oppression of men specifically but it’s the internet yk. everyone’s got different pages and is gonna see different shit. there are absolutely people who say misandry is real, i myself think it can be redefined and ive posted about it, that was my bad.

transandrophobia theory is in fact based on the idea that trans men are oppressed for being men. you don’t really get to say “but there are people who are saying trans men aren’t oppressed” when you don’t allow anyone else to say “but there are people who are saying misandry and androphobia are real”

where are you receiving your information. like i’m not telling you you’re wrong but obviously we’re not having the same discussions